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Yes good advice. A nonfat doc, or one whose not realize that hare having anal sex may assume that a guy could only get an std in his cock and not ass Chlamydia and ghonorrea are both localized, which means that if they only give you a pee test, it won't show if have it in Tass or throat. Thy need to get ya throat swab and ass swab. Dont worry, if you take cock in your ass and throat, the swab will be like nothing. Often the providers feel like they are hurting guys to swab them, but forget gy guys take a lot me than that to get them in that situation in the first place. And the treatment is usually pretty easy too - oral or maybe a shot. It's important to get it done though

He admitte to me that he was just ignoring being HIV positive - didn't want to accept it or face it, and so he never went on meds - until now.

Day two in the hospital - update on my friend Diagnosis came back as pneumonia and Giardia. His Tcells are very low. On oxygen and lots of meds to work on the pneumonia and giardia. Said it was pooing, peeing, and throwing up at the same time with losing muscle control that finally convinced him that it was bad enough to do something. He's actually in good spirits, and I'm feeling positive that he can pull through. I fully agree with what many have said... That there is both wrong with being as sexual as we want to be, even if that includes becoming HIV poz. I certainly am. Becoming poz requires responsibility and committment to do what is necessary to stay healthy.

when do you arrive? How long staying? I usually head out to San Francisco, but hope to find time to see you

Hmm...I like the idea myself, if you wanted to move to the US. I've been thinking about looking to create some type of situation with the right guy or guys. I have a three bedroom house, and so have room for some additional people here. I envision a daddy/boy situation to be one where both are getting needs met. I would want to be a type of parent/daddy/mentor to a boy, to help him learn about and navigate the world of adulthood, sexuality, homosexuality, and HIV. I would expect the boy to of course be available for sex, but also to do things around the house, but then also to get a job to be able to support himself too. I would not want to fully take care of a boy. I would also encourage his own exploration of his own sexuality, not only with me, but with others as well. I think that there can be room to negotiate any kind of parts to unique relationships, but both parties have to know what they are looking for and signing up for. Maybe if you're not looking to come to the US, I can find the right boy(s) to create a fun cool environment here with.

UPDATE - First thank you all for the positive energy. I was nearly ready to drive him to the hospital yesterday, but I didn't want to do it against his will. Thankfully, he got there today, and is now in the ICU. A 24 year old boy should not have to suffer from AIDS these days. I've told him that I am here for him if he needs anything, and I'm sure that hearing about all the positive energy from BZ members will make him smile. Thanks very much!

I had quite an interesting, difficult experience this weekend, meeting up with a guy who I have seen on a few previous occasions. He is a hot 24 year old cute HIV poz guy. We connected on BBRT a couple of years ago, and then met last March at the Black Party in NYC, and hung out dancing and having fun together most of the night and morning. He then moved down south for a while, and I flew there to see him for a weekend last spring. He moved back north and is living with his parents. He mentioned that he is working on addiction recovery, and I told him I thought this was excellent. I suggested getting together since he was back it the area, and would get a hotel near where he is now living. He did mention that he prob would not be up for sex as he is sorting out sex and drug use concerns. I was cool with that and would be happy just to see him. In April when I saw him last, he looked great. But in when I saw him this past weekend, I was caught off guard to see that his HIV had progressed pretty severely. He was quite frail, had lost lots of weight, had rashes, and walked with great difficulty and with a cane. I asked if he was getting care, and got some confusing responses, including that he had not seen a doctor in 6 months, to having an appointment in January, and the that he got some lab tests last week and was waiting for the results. I offered and would have been willing to take him to a doctor or the hospital if he needed it, but he refused and said that he was handling it, and didn't want to discuss it. I'm sad to admit that I was struggling with how to best support or be with him, even as an HIV positive person myself. I know that I would not be able to get anything from him that I didn't already have myself, though when he indicated that he had delt with staph infections, that scared me a bit and made me a little more distant. We shared a bed and cuddled, but I was a bit reluctant and I know it showed. I am used to seeing asymptomatic people with HIV and have no experience with guys manifesting symptoms like this. I have a new appreciation for people who were caregivers for people with AIDS 20 years ago when this was the norm. Don't know how they did it, but they must have been nothing less than angels. I could see "the looks" that we got from other people out at restaurants and our hotel. They either thought that he was drunk and stumbling, or suspected the truth and kept their distance. He confided that he is scared by his situation, and wondered if he would be able to go back from AIDS to merely HIV. I assured him that he could if he gets back on meds and they are effective - that many guys have gone from being terribly Ill to healthy. So while we were not really close friends it he first place, I'm afraid I've made more distance by how I responded, but wish to let him know that I'm here if he needs someone. I also share the story to help guys consider their thoughts about wanting to choose to progress to full AIDS. Please send positive energy and thoughts to my friend in the hope that he can recover and become again the hot sexy 24 year old that he is inside.

I think you need to know what it is that you really is - the role play, or the other anonymous guys. If it is the activity, then discuss that with your partner and come up with a good mutually agreeable plan. If it is the other guys that you miss, then discuss that with your partner and come up with a good mutually agreeable plan. Hmmm...funny how it always comes back to good communication about needs.

It's also really helpful to eat a high fiber diet and use psyllium husk as a daily supplement. Tis can make it much easier to get clean.

I totally support what many of you are saying out wanting to bareback, take loads, and remain negative. I think it is indeed possible, as many experience. I don't think that sticking to guys who say they are neg is the answer. You'd have to be really sure that they really are neg. another option might be to stick to undetectable guys, as it is a known quantity - they are poz, but on meds and undetectable. Having a plan is better than randomly getting fucked by anyone 1 as that will get you poz pretty quickly.

I'm planning to go. Anyone interested in sharing a room?

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