Iker80

I started as top only, I was not wanting anything happening in my butt. Still, guys I fucked liked it, but I felt an intense response to anything touching my hole. It's personal and not somewhere I was used to other people touching. But I wanted to know the feeling so I trusted it could be good and tried it, and after a few not great experiences I had one that felt good. I'm still a tight nervous bottom, so I choose guys I trust, but it can feel amazing when it's happening properly. So, first time it felt really good I knew this was something I'd do again.

16 here and I think that's fine. The bigger problem is age gap, because it would be legal for an adult my age with a 16 year old and there's a lot of issues with that. Some countries manage this by having age of consents, potentially higher than 16 but add rules for people being close in age, so for example the age of consent is 18 but they're not going to get involved with a 17 and 19 year old, but they would not be ok with a 17 and 37 year old. I recently had an experience with the youngest guy I've been with, he was 20. I am just old enough to be his dad. I asked extra questions and felt more comfortable that he actually wanted to be top. He wasn't my usual type to top me, but he was super keen to get his hands on a hairy guy old enough to be his dad and I was having a hard time to say no to that kind of energy, so we met up and was a good meet.

People have a long history of wanting stuff they can't have, like the hot married guy next door. Or so it seems in this situation because they can have some 'straight' guys. My experience, as long as you're talking about liking women, masc, stick on some plaid and jeans or whatever all the guys are wearing locally, you're 'straight' for a lot of guys. I'm not looking different to the guy next door that he's been wanting, so I'll good enough give him that experience. But I am bi, even if he does not see it. And the hot married guy next door might be bi as well. It's a problem that bi and gay men aren't seen as potentially being any guy, it makes stereotypes worse.

Injections aren't really a thing where I live but I keep hearing they're great. So your experience is good to hear. I had imagine you just go for your regular STD testing and they give you an injection and that's it until next time, but I guess you never imagine the annoying parts of something. Hopefully it will get easier in the future.

For sure, guys are normally very straightforward. not easy to upset/offend and you can usually go all the way very fast with a guy. The way most tops treat guys wouldn't be appropriate doing to a woman. If a guy says he is bottom I assume I'm getting to top and get on his hole pretty soon if he's not already offering it. Most guys let you in right away, a few need a bit more warming up and foreplay but it's not much compared to most women. Even if you're first time today meeting your guy, chances of ending up nuts deep in a guy who says he's bottom is very good. A lot don't ask for a condom, and even if his profile says condom once you're teasing his hole he's usually happy. Most women would think you're a pig if you did this stuff, probably feel very bad afterwards, but guys get it, they know what it's like to get horny and want to deliver your load. A lot of guys become more obedient when you're dominant with them, give orders, be physical, take what you want, they respond well to it. I have been on both sides of that, often giving the orders, but sometimes a big guy or at that time more aggressive mood guy wants to take charge and it happens. At the extreme end of that, I've been taken by some guys in ways most women would consider rape and ended up going back for more multiple times. Still figuring out my feelings about that! Still, even at less extreme levels our sexuality is often rough and loose with permissions and the goal of full sex is easy to achieve, often in minutes, that's definitely part of it for many guys who are otherwise straight presenting.

Party in any context on grindr or other apps 99.99% chance means some kind of drugs. Party and play (or PNP) means drugs and sex. Could be any drugs they're doing. parTy with big letter T means meth though because some people call it Tina.

It's a meningitis vaccine that's found to also have 30-40% protection for gonorrhea, this explains more. [think before following links] https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/meningococcal-b-menb-vaccination-against-gonorrhoea-guide/a-guide-to-the-meningococcal-b-vaccine-for-protection-against-gonorrhoea

For what it's worth, a guy I connect with really well has intense social anxiety, actually he has a lot of things going on, so I don't expect anything when we meet. Just see how it goes in the moment. And that's ok, he is how he is. Having social anxiety is something some people are accepting and relaxed about.

Throat gonorrhea. I felt very, very tired and had a monster sore throat for about a week, I kind of figured I had something from that and found out later when I tested. Very sure I know who it was from because of it happening few days after meeting and it was only in my throat. There were all the warning signs for a guy who doesn't ever get tested, very scruffy, didn't really speak Spanish much, seemed super down low. No bad feelings to him, mostly hope he's alright and not ill from lots of STDs! But that's his thing to figure out and I'll be more careful in future. It made my sense of fun about sex go down a bit after years of having casual sex and getting away with nothing bad, but I knew it would happen soon or later. Currently getting the vaccine for gonorrhea so hope it's a never again experience.

Guys having sex with other guys aren't probably so straight I think. But I know some guys I play with think I'm straight because how I look and because I sometimes have gf, and I let them think it because they like it. I guess fag means gay? I mostly want dl often bi men because they're more discreet, but I like gay men just the same. Men are men if they're willing to play. So why do it? It doesn't really feel like cheating. Other men feel different. Men are always borrowed. I can be very close and intimate with other guys, but they're not competition for my gf and I'm not for theirs. How could I replace a gf? The sex is different, it is for a different need, and if we're friends outside of sex we don't do boyfriend/girlfriend stuff, we'd do regular friend stuff. I can love a man, but I'm not romantic with, monogamous to or want to keep one or be kept by one as a dedicated partner. He's going to want to do his own stuff, have his own gf if he's bi, and that's totally fine. With a gf I want a woman who likes a gentleman, and likes to be treated well. Taken to nice places, kissed passionately not messily. Do romantic things. With a guy it's a different energy, often more like grab his beard, pull his pants down, fuck him hard, chew on his ear and say dirty things to him about making a big cum mess inside him. And sometimes guys want to do it back to me. Even when it's not rough it's a lot about being able to take charge of a guy and be dominant. Love wanking a guy while I'm inside him and being in charge of his prostate and his dick, really make him moan and grunt as I edge him. Also happy to be that guy sometimes myself. There's a lot of dominance play with a guy, that's one of the needs I have that only other men can satisfy. Making him feel properly and totally taken feels good. And sometimes I want to be fucked. I guess a gf could do it with toys, but that's not how I imagine a sexy woman with me, it's kind of a turn off! Men are for the messy or rough stuff. Still, I have very intimate connections with some, it's not all about being rough or dirty, so for sure there's more to it.

Is there one guy that stands out for you in all the guys you've known? I'm curious because until the last year there's not been a guy like that for me. But now there is. And he's not the guy I would have expected it to happen with. I'll say more about what I've found soon I'm sure, but for now I'm wondering what makes for the hottest guy for someone else?

Recently met with the oldest guy I've been with, he's 61, and had a lot of fun fucking him. Friendly hairy guy with a great stocky rugby player kind of butt. Had a massive orgasm in him. I don't really care about age, just having fun. Never understood these profiles saying "no over 45" or whatever. Like what's so sexy about being under 45 and what's not sexy about being over 45? There's a lot more to a guy.

Interesting question I figured similar, it should increase the protection % but I don't think we can known the number at this point. Logically, when they work in different ways there two possible outcomes when using both vaccine and doxypep at the same time when exposed to gonorrhea . 1. Overlap where both methods would stop the same infection - this causing no increase in protection % 2. Just one stops the gonorrhea and the other wouldn't - this causing increase in protection % I assume both situations will happen to people at different times. So I don't expect a complete overlap every time resulting in no benefit, but also I don't expect for the percentages to just be added together because of the overlap sometimes happening. I guess in the future with a study we'll know real world numbers, but for now I think using both is something I'd consider doing and expect to help some % even if how much is unknown. Plus doxypep works on other STDs too.

Well, doxypep is harder to get in some european countries I know of, so that's a not so great difference here. As for the vaccine, I just said I wanted it for meningitis, that seemed to work. Will be interesting to see how it works out for gonorrhea in the UK. I figure how that goes will change how other health organisations see it.

Well, that would sometimes be me then! It's cool, can't be hot for every guy. But it's interesting because I think you've found a big thing I was asking about, because there are now a lot of men online locally who are fem and guys who are saying they are looking for them. I don't have the look or personality to work for them and I wonder what they're thinking and feeling. I'm the opposite of what you said as top too, I like guys who stay more traditional masculine and find the opposite a turn off. Same for the guys I meet, most of them want to go back to familiar acting after we've done whatever we've been up to. One guy I meet with likes to fist bump after we've blown each other and tell me it's been fun. I feel confused if a guy switches around to be more fem. I know I just grew up in a very gender focused world. Lots of brothers, lots of sports, 100% expectations to be that type of guy. So I don't really leave that headspace ever, not really sure how I could or would.