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Tips to become a bottom
NiceHard1 replied to monsterjames's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
Relax and take your time. Be sure to be with tops who know how to break you in gently -
I agree on diet- High fiber. Lots of good vegetables and fruit - broccoli, kale, high fiber cereal. There are several cereals that are very high in fiber (40%-67% daily allowance) - they typically have psyllium husk as an ingredient. You can also buy psyllium at health food stores- either in pill form or in powder. You can add the powder form to you oatmeal or cereal. Read the instructions and take with good amounts of water or liquid to be sure it gets into your digestive system
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Slip - ANy result? I too was thinking probably syphillis. Def something to check out
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I agree - great to meet someone who you are on the same page with about your sexual desires. Communicate well on how to set up the relationship - how sex together, separately, and with others works best for you, and I think it is entirely possible.
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I am always open to any; I usually top younger guys, but I am totally open to having younger guys fuck me as well
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I agree, that wherever you are can be the best place to be. Of course, bigger cities may usually have more people in general available. My biggest advice is to put yourself out there and make an effort to meet guys and connect. Some bottoms do go into a bathhouse or sex party and set up camp hoping for tops to come in to fuck them. I'm sure that works some times, but my personal preference is to talk to guys and make a connection, and then decide to fuck - deciding who will top and who bottom or both.
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I agree with others here. Age is but a number. You can choose for yourself what you are comfortable with and want for yourself, and there are now some new ways to mitigate the risk
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Great posts everyone - Tiger and BBZH especially. I understand your desire to be there. I find places that are white dominated to be, well, very plain, white, and not as interesting as places with a greater variety and diversity of men. Places that promote to men of color can be the same in reverse. I have gone to men of color parties in NYC, and have found the majority of guys to be welcoming, with a small handful not unfriendly, but also not looking to hook up with me. I suppose it can be different at different places or different parts of the country. But I think both extremes are limiting themselves. I would like to find more venues that attract a greater mix and diversity of men. I would travel somewhere to find that, so if anyone has recommendations, please let us know.
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I wish you had an option of "none of the above" in those choices. I think of brotherhood as a group of men with common meaning of their desire, interest, and purpose. I don't think those choices are bad things, but that they represent guys who are getting comfortable with barebacking. I respect their need to take slow steps, but I think they are not yet fully a part of the brotherhood at that point. Now I don't think that a guy who on occasion allows another guy to use a condom, or to pull out would disqualify him, as sometimes we find ourselves in a situation where we want to connect with a guy who is not comfortable with what we do, and that is fine. But typically, I think of a brotherhood member as one who is seeking out other guys who will be willing to bareback, and generally avoiding guys who are not comfortable with it. I don't believe stealthing is representative of brotherhood. I think of stealthing as only thinking of yourself and not having regard for others. A brotherhood, to me, is not forcing someone to become a member either without his knowledge or against his will. I'll stop short of saying that exchanging sperm would be a requirement, but I think it is an extremely important part of it.
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especially if you'd like to stay neg
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If you are in Detroit, you might consider a drive to Toronto to go to Northbound Leather. It is one of my favorite stores. you could go shopping then spend the night at Steamworks there. You might first want to check out the leather bar in Detroit and see what people are wearing and what you like. Or check out a few leather porn videos too. (I wear a couple of different harnesses in some of my films!) Another great store near me is Full Kit here in Provincetown. It is offseason, and the guys at the store could probably give you some advice on sizes if you give your body measurements. And they have free shipping if over $50 (Height, chest, waist, etc...not necessarily cock size - unless your're going for a cock ring too!) Buying in person can give you the best result, as you can try things on and see how they look. But online is not impossible. If you go to the leather bar, you might even ask some guys there if you can try on their harnesses to see how they feel. Good luck! http://www.fullkitgear.com/
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Excellent! Great step. I think it is awesome to be proactive like this. If you are a bareback bottom, and it is likely that you would need to start on HIV meds at some point after becoming poz, it makes sense to start the meds now, and be preemptive.
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I've had pretty good luck with mancaps http://mancaps.com/
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Lots of great ideas already given; here are my Top 10, based on sex and gay community 1. San Francisco - Beautiful city, great community, sex; cool crisp, mild weather (not too hot, not too cold) 2. New York - Big, bustling, broadway, bareback; As long as good with the cold winters 3. Chicago - Fun, slutty city - big leather community, bars, gay neighborhood, and its cold 4. Ft. Lauderdale - if you want a gay city with sex in a warmer climate 5. Provincetown - Most densely gay populated in the summer; quiet in the winter - yea and I'm here now 6. LA/WeHo - California, but warmer than SF; good opportunities 7. Palm Springs - Even warmer than LA, and closeby (counterseasonal to Provincetown) 8. Washington - People forget out our Capital as a great gay friendly city / close to other east coast points too 9. Seattle - Often also forgotten about - a young city with vibrant gay life - a bit less expensive than some 10. San Diego - Warm city, great community If you consider north of the border: - Montreal, Toronto, Vancouver are awesome cities If you want some other cities that are not always thought of first, but have great opportunities: -Denver, Columbus, Philadelphia, Miami, New Orleans
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What were your (first) symptoms of HIV?
NiceHard1 replied to Dutch-bottom's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
Dutch- Nowadays, there are often no symptoms that act as a telltale sign of HIV/AIDS to prompt one to get tested. The "fuckflu" as commonly called can be a sign that seroconversion happened, but particularly in the flu season, it could be just the flu. If you are thinking of KS legions, which were once an initial indicator of HIV/AIDS really only appear after years of infection untested and untreated - but they tend to not be itchy. If you really do have red itchy spots that you think may be sexually transmitted, it could be something as simple as Scabies. Syphilis can have a rash, but usually not itchy.... Gonorrhea can have an itch...so can poison ivy. Check it out with a doctor or public health clinic. Its good to find out, and get treated -
nice - I love both giving it and taking it like that
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Greetings Colt - Thanks for your message, and welcome to the site. You can find lots of great information here from all extremes. You can find lots of younger guys who are exploring their sexuality, and trying to decide what they are looking for and what they are comfortable doing. Take your time....explore...read...post...make friends... and only when you're ready, jump in.
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Bottling up my desire to bareback. Closet Barebacker's dilemna.
NiceHard1 replied to versgeek's topic in General Discussion
I think I am hearing you share that your concerns are about more than just HIV. You may be holding up the HIV risk as your concern, as that is the easiest risk to see, but I think you may also be concerned about the risk of other STI's or of sexual addiction, or even about what others think about your sexual desires. They are all great things to think about and to find the right balance in your life. The answer is not the same for everyone. For some guys, sex every day may feel fine, and others may find that interfering with their work, family, or other friendships. Having more frequent sex does mean testing for other STIs regularly, assuming you care about your health and that of your partners. It is good to find close friends with whom you can talk about anything without any judgement. Its not something to talk about with everyone though. And yes, it is possible too to have a relationship with someone, even have children, and be sexual. The key is finding a partner who is on the same page with you, and develop a plan for fulfilling your desired level of sexuality with each other and with others. When you do that in a way that is honest with yourself and your partner, balancing work, family, friends and your sexuality - that sounds like a healthy lifestyle. -
Free Breeding Zone / Raunchy Fuckers / rawTOP T-Shirts
NiceHard1 replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
Greetings- I would love a shirt - and if you can, a second one for the boy (the one in my blog who I pozzed about a year ago - we are still together) Prefer for both -Medium -Burgundy (or any color) -Front - Breeding Zone -Front Graphic color - tone on tone, or any -Rear - small biohazard -Rear color - tone on tone, or any Thanks! -
yes - would love to meet some of you guys
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Greetings sexy - how are ya? Where are you? In Provincetown here, but I can travel
