GermanFucker

I still think it's an important question. To elaborate on my previous - true but snarky - comment: Yes I find - consensual - incestual situations hot, as long as it concerns other families. I have been alternating between fucking brothers who tried to one-up each other. I have tried to talk twins into a threesome. I find brothers / uncles / cousins ending up in the same group scene because they got druck very sexy. I also find it very enlightening hearing about other guys' experiences and what these contributed to making them the men we see today. However: What pisses me off to an immesurable degree is the bullshit that comes with certain topics like incest, risky sex etc.. In the same thread you have one guy trying to make sense of what he did, of what happened to him, even how it altered him. You know that guy is baring his soul. And in comes the fantasist with something like "yeah man, i totally did the same thing, but I was three years younger and it was my father and not my uncle and my sister also participated". I've been on this forum for almost ten years. But often I have to take a time-out because that kind of thing makes me want to puke. I appreciate BZ exactly because it is a forum where you can discuss meaningful things that influenced you sexually without having to abide by societal morality. Often the same things that exhilarate you also scar you. Reality is not black and white, but delicious shades of grey. I believe there is still a number of "real" guys here on the forum, grappling with inhibitions and triumphing in overcoming them, with tinges of regret only sweetening the fondest, most perverted memories. I really cherish reading from these guys and just hope that theses voices are not finally drowned out in a deluge of bullshit. So in conclusion: Real talk about incest? An honest discussion of desires and a factual look at experiences? Bring it on. If one has a problem with that: Too bad. But at the same time: Less fantasy, less "me too" nonsense, less flippancy. More reality.

I have a total double standard, when it comes to incest. I wouldn't even want to know about the sex life of my siblings, parents, uncles or cousins... yuck. On the other hand, there are these two identical twins who I fuck and breed from time to time (they once shared a flat and it was always fun fucking one of them while the other one listened in the adjoining room - and the other way round a week later) and whom I've been trying to talk into a threesome for years.

If I employed sarcasm for argument's sake, you should not mistake that as demonization. And I don't want to dismiss self-objectification as a ruse for racism. I don't think it's a ruse. However, inasfar as objectification overlaps with de-humanization, it is a prerequisite for racial prejudice. A sexual object is seen differently than a human being. It takes a certain level of self-awareness and self-actualization to see a sexual partner as a human being and still do the nasty, perverted, borderline illegal stuff that you're into with him. Many guys lack the mental clarity and courage for that. They need to make abstractions and objectifications lest they feel ashamed of themselves. I do get the "spiritual" aspect of taking personality out of the sexual equation and to interact on a purely instinctual level, just dicks, asses and seed, the child-like aspect of treating one's own body and others' merely as playthings, as toys. It is a very self-centered way of having sex - not that there is something wrong with that. "Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all......" If I'm being snarky it's just because I rather fall into the other camp. What's that quote by some last-century Hollywood diva and notorious slut: "I have indeed loved all of my men, even if it was just for half an hour"? My point is simply that the same mechanisms that can be used in the most innocent way to make yourself feel good (e.g. objectification) can also be tools to make others feel bad. As in all things, context is king and awareness is everything. And sorry if I get to cerebral, it's just sometimes I not only like the sex, but also the discussion. In real life I think everybody should fuck everybody and within three generations we would all be a lovely shade of Maya Rudolph and the whole stupid racism shit would be over.

Offended or annoyed? Funny, I think it's often not necessarily the one being objectified that is feeling offended. Being a 40th generation Northwest European I cannot imagine what it is like to be fetishized as a "BBC", but I do fit the BBG (big bad German) stereotype. I exude a kind of "pin you to the wall and hammer your cunt into a bloody pulp" energy, that "getting hit by a freight train" vibe. And as a total top, sure I'm being objectified. And I don't give a shit about it. But often I find that it's the bottoms that are getting offended if I tell them that I'm on my way to the gym or that I have made plans to hang with my bros rather than breed their precious little pussies (being sarcastic here).

Bear with me: Playing a bit of devils advocate here / maybe using slight exaggeration in order to be provocative. If you drive the argument to the extreme (not saying you're doing that, just trying to get a point across), one could say: "Because I like being objectified, it's ok that I objectify others." But isn't that a egocentric delusion? If I choose to be reduced to being a just a hole, are other men just cocks? Again, for argument's sake: Isn't anonymous sex a choice exactly because it allows us to de-humanize the other? Taking your hypothetical white guy: Would that guy who deliberately chooses / prefers to have anonymous sex with a black guy so he doesn't have to respect him as a person, really be in a relationship with a black guy?

Not really a fan of the term "cunt" or "pussy". If I'm in the mood for pussy, I get a woman. Sloppy cunts don't do it for me. When I'm fucking men, I want manliness. That's why I usually say something along the lines of "I want to impregnate your ass" (sounds better in german). And yes I know, ass technically refers to a muscle. But that's what I like to feel: a man's muscular ass massaging my dick in his rectum.

"In every gay relationship one loves the other just a bit more, and that means that the other one has all the power" .... ok, we are talking about sex here, not love. But there is an element of truth here just as well. Male sexuality has that power element to it and if you talk about gay sex, it's double the male component. Is "preference" being used as an excuse for being a racist? Yes. But I still think to a certain degree one has to separate the question of societal racism from sexual dynamics. If you compare the two sentences "I want my [black, asian etc.] neighbor to be treated the same as me" and "I want to be treated the same as my [...] neighbor." and react differently emotionally and don't see that they are the same thing, if you are afraid of Corey Booker starting a low-income housing project in your neighborhood, if you try to avoid your [insert ethnic background here] co-workers, well then you might a racist Karen. That's real life. But sex is so much more complicated. E.g.: I'm more or less 6'7". (My best friends in school were 6'8" and 6'6" *lol) I instinctively gravitate towards men taller than 6'. Because it makes me feel comfortable and at ease literally seeing eye-to-eye. If you're 5'3" I might actually overlook you. By extrapolation one could say that my clear preference is Nothern European and African American types, that I am indifferent to Latinos and middle eastern guys and that I discriminate against Indians and East Asians. Are there exceptions? Sure. Do I consider myself racist. No! But is there a pattern? Probably true. One of my first and best regular bareback fuckbuddies (started around the years 2000) was an African American. I realized that he was was developing feelings towards me and I kind of let our thing peter out. Was it because of the color of his skin? Nope. But I was barely 20 and he was 40. I didn't see a way to have a relationship on equal footing, mostly due to my own lack of experience. What goes to say: Sex is complicated. And sexual politics even more so. My point is: Don't be an asshole in real life. And when it comes to sex, I'm with Martin Luther King: Take a measure of the man and judge him by the content of his character. And you can call me a bleeding-heart liber......tarian, but "thug", "redneck", "potatoe" (as an anti-German slur) make me all cringe.

That brings us to the question of entitlement: Like you, I believe that sexual attraction is arbitrary. One is not entitled to have sex with another person just because one fancies that person. Neither is one entitled to a explanation of the specific reasons. Much in the same vein noone has the right to behave as an asshole towards others. However, thats sex... and sex is not real life. There are guys who are looking for "BBC" all the time, but will only socialize with white colleagues after work. Or when you get to the point that you begin to like a fuckbuddy, will only go the next step with his own ethnic background, but not consider dating other ethnicities. Which goes to prove that you can fuck outside your own ethnic group as much as you like, it doesn't automatically make you not racist.

What would be the point? Seriously, I don't get it. Being on PrEP while saying you aren't means that others are not able to infect you and you also pose less of a risk to others. You cannot get sued for either. So the point is ethically and legally moot. One could say lying is always a douche move. Speaking from experience guys that feel the need to pretend to be something they are not are usually subpar fucks. Why choose to be inauthentic instead of standing by your guts.

I am not a teenage girl, so no.

Believe me, when it comes to fucking, I am very much at peace. I achieved that kind of sexual Zen, when i stopped dividing others into "superior" and "lesser" men.... yikes (another reason why our personalities are very much incompatible). There is nothing more liberating than not trying to have the sex you should have and instead simply enjoy the sex you actually like. Isn't that what barebacking was about originally? All I care for are indeed interesting experiences. Interesting to me can be because of the skill level of the other (I still remember barebacking that professional ballet dancer as a teenager some twenty years ago... talk about ass muscles), but also the other ones's character or the overall adventurousness or whimsy of the situation. But that's just me. There frankly is no point in trying to prove me wrong or espouse the superiority of your outlook on life. My contribution was simply to elucidate it what I like - no judgement, no claim to relevance when it comes to others. (As an aside: Alas, as a non-native speaker I only have a very cursory knowledge of English poetry, Whitman and the bard, sure, Browning not so much.)

In all honesty, we propably wouldn't "click", you're right about that. As to (2) business transaction was meant figuratively in the sense of supply meeting demand. There is a certain inevitability to the outcome. And I freely admit I am all ego. There is a thrill to the chase and the more elusive the prey, the more interesting the game. And what is wrong with goofy? I know perfect. I've had perfect. I've fucked the guys on the covers of gay magazines and you will find international porn stars in my list of contacts on my phone. I've had stunning group scenes with achingly beautiful guys full of athleticism and expert craftsmanship. And as i said before I do enjoy that as well. And maybe you can call me sexually jaded, if you want to. But I have so much impeccable sex that I actually enjoy the goofy, the awkward. Like the hispanic who couldn't quite take my large dick because I was the first guy after 5 years in a relationship with a woman. Or the young dom football player who earns a little extra on the side as an BDSM master, who just shot me a message because he thought my online profile came across as an "arrogant idiot". That was a glorious evening of talking, me sucking him, and yes, in the end he took my load, even though he hadn't planned to.

You should read the entirety of what I wrote. The second sentence says that I know some great bottoms that - given the right circumstances - i fuck regularly. And of course I was being provocative and cocky. But nowhere did I even allude to being entitled to every bottom's ass or that all bottoms are push-overs. I was just talking about a sense of comradery. Like when you take a bro to a bareback party, watch him fuck twenty guys and then blow the last load of the night in his ass afterwards.

LOL ... those were events for twentysomethings. As someone (ever so slightly 😉 ) over 35 I could go to those parties, because I'm a total top. As a bottom you'd have to be 18-early 30s maximum, but by that age you better be a vers. bottom.

Fantasy? I had the exact same thing dozens of times over the last 2-3 years.. got the videos to prove it, too (but will never show them to outsiders who are not part of our circle of friends). Anyway, I'm a total 9 or 10.

I did not say you did. I was referring to your example that there are plenty of other kinds of idiocy. My point was exactly that one should be allowed to point out the idiocy while at the same time not passing moral judgement. I have seen some guys in the last weeks who just seemed to have been waiting for the chance to finally be on the "right" side of a societal mob mentality directed against "dirty whores". Mine was a general observation that guys like these are "covidiots" not because they are sex-crazed lunatics, but because of their nasty attitude, the same kind of nasty attitude one can find in grocery stores as well.

I think that's the most important aspect when it comes to such incidents: Idiot-shaming might be warranted but we shouldn't start slut-shaming. It's not the sex that was the problem, it's not limiting contacts. They could have been playing monopoly and it would have been just as bad. Church choir practice is probably more risky than quickly bending over and taking a load. You shouldn't have sex not because sex is bad, but because minimizing contacts is good. You also shouldn't visit your sister for dinner. Over the last weeks I have seen proud barebackers turn into the morality police when it comes to CoVid-19, getting preachy and insulting others. I just don't believe that this will achieve anything. Men are idiots, twice so when it comes to sex. IMHO the best way is to compassionately explain, that this is not like AIDS during the 90s, in that A.) you can also pass it on to your Grandmother, B.) your friend's cancer might go from operable to inoperable because of limited hospital capacity, and most importantly C.) this will all be over much quicker, if everyone is doing his part in social distancing.

if you go to a pharmacy that specializes on HIV patients, you can also get a prescription for the Hexal variant, which is only 40 Euros. Both are quality generics made in germany, only difference is that the cheaper Hexal variant is only available in a limited number of pharmacies, whereas you can get the ratiopharm variant everywhere. in both cases any prescription by a licensed doctor will do, as this is price doesn't include rebates or is only available after insurance co-pay. it is indeed the official retail price for prep everyone pays, whether you have german insurance or not.

Maker of generics "Hexal" has lowered its prices for a 28-day prescription of Emtricitabin/Tenofovir available through a network of 79 big-city pharmacies to 40 Euros (or roughly 43,50 per full month). For those who don't have access to one of these pharmacies, there is also a 90-day supply of Emtricitabin/Tenofovir available from "Ratiopharm" for 199,90 Euros (or roughly 67,50 Euros per month). The difference here: Not only is this prescription available through all licenced pharmacies in the country (including mail order), but can also be used as part of HIV therapy for poz guys. Again: These are first-world, high income country FINAL prices, WITHOUT any health-insurance or drug-maker co-pay schemes (given that PrEP has gotten so cheap, public health insurances are probably going to cover it anyway from next year on, but even without that PrEP has now become financially bearable even if you are young and / or earning low wages). So all you need is a prescription from a doctor. The difference to sometimes much higher prices in the US: Patent expiration is take seriously here (very hard to sneak in an extension) and there is a competitive market for generics.

The problem with Atripla lies in the Efavirenz (a.k.a. Sustiva), which is know for its psychological and neurological side effects. That's why Atripla isn't used as a first-line treatment as much as it was years ago. There are newer, better "one pill a day" regimens out there with less side effects for a larger number of patients. Which is not to say that Atripla per se is bad. If it works for you, why change a working therapy? Everybody is different. However, Truvada (i.e. emtricitabine/tenofovir, the remaining two components of Atripla) alone is not necessarily commonly known for its psychoactive properties. I have had some problems with diarrhea and abdominal pain, that's why I take PrEP in the evening before going to bed. No weird dreams at all, but much less of an upset colon.

Given recent studies about the effectiveness of even PreP on demand, this should be a safe course of action.

To the best of my knowledge: Hep D is a coinfection (i.e. you get infected with Hep D at the same time as Hep B ) or superinfection (you already have chronic Hep B and acquire Hep D on top) that only occurs in connection with Hepatitis B. Successful vaccination against Hep B thusly means that you don't have to worry about Hep D. Hep E also usually doesn't become chronic in patients with a working immune system, though the acute phase can be severe. So if you don't want to worry about Hepatitis, as a Westerner this means: 1.) Get vaccinated against Hep A + Hep B. You're protected against Hep D as well. 2.) Talk to your doctor about your risks and options regarding Hep E if you are travelling / working a in region where it's rampant (parts of Africa / Asia). 3.) Know about the risk factors when it comes to Hep C, especially when you are into violent fisting etc., IV drugs etc. 4.) Know that today Hep C is curable in most cases, but threatment can either be grueling (depression, fatigue, nausea with the classical treatment options) or insanely expensive with new options like Sofosbuvir (I've heard prices between 40,000 Euros in the EU and 90.000 Dollars in the US for a typical course of treatment). 5.) Know which risks you are willing to take and adjust your behaviour accordingly. 6.) Relax. 7.) FUCK

First of all: A majority of cases of HepC were already treatable / curable with the old medication. But that was often a 6-12 months horrorshow of therapy (especially due to the interferon) with a likelihood - depending on the genotype of the virus - of often more than 20% that the therapy was not successful. With Sofosbuvir it is only 3 months in most cases (i.e. half the time), far fewer side effects and a success rate much closer to 100% on the first try. Cases of chronic Hep B are more seldom, but do exist. They are, however, other than HepC, completely preventable: Simply by getting VACCINATED.

Correct. Antiretroviral therapy for HIV-positive patients usually consists of three or more components, i.e. three different classes of antiretroviral drugs (e.g. NRTI + NNRTI + NtRTI ). Simply speaking this way combination therapy has the virus effectively "cornered", leaving no viable direction in which to mutate. If you only have one or two active ingredients (like in the case of truvada: tenofovir disoproxil fumarate + emtricitabine), the virus will develop resistance much easier and faster (some remember the hight of the AIDS epidemic where an AZT / zidovudine monotherapy could only hold off AIDS for so long). If for some reason you should get infected (e.g. because the medication you bought over the internet did not contain the necessary amounts of active ingredient to be effective, or simply because you forgot to take you PrEP regularly during the time periods when you were sexually active), it is imperative that your doctor changes your medication regime to be effective as a therapy. This might just mean adding a second pill or changing to a one-pill-per-day-regime which also contains tenofovir disoproxil fumarate + emtricitabine. Or it could mean switching meds completely, because your virus is already resistant to either tenofovir disoproxil fumarate or emtricitabine. Think of it this way: PrEP is for sex pigs. If you have sex with strangers only twice a year and don't mind using condoms, use condoms. Guys who consider PrEP know why they need PrEP. And if you know you need PrEP, you have sex often and adventurously enough to warrant 4 trips to the doctor per year. That way you can also get your regular check-ups for gono, syph etc.. And if you don't want to use your regular doctor, you will certainly find an excuse to drive 100 miles to the next big city to visit a specialist there, if it is only four times a year. Call it a fishing trip or whatever ;).