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I actually alluded to this story specifically the other day in a discussion about endemic racism in gay culture and why there frequently friction between our communities. Between the reduction to a phallus, stereotyping, and language.. I just don’t feel respect here.

I’m getting more now - and am a better player - than ever before.

Was going for quantity at the direction of a friend. In 2020 managed 325 up my ass, 31 of my loads pounded into a bottom. 2021 is off to an alright start: So far, 8.

Exactly. I had to have one of those conversations with stupid relatives (the kind who thing "originalist" and "libertarian" are the same thing), who are mocking the handwringing from the LGBT community because they say it won't come to pass. Not only are they poor students of history, and clearly have ever found things like "reading" interesting, but they fail to understand that it doesn't require a full scale overturn. They just need to ensure that no one need respect our rights (as long as they're stacked against religious rights). They've already demonstrated (2020 SCOTUS ruling re: death penalty & muslim prisoner) that some religions have more rights than others. It's not a long trip from there. The sad part is that although the Dems have tried to play grown-ups to the GOP wrecking ball for the most part, this taking advantage of non-democratic circumstances (Senate composition, 2016 minority win) requires an expansion and reform of the court (be sure if the Dems don't, the GOP will the next chance they get anyways). We're in an arms race that I don't see having an end unless / until there is some substantial demographic change (e.g. texas, florida or both swing reliably blue, puerto rico and/or dc joins as a state). It's going to be a shitshow.

Pretty much sums it up.

If your liver is talking to you, it's a good idea to listen - at least to identify the source. If it is HCV, there are treatments - expensive, but effective. Your liver will heal, but the sooner you get treated, the healthier your liver will be and the longer you'll get to keep your liver. Find out what's going on now. Then you can decide how to proceed.

Actually, having a top get past the 2nd hole and unload is an indescribable experience. It's like finding religion. One of the most painful fucks I ever had was some brat wielding a 4" cock and just bad at it. One of the best was a 10.5" boricua gentleman (50's) who understood his cock and how to use it. Every size has its merits, but it must be used by someone who knows that they're doing and gives a shit about how the other person is feeling it. As for bottoms, it's up to us to stay connected, especially when we are challenged. Ask questions! Find91 - it's good to know that you don't like it too tight. Since I firmly intend to drain your cock someday, I'll that information will come in handy. Other guys love it tight. So I ask. It's also up to us bottoms to be courageous and not get in our heads about size. If you're scared of it, or turned off, it *can't* feel good, and it becomes self-fulfilling.

Rick, my bigotry there is a little different. As a northerner I hear “redneck” and I think Confederacy, at which point a different bunch of associations spring to mind, fair or not. Having a conversation that sounds like it’s edging towards “redneck lives matter” is not one I’m interested in entertaining. If you don’t understand the lack of equivalence between “thugs” and “rednecks”, including how those terms are wielded (or not wielded) for political dominance, I lack the energy or interest to delve into it with you.

I resemble that remark! So, I can share my experience and let you judge. I started late - late 20s - and had a very narrow range of what i thought I wanted, and I didn’t have sex that often. Definitely insecure in my looks and sexual skills. I was also pretty rigid in my sexual practices and always played safe and never used substances - even poppers... terrified and disgusted by STDs and irrationally panicked over HIV - judgmental and looking back, cruel. I would say I was probably not fun. As I’ve aged - and moved to a much more racially diverse area - I’ve grown. I was shown my kinks about 15 years ago, which radically changed my sex practices. I recall originally ruling out anyone over 30 - until I met a fire crotch muscle daddy who rocked my world and showed me that age is just a number and each decade in a man has its own “sexy”. I once shied away from beige/brown/black - until I met guys of color that made my cock twitch (and then made my hole sing). I discovered sex is the great denominator - even if you don’t think you have anything in common with someone, you realize, with his cock in your mouth and his buddies dick In your ass, that cum is a universal solvent. And then I came very late (40) to chemplay - the social aspect of pnp is amazing, and my long list of requirements for a successful hookup have become “shut the fuck up and enjoy” - I tend to roll with it - push it as far as it will go, but be satisfied with what i find. I’m a kinder, more accepting person, a lot more fun, and much better at meeting fun fucks where they are and making the most out of what works. Sometimes it’s intense b&d oral servicing by a horny septuagenarian, or a hard beat down on my fuckhole by a 25 year old Nigerian grad student. And I still dip into my original narrow “type” to enjoy the furry blond Viking fuck gods and tell my fav fuckbud, a handsome poz latino all about it. What I want to convey is that it’s not a question of narrowing options with age forcing a change in taste - I have more options now than I did in my 20s and 30s. It’s been growing up and moving past whatever nonsensical limitations I imposed on myself out of ignorance and fear, and discovering that what I find attractive doesn’t fit neatly into dropdown boxes and radio buttons. And having to work at that, for me, has made the joy of discovery more profound than it would have been if I had just sprung into the world open-minded, slutty, and kinky.

I cringe every time I see thug used as synonymous with large muscular hung black male. Do I find that dynamics around race - both aesthetic and political - find their way into sexual attraction or turnons? Sure, lots of things do. But Id like to think I have the involvement of my frontal cortex to edit whatever the horny little monkey at the base of my skull is saying. Listen to yourself, edit as needed. Ask a friend if you must.

I was challenged by a long distance buddy so I’ve been told to count loads taken / given. So far: 163/20

I’m interested. !!

No I meant the SCOTUS ruling on LGBT employment. Critically it’s predicated on Title VII of the Cuvil Rights Act (on the basis of sex) - not cases like Roe v Wade that introduced the quasi-constitutional right to privacy. That means it’s anchored in law, not stare decisus (previous court rulings) so it’s less vulnerable to challenge *and*, being separated from the abortion ruling, it’s not a juicier target for right wingers. But what’s true for employment will be found to be true for access to housing, public accommodation... including health care. Not only that, there’s a real question whether the courts will defer to the administration even for military coverage, although they do tend to give the executive wide leeway as CIC.

I'm hoping that the recent SCOTUS decision makes these efforts effectively neutered.

So, I have different feelings about this. On the one hand, I'm well aware of the demeaning Mandingo tropes, just as I'm aware of many other forms of objectification. My sober, daytime mind cringes at the cheapening of a person. But.... We all know good sex is connected sex. Not necessarily verbal, but you know when you're on the same wave. So... objectification... that can be connected. If a black dude wants to dominate you with a large dick he happens to own and use the n-word, and you find it gives yo an erection... well, sex goes way beneath the frontal lobe, right past reason, and sails into weird territory in the backs of our brains. A person can and should be forgiven for what turns them on - the key is how they act on it. If an Asian guy wants you to call him the ch- word while he fucks you, or you fuck him or whatever game is being played... if that turns a key for you, that's fine. I fucking lose my mind when a poz guy breeds my ass. But there are many poz guys who are NOT turned on by this, who do get upset. Some are pissed because they don't have the luxury of choice. Others are pissed because they feel like you only see their virus. But there are my favorite play buds who loudly breed my hole. So... I always feel that out. I ask. Poz seed is hot, but poz seed pumped up your ass by a dude who thinks it's so amazingly sexy to pump his bug in a negative hold is SCORCHING hot... so I have to figure out where that person stands. I have to communicate before I become a deranged fuckbeast. So I think that's how I'd take race play... hell, this applies to almost everything... 1. don't judge. 2. communicate with your partners 3. stay connected 4. LEAVE IT IN THE PLAYSPACE (if you want a "mandingo" and are lucky enough to find one, he's only your "mandingo" where he permits it to be so.). 5. And be cognizant of the tricky waters we navigate in. In the meantime, Cutler X, if you're listening... WOOF.

The liberal use of “thug” and use of black men as a stereotype of dick size, sexual aggressiveness, dominance all speak to some real tone deafness. (Ed note - there was a storyline that appeared poised to break out of that, but that remains to be seen)

I see this question as being way more complex. There are guys who are turned on by the idea of being pozzed... but for whom being the decider “I will get myself pozzed now” is anathema.... Being pozzed because someone else wants to poz them or because it was what the fates decreed with a diceroll. There are ways of expressing this - making it a function of chance by undermining your prep / protections, putting your status in the sole control of your poz buddy through control of your meds or his, or... asking a group of potentially like-minded people for permission or marching orders (or taking orders from a dom). this is complex because of the overlapping questions of control / power exchange and poz-chasing... and because you only get pozzed once, if you’re going to increase your risk level, there’s more pressure to “get it right” (because it’s so conditional and predicated on *how* you get pozzed, rather than the final result). having this as a fantasy doesn't make it illegitimate, nor does complexity or “greyness” signal that you’re a dilettante or that your stupid (“if you don’t want hiv, stay on prep”, “duh” implied), but it does make it hard to communicate and challenging to navigate yourself - after all, the more you think it out, the more control you assume, the more you undermine your fetish. it’s a thorny problem. I suggest staying on prep until something comes up that really makes you go OMFG I must have that. If you never find it, bummer but at least you’re still neg. And if you do find the scenario that blows your mind, you’ll have a memory to rock your world. I recommend getting that on vid.

I’ve always considered myself lucky. I have a very average cock, get t-dick early in the process if t is part of play, but I have an ass that I do nothing to maintain / earn that guys seem to like... and I’m a bottom so it works out great. I can flash a cheek and get what I want enough of the time. I have several Vers or Vers/btm buddies with huge dicks that always have “tops” flip on them. It really pisses them off. I also have a bud with a beautiful ass and a small cock and he’s a very frustrated top. lastly, I’m a small white dude, and race play can be fun if that’s what a dudes into (I have a bud of color who loves that he’s black and top and I’m a white bottom; if he’s turned on, that really turns me on)... but I worry about the corrosiveness in the blanket acceptance of this, and in our porn and fiction. Average hung black dudes are treated like crap, hung black guys are objectified and treated like Mandingo sex dolls. Asian dudes are too often treated as bottoms or expected to be fey ladyboys, and are assumed to have tiny dicks. Not everywhere by everyone, but ask a person of color - my play buds certainly express this frustration. How can you have connected sex if your idea of the person has nothing but skin tone in common with the naked guy in your bed? How many hot studs are you going to miss out on by adhering to stereotypes in app filters?

Scorpio - you're right. In reviewing my thinking, it was sloppy and short-handed. (First of all, I was in the car when I posted the link, so I was definitely being sloppy there). But with respect to the origin of that information: coming from MD's who are scaremongering syphilis patients because they know that risky sex is occurring and don't want patients already engaging in risky sex to use PREP to undermine all the anxiety they've worked so hard to place around sex. The other were tops who claimed syphilis was how they got pozzed while on prep. In retrospect, that's absolutely the kind of thing guys - especially big strong tops - are likely to lie about to a bottom to maintain a particular image. In any case, the odds are vanishingly small. If you take your prep regularly, you won't get pozzed. And I've had syphilis a couple of times and am still neg.

[think before following links] https://www.hiv.gov/blog/syphilis-and-hiv-a-dangerous-duo-affecting-gay-and-bisexual-men 2 to 5 times increased risk

I’ve read a few posts, have a few comments. First - I can feel the ache and your rage. I’m sorry this happened to you. Sometimes injuries to ourselves are easier to survive than injuries to the ones we love. This was horrendous second, courtrooms are a place that loathe uncertainty - and while you can logically construe what happened, convincing a courtroom to side with you will require concrete evidence *and* few alternative hypotheses. I fear that a courtroom will tie your healing to a long, drawn out, and uncertain process. And this has the risk of consuming you utterly. you may find yourself in the position of a choosing between feeling like you have to walk away empty, or sacrifice yourself to fight a long shot that will consume years of your life. I don’t think either of those are doable. You’re going to have to find a middle ground. It won’t be adequate, but you likely feel that you must do something. At the risk of getting myself in trouble, and although I’d never advocate any illegal activity, I recommend something sneaky and underhanded and deeply satisfying. It could be symbolic, or it could be substantial. I would agree with guys who said to be very careful about your degree of visibility. Moneyed interests can be very efficient. It would take nothing to pop your trunk, plant drugs, and make an anonymous call, and you’re no longer a problem for them.

I was on PrEP when it was "post-" before it was "pre-" because I kept going in to see my doc after a possible exposure and she finally just said "let's just do this". Taken over a thousand, including a few HVL tops, and PREP gets the job DONE. One caveat I've heard is syphilis - apparently, syphilis and HIV can work together to defeat PREP.

Evaluate whether it's tenable - if you're a public face, school teacher, executive, LEO - you may be intrinsically limited. Low-key understated jobs, especially where you can be a single-contributor and have independence are key. Examine evidence: never have pictures with your face and dick in them, never have video with your face or your voice. It really helps to have long-term stability in your job. The time you gain back by having years of experience can allow you to engage in extracurricular activities without looking absentee. Have strict ground rules and stick to them. Never shit where you eat. Understand that in small towns, everyone in your cadre will know your business - but you will know theirs, and none of you want that out in the open. Always avoid arrest - and this is controversial, but I'm going to be honest: it helps to be white, male, middle-aged, well-dressed, educated, and moneyed - privilege is real. Remember your manners - you are not in a position to create enemies, and bad manners mean you don't get invited back. Make time and space for yourself - consider getting a motel room once a month or season or whatever. Be serious about your schedule. Understand when your sex addiction (I love mine) has interfered with the rest of your life to a point that cannot be maintained...

Corona has fucked my goals for the year badly. I’m at 65 loads up the ass, 9 swallowed, 5 planted.

First time was in the early 90s right after I came out. Somehow I landed this gorgeous, hung muscle daddy who liked to call the shots. The first time we got together we were rolling around together and his cock was rubbing against my hole which felt great - and naughty. Then he put his 80-lb weight advantage to use and stared me down. I thought, he’s playing, but to my shock he kept pushing into the nuts, never losing eye contact, daring me to tell him no. He fucked me sideways, and during the times we played I never told him no ... and he never came in me. Before he moved, he was telling me no (to breeding).