phillygwm
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It's going to depend on a lot of things. One is age: My refractory period was a lot shorter 40 years ago! Another is the person. If I'm really into/excited by him, I'll tend to bounce back quicker. A third is the atmosphere: If it's new and exciting (my first orgy!) I'll probably be ready sooner versus a routine round 2 with my partner of x years, who will be there tomorrow and the next day.
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I'd proceed with extreme caution. Maybe a half joking comment (i.e. "if only you were gay I'd be into you.") Or maybe brush against him...inadvertently, of course 🙂 But this can go wrong in a lot of ways and it isn't like some straight guy in a bar whom you'll never see again. Most people have an ick factor with regard to incest so even in the off chance he might let somebody blow him, it may not be you. Playing this the wrong way could make for an awkward situation for the next x years....and depending on his level of freak out, others might become aware. Might be a better fantasy than reality.
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Speaking as someone in his late 50s, I wouldn't call it ageism any more than it's sexism if you're not attracted to women, or racism if you prefer someone of a certain color. I know many on here take on all cummers but some people are just attracted to whom they're attracted. I'm typically into younger guys and picky at that. It's a bit ironic because most of my platonic friends are quite a bit older. Yeah, it's difficult but that's my "fault". If I could be attracted to everyone I'd get laid a lot more! So I can hardly take offense to someone who rejects me as too old, or not buff enough, or whatever. That said, there's no need to be rude about it. Politely indicate your disinterest and move on. Similarly, when you're the one rejected (which predictably happens to me much more often than not) don't get aggressive or creepy, move on.
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Again, I was a precocious kid and spent a lot of my youth in the library. I got tired of children's books and found the section on human reproduction (Dewey Decimal 612.6...I still remember!) I figured maybe there would be some nice pictures 🙂 Anyway, I quickly went from not knowing ANYTHING (what's intercourse?) to knowing quite a bit. I knew what semen was before I was able to produce any.
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I grew up pre-VCRs so really didn't have access to gay porn. Very rarely, I saw a cock in a magazine. There was a porno drive-in theater near where I lived so when I was old enough to drive I'd go there, but that was straight porn. The first time I saw a guy cum, I was 10 and he was standing next to me. I was a nerdy kid so learned about sex in library books. I'd read descriptions of semen but when my friend shot it was a lot different than what I'd visualized. I'd imagined it would have the consistency of toothpaste (that IS a thick white substance, after all!) I was probably in my late teens when I first saw gay mags and into my 20s when I saw videos (in a movie theater.)
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The other thing is express or implied coersion. I was 10 my first time...with another 10 year old. We were precocious kids! I was mature enough to handle it on that level. If it were a significantly older relative, teacher, authority figure, etc. I might not have said no because I was taught to respect/obey your elders. But that wouldn't be the same as saying I wanted it. Again, I don't think there's a red line to be drawn on age because situations -- and maturity levels -- differ. Personally, even if I were attracted to someone underage and even if it were legal, I don't think I would do it because I'd never want to f up someone for life. Again, some people -- including on here -- handled it OK. But others don't and I couldn't live with messing someone up on my conscience.
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I've never been into older guys, even now that I'm in my late 50s. Thankfully, there are a lot of younger guys who ARE into older. I'm not going to be offended that I'm not someone's "type" for whatever reason: I'm older, white, not muscular, etc. Thankfully, there are people who check my boxes that are into all those things so I manage to get laid.
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Getting me off without using one's hands is a sign of a talented cocksucker.
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Personally, I'd never pull out. I might choose to blow down your throat if you're especially talented or, of course, your ass is always a good option. But I'd never waste it.
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A question for the cumdumps: Have you ever been recognized outside of the bathhouse/club? That is, somewhere that isn't an inherently sexual environment. What happened? The only dump I knew personally told me he never saw anyone because he'd keep his door open and be laying face down, a pillow elevating his ass a bit, and legs open. He wouldn't be able to see anyone if he wanted to and it was unlikely one of his breeders would identify him from the back of his head 🙂 But I assume some of you prefer seeing the guy fucking you. What then?
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I'd agree. I don't like either extreme. As I've gotten older, I just try to stay inside when it's super hot or cold. As for the snow, I live in a HOA where they shovel the common areas so I'm responsible for maybe 15 feet from my door to the sidewalk. I tend to be an inertia kind of guy so it won't surprise me if I stay here, or at least in the general area, through retirement. But it's fun to think about other possibilities. I've only spent a few 2 week vacations in Thailand (a friend had a long distance BF.) I recall it being hotter than hell. It was a great value, especially at the time when the Baht was very weak. Language can be an issue there. People spoke enough broken English for me to get by but that was in the touristy areas. Also the government doesn't seem to be especially stable. I was never there for the demonstrations/coups, but there seem to be a fair amount. Similar to the US, there's a split between city and rural areas.
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Friends and I were on a cruise a few years ago and I made it a point to meet up with my friend for lunch on the beach. He told me all the places to get laid but I was only there for the day and I was with friends, so it just didn't lend itself to the opportunity. I liked it, but it was a fraction of day; not enough to decide to spend my life there 🙂
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I usually tolerate winter, though I don't love it. OTOH, I'm not a fan of July in South Florida, either. I just had this conversation with a friend. I'm probably not retiring for a couple years, unless someone wants to give me a nice severance package 🙂 That's still early 60's, though. I have a HS friend who moved to Puerto Vallarta and loves it. BUT he speaks reasonable Spanish. You can probably survive on English in a resort city but the home language is helpful. If I were ever to relocate, it would be somewhere I could maintain a higher standard of living. I never thought about it too seriously, just sort of like how people who aren't looking to move peruse real estate listings for fun. But given the political environment, while I'm not panicking, I'm thinking about it slightly more than I did a year ago.
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I'm in my late 50's. I technically already have my retirement number but want to pad it a bit more. I won't work until 67 but looking at early 60's. I'm starting to think about where. I can stay where I am, which is probably my default setting. But if I were to move, where would it be? I've always considered myself politically moderate, but the cheapest alternatives tend to be in MAGAland, which I'm not sure I can handle. This. A friend talked about moving to Thailand. We visited decades ago as tourists and I knew, while it was fun for a couple weeks, there were too many negatives to make it permanent (being halfway around the world from home, language, and climate, for starters.) English speaking Europe is nice but not sure it's much cheaper than the US. I don't speak any languages, aside from English, and I'm concerned about infrastructure so I'd really want to do a short term lease if I went somewhere in, say, Mexico or Belize.
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It isn't that black or white, pun intended. I'm white. I've been with black guys, white guys, Latino, Asian, etc. It honestly depends on the guy. I was in my late teens before I even saw a non-white cock and that wasn't sexual so in my 20's I preferred races other than my own. Nowadays, I like younger and cleancut/nerdy types (not a lot of tatts/piercings/facial hair.) I've always had a thing for uncut guys -- again, I was an adult before I even saw one -- so in the US that usually means Latino or Asian but that's certainly not a prerequisite.
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I'm over 55 and have been single for most of my life. That isn't the way I planned things, just the way they've worked out. I'll disagree with the premise of the question: Being in love and being a whore are not mutually exclusive. Sure, there will be guys for whom non-monogamy is a deal breaker. But there are many guys on the apps who say they're in happy -- but open -- relationships. I won't say that I've given up on the possibility of finding a relationship but I'm no longer fixated on it. I'm probably too picky and if that's the case, so be it. If it happens, it happens.
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It occurred to me that I never introduced myself on here (I did on the Philly group but obviously not everyone reads that.) Late 50's, top though orally vers, now living in the Philadelphia suburbs. Recognizing this isn't really a hookup site, I'd be open to exchanging messages/pics and possibly meeting the right guy. Typically into younger, slim guys within a reasonable distance.
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I've only fisted once -- it was a sexual bucket list thing -- but he took 2/3 to my elbow. When we were done (because my arm literally fell asleep,) he wanted me to fuck him. He was so gaped that wasn't gonna work but he was a headmaster, so it was all good. I've been with 1-2 other guys where I got close (4 fingers) but never the thumb.
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Me ex used to run to the bathroom immediately after I pulled out. He explained that he hated the feeling of liquified cum dripping out. I often tried to unload when we were pressed for time, so he had no opportunity to squeeze it out. Based on what he said, it felt like a lot more cum than there was and he thought it would leak through his pants and be visible to anyone looking at him. It never did, but I'd sometimes ask "What's that spot on your pants" if I wanted to throw him into a panic. Why no, I have no idea why I'm single 🙂
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Love posting my room number for any and all to see
phillygwm replied to happynleather's topic in General Discussion
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I chose reproductive even though I've never ejaculated in a woman. When I'm topping a guy, I want to unload as deeply as possible. Why? I'm not sure it's inherently more pleasurable than cumming some other way so maybe it's some instinctual thing. Skipping to the last question, I think the answer is usually non-reproductive considerations, depending on the guy. Most younger, unmarried guys absolutely do NOT want to get a female pregnant. People fuck because they find someone physically attractive. There is certainly an emotional/romantic component for some but I suspect if you went to the local cruising spot or sex club, that isn't their primary objective. Obviously, sometimes straights are trying to conceive but that's ideally a planned thing.
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Sorry to respond to an old thread but please elaborate. I'm guessing inmates can't choose which housing unit they want to live in -- or can they?
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That's the thing. It's the old adage "You can't rape the willing." If it happens to a top it's rape and he's probably not posting an arousing story about it.
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Forcing a bottom to cum before fucking him
phillygwm replied to smallcocksissyboi's topic in General Discussion
I never knew this was such a thing. As I posted earlier, I know I enjoyed it but had no idea so many other tops do, -
I agree with others who say that strangers are unpredictable. It MIGHT be hot or maybe a dud. Plus, and this is just me, I don't like the hunt. I want to walk in, fuck, cum, and leave. If I'm still horny after I cum, I might hang out a bit and go a second round but at my age that's less frequent than it was. With a regular, the excitement factor is less because it's generally predictable but the sex is usually better (otherwise, why is he a regular?)
