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I have been in both situations - where I new there was a camera on because the individual was concerned for his valuables and other instances where in one case it was used for the guys personal enjoyment and the other was used to intimidate and threaten to be sent to an employer. The later was a situation where I was filmed, and the person following me was actually someone I know, and he said the guy was broadcasting me entering the hotel room, though no sex was shown. He, on the other hand, was naked and a second man entered the room and asked his HIV status and threatened to send it to his employer, which happens to be a city entity. He talked to an attorney who said it would be the guy who did the filming that would face legal issues, not my friend. However, it has shaken him up to the point he is afraid anytime a laptop or webcam is even in the same room. I made many friends using the ICU web cam program, I flew all over the country on buddy passes and hooked up in real life with these guys because I could see them on a weekly basis and I knew what I was getting. The web site eventually fell by the way side because of a few bad apples who would be filming slightly off screen. I believe ICU is still in business, but now there are moderators in each room and I believe you can no longer parTy openly. The whole dynamics changed and I did not renew my membership. You mentioned uploading videos to a website. That one issue was mentioned to us after my friend and I both went to that hotel room to play with that guy. We were told he posted them on porn hub in an amateur area, but the person who gave us that information could not pin down the area and we never saw anything on line, despite my constant searching. I know when I was in the room, he had the camera and my ass positioned so that it was streamed to guys in the Ft. Lauderdale room of Manhunt. They could see his dick and my ass, but little more. I really didn't have an issue with that. It just seems to me that, as we all know, every cell phone has a camera. I have seen guys fucking someone from behind and actually holding a cell phone in their hand while they do it. Yet they don't want to be filmed, They are merely sharing these videos with their buddies on God knows what Forum, I wasn't sure if it were Grinder or Scruff, there are so many new ones I can't keep up with them. I appreciate you taking the time to chat with me on this subject as it is one that started out in such a positive fashion in the sense I met guys nationwide because of ICU, and now it has become something to be constantly concerned and debated about. Wow, how times have changed. Take care.

If I wanted to cuddle, I would call my grandmother. It amazes me that guys saying they are looking for their "soul mate" on A4A or Barebackrt.com. Do they even know where they are posting?

Boy do you have that right. I have bottom friends who will ask about someone new who I met, what sites they are on, what is their screen name, can I tell them their first name or even their phone number or email address. Would they give me the same information? HELL NO!!! On the other side, my top friends are always happy to bring another total top with them. They like to meet other bottoms but usually only if I can vouch for them - are they clean, will they show up, will they show up sober enough, etc. I had built a relationship with a local top and I would invite him over anytime I was having a group party and if there were bottoms I thought he might enjoy. I would even sometimes turn on SKYPE or other web cam services so these guys could talk to him, as he had a huge dick and was an incredibly nice and talented top who really new what he was doing. To thank me for my kindness, I mentioned I had a very cute bottom friend visiting, and he said he was bringing a "surprise". My friend was a man of about 48, and he bought his 23 year old son who was HUGE. Like father, like son. The father basicly took pics while his son fucked us. Now, you would think that bottom friend would return the favor. I introduced him to at least two other tops I play with on a regular basis. He is very handsome, a little sloppy and a bit indiscreet. He kept a friend of mine waiting hours because he was still at the bath house, and wasn't embarrassed to share that information. In all the years I have known him, he never introduced me to another top. Yet my top friend, whenever he has top friends visiting him, and I live in a resort area. He always includes me in his plans, always extends an invite to meet his buddies. I hate to say this, tops don't mind sharing, bottoms (and yeah I am one) tend to be greedy, It is a real shame...

I have had four colorectal procedures since March of 20202. I had a fissure that would not heal, and they did two botox treatments so that I wasn't screaming every time I went to the bathroom. I changed doctors and since that time, she found what she called a "pre-cancerous" lesion that she removed. At this point, I only have to see her every six months, and possibly be hospitalized again in a year so she can take "another look" to see how I am doing. I was told the chances of these HPV lesions becoming cancerous are about 5 to 10 percent, and I only had the one Here's my question? Has this had an adverse effect on your sex life. I have been having anal sex a long time and it wasn't until I had to take hydrocodone for a foot surgery, became constipated and ended up causing a fissure while just simply going to the bathroom. I got a lot of grief from friends saying it was from taking too many big dicks, or being DP'd (which was not the case) or that my ass was simply worn out from all the action. I was really frank with my doctor and told her that the anal sex, at least I felt, had little to do with the fissure, and was most likely from all the pain medication. She said it looking, the area seemed fine, except where the tear was. She said the majority of her patients, gay and straight, have these issues because of pain meds, not anal sex. Has this slowed you down, are you still able to enjoy yourself? I don't go back for about five more months, I believe my last procedure was in early February. So, are you able to do the things you used to do, and enjoy yourself. I am almost afraid of attempting to "climb a mountain" that is too high, if you know what I mean. I am really glad I saw your post. Anything you can offer as far as information is concerned, post surgery, is greatly appreciated.

So if I have someone in my home, he decides to take his clothes off and have sex, and I have cameras placed in places like the living room, family room, etc. I am obligated to tell him there are cameras? Does the sign "Smile you are being recorded" give an individual a pass on this law? I appreciate the information because I know a number of people have cameras in their homes for security reasons, and are hell bent on keeping them up as they have had individuals steal from them while pretending to change or use another room to prep for sex. I have worked in Federal law enforcement before going on disability and I was told by friends with the US Attorney's Office that a web cam placed in a room with valuables, like a bedroom might have jewelry, is allowed and that it would be hard to prove an individual was taping for illegal reasons. Now he said web cams hidden in say a bathroom, where someone would have an "expectation of privacy" is another matter. But he said the living room, family or entertainment room, were open season for web cams. He told me they were yet to prosecute anyone for this crime, other than an individual who placed cameras in bathrooms in rental properties he owned. So there is no "wiggle room" with the law? I am rather surprised, but you mentioned the Florida Statute so I would think it is a state's responsibility to hold the violator accountable and prosecute them. Thanks for quoting that position of the Florida Statute, I am going to look further into this. I know I have been filmed, I have used web cams but people could see them. I just want to know if I could ever be prosecuted as anyone who was at my place was well aware they were on. Thanks again!

Your last sentence was spot on. "logic and etiquette are often left at the bedroom door". On the reverse side, I had an individual check all through my bedroom looking for recording devices and to be honest, I was really offended. He actually tried to manipulate my webcam, trying to tape across the camera lense. At that point I told him to leave. It's funny he was like "see, I knew you were recording me". Well, I wasn't. I even offered to turn the porn off and just close the laptop but that didn't even work. Sometimes I feel the guys who protest the most are the ones that you need to worry about....not about being recorded sexually but rather if they are trying to steal from you.

That is very funny. No actually I had a trick who I met on BBRT and he metioned that he posted videos of himself with a guy who was allegedly "straight". It had excellent audio and when I asked how he did it, his response was "I hit the web cam" in the plants. I don't agree with filming people without their consent. I have heard arguments that people use web cams or so called "nanny cams" so that they can protect their valuables, property, etc. However, I think like many businesses mention "Smile, you are being recorded" I believe individuals should inform folks that a camera is on. From what I understand about law and this subject, it is not illegal to film an individual but rather it is illegal to film them and then upload it to a particular site. The guy who I hooked up with uploaded the video to Dudesnude site. I didn't think it was a very good thing to do, and he was quite close to the guy he filmed. I was glad I hooked up with him at my house so I was sure that I wasn't being taped. I have caught guys with expensive cameras even in their sneakers filming me, so I know there is always a possibility.

This is my recommendation, ALWAYS put your video/pic taking interests in your profile on hook up sites. PRIOR to hooking up with someone make sure they are interested in the subject of video making and pic taking. If they say absolutely not, I would suggest moving on. I have had guys who were so hypocritical. They would be fucking a friend from behind and holding their iPhones and uploading at the same time, but when I started to photograph them from another angle they suddenly put their hand up and wanted it stopped. It seems it is okay for some people and not good for others. I have had people hide web cams in plants, inside radios, and not bother to tell me. However if I asked them if I could take pics on my phone or camera I have gotten a direct no. It just doesn't seem fair.

I had a membership a number of years ago and went during a Sunday afternoon. I know the Sawmill is open to all but I was surprised about the number of nude women who were there, I just did not think it was a place that attracted a strong lesbian crowd. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against gay women, but I am curious what the ratio is now? I see by previous posts it looks as if it is primarily women, at least at night, but I had purchased the pass thinking it was primarily a cruising and camping area meant for gay male nudists and gay men looking for sex. Anyone care to update me on what the current membership ratio is like?

I keep seeing the " think before following links". I guess this has me greatly concerned, it this just advice from our Forum creator or is this something that has happened to other Forum members where they got a virus on their computer by clicking on a link? I am not a member of newtumblr but I am curious and would join as I love slamming videos. Anyone have previous bad experiences or is our Forum moderator looking out for us?

This is not just a fantasy, this is what I look for when looking to hook up with someone who parties. If a guy tells me he is not camera shy, he likes taking pics and making videos, I move him to the front of the line. I find it a bit upsetting that guys hound me for pictures, yet when you meet them suddenly they are too shy or don't want a camera or web cam around. I can't tell you how many times I have gone online and realized that the pics shown were taken in my bedroom or house and how many guys actually appreciated the pics taken while we were playing. I am not saying you need to always show your face but if you show your body, ass and dick, most guys want and appreciate that. It really pisses me off when someone asks for 30 pictures and when you meet them the minute you get out your cell phone or web cam they go running and say "oh no I can't do that" it is so hypocritical.

Here is my take on that. I live in Florida and that is a very touristy state. Do you know how many Europeans, Canadians and South Americans come here at some point during the year to get away from bad weather. A large number of them do. So I "never say never" because I have been pleasantly surprised to find guys I have exchanged messages on various web sites suddenly on vacation in Florida. They are horny and looking to fuck. I keep my options open. Also, my friend has me listed as his "domestic partner" and I can fly standby to any part of the US or any nation that they airline flies to. I have been to Europe, Canada, South America and all over the US for one reason - DICK. So it's not out of the realms of possibilities that I can hook up with someone who is "on the other side of the world". Don't limit yourself, because you never know if the hot guy you are sending messages with may have a reason for being in your locale. It can, and does, happen.

What is Fet? I never heard of that site.

Get continuously fucked without using lube and nature will take it's course. However, becareful what you wish for........

It's interesting you had little success on a4a, I guess it depends on your location. I have had great luck on it, at least in my area. Recon is, I believe, primarily used in Europe, or has a large European membership. It also charges you, at least it did when I looked into it. A4A is at least free, and Barebackrt is also a site that is also party friendly, with guys slightly older and the members are more serious about hooking up.

So I formerly had a Tumblr account but closed it after I found that people who followed me would post slamming videos and behind them were videos that contained material that was illegal. I later read that Tumbler had removed it's adult content so I didn't feel I was missing anything. So can I take it that newtumbl.com is a spin off that included xxx rated videos as well as parTying videos. I am really glad I joined this blog!

Manhunt is a waste of time, it has a lot of judgmental, neg guys who ask a million questions and want to make plans for two weeks in advance. A4A can have catfish individuals, and there are many guys (at least in the metro area I live in) who want you to pay for their Lyft, Uber and party favors. If you are in your 40s there are alot of 20 somethings that even expect payment. Barebackrt.com was usful for awhile, but it has lost it's popularity with the advent of phone apps like Grindr and Scruff. BBRT is party friendly and poz friendly.

Finding black men (usually on the DL) is easy in both large and medium size cities. I lived in a small city in Florida near the Bradenton/Sarasota area, and later in St. Petersburg, and there are black men everywhere. They are on such sites as A4A, they used to be on craigslist before things changed on that Forum, and they are on BBRT. Many are on the DL, but if you are patient many of them will come back multiple times if you respect their privacy and don't ask too many personal questions. If you can "host" that is an added bonus, as many either live with family members or others who may not know their sexuality. On A4A they are everywhere, and you would be surprised how much action you can find during day hours, like lunch time and weekdays.

It's sad we are mentioning Brazilian Gay Olympians as Ian Matos, who competed in diving at the 2016 Olympics in Rio, died at the age of 32 from a lung infection. He came out in 2014.

I have very strong opinions on the bath house vs. private hook ups comparisons. I used to work in Ft Lauderdale and had access to the bath houses there 24 hours a day. I can say they always provided immediate gratification. First point, there was no concern about if an individual looked like his pics and was indeed who he said he was. There was always a variety of men to select. If you were disappointed for some reason with the first choice there was always the opportunity to find a second, a third or a fourth. With the advent of online sites like barebackrt or a4a or any of the others, I found it amusing that my inbox lit up right around the time people came home from bar and clubs (when there were bars and clubs). Now with phone apps it somewhat the same, you wait for the first notification, and you go through the routine of exchanging x pics, deciding who will host, and most important - WHEN? With bath houses (or saunas) I can say there is no question as to when, because it will be NOW, or you move along to the next guy. Would go be better than that? DICK ON DEMAND, as I like to refer to it. I no longer live or work in a city with a bathhouse or sauna. I now have to rely on websites and telephone apps and at times it can be a bit of crap-shoot. Will he look like his pictures, will it be safe to have him in my place or at his place, will he suddenly cancel, etc. I miss the baths, the convenience, the GUARANTEE. That's my view......

SIZE MATTERS. Please continue with the story daddy! Please, sir?

I have been asking the same questions, so it is obviously more than 30. I think patience is the key, I felt similar to you when I first started, now I understand everyone goes through this. I have managed not to take it personally.