As far as my relationship, I just inform my female wife about my hook up times and places (for safety if it's a new person or location visit but not for repeats ). I used to mostly go to meet after work or on Saturdays mornings for "work". With our living situation now, I have to work around the schedules of the vanilla adult relatives we have living with us so no difficult questions are asked.
She's just happy to see me come back having exhausted myself sexually and gotten my needed man2man sex.
As for her, she occasionally visits adult "girlfriends" in another larger close by city for a weekend "girl's night out" which is really her visits to her boyfriend's and his male friends for hetro swinging activities. I already know his address. She gets back sexually exhausted and I'm happy that she's gotten her needed sex with men also...