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someone I know irl found me on this site...
BootmanLA replied to coomer's topic in General Discussion
It's also occurred to me that some people post a lot of fap fap fap material posing as depraved trashy pigs as part of their "online persona" here, and then someone in real life connects the dots - and of course is then faced with either admitting it's all fantasy material or defending his alleged depravity. -
That is precisely the point - you get hard, it hurts, you go soft. It's not just to keep you from fucking (a longer, broader tube section would keep you from that). The point is to get you to stop thinking with your dick.
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And likewise, there have been many opposing reports (showing no connection between PrEP medication or HAART medication and increased resistance to Covid. Which is why the word used in the meta-study cited above was "discordant" results. Mind you, I'm not suggesting anyone should stop taking PrEP simply because it doesn't stop them from contracting Covid. But I am saying don't skip getting vaccinated or boostered because you don't think you need it if you're on PrEP.
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It also may mean that the particular gallery is empty. On a whim, I created a gallery for my profile but did not upload any images. The gallery still shows existing, and is in my profile, but you wouldn't be able to see anything in it. Additionally, the owner of an album can restrict which users can see it. So it's possible you're looking at galleries that the member in question hasn't "opened" for you (because he doesn't know who you are).
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Let's see... I can believe the person who posted the link to study of studies, showing "discordant results" (an indicator, usually, that there is no correlation between a problem and its proposed solution other than random luck), or I can believe the person who doesn't yet seem to grasp the fundamentals of punctuation. Truly a dilemma to resolve, I tell ya.
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There’s a Sex Tracking App for Gay Men fyi!
BootmanLA replied to Sharpshooter13's topic in General Discussion
I'm with you if you mean the licky-licky foot fetish thing. But I will say, I've known a couple of guys with a foot fetish who were thrilled to just massage my feet for half an hour, after a long day of hiking, and it was heaven. And yeah, I realized he was subtly getting off on it, but that's a price I can pay if that's all I have to do.- 37 replies
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Thank you. We need more actual citations to the literature and much fewer "Of course it must be!" posts from people who don't know what they're talking about. The problem is people who assume ONE antiviral drug works against two different viruses equally well. That is simply not the case. SARS-CoV-2, the coronavirus that causes Covid-19, is not even in the same group of viruses as HIV (a retrovirus), and the two attack cells to reproduce in very different ways. Which strongly suggests, by itself, that taking PrEP will have little to no effect on SARS-CoV-2.
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I don't think you and Fskn are saying contradictory things. Rather, I think you're correctly noting that there are a lot more support mechanisms for most kids today. But not nearly so many in the Bible Belt or deep in Mormon country, for instance. And no matter how much support there is online, there are still significant numbers of parents who do everything in their power to block their kids from accessing those things - no smart phone, internet blocked at home, sending them to schools where those things aren't available, and so forth. Thankfully the number of kids in that situation is diminishing, but it's by no means approaching zero.
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You may be a technophobe, but surely even you can tell what sort of mobile device you're using (since, for instance, Apple and Android devices share almost zero software code between them). And figuring out what browser you're using is as simple as reading the name on the icon you click on.
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And again, while I agree it's your choice, it's good to acknowledge that one reason you CAN make that choice, and the amount of pushback you get is muted, is because of the thousands upon thousands of LGBT men and women who came before you who chose otherwise - or who had little choice but to be out because they simply couldn't "pass". Their work make it a lot less socially acceptable for men to rag on other men at work as to when they were going to settle down with a good woman and start a family. The pressure to do that, pre-"out" days, is one reason so many gay men took the route of marrying and cheating on the side, and why so many marriages imploded after a decade or two when the pressure got to be too much. Just as those early "out" folks made it possible for many of us to be "out" more easily today, they also made it possible to stay single and closeted if that's what you prefer, without being tagged as suspicious because you're past 25 and haven't gotten engaged. Acknowledging their help is the least closeted people can do, but sadly, too many of them look down on those pioneers for "rocking the boat".
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Let me start by saying I support your choice whether or not to come out, 100%. I will note that straight people "proclaim their sexuality" all day, every day. Single guys talk about the girl they took out (or hooked up with) the previous weekend. Single women talk about the hot date (or the loser guy) that they went out with. When things get serious, the women gossip over whether he's going to propose. When he does, they're flashing the ring and talking about the wedding plans. The shower invites are posted on the departmental bulletin board. Everyone knows when they're out of the office for the wedding and/or honeymoon. If and when a baby is expected, they're all over discussing it (with a repeat of the shower deal). And almost always, throughout, there's the pictures. Family pics on desk surfaces, on screen savers, on phones. In other words, straight people make it clear that they're straight, day in and day out. Incessantly. We just are so inured to it that we don't notice - it's like the air we breathe. That's not to say, again, that you "need" to come out. It's just that you're choosing not to do the exact things they do all the time.
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You're correct, that's a fantasy. While it may keep a cock from getting hard, and long-term use may make it difficult for a wearer to get turned on enough to get hard (while released), nothing about a chastity device is going to cause actual shrinkage.
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There must be 20 million sites online where you can post and view random porn pics. Why should BZ users post "all" their photos in one folder at your request, especially when most or all of them have nothing to do with this site's purpose?
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Display of images on the web can be complex, and can vary depending on how a particular platform implements images. I'd suggest that when reporting problems like this, always specify whether you're using a desktop or mobile device, the operating system, and which browser you're using. And if you find the experience is not consistent - that only certain users' pictures fail to load, for instance, or only if you click a link from a notification (but not if you navigate to the member's page directly), note that as well. It makes it much easier to track down problems that only seem to affect certain users.
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BootmanLA replied to a topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
If I were a "poz guy not on meds" I would. But since I have been on medication since my diagnosis I don't think my experience is responsive to your question. -
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BootmanLA replied to a topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
You know, there still is this thing called PrEP, and it works for cumdump bottoms just as well as it works for monogamous boys who have a positive partner. Assuming "there's a good chance" when you have no idea whether he's on PrEP or not, is beyond silly. You can't calculate "good chance" without knowing more than just that "he takes loads". -
If a guy doesn't go to saunas or sex clubs, and relies primarily on hookups, it's not difficult at all to keep track. And some guys are better than others at knowing whether a top has ejaculated inside or not. True, some guys can cum very quietly, and others can fake it convincingly, but those are, in the end, rounding errors.
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As I've noted many times in other contexts, "the plural of anecdote is not 'data'." You're entirely right that sweeping pronouncements from people who navel-gaze and make generalizations from that navel-gazing can be summarily dismissed.
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I think the problem here is that you're conflating cultural Judaism with religious Judaism, along with the assumption that anyone who is "culturally" Jewish counts as Jewish even if they do not practice that faith at all. I would argue that someone who doesn't practice Judaism - particularly someone who considers himself an atheist - is not "Jewish". He may be "of Jewish descent." but even that is so ambiguous as to be virtually meaningless. Meanwhile, there have been any number of famous people (and lots of non-famous people) who have no Jewish ancestry but who converted to Judaism and were undeniably Jewish, including Sammy Davis Jr., Elizabeth Taylor. and Marilyn Monroe. I would posit that very few males who were born into practicing Jewish families (not necessarily "super religious") were left uncircumcised. Counting atheists as "Jewish" merely because their grandparents were proves nothing. I was born into a Catholic family and even raised as one, but I would never describe myself as a "Catholic," especially not for the purpose of proving that Catholics don't share some characteristic because I don't.
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I get your point, but it's important to note that it's no longer PrEP and not "just a different formulation." Prevention of an infection, and treatment for that infection, are two different things, and even more especially when the treatment can't eradicate the infection, just manage it. For instance, this man may have been registered as an organ donor - chances are close to 100% that if he dies suddenly any of his organs might make it to someone else. A few places are now undertaking poz-to-poz transplants, but not many. Although in the US, at least, gay men are still largely expected to self-defer for blood donation, many who know they are negative and at very low risk for HIV infection nonetheless do so. That's no longer an option, either. If he applies for most life insurance (other than some company-sponsored policies), he's likely to be asked if he's ever tested positive for HIV. A truthful answer will render him ineligible for most policies, and a lie is likely to be discovered (and possibly result in fraud charges or a lawsuit). And on and on. There have been a number of threads here over the years about how life changes when you become poz - and it's not "just a different formulation" of medication. Not in the slightest.
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It's certainly your right to impose a time limit on foreplay, but some of us occasionally like longer lead-ups to fucking. Make it clear in your profiles that you're only interested in brief foreplay if any, and tell them you have a timer on your phone counting down till you're out the door. That should limit you to the two or three people in your metro area who don't mind being on a ticking timeclock. If you're talking about a sling or a fuckbench, I'm with you. If you're talking about "just taking up space along a bench" - well, sorry, but a lot of spots in a sex club are intended to be multipurpose, including foreplay (extended or not) and/or voyeurism.
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Here's the thing: as you yourself point out, it's "not the same" as stealthing. When a woman lies and says she's on the pill and gets pregnant because of unprotected sex, the man involved still had the option of protecting himself against unwanted fatherhood. Yes, condoms can break, but *used properly* that's a rare occurrence. "Used properly" includes using condom-safe lubricant, using a size that fits properly, leaving a space at the tip for collecting semen, and so forth. And it means not using the same damn condom that's been in your wallet for 2, 5, or 10 years. JFC. When a top "lies" by removing a condom without the bottom partner's knowledge and consent, the bottom doesn't maintain the ability to protect himself against unwanted STI's. True, he can be on PrEP, but that only protects against HIV, not against any of the myriad other STI's out there. People who think "condom" and can't think beyond "HIV or pregnancy" are ignoring a lot of other things that are still valid concerns. Bottom line: absent a man being tied down and milked for his semen, either by a woman riding on his cock or collecting it for insertion later, a man cannot father a child completely against his will. If he has sex with a woman and doesn't know how to properly use a condom, he's running that risk, even if she claims to be on the pill, have an IUD, have had a tubal ligation, or whatever.
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Are you actually saying that "true tops" can't be poz men?
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Please check this out and respond…
BootmanLA replied to rawTOP's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
Except that high-risk sexual practices only affect the health of the individuals involved. When your idiot employees get sick, they'll undoubtedly infect quite a few others along the way before they realize it. -
So, you've already gotten therapy (Good!) and you have information that, at least to me, sounds valid: the therapist thinks it's not sexual at its root, but proximity makes you think of it in those terms. Your emotional closeness, I'm hearing, is keeping you from finding a more appropriate outlet for your desires. But you're choosing to sabotage the work you did, for a year, by moving back in with him. Result: you can't live with a partner at the same time (presumably), so you can't establish a deeper relationship with that guy. I don't know anything about the dynamic between the two of you; but I do know that frequently, family bonds between twins are much deeper than any other family bond. But still: you are an individual, and if you don't put your own needs first, nobody will. It sounds to me (based on this limited info, granted) that what you need is to be away from him for day-to-day living, so you can live your own life and establish your own relationship with someone, but you're putting his emotional demands (he's "sad" that you aren't there) ahead of your own needs. You have the power to tell him "No, I'm not mad at you. You're my brother, I love you, and I'll always be in your corner. But I need to build my own life, too, and I can't do that when I'm living with you, and you can't build your own either, because we end up relying on each other for all the things we should be getting from a husband or wife." And then do it. Because otherwise you'll be feeling this way for the rest of your life.
