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I'd behave the same way -blocking the contact who asks me "give me proof". I would consider it as a negative approach towards me; you can't assume others are liars and, overall, that others must take care of you! If you're not on Prep, you know the risks and trust is not a prevention method, it does not work as a condom. This is the distorted culture we grew up into, yes trusting people we meet is the ideal condition but you cannot assume that everyone is untrustful. You want to verify that person is worthy of your trust? Well, assuming they're liars is not the appropriate approach as you're telling them "I don't trust you from the beginning. It's your duty to change my mind". It places you in a sort of "superior" position that makes you rude.

As a totally versatile, yes. I get hard when bottoming. As there's no scientific proof of this, I say nothing but since I got pozzed I'm more versatile than before.

In an ideal world, EVERYONE explicitly specifies what they want and eventually look for; but in THIS world we have a lot of complex situations. Yes, as I said before, ghosting/flaking after promising a real encounter is a huge frustration and lack of respect. But I think we must look around, because the world is not in the reassuring, comfortable, binary system of "yes-no", "true-false", "white-black", "zero-one". There are dozens cases and details in the middle. So, as I'm used to talk frankly, I also do it NOW: Certain "back room fetishes" have been in my life since many, many years, I was still neg then; and feeling totally WRONG about them, despite reading stories secretly, I externally was aggressive towards certain kinks and I even talked to a poz friend who claimed to be "stalked" by a neg guy with poz fetish. I told him, "if you want I can pretend to be you, then meet him, fuck him and leave him neg. Or simply make him travel for miles without showing in real", in a sort of teaching an -unrequested- lesson. Thankfully I NEVER made such an awful idea real. Let alone when I became poz! But I suffered my repressions and frustrations in SILENCE because if I have something to thank my biological father for, it's the rigid lesson he gave me: "you made your bed, now lie on it". Then he is the first not to understand it, because he is homophobic and complains I never talk to him, but this is another story... He is simply lying on the bed he made! So, as a computer worker, I have often read about the effects produced on people by fakes and flakes. Even someone committing suicide for having fallen in love with a non-existing person, people who lost money or """simply""" travelled around the world for a never realized sex encounter. And that was the biggest lesson, I'm afraid many internet users are so selfish not to realize there's a person, behind the screen! Fantasy is a part of life, but life must not be entirely based on fantasy. Unfortunately I'm like this, when I hear about people ghosting, especially regarding backroom-related plans, I always wonder WHY the ghoster doesn't simply say "I'm not ready" "i don't want to" "I changed my mind"... What are they afraid for! Saying "NO" is not a crime. And causing frustrations to others, does not kill your own frustrations.

So-called keyboard warriors. I don't understand it too, what's wrong in being HONEST? In saying the keyword "roleplay" and "fantasy" if you believe that hookups in real aren't your thing? I always clarify this in conversations and NEVER had trouble. My profile says it all, and if someone asks something more I simply say NO. ...And I am still here to talk, it means no one killed me for this! A good communication avoids lots and lots of frustration. Maybe they do it for the sake of obtaining follows and likes, or of keeping someone's mind and body under control... I always say it: RESPECT should be something you learn when you're a kid. And if not, that's the result! True, many people like to objectify or be objectified; but it's consensual in that case! And promising a real meeting then never make it happen, is not correct towards a person who has their expectations. Everyone has their right to search for fantasy, or real. But both parties must be AWARE of what they're getting.

I'm the same! With a super-short story you can describe anonymous sex but not creating a good character. We're not like Stephen King who managed to scare with a unique sentence! What was that? "I was the only man in the world. Someone knocked at the door"... Don't even remember the quote

Oops! This guy is at high, high risk. Still neg and in a strong temptation... If only the master catches him!!!

if my virus approves, why not... but unfortunately I have a lazy HIV who prefers to lay down and watch netflix instead. Like host, like virus

Personally I don't. Mine is an ass, my partner's also... And I call it as such. Or, at the most, "hole" "fuck hole" "back door". But never "cunt" or "pussy". We are men and want to be identified as such, even sexually; but this or its opposite must never be considered a rule. Everyone has their fetishes and turn-on's. It's the same of calling "gift" or "pregnancy" something else... The basic thing is mutual respect; then anyone can use whatever name.

Let's fantasize of a duet. Me with piano you with flute... and our viruses with a hat collecting money from people. LOL! In the end there's a kind of flute which can transmit HIV... Hopefully I did not offend you; otherwise, my apologies.

it's very difficult to be 100 percent rational when violence is involved... Because there is not a universally recognized method to eradicate violence. Especially if the case is complex, as stealthing is. How could justice prove that this man, woman or whoever, consented to a protected-only sex encounter? With this awful "victim blaming" around, someone could always say "you should have thought before going out with that person"... About Prep, and generally sex-related prevention methods, yes, there's this distorted culture of "condom means promiscuous", "prep means promiscuous"... NOT AT All, they are methods to take .care of ourselves and, if possible, of the person next to us. Then, fantasy is fantasy! I'm the first to come here and get excited for poz stories. I'm the first to sext with contacts here and also be pleased if a person gets what they want, whatever it is. But stealthing turns me off, because it's violence! I'm disgusted by people wanting to decide for someone's life changing it permanently. We already have pleasant or unpleasant politicians who make decisions for our future regardless of what we think; we do not need someone taking control of our sexuality! We have every instrument to do this. Education should be encouraged! But the question remains: is lifelasting jail correct for a stealther? I'm not sure; as people continue doing it, it means it's not a very effective threat and maybe it can lead to a general HIV criminalization which might also ruin the "UEqualsU" campaign. In a misinformed and uneducated world, it's risky. Life long prison cannot be the answer for everything. The idea may be a comfort for our own fears, but a real offender never cares!

I admit I can't be fully rational, being pozzed unwillingly. Not stealthed in the real sense, but cheated for years... Prison for life? I don't think it's appropriate; rather I'd LOCK his penis in chastity permanently. So he can not stealth anyone. I recognize it might not be rational thinking, but if you're offending someone sexually, you need to respond in that way. Even if there is another issue: people who use sex -rape, stealth, and so on- to harm their victims, do not rely on sex or STD'S themselves; they do it for the sake of feeling powerful. Superior to others: "I can decide what to do of your body and mind". So, if the offender has this way of thinking, involving his sex organs might not work as they can use other methods. I heard yesterday about a young guy, 24 years old, who killed himself after being involved in one-year-long virtual relationship with who he thought to be a girl, but he was a 64-years-old man instead. A man using a model's photos and manipulating the guy's mind till the end. But after the guy's death, this awful person began to hook up with other men on Instagram pretending to be the same girl. Same photos same names same words and vain love promises... I don't know if lifelong jail is too much for stealthers, rapists, or evend mental manipulators who use love as a weapon. The concept leading to this road, is the same! The desire of taking full control on other people. And, in case of stealthing with HIV involved, it's an unrecoverable damage you cause to another person forcing them to a lifelong medical condition. Eventually not like a physical injure that brings you on a wheelchair permanently. I'm poz myself and do not compare my condition to others; but if I could have decided, I would have stayed neg. Nowadays I believe that more foresight is needed. Maybe jailing the stealther gives you a false sense of safety. Then the chapter closes... Till next time. The real battle to fight should be, PrEP available to ANYONE sexually active in the world. For stealthers, I don't know. Some years of jail for sure but being aware that independently on how hard the punishment is, no one gives us the neg sign back.

For us guys, it's more difficult to keep sex out of our social relationships -at least talking about it- or craving to go further, and in some cases go further too; I know many straight guys who do not think a male-female friendship can exist, because sex might be involved... But it's THEIR problem; experience does not make statistic, but I can talk for myself - I have always considered myself bisexual, despite I prefer male on male sex; but my best female friend is almost a sister, we do not have sexual intercorses. Sometimes we have fun in chat and enjoy some dirty talk but nothing else involved. Unlike my so-called "best friend" male, he _was_ married to a woman so I considered him inaccessible. He considered me inaccessible because I was poz and in a relationship, even if he knew it was open... 12 years like that. He was curious and filled me with questions regarding gay sex, how it felt, what's "versatility" "give and receive", and so... Till he confided me his wife had another man. My relationship was going in pieces too, and now, I don't call him a boyfriend yet but he's a friend with golden prizes, not just benefits 🐖➕🎁🧬🦂🤠🦠☣️☣️☣️

Well, life is life - it's not made just of sex! Honestly I find stories that have only sex everywhere are not realistic and somehow boring... Life is made also of ordinary habits, and EMOTIONS