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My sex life is as publicly funded as yours is, Milkass. I pay my taxes, take my PrEP, and get my STI checkups like a vast many people. I also get my flu shot and my annual physical. You keep trying to divide up the world into the "deserving ill" and the "undeserving ill", saving your pseudo-compassion for the latter and directing your scorn at the former. Walk you into a ward with people suffering, be it from cancer, Ebola, or HIV, and you won't know which person is which. They're all in pain, they're all dying. HIV doesn't care if someone deserved to get it or not. You are the only asshole who does. Your Humanity is seriously impaired.

I figured practice is the key thing. May have to do some "sprints", for increasing durations each time. :-) I noticed it's the also the "deep hitting of the prostate" that seems to shorten the time. Face down, ass up, my friend going deep and hard and smacking the prostate with full force and effect, seems to be the the difference. On my back or side...I can go longer. Face down, striking the prostate -- which last time pushed the cum out without orgasming -- seemed to switch from pleasure to pain like that *snaps.* I've only really been bottoming for two years. It's only recently that I've found guys who are any good as these things go. So I'm also learning about how my body works in response. Goal is a gang-bang and DP, but I have to be able to take one or two guys for a decent period of time first. Any other thoughts about how you became Power Bottoms is great. I'm taking notes. lol.

For those of you who can be fucked for thirty minutes, a hour, a night...how did you get to that point? Were you always able to do that? Was it something you worked your way up to? Was it never a problem? For me, after 10 minutes or so of being fucked, it's all too much. The pain-pleasure is overwhelming and I want it to stop, I want the guy to gloriously come inside and take then take a break. I love starting again with another round shortly there after, but there still seems to be a maximum time limit I can go for with each fuck. And I don't like having that limit. Sure, most tops come after 5-10 minutes of fucking, so it's usually okay. But I'd love to be able to go for long sessions with a top. Or more than one top. I have a friend who can go for marathon sessions, which I'd love to do, but am so not there yet. So, how do I get there? Is it working up to it? Is it being fucked every day? Is it just something that happens after years? Or are people just different, with some able to take an hours worth of pounding and others not, no matter how hard they try? Thoughts?

It's really not hard to grasp, Milkass. Flu viruses are asymptomatic in their initial period. It's why it's so easy to spread them. The only way to reduce or eliminate the chance of infection is to 1) Stop the insertion of viral particles into mucous membranes by washing hands frequently, wearing gloves, and facemasks. 2) Only interacting with people who wash / wear gloves / facemasks. 3) Regular inoculations against flu (the flu shot.) If you aren't willing to take those precautions, especially if you are interacting with a high number of people in your daily life, I don't understand why I'm responsible then for subsidizing the aftercare required when you test positive for the flu virus. Especially if you wind up hospitalized, why should my tax dollars go to pay for that? You are educated. You know the risks. And if you don't protect yourself, if you get infected with the flu, it sucks to be you. I want my dollars to go to pay for homeless people or people with cancer -- the deserving types, not the folks who carelessly got infected, despite all the available methods we have of preventing this. I'm supposed to have sympathy for you, someone who lives a carefree life of interacting with whomever they want, touching surfaces without barriers, and not caring about how they might transmit a deadly pathogen to a child or the elderly? Your moral compass is screwy. Must be nice to be so carefree with your life.

You might want to do some research. Colds and flu are a larger drain on Western society -- economically, socially, mortally-- than HIV is. Most people are contagious for a week before showing the first symptoms, which is how flus spread so damn fast. That, plus the ongoing failure of people to do two simple things: wash their hands regularly and get a flu shot every year. In the abstract, for colds and flu? They're a social disease, fairly easily preventable by limiting the number of social contacts, doing some simple precautions, and getting a regular injection. But people continue to have a high number of social contacts, refuse to regularly and frequently wash their hands, and most people don't get flu shots, especially those most at risk. And society doesn't care. If you get a cold? Dumb luck. If you get a flu? Dumb luck. But there's no moral censure. Not so with HIV or other STIs. They're spread more or less the same way, have some pretty easy tools to limit the likelihood of exposure, and there are now prophylactic treatments to all but eliminate their spread. Society though morally censures the contracting of an STI, the prevention methods for STIs, and, in some quarters, the education of how to prevent STIs. (STIs include HIV.) You have yet to articulate a rational reason for this. Indeed, you have expressed an opinion that finds no fault with this dichotomy. I'd go so far as to say you've articulated that people deserve to get HIV / STIs, as if they've committed some offense against society or the universe at large. Sex is one of the most interactions a person can have. We have the tools now to allow that sexual interaction to occur quite safely. We even have the tools to mitigate when an adverse situation occurs. What we don't seem to have a lot of? Compassion. People think they're justified in moral-mongering against folks whose choices they disagree with. For what it's worth? No, you aren't. Your stated opinion is idiotic. It's unreasonable. And it's inhumane.

This last time, my (straight) FWB offhandedly mentioned how his (straight) guys all offered to suck my cock in thanks for the older K-Cup machine I gifted to him / them. It was meant in a joking way, but I started talking about how hot it would be to get gang-banged by him and his roommates. His cock got so hard, so fast, I was pushed face deep in the bed and pounded. Again. I didn't think he had anything left in him. No, I don't really think it's something that will happen. But I've never seen a cock get so hard so fast at the mere thought....

I don't care how hard I get used...cuddle afterwards. God, that's just as hot, just as intimate. Invariably, we also get to talking about what just happened, how it was, what worked, and cocks start swelling again, and the Great Game commences once more. :-)

Thanks. It was a wild feeling. I just went with it -- and remembered the angle so we could do it again another time. lol.

So you you take no steps to prevent getting a cold or flu but seek treatment (if you are taking anti-biotics for the flu, your doctor is an idiot) once you get it. And you are complaining about people who take no steps to prevent getting HIV -- or people who do -- who then take anti-HIV meds once they are infected? Irony, much? "I pay cost..." No you don't. You still pay a rate sold to you as cost, but it's actually a negotiated price that your government organization / health insurer / pharmacy chain has been able to negotiate through its collective buying power. It's not as steep a discount as other people get based on the level of insurance they pay, but it's also not the full value of the drug. You don't understand the system you are a part of.

Thanks. Though I see I wrote "substation " instead of "subsidization" in part of my reply. lol. People forget what civilization means. Irritates the hell out of me.

So yesterday was the first time I've ever had a top pound me so hard he pushed cum clear from my prostate clear out my cock...one of the many kinds of milking. When it happened, I remember going "What the fuck is going on? Oh....." It was kind of neat. Kind of weird, too. I was not expecting that. Next up? I'd love to get fucked so hard I came without touching myself.

Do you pay a tax every time you shake someone's hand? Decide not to wash your hands? Go outside without a mask? Decide to forgo a flu shot? No, you say? Congrats, you are now at risk of catching a cold or a flu. And you are -far- more likely to catch a cold or a flu than you ever are for catching HIV. (Statistically speaking.) And the impact on society in lost wages, medical care, and, yes, even death, is freakishly high for some colds and flus, higher than from HIV. So, I'll tell you what. When you are advocating for a tax on people who get colds and flus -- because they obviously didn't protect themselves using all the methods known to modern science -- then I'll get on board with a tax on people who get HIV. In the mean time, I'm going to keep taking my PrEP, which my taxes (and Giilead's co-pay program) already pay for AND getting my flu shot every year. You can continue to be sanctimonious.

Yes, it's quite fair. We're paying across the board to subsidize others, from education, to transportation, to defense. That's part of society -- substation -- doing more together than any of us could do on our own. The research is clear that most people, even with the best of intentions, aren't able to use condoms consistently. We're stopping more new infections by making HIV+ people undetectable AND by making HIV- "incapable" of seroconverting, as daily PrEP is as near to 100% effective in stopping HIV. Whatever near-term expense doing both of these entail, it saves money over the long term, lowering the numbers of new people converting, saving lives in the process. Plus? It makes it so people can fuck without condoms, increasing pleasure. Double-plus? People are getting checked out for STDs at regular intervals, probably more often than before. I don't find any merit in either the OPs initial argument or your response.

Society pays whether one treats HIV or doesn't. Society pays whether one assists the homeless or doesn't. Society pays whether one educates children or doesn't. The argument of "why should society pay..." is meaningless. It's made even more meaningless when one starts their critique referring to people with HIV as living "deviant lifestyles."

If the top and bottom are into power dynamics in their fucking, then a bottom's cock shouldn't be erect. Both the top and the bottom will get off on keeping the bottom's cock flacid, tied up, locked up, in a jock, slapped down, or make the bottom cum before the bottom is fucked. If the top and bottom aren't into power dynamics, if it's sex between equals, then the top will no doubt love seeing the bottom hard and the bottom will love being hard the whole time he's getting fucked. As usual, it all depends on what the participants want to get out of sex. Your answer is a reflection of you.

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True, people forget that the rectum is mainly for eliminating feces. It just so happens to have Disneyland built inside of it. That mismatch is bound to cause an occasional problem. From what I've read, cleaning out the rectum is supposed to be enough to prevent this. Shit stays in the colon until it's time to flee the nest. Fucking really isn't about pleasuring the colon, so as long as shit stays up there, one should be good. But reading all of these "your mileage may vary" cases is illuminating.

I do the whole "until it runs clear" douching. Also make sure I'm not zapping water up into my colon, just anus. Also, that I try to have some level of awareness of what I've eaten that day, how my stomach is, and how things are transitioning through the body. But is this enough? Leaving aside those people who just don't clean out at all, for those of you who did and still had problems, is it about size? Or how long you are fucked? Another issue? I'm wondering how this happens -- and trying to avoid it happening to anyone I'm with. Thanks.

One of my fuckbuddies self-identifies as straight. From what I can tell from his Facebook and comments, he has plenty of girls that he hangs out with and bangs. Yet every few weeks, he's over at my place, fucking me senseless. I have no idea why I find that so incredibly hot. He hasn't been the only self-identified straight guy I've slept with. There have been others, others with greater or lesser skills in the bedroom. And plenty of gay guys, too. Yet, if I was to score them, to rank them on hotness, on the session, and on their skills, straight guys always start with bonus points because they mainly bang girls -- and me. Anyone else find this to be the case? Sure, these self-professed straight guys could be in denial, but as far as I can tell, they really are into making love to girls and fucking the shit out of boys. That right there just makes my dick hard. Or maybe you don't like straight guys at all. Do you find straight guys a turn off? What works for you? And what doesn't? (I'm gay. I love gay guys, too. There's just some added bit of pleasure when the cock plowing me usually plows pussy.)

Most of my hook-ups are via apps. After I get a dick pick back from the other guy, I reply how much I want them fucking loads deep inside of me. 90-95% of guys are on-board after I say that, even ones with "condoms only" or "Safe Sex" in their profiles. For those that still want to use condoms even after plea for their cum, I thank them for their time but note we aren't a match.

Suggestion? And it's a variation of what others have said. Can you get him to use a butt plug for an hour or so before you meet up? Have him clean out, lube up, and slowly open himself up with a small, then medium plug. I've only really been fucking for about 14 months now. Getting fucked up the ass is crazy fun. But I still use a butt plug before hooking up with the top. Makes things so much easier. Also -- and you've probably done this -- have him sit down on your cock. That way he controls the depth of the penetration. I would think that after a little while of this, you can then move on to better, stronger, positions.

I wrote it to suggest that. But while that's an ongoing concern -- even when I know it can't happen -- the funny part is getting tripped up by something as silly as a charlie horse. :-)

And there I was, on my side, one leg bent, the other bent over my top's shoulder, his big thick latin cock railing away in my ass. Me moaning like a bitch and begging him to go harder. It was the second load. He was on fire, hips a jack-hammer, cock driving deeper than it had ever been before. Then it happened. Horrible. Disgusting. Tore the mood the shreds, the passion to pieces, and sent his dick deflating. I had a charlie horse. It was a motherfucking purebred, 20 hands high, "Now I'm here, bitch, and I'm in charge" muscle spam that shot down my calf, up my thigh, and provoked a half-laugh / half-cry I haven't heard come from my mouth since I was kid. It was fucking ridiculous. He started laughing at my real pain. I kept the laugh-cry going until my leg stopped bouncing, the muscles settled down, and I was normal again. He held me for a few moments, both of us chuckling. Then he got an evil look in his eye and we started again. Any one else have such a mundanely crazy experience in the middle of their fuck session?

I just rise out with an water enema and hour or two before sex. When it runs "clear", it's all good. Usually 2-3 times with luke warm water. Two other things: I do try to make sure it's been a few hours since I ate. Nothing huge or heavy. Also, when I douche, I make sure I'm not shooting the water past the rectum, into the colon. There's no need to flush all of -that- out. I haven't met anyone with a cock that can bend and twist to get deep into my guts. :-)

Level 1 from 16 to about 44. Level 6 more or less now, though it's more about if I like or am attracted to the person. And I attribute it all to PrEP. Not scared anymore.