I've had similar frieghtening talks with HIV positive men.
Maybe the rest of the world have communities of sex positive, positive and positive-friendly guys. Not so in canada. Outside the two cities, the stigma, whether fear based or something else, is as powerful and isolating as at the peak of the 1980s hysteria.
We're canadian, so of course, no one is rejected for that reason. No one is rejected at all. HIV positive men never even get that chance. They are avoided online and elsewhere. Conversations never even start, because it would have to end with the negative person declining to meet. Perish the thought of honesty.
Instead, eveyone pretends to be blind and deaf and when those fail everyone is just too busy... "So hectic. I have to run now. I'm late for another friend's birthday party. 5th one today! Can you believe it? K. I'll call you when I'm free. Buh-byeeee".
Scenarios like that play out every day and remind everyone living with HIV, "Unless you're good all by yourself, you might as well not exist".