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Here is my take on that. I live in Florida and that is a very touristy state. Do you know how many Europeans, Canadians and South Americans come here at some point during the year to get away from bad weather. A large number of them do. So I "never say never" because I have been pleasantly surprised to find guys I have exchanged messages on various web sites suddenly on vacation in Florida. They are horny and looking to fuck. I keep my options open. Also, my friend has me listed as his "domestic partner" and I can fly standby to any part of the US or any nation that they airline flies to. I have been to Europe, Canada, South America and all over the US for one reason - DICK. So it's not out of the realms of possibilities that I can hook up with someone who is "on the other side of the world". Don't limit yourself, because you never know if the hot guy you are sending messages with may have a reason for being in your locale. It can, and does, happen.

What is Fet? I never heard of that site.

Get continuously fucked without using lube and nature will take it's course. However, becareful what you wish for........

It's interesting you had little success on a4a, I guess it depends on your location. I have had great luck on it, at least in my area. Recon is, I believe, primarily used in Europe, or has a large European membership. It also charges you, at least it did when I looked into it. A4A is at least free, and Barebackrt is also a site that is also party friendly, with guys slightly older and the members are more serious about hooking up.

So I formerly had a Tumblr account but closed it after I found that people who followed me would post slamming videos and behind them were videos that contained material that was illegal. I later read that Tumbler had removed it's adult content so I didn't feel I was missing anything. So can I take it that newtumbl.com is a spin off that included xxx rated videos as well as parTying videos. I am really glad I joined this blog!

Manhunt is a waste of time, it has a lot of judgmental, neg guys who ask a million questions and want to make plans for two weeks in advance. A4A can have catfish individuals, and there are many guys (at least in the metro area I live in) who want you to pay for their Lyft, Uber and party favors. If you are in your 40s there are alot of 20 somethings that even expect payment. Barebackrt.com was usful for awhile, but it has lost it's popularity with the advent of phone apps like Grindr and Scruff. BBRT is party friendly and poz friendly.

Finding black men (usually on the DL) is easy in both large and medium size cities. I lived in a small city in Florida near the Bradenton/Sarasota area, and later in St. Petersburg, and there are black men everywhere. They are on such sites as A4A, they used to be on craigslist before things changed on that Forum, and they are on BBRT. Many are on the DL, but if you are patient many of them will come back multiple times if you respect their privacy and don't ask too many personal questions. If you can "host" that is an added bonus, as many either live with family members or others who may not know their sexuality. On A4A they are everywhere, and you would be surprised how much action you can find during day hours, like lunch time and weekdays.

It's sad we are mentioning Brazilian Gay Olympians as Ian Matos, who competed in diving at the 2016 Olympics in Rio, died at the age of 32 from a lung infection. He came out in 2014.

I have very strong opinions on the bath house vs. private hook ups comparisons. I used to work in Ft Lauderdale and had access to the bath houses there 24 hours a day. I can say they always provided immediate gratification. First point, there was no concern about if an individual looked like his pics and was indeed who he said he was. There was always a variety of men to select. If you were disappointed for some reason with the first choice there was always the opportunity to find a second, a third or a fourth. With the advent of online sites like barebackrt or a4a or any of the others, I found it amusing that my inbox lit up right around the time people came home from bar and clubs (when there were bars and clubs). Now with phone apps it somewhat the same, you wait for the first notification, and you go through the routine of exchanging x pics, deciding who will host, and most important - WHEN? With bath houses (or saunas) I can say there is no question as to when, because it will be NOW, or you move along to the next guy. Would go be better than that? DICK ON DEMAND, as I like to refer to it. I no longer live or work in a city with a bathhouse or sauna. I now have to rely on websites and telephone apps and at times it can be a bit of crap-shoot. Will he look like his pictures, will it be safe to have him in my place or at his place, will he suddenly cancel, etc. I miss the baths, the convenience, the GUARANTEE. That's my view......

SIZE MATTERS. Please continue with the story daddy! Please, sir?

I have been asking the same questions, so it is obviously more than 30. I think patience is the key, I felt similar to you when I first started, now I understand everyone goes through this. I have managed not to take it personally.

You are not insensitive, that guy misled you and when someone starts going through your draws or is paranoid about what is in your house you know you have trouble. If someone starts that with me I know it is cruel but I have them leave. I have had guys try to steal my porn, underwear, medication, cologne, jewelry, watch, phone, you name it. In most instances they arrived high and then couldn't perform. I always tell guys unless they are ready and able to fuck don't come over. It's not like I am demanding but I would not go over to someone's house high as a kite and then start messing with his laptop or asking him 1000 questions about if I am being filmed or is there someone else in the house. I have had so many bad hookups, where their intent was party favors and then they expected something even more by asking for things. When party favors are involved it can be so dangerous. I actually changed my profile and figured I should say "no pnp" and just get high myself BEFORE they arrive, those guys never notice the difference!

You are so right, those are so valuable. Performers long gone remain alive if you have those tapes. I made some excellent purchase from eBay as well as from a friend who had over 1000 tapes, who then transferred them all to DVDs. People need to have their heads examined if they think there is not a market for those VHS tapes from the 70s and even before that. Guys, hot men were making movies back in the 60s even, they may all be gone today but that doesn't mean the videos themselves are no good.

Wow, welcome, funny I have a friend living in that same city. Glad to see you on this forum....

You and a million other guys! It is a shame that poster did not have the opportunity to hook up with him and not be tapped. I mean, I can understand his concerns, but how many times will this opportunity present itself again???

I will just add this, porn follows you the rest of your life and people have a very long memory. If you are in your 40s, porn has gone from VHS, to DVD and now to downloads and purchasing of gigs. However, those tapes and CDs remain in people's closets, under their beds, everywhere in their homes for years. You find something from say 2003, and you are like, wow, won't this be great to play at my next group party. The problem for many of those performers is that they have moved on. I read what would best be called an "op-ed" where one well known performer was discussing the sudden suicide of a current day model and stating his life was a continual battle to distance himself from how he made a living for about twenty years. He's a huge top, he worked for a number of major studios and now he has a 9 to 5 job. What he pointed out, and it makes perfect sense, is that initially porn stars are put on what might be called a "pedestal". But you can't make a living doing four studio videos a year, and now with the advent of fans only accounts, and the constant illegal downloading, flicks from the late 80s, 90s, early 2000s and present day are available. This particular model stated while he was mourning the loss of his co-star to suicide, he mentioned how when he rejected the sexual advances of a fan, he went from being called a "star" to being called a "whore". Well, people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, because though not all of us have had live sex on cam as I may have, they have had sex in either a group setting or three way setting, and they can be remembered and identified. So I guess my point is, respect an individual's privacy. If you come across an individual and you are in a club, at a party, at a sex party and you recognize them, I don't think there is anything wrong with asking them privately if they are indeed the performer you thought they were. But to call them out by their "screen name" or "porn name" in front of a group of men it is not a good thing to do. For all you know, that individual may have put that part of his life behind him and may have moved on, either being single or in a relationship (and yes men who are in relationships do go to group sex parties, present company included). Granted, no one forced these men to participate, but for them to have to carry the burden or title to porn star for the rest of their lives is a bit much. I would test the waters gently before calling someone out about their past. I wouldn't like it done to me, they don't like it done to them, and I am sure many posters here would not enjoy it happening to them as well. Think about it guys!

I find it fascinating that top porn stars from the early 2000s still perform in videos, yet bottoms seem to last a year, maybe a few years, and then they are gone. I know u tube actually had an area where you could see all the porn stars who had passed away, their screen name and sometime real name, their age, and their cause of death. It is interesting, those who were stars in the 80s and 90s died from AIDS primarily., then I noticed auto accidents, even murders and a lot of suicides. I really wondered what drove these guys to suicide. However, in say the last 5 to 7 years the large majority of deaths has been caused my one thing - overdoses. Someone posted that porn is the only industry that either looks the other way or encourages substance abuse either on set or in their private lives. AIDS is no longer the scary monster, it's the pills you bought from your dealer. How sad.

Here's my question to all posters who have appeared in BB porn or gay porn in general. When you arrive at the set, are you given a choice as to who or whom you will be paired with. I have a friend who did a scene for Treasure Island Media, I was only able to download the trailer but in his instance, he is a German (which is mentioned in the voice over) and he gets fucked by two other European guys. In his case, he merely showed up, and was told - "have at it". In other words, they could do whatever they wanted, no real directions, chems were allowed (can I say that?) but they had never met prior to filming. So I guess my question goes out to all the posters that have done porn - what has been your experience. Where you able to say - hey I wanna fuck with him! Or, let me have that dude my brains out. So, guys, curious minds want to know. I have been with one guy who worked for Dick Wadd videos, and he was paired with two guys he wasn't attracted to. Obviously he did the scene, instead of flying back to Lauderdale to film for them again, he changed his ticket and flew to the Tampa/St. Pete area to fuck with me. It was a nightmare, but I was shocked that Dick Wadd would give him a ticket that was allowed to be changed. Anyone care to elaborate on their experiences?

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I have to admit it is confusing and discouraging not to know when I will be promoted and how I prove that I am not a spammer or someone here to cause problems for the administrators. I have advised a fellow poster that the reason I took so long to respond was that I had limitations on my accounts that prevented me from more than 3 messages a day. I know administrators or moderators have a tough time dealing with tons of new posters so I have decided to be patient and let the situation just play itself out. But it does make you wonder just how long it will be before you are accepted.