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Gangbanged by a high school / college lacrosse team. Me, their bitch for the weekend. Sigh.

One, you are hot. Two, hilariously, I thought the first few seconds of the Hitman clip was someone being thrown up against the balcony to be fucked. lol

Have you ever gotten enough sex for one day? Thinking over your sexual life, was there ever a 24 hour period where you went "Yup, I've fucked / been fucked enough. I'm done." Top or bottom, it doesn't matter. Someone who likes monogamous relationships, open door-ass-in-air, or gang bangs, it applies to anyone. What was the day like when you got enough? Is it a regular occurrence? Or a rare event? If you haven't, why not? What kind of day are you picturing yourself having? Has it been bad luck? Do you have an insatiable appetite? Are you too far away from people? Are you too busy? Scared? Or is it more fantasy?

S, hang in there. What you want isn't impossible, difficult or even wrong. Quite honestly? It's not that difficult. It just takes a bit of time to refocus and figure things out. First, as a "daddy" and a bottom, what you are looking for is out there. I've discovered many guys that love to fuck older guys, with reasons as varied as because we're hotter to just working through some parental issue. It's the same range of reasons, though, as to why people want to fuck with people their own age or younger. People want to fuck. There are plenty of people out there that want what you want. Second, being a top just takes practice. You put "top" on your profile and you'll get hit on by people with "bottom" in theirs. Rules of the universe. Once the opportunity presents itself, slide in and see what happens. The worst thing you'll find is that it's going to require some practice to get it right. If the worst misfortune that befalls you is you need to spend day after day after fucking fucking ass to improve your skills as a top, you are doing pretty good. Third, for reading material, check out "How To Top Like A Stud." That will explain how toping works, what a bottom is looking for, and how you can get the most out of the experience. I read it and the one he wrote for bottoms. They are great books. https://www.amazon.com/How-Top-Like-Stud-Penetrating-ebook/dp/B00ZWILEBE Fourth, remember, you don't have to have sex with anyone unless you want to. People have different takes on fucking or being fucked by people they don't find attractive. But if you don't find someone attractive, don't fuck with them. If you are horny, and you need a hole, push their face into the bed and go to town. You are allowed to do most anything you want. Put it on your profile and you'll find others that want it to. Fifth, being in a smaller town is a problem. When you are done with school, you can move to a much larger city, one with more opportunities for work and for play. It's the tough trade-off with going to a smaller school. If you aren't into college guys, then it's going to be hit or miss until you get away from them. Lastly, go get PrEP. You are in school, so you should have healthcare. Your school is likely to be writing prescriptions for PrEP. If they aren't, hop onto something like https://preplocator.org. It'll help you find a doc near you. If you don't want HIV -- some people do -- PrEP is the best protection out there. You are also concerned about other STIs? PrEP entails being checked every 3 to 6 months for STIs, too. You pee in a cup and get a swab down your throat. if you bottom, you stick another swab up your ass. A day or two later you know if you have any hitchhikers. One Rx clears that up. As for herpes, it's pretty low on the list of possible STIs. You are more likely to get gono or chlamydia, the most prevalent and easiest to treat STIs out there. Because herpes can be on any surface of a human body, a condom is only going to block dickborne herpes. It's not the end of the world if you get genital herpes, but it's also not particualrly easy to get. As for HPV, go get a gardasil shot. We have so much amazing technology that makes fucking easier and safer than its every been, you shouldn't worry too much about STIs. We can block them, treat them, and soon, we'll be PrEPing against STIs too. Hang in there. And if you ever want to fuck a daddy-ass, let me know. I'll gladly let you practice as much as you want. :-)

I guess it kind of depends on how much sex one expects to have. Didn't start taking loads until I was 45. (PrEP.) Before that, it was all oral with a handful of condom encounters. I'd like to have more loads, but I seem to be wired to need loads from people and not dicks. If been to a few bathhouses in the last few years. While I left filled up, I didn't leave all that fulfilled. That said, I'm amazed at the number of young chasers that want to pound daddy-hole. No doubt it's easier when everyone young: less commitments and more testosterone. And I'd love to find still -more- people that want to fuck around, as I'm still not satisfied with the amount I'm getting. But I'm getting it regularly, which is pretty damn awesome. Maybe that will change in my 60s or 70s, but by then, perhaps I won't want it as much.

183. I have no idea if that's good or not. lol.

I don't know if we can ever escape racism. I think it's a bad byproduct of being human. Prejudices pop into our heads whether we like it or not. The only thing that can really be done to minimize it is to foster greater familiarity, shared experiences, and empathy, the main things that break those barriers down. Even then, I don't know if we ever really completely overcome all of our prejudices, or if we just break prejudice down into something much smaller, but still unfortunately there. When I was a young gay-ling, I didn't find black guys attractive. Or so I thought. Good liberal me was upset by this. I wasn't supposed to be prejudiced, and yet I was. Until the night I ran into someone who, today, would be the spitting image of Alfred Enoch (from How to Get Away With Murder), dicks got hard, and we fucked like bunnies. I like boyish guys or boyish-faced guys. Young twinks like Tom Holland or men like Ryan Philippe -- or Alfred Enoch or Don Lemmon. That turns me on regardless of ethnicity -- or makes the ethnicity even more beautiful. Admitting that feels stupidly racist. "After I fucked around with a black guy, I wasn't prejudiced anymore." Especially so in a world where black people get the short end of the stick time and again. Yet, it's my story, for what it's worth.

Ha, yes. I've found that, too. Just like I've found self-identified straight guys as being far more likely to fuck hard and rough than gay guys do. I can get a straight guy to spit on me or slap my face a lot easier than I can a gay guy.

There's a fitness cost for HIV to mutate resistances. (It's happening now, before PrEP.) That cost makes it even less likely the virus can transmit and overcome a body's natural defenses. PrEP is not going to cause the apocalypse.

I'm older (47) a bear, and with grey hair, and I get fucked a hell of a lot. I've gotten hit on by guys as young as 15 -- flattering, but call me in three years! -- to guys in their 60s,. I like guys in their 20s and 30s and I've been pretty amazed at the number of guys that find me hot. I also live in a huge metropolis, so there are a larger quantity of people who like older guys, even if that's a smaller percentage overall. The apps really help. People are able to self-select for the kind of guys they like, find them, and fuck them. I used to be very worried about getting older and still finding sex. I'm not sure that's the case anymore. Maybe when I'm 70 it'll be really difficult to get sex. But maybe when I'm in my 70s I'll just be too tired to care.

Truvada comes off patent in 2021. It's part of why there's such a push to develop injectables and reformulations. If the ACA were to survive -- it's not -- you'd have seen more downward pressure on Truvada's cost before 2021. We'll get to cheaper Truvada, it's just going to take a while. Well, Hep-C isn't a big issue for HIV- people. There are some cases of transmission between negative people, but outside of injecting drugs or fisting, its really difficult to do. The best way to prevent Hep C transmission in negative people is to keep people that way. Herpes is a risk, but herpes is a risk for everyone. It's a skin-to-skin transmitted disease. So you can wrap yourself from neck to knee in a plastic wrap, and still get it if you kiss a person. Truvada in HIV- people, is little stronger than aspirin. The majority of bodies have no problem tolerating it. And because of how well its tolerated in HIV+ bodies long term, if there was no other option ever coming down the pike, Truvada would still be a pretty good option for people. But not everyone will be slutty across the days of their life. People change. People go through "seasons of risk" as Bob Grant says. So while some people will probably take PrEP (in whatever form) for decades, but others will go off and on it as needed. Others will disagree, but I just can't see relying on data provided by someone else regarding STIs is a better policy than regular testing yourself. Taking PrEP, being checked at least quarterly -- if not more frequently -- is still the best way to make sure I'm not carrying around hitchhiker. Someone telling me they aren't, someone showing me a site or a printout, might reduce the odds a bit, but the only way to be certain is to be tested. On demand PrEP, the 2:2:1 method, is a valid way of taking PrEP. It's not common Stateside because the testing was for daily PrEP. But the French have rolled it out, and there will be some longer term studies about if its already high level of protection is exactly the same as daily use. I've taken anti-depressants since I was 21. I'm 47 now. I expect to take some kind of anti-depressant and some kind of PrEP until I fall asleep for the final time.

I've never been convinced that health care is supposed to be a for-profit / for-a-steep profit business. We have the ability to keep people happy, safe, and healthy -- be they gay, straight, bi, male, female, etc. There's ways to modify, tweak, and otherwise manage costs and expenses. The overall idea that people are supposed to suffer in the interests of high profits just leaves me cold.

Well that was a fucking hot read.

Yes, but it's a bit more difficult to swallow heavy yellow piss than it is to swallow the more watery kind.

Here's another one that might work for you, breaking things into slightly different named groups, with a list of possible activities and actions the Dom may required. There's no "bitch" on this one. But it looks like "fag" fills that role.

Taking them one-by-one: 1) For the other STIs, you get tested at least quarterly. Like colds and flu, STIs are a part of life, illnesses of social interactions. Unlike colds and flus, we have a level of shame and condemnation on STIs that just doesn't exist for other illnesses. Going in and getting tested four times a year is typically 4x more than most people go in and get tested. This helps to not only treat but to prevent the spread. I'm going to do monthly STI tests this year. I got an STI two quarters in a row. I'd feel better if I was never more than a month from knowing if something easily treatable is living inside me. 2) When I first started, I thought I needed to have a lot of sex to justify it. Now, I realize that's just as crazy as never having sex because I'm not on PrEP. There's no requirement for how much sex to have. I don't particularly care to get HIV. I do want cum flooding my ass every time I have sex. Whether I do that once a month or once an hour, I like the idea that I have the smallest chance possible of seroconverting. 3) One-pill-a-day won't be the only way to take PrEP forever. Right now, injectable PrEP is being studied. It'll probably be ready by the time Truvada comes off-patent in 2020. Also, the 2-2-1 model of dosing works almost as well as the daily dosing. I'm pretty sure we're going to have a time released Truvada (or the equivalent) in a few years. Take a whore pill an hour or two before you go get fucked and then not worry about things. That's going to be great, too. Lastly, the goal of all of this is to greatly reduce the amount of infectious HIV out in the world. Since six-month undetectable people aren't infectious and since PrEP works 99+% of the time, there are multiple and overlapping strategies to break the prominence of HIV. I don't know if or when we'll completely eradicate HIV, but it's quite possible we can get to a place where the odds of anyone getting HIV is very remote.

I posted this chart "Master Temeck's Submission Scale" on another thread, but thought it would be interesting to throw it out here. The chart outlines four different types of sexual submissive, from "Bitch" which is almost purely about sex and not as much about absolute domination, to "Object" which is far more about over-riding and complete dehumanization and restriction. I'd argue there are gradients in-between, but this is a great place to get started. For me, I'm pretty much on the "bitch" side of things (obviously, it's in my profile handle) but, as someone else pointed out, with more than a bit of the "fag" stuff mixed in. If you are into submission, which of these four would best describe you? Are you somewhere in-between? Is there another category that applies to you? If you are into domination, which kind of sub do you prefer? Or do you care, as long as you have a hole to use as you want?

Is it possible CL just fucked up an didn't forward the message in a timely manner? But yes, I do understand the the craziness of CL. The roughest are the people who reply without reading the add. "Looking for dominant chaser..." "Hi! Read your add. I'm a sub bear." Noooooooo.

Yeah, I caught that too. It seems like the best match, though. I could never figure out why the idea of being a full time slave -- or even part time one -- never really appealed to me. Collars and chains are hot, but for sex. Being a bitch, with some of the fag elements thrown in, crystalized things for me. Just like finding research on why people like S/M sex helped me make sense of why I like the sex I do.

Just remember. Doctor's coats are white, not black. They aren't there to judge you. If they try, remind them (and yourself) that sticking their finger in your ass during a physical to check the health of your prostate wasn't permission to also stick their finger in your choices and opine about the health of your life.

Ha. Thanks. I was already getting quarterly tests as part of my PrEP program. But I was still winding up with an STI two visits running. I just want to make sure I'm never more than 30 days from an STI tests. STIs are stupid and get in the way of getting filled up with cum. I'd like to minimize the chances I'm passing on an STI and maximizing the chances I'm getting bred. Also, the majority of STIs are -just- the equivalent of colds. If I could wave my magic wand (magic asshole?) it would make that the popular perception, not the "moral failure" one we're operating under. Also, because I recently had surgery for a fissure, they ran an HPV test. I don't have any of the varieties, but I'm going to get the Gardasil shots. Even though I'm well past the recommended age, reducing the odds of getting HPV seems like another good option to maximize pleasure and reduce risk.

Ha. No. I'm too much of a caring person in real life. I couldn't be a dom and abusive top in the bedroom. Just feels wrong to hurt someone like that. But man, do -I- like it being done to me. Spanked, slapped, spit on. Gagged on cock. Pissed on. Arms twisted. Hair pulled. Fucked hard. Balls twisted. Begging. Made to beg. Tied up. Having a friend bring a buddy over. My dick stands hard just writing about it...and I prefer my dick to be flaccid when I'm getting used. I guess it's like riding an edge. I want to get as close to the edge without falling off. The falling off would be to wind up actually hurt or bloodied or in real pain, while the edge is just being throughly and completely used by a guy or guys for their pleasure. I've read some of the psychological research on this, which is cool. I also finally found the definition of "bitch" in the object / fag / slave / bitch submission table was totally me.

Thanks. That's pretty much what I thought. All the shame-based stuff society loads us up with still carries through no matter how sexually open and libertine one is. Me too. There is still a part of me that sees have an STI as something shameful and wrong. It's stupid as, in most cases, it's just the equivalent of a "cold." But I am going to go to monthly STI checks this year. I'm planning on having as much fun as possible and want any "attachments" removed as soon as possible.

Yes! It's about consent! While I'm sure there are people that really want to be raped, most people I've met really just want to be able to -give in- to the experience, and not have to worry about needing to use the consent they still have to get out of some rough fucking. I've met very few people into rough sex that are into being abused in their everyday life.... well, any more than the people you like and love already drive us crazy for them just being them.

I've always wondered if there was any health dangers in repeated STI exposures. I would think not. No matter how often you test positive for an STI, and all other things equal, if the STI is treated and removed, there's no long term health impacts. The invader is gone, if you will. Has anyone ever heard of any? Or had problems?