BootmanLA

No one is suggesting we should be, except the imaginary bogeymen in the fevered brains of the irrational nuts who think we can retreat to within our borders and never deal with the outside world. I wasn't aware you'd been appointed to simultaneously serve in a majority of the seats of the Supreme Court of the United States. You haven't? Oh, well, then, maybe you just aren't the one who gets to decide whether the WPA is constitutional or not. But you should know this: every president has advocated that the WPA is unconstitutional, not because only Congress can declare war, but because as commander in chief, the President can deploy forces even without a formal declaration of war and the reporting requirements of the WPA infringe on the President's powers, not the other way around. While I agree that we need to do far more for our own people than we do, there is literally no provision of the Constitution that prohibits foreign aid. Your fevered imagination as to what the Constitution says is working overtime - I hope you're paying it time-and-a-half.

You said this in response to someone suggesting prayers aren't worth shit. You made a wild, unsubstantiated leap to the notion that he must therefore hate Christians. You're demonstrating a severe inability to make logical connections here.

So you reject the fact-gathering apparatuses of, say, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, CNN, and the like in favor of "real facts" from ... checking now... "clayandbuck.com". One of these doofuses is a lawyer who went on a pudding strike (eating only pudding for nearly two months, trying to pressure DirectTV to offer NFL Sunday Ticket in the US Virgin Islands. The other is someone Fox Sports euphemistically called a "radio personality" (because "sports journalist" engendered too many hysterical laughs). But you'll put more faith in what they pull out their asses to tell you over news organizations whose staff collectively have centuries of experience in uncovering the news and reporting it. JFC.

You are mistaking the current president, with whom the world community stands in solidarity, with the previous occupant of the Oval Office, for whom the international community had nothing but contempt (that is, except for the Dictator Caucus). You can support or oppose either party and either president, but you are not going to manufacture "alternative facts" about how the world community viewed the last president vs how they view the current one. Russia was not kept "at bay". Russia chose to bide its time while Hair Furor tried to tear the post-Cold War western alliances apart. He had no reason to move on Ukraine as long as Hair Furor was actively trying to drive a wedge between the US and its European allies. Putin was delighted to sit back and let the Mango Mussolini try to extort Ukraine for security assistance. Putin was delighted when his personal puppet tried to divide NATO over the amount of spending each would make on defense, deliberately mischaracterizing it as "unpaid back dues" to NATO. The previous occupant of the White House stood on an international stage and announced he took Putin's word over the combined work of all his own intelligence agencies, whose work he pointedly refused to even review on a regular basis. Of course Putin's moving now - not because Biden is weak, or perceived as weak, but because Biden is undoing the wreckage the last idiot left in his wake, and he knew his window of opportunity would be closing. Finally: as for keeping our economy pumping: Trump was the first president under whom the number of jobs had a net DECLINE - despite the roaring economy he inherited, which grew no faster under him than it had in the last few years of the Obama administration. His abysmal, incompetent mishandling of Covid not only led to the needless deaths of hundreds of thousands of Americans, but caused hundreds of billions (if not trillions) of dollars of damage to the economy. A rabid badger with a broken hind foot could have taken the economy inherited from Obama and managed it as well as Trump did. (The one thing I'll give him credit for: he wanted to provide the $2,000 per person stimulus payments but his own party, stingy rich capitalists to the core, cut it to $600. Biden got the remainder of the money approved, which is part of why the economy began recovering much more quickly under his administration than it was under the last months of Trump.)

That is addressed in dozens of responses to similar questions raised over and over again. The short answer is, that is confidential information; the site owners don't release the formula by which advancing from one level to another is granted, so as to prevent people from gaming the system. The longer answer is, read through this particular part of the forum - you'll see the reasoning explained in greater detail.

Since you mention 81 million votes - are you suggesting that the current president (recipient of those votes) was "weak" and allowed this tyrant to flourish?

What I do is hit the quote button, then chop off the irrelevant parts. And if I need to quote a second time from the same post (from a widely separated section) I just hit the quote button again, and repeat except deleting the original quote along with anything not needed the second round. Complex but seems to work.

Actually, when I hit "quote" on your post (which quotes me), it only quotes the parts YOU posted, not my original quote. That's how it SHOULD work. I'm not sure why ErosWired's quoting went astray, but it's definitely not working the way mine does (and yours did, above).

No need to apologize - I know you're not doing it deliberately (the quoting feature here can be wonky). It's as much "not wanting to take credit for someone else's words" as it is "don't show me saying things I didn't say". (This is a case where I agree about the importance of access to care where the person relocates.)

Wrong. Once again, someone thinks his own experience is the one and only experience that is suitable for everyone else in a group, and that anyone who doesn't adhere to his limited worldview is not a "true" whatever. It must be exhausting to think you have to speak on behalf of everyone.

You quoted me, but that wasn't me - that was fskn. Your point is actually a variation of the one I was originally making: aim for a large metro area, not a mid-sized city.

That's far more likely. Porn, unlike "real" film and TV shows, is shot wherever the producer can find a place; there are physical porn studios, but they're not fancy soundproofed buildings with ideal acoustics and powerful boom mics that can pick up the sounds needed, discreetly. They're shot wherever they can find a place, often in a house that someone lends them or an apartment or hotel room or whatever. So sound re-recording is often done, dubbing over the original tracks, and it's sometimes sloppy work. The actors may have grunted exactly in time with the action, but there's no guarantee even that the moans you're hearing are produced by the bottom on screen. Just as there are stunt dicks and stunt butts out there, there are stunt voices for the sex sounds.

As many people have noted, some bleeding is not uncommon. It's not "almost always" there, but there are factors which can aggravate it, as these folks can attest. However: bear in mind when you're watching videos, you may not even be seeing real cum. Lots of what you see in porn is faked (shocker!), and because of cuts from one camera to another, or stopping and starting from different angles, it's child's play for the porn producers to inject something cum-looking, but pristine and white and glistening (and probably tasting better) into a bottom's ass so that he can expel it on demand for a felching scene.

The risk of HIV infection in his case is pretty low if that number is correct and stable (ie not changing regularly up and down, which it might if he's not diligent about his meds). It used to be that anything below 50 was considered undetectable, because that's the lowest level that could be measured at the time. Now with improved techniques, it's possible to measure down to around 25, and that's where "undetectable" generally starts now.

Conceptually, this is great advice, but in reality, there's a problem in that very, very few places have rent control laws. The last tally I find shows 182 cities which have rent control within all or part of the city (for most, it's all). But 99 of those are in New Jersey alone. 63 are in New York. Only 18 cities in California have it, and otherwise only Washington, DC and Takoma Park, Maryland (a suburb of DC). That's it. Rent control does cover some very large areas, but basically nowhere other than parts of the two coasts. Also all very important.

As a starting point, given your sexual wants, you'll need to be in a good-sized city. It's possible to live in a suburban area NEAR a bigger city within your budget, but once there, you'll find there's a bias against traveling 25-30 minutes out to the "breederville burbs" for sex, so you'll be the one traveling, and that may not always be convenient. But larger cities near either coast are rapidly becoming prohibitively expensive for a starting salary like yours without roommates to help make things affordable. As CTCokPig noted, Providence, RI is one exception costwise (it's only slightly above the national average for living costs). The downside is the local gay population is not huge (it's a city of only 180,000). From late spring until Labor Day or somewhat later, it's a thriving gay resort town, and the gay population is swelled considerably, but for about half the year, it's much slimmer pickings. So as a general rule, you're going to want to avoid most places on either coast (unless it's an exception, like Providence). Chicago, likewise, is getting extraordinarily pricey inside the city proper in the areas where gays tend to live. Unfortunately, most of the larger cities in the interior of the country, even if they're relatively liberal and gay-friendly, are in fairly red states, often meaning oppressive state governments controlling what the locals permit. But the cities themselves may insulate you from much, if not all, of that. So, for instance, Texas is a very red state (in terms of its government, if not the people), but San Antonio, Austin, Houston, Dallas, and Fort Worth are all becoming much more liberal enclaves within the sea of red. To a lesser extent, so is El Paso. In Ohio, Columbus has long been considered fairly gay-friendly and progressive; ditto for Indianapolis in Indiana. I'd steer clear of Florida (the gay-friendly parts are expensive). Going west, Tucson, AZ is fairly reasonably priced (although buying a house can be expensive) and is the largest "liberal" city in the state. Colorado is tougher because Denver is fairly liberal and a nice place to live but it's getting very pricey, too; the more affordable places are still overrun with Trumpanzees and the Christo-Nazis that surround the Air Force Academy. Those are some starting ideas, on which some residents of said places may want to chime in.

Good choice. I will add: For a certain percentage of people on this site, bragging about being toxic, taking loads constantly, not being on PrEP, etc. is all masturbatory fodder - they're all playing a game of one-upsmanship pretending to be someone they're not. In other words, there's a lot of liars online, and some of them - in my experience, a not-insignifcant number of them - are lying about being thrilled at being poz. Those people certainly exist, but fewer in number since PrEP became widely available as a way to bareback without (virtually all) of the risk of HIV that came with barebacking. As to whether there's actually some feeling of "brotherhood" about being poz: I will admit that it's easier, generally speaking, to discuss one's status as poz (even if undetectable) with other poz people or people who are in a relationship with a poz person. So there's that. But as for some mystic "bond" between us? I think that's a product of fevered imaginations sometimes fueled with chemical enhancements.

On the contrary. I read your comment and took it for what it was: saying politics and party choices don't matter. They do. One party wants to protect our rights; one wants to strip them away. Republicans don't deserve to get off in a gay man's body when their party is actively working to make that illegal again.

Right up until the "bullshit of life", aka politics, drops police at your door to arrest you for gay sex. Think it's not possible? The Supreme Court struck down laws against such activity on the basis of a right to privacy, a right that at least five current members of the Supreme Court believe does not exist. They're prepared to throw out nearly 50 years of jurisprudence based on that regarding abortion. You think they won't toss out less than two decades' worth over the right for two men to fuck each other in the ass?

This is something you need to discuss with your doctor. Going off meds for a month is typically not fatal, but at the same time, your viral load is likely to spike upwards and your t-cells may drop. This is especially an issue if you went undiagnosed as poz for a good while after conversion. Most often, once you begin treatment again, your numbers will improve again, but you may never get back quite to where you were (or you may; it really is patient-dependent). Look into programs that provide HIV medications for free or low cost in your new area (and for that matter, where you are now, because they may be able to refer you somewhere). Additionally, I know my insurer (a Blue Cross affiliate) allows ongoing prescriptions to be filled 25 days after the last fill. That makes sure there is overlap between your current fill and the next one, and it's possible you could get an "early" fill for your medications before you leave, to help tide you over. Your doctor may also know of specific resources for continuing this kind of medication on a stopgap basis. Don't be afraid to ask - there's a lot of assistance out there, but someone often has to point it out because it's not readily apparent. AHF, for instance, provided my meds for free while I was first signing up for coverage that would take care of them (because my doctor is an AHF affiliate).

Which tells me it's not a site bug at all; it's Safari not playing well with a standard on the internet, which is scarcely surprising. Apple developers sometimes are obstinate about adhering to standards.

I wouldn't count on the fact that there are pictures of you out there where you're having sex resulting in people paying attention to you. There are tens of millions of pictures of sexual activity out there, and people tend to only pay attention to the ones that appeal to them.

You do you, of course, but I don't think men are obligated to enjoy a particular sexual activity just because it's what someone else wants, and they're not "selfish/lazy/boring" for doing so, any more than I would think you're lazy for not wanting to fuck women. I know guys who just don't like performing oral. I know guys who adore it above all else. I know guys who can't do it much if at all because of TMJ or other jaw issues. None of them are selfish, or boring, or lazy. I know guys who never fuck, and guys who never get fucked - and some who fit into both categories, and some who fit into neither. We like what we like, and I think it's pretty shitty to shame people for how they're wired. For the OP - I don't think there is a recognized (or "community-accepted") nickname for people in this category.

Lots of people have those feelings. That's exactly why PrEP exists.