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Unless you can positively say that a discharge is either pre-cum, or you've had a spontaneous orgasm and it's the right colour for your cum, any variation in colour suggests an infection which needs to be taken care of. The one exception in my experience is the discharge from genital thrush, which, as a diabetic, I'm prone to, but even though the discharge is exactly the same shade of white as my cum, that discharge has a distinctive smell. If it doesn't look right, or if it doesn't feel right, get it checked out...

Could be just the time of year... Amongst people with HIV there hasn't been a drug that's been implicated in loss of libido since high dose ritonavir, which was in use around the turn of the century and was known by us, though the doctors denied for a while, as chemical castration. I've been through enough anti-retrovirals that the online health trainer at the organisation I volunteer for refers to me as a drugs whore. There's the remotest chance the the FTC component of truvada could be disturbing sleep with libido-squashing dreams (extremely rarely it can have a very slight psychoactive effect, but this effect is so rare that it's only been noted by people using the drug, and then after considerable effort in searching for others). I'd put my money on SAD...

PrEP is best used in a belt and braces situation: when the poz guy is at a very low viral load vie medication (TasP), and the neg guy is taking PrEP. If a guy is resistant to both FTC and tenofovir, what we're really saying is that his virus is resistant to those drugs, so any virus in his cum will be resistant also. (About 10% of guys who achieve an undetectable VL are not undetectable via semen counts. The figure seems to be lower for guys who take an integrase inhibitor.) Hence the need for him to keep his VL as low as possible, as any virus that does slip through the drugs he's taking are going to laugh in the face of truvada.

Truvada carries with it various GI issues, amongst them bloating, farting and weight gain, one of the reasons why obesity is becoming a problem in PwHIV now: not only has the reduction of the quantity of HIV in our guts decreased making wasting syndrome less likely, but truvada is helping us gain wait. Constant starting/stopping of PrEP is one of the best ways of making truvada fail. Exercise is more effective and more enjoyable for weight loss that sitting mournfully over a curled lettuce leak. If you haven't got a gym nearby, a set of basic equipment doesn't cost that much (my weights, for example, cost a bit over a hundred dollars and are perfectly adequate to my needs). There are numerous videos on YouTube illustrating exercises and a basic book on exercise shouldn't cost too much. Dietary sugar is more of a problem than fat in food, but, being diabetic, the diet version of a drink is my automatic choice and avoiding high fat foods makes sense too, as does going for the wholemeal option in bread, rice etc (the high fibre makes cleaning your hole out easier too).

I don't find cialis that effective, so use viagra instead. Whichever suits you, it's important to discuss dosage with your doctor. Guys taking protease inhibitors are normally prescribed half the normal dose with a warning that it's only for every other day use. Hypertension is something to watch for too. The textbooks say that ED drugs and poppers should never be combined because you're messing with your blood pressure and it could lead to heart attack or stroke. I personally wouldn't add another non-prescribed drug into the mix. WHen my blood pressure was normal and I wasn't taking protease inhibitors (and when poppers really were amyl nitrite), I'd reckon on five good belts to get off my face and have the overwhelming urge to pig out. If you were going to try the combination I'd say to start and proceed slowly. I've always preferred to hold the bottle myself (to prevent accidents like I had earlier this year when I got half a bottle up one nostril - painful!) and take a lungful. Later on, if all seems well, two lungfuls. If I feel tempted to more than that I tend to drop the bottle out of the way so it can't be easily reached. I'd rather be slightly less shitfaced than I'd like to be than on a trolley being taken into an ambulance. But that's my own sense of self-preservation kicking in. Poppers and ED drugs seemed to raise more eyebrows than most other sexual topics at seminars about HIV that I've attended this year. How much of this is down to "thou shalt not have fun" and how much is practical accidental overdose prevention I honestly don't know. Sorry this isn't much of an answer, but I really don't think anyone actually does know the answer: there are so many factors to take into consideration, and the fact that we're talking about , you know, doing it, that I don't think anywhere near adequate research has been done and medical proclamations are issued on theoretical and anecdotal evidence. I've found it possible to mix the two, but at lower than average doses. Your mileage may vary...

If he likes a drink, a bottle of expensive liquor - sippin' whiskey rather than sluggin stuff, or a liqueur like absinthe. The sort of stuff that's going to be around for a while because it's too good to drink fast.

PEP has to be started within 72 hours of potential infection, otherwise it's useless as PEP. However, the fact that it was you fucking him, and the fact that you're sure he's telling the truth may well mean that even if you went to an A&E department today and asked for PEP, they'd likely refuse to give you it on the grounds that you weren't at enough risk to justify the risks and expense of PEP. I'm poz and undetectable and have no trouble in my mind about getting fucked. There just isn't enough free virus in my system to establish an infection in someone else: it's all in hiding away from those nasty antivirals I keep throwing at it. The fact is that therapeutic drugs are changing the rules of the game. If PrEP is available where you are, give it serious consideration. If you're in the UK there are still 165 (out of 500) places available on the second stage PrEP trial due to start next year. They're having trouble filling up all the places. The standard of protection offered by Treatment as Protection (ie a poz guy getting his viral load down to undetectable) in combination with PrEP is way above the protection offered by the mere condom. Why don't official bodies talk more about this? Because drugs cost more than condoms and condoms help prevent (but don't do a good job) prevent other STIs. Also major donors to charities and sponsors of websites want to see a strong condom message, even though condoms aren't the best defence any more. A friend of mine was kicked off a new-ish dating site in the UK because his profile talked about about extreme sex like latex fetishism (!), and despite the fact that the guy is fastidious about safer sex and says so in the profile. I looked through my profile and found pretty much the same sorts of thing there, just more subtly expressed. For example I listed Tim Dean's "Ultimate Intimacy" as one of my favourite books, which they clearly didn't know about. Condoms, it seems, are the new "nice". Truvada is only the first attempt at PrEP: it's not a perfect choice of drug, but we'll get to the point where there are several choices, just as someone starting meds for the first time has a choice of drugs. And before anyone says there's something unnatural about taking medication for recreational sex, straight women have been doing it for fifty years. Bandit, get off yer soapbox!

In that situation pain is the memory of a lot of fun . Did I enjoy it? Of course! Just wish I could have held out for longer. The problem is lack of muscle tone which is difficult to get back after the sort of deterioration I went through last year: walking I'm good for perhaps half a mile in total. I got an exercise bike at a knockdown price a couple of months ago and am trying to build stamina up with that (as well as using it as a warmup for my weights routine). Riding dick I get off on either way round: as bottom it says "I want your cum" more effectively than any other face to face position, and as top you've got the intensity of a good fuck without having to do much (and on some days I can't do that much which is why when I top it tends to be more D/s oriented), plus all the visual aspects of it. Only thing that approaches it, in my mind, is a sling. Still, I can't have been that bad - the guy I was riding wants more...

The word "no" is the correct answer to the question "do you want me to stop?"

Riding a cock is probably the most muscle-intensive way of getting fucked. Okay, I've got some muscle deterioration from HIV, but I tried it the other night for the first time in years. I could barely manage five minutes, whereas in the days when I was hiking miles through woodlands with the dogs I could keep going till I got the load. Plus I was younger then... Yes, I'd feel it in my thighs the day after, but earlier this week I could barely walk. Fuckboy's right about the slutty feeling of it: probably the best way of putting on a show for a top and the most definite statement that you want his dick.

One of the components of stribild is tenofovir which is notorious for causing bloating and farting. I'd recommend setting a time limit (say a couple of months, maybe three) and if you're still getting problems, see you doctor about a change of prescription. The idea is to be a well patient, not a good patient. For what it's worth I never got over the GI effects of tenofovir...

I've been around most of the available HIV drugs, and yes, usually side effects these days subside within a few weeks. PrEP has its side effects too, principally bloating and farting (it's not known as the farty drug for nothing). Also, as I've observed here to everyone's boredom, the tenofovir component of truvada can turn very nasty, but usually only after several years' use. If you go onto PrEP, it's essential to have have your kidney function monitored of a regular basis (no more than three months). The kidney damage that tenofovir is capable of is not pleasant: it started for me two years ago and I've still not recovered. I can't agree with aussiepoet: no-one with HIV should have a drug holiday, as pleasant as it sounds. If you're using truvada for PrEP, you're likely to end up with another 28 day "loading" period. I had a drug holiday seven years ago and lost, on average 70 CD4 cells per month. Passive suicide...

You should have heard the filth that I was pouring out of my mouth last night!

A few hours ago: a gorgeous bear I met on bbrt. For a while it looked like it wasn't going to happen, but I took a gamble and took the viagra anyway (I have this weird problem with viagra in that I can stay hard for hours but can't cum until five or more hours after taking it). A grey goatee that drove me half crazy while he ate out my ass. Then fingers, then his dick in my ass. I can't remember the sequence of events, but my aching thighs tell me I was riding his dick at one point and he came long, deep and hard in my ass while I was on my back. Afterwards we sat and talked and cwtched (Welsh word, doesn't really translate: nearest I can come up with, in this context, is snuggled) and then he had a second go at my ass, just that face fur followed by fingers this time. I finally managed to cum - best in a long time. I'm ashamed to say that my back and legs let me down when sucking him afterwards: back seized, legs cramped. Definitely got to make that up to him!

Bear in mind also that the gift of cum, poz or not, is a very special gift. I might be over-romanticising or getting over-emotional here, but whenever I cum in a guy, or he cums in me, we've formed a connection. Even guys I've ended up disliking, if one of us has cum in the other's ass, there's a bond there. Even after more than twenty years I can remember the look of awe and astonishment on the face my first husband when I came up his ass in a hotel room in Bournemouth. Wasn't the first time, wasn't the last, but it's the one I remember. Your guy might just not be willing to make that connection just yet...

Have to agree here: there's no way you can get out of telling what you know and come up smelling of roses. I know things about some of my friends that they wouldn't want their partners to know and wild horses wouldn't drag the knowledge from me. Only the other weekend I discovered that one of my best friends already knew that I'd had a thing going with his partner fifteen years ago (after they'd got together). I doubt we'll ever mention it again - it was my friend's partner that let it slip. Sometimes you do shitty things, or hear of shitty things. Unless you're prepared to pick up all the pieces, you keep your trap shut.

I don't care: the pleasure of sex has an exponential relationship with the number of guys involved. I can enjoy a 3way as one of the tops or as one of the bottoms or as the only bottom. But there is something especially piggy about being one of two bottoms, especially sucking the same dick at the same time...

Fuck, but that was (is going to be better, he hopes?) good! You're a twisted pervert, Sir! Wish I'd run into you when I was in London last week...

Being versatile, I reckon that the bottom has the harder job. If I'm topping (like, if the viagra works!) or I'm doing a D/s scene, then what I say goes. I'm going to make that little cocksucker cum whether he wants to or not. And he's going to be grateful for it. If I'm bottomming, there's still a lot of work - as you suggest, most top guys seem to have their tits hardwired to their dicks. I can live with that - I like causing pain even if I'm the one with the dick up his ass. I'm not one of nature's cocksuckers (too much of a gag reflex, which I've never been able to subdue), but my ass was built for getting fucked. I have to control myself: "for fucks sake stop doing that or I'm going to cum too soon".

I'd say that the Russian story is the one to be most concerned about. The other stories seem to emphasise HIV's capacity for mutation. The one story I frankly don't believe is the idea of "recombinant" HIV: it seems to be talking about superinfection which happens perhaps once per year around the entire world. A very rare event. Even if you're already positive, getting another strain of the virus, resistant to drugs you're using, isn't such a problem: HIV reverts to its wild type. Drug resistances fade. If I got fucked by (sounds so much better than "acquired from") someone whose HIV was (a) at infectious levels, and ( was resistant to one of the drugs I'm on, I frankly wouldn't be worried. The little passengers, once there are drugs around, are fighting for survival and they don't take kindly to strangers...

Always considered myself versatile. Then diabetes (thank you, early HIV drugs) came along and did its best to destroy the nerve that controls blood flow to my dick, meaning that without "daddy's little helpers" I'm rarely going to get hard. I have asked for testosterone level testing at the STI clinic, before you ask. One of my strongest sexual memories is the look on my then partner's face as I came up his butt twenty years ago (shit, but did I love that man). I'm forced to accept nature and its consequences: sometimes viagra works, though it means I can't cum within about eight hours of it kicking in (cialis never has) sometimes it doesn't. I can take a dick up my butt whether I'm hard or not and enjoy every second of it (you want references? Better yet, come try!)), but I can't rely on getting a hardon if I'm topping. Butt on the other hand (I apologise for the lousy pun), who needs a hardon to fist someone? My "failure" to get a hardon can add to a torture/punishment scene ("fuckin hell, you can't even get me hard"). It doesn't mean that I'm not getting some emotional satisfaction out of what's going on. ED has meant a change in how I enjoy sex, it's only made a change in how I enjoy sex. (And if the viagra has worked, don't be sharing a bed with me in the early hours of the morning unless you want a dick up your ass and a buttload of cum)

I stand corrected. (though a little spanking would have been nice )

"In this day of AIDS and other exotic sexually transmitted diseases that will definitely put one’s mate at ease during the man’s absence" leads me to think that the entire site might have a little relevance to guys here, but is largely a huge pile of BS. Don't they think their man capable of taking it up the ass?

Discovered I've got a fetish for short-arsed ginger guys - a bit like me really. Be three inches less tall and I'll want to fuck your face and maybe move downwards from there. On the other hand if you're a six foot plus bear, my ass is yours Sir! If there's piss involved, I believe in share and share alike... My idea of heaven is an afternoon with a fuck DVD, a ginger shortarse, a bear and a few bottle of beer which we just keep recycling

A jock with pre-cum - my absolute favourite!