BradStevens

Uhhhh.... you're responding to a top. I think it's perfectly understandable that a slight might throw off a top's rhythm.

I'm not advocating that you do or don't go.... that's entirely a decision. you need to make for yourself based on the amount of and quality of your sobriety. I can tell that it is possible for a sober person to go to HorseMarket and have a great time. I went in September and just celebrated my 28th sober anniversary on Thursday. I'll have to see if they'll be doing on the east coast sometime soon. I'd love to try it again!

Maybe I don't understand the terminology as well as I thought... my understanding is that a Transgender man is a woman who has transitioned (or is transitioning) to a man while a Transgender woman is a man who has transitioned (or is transitioning) into a woman. Since the OP asks about our feelings about trans men in bath houses, here are mine... I have no issues with trans men going to bathhouses and, in fact, have been attracted to them from time to time... my only request is that a trans man who is still "in transition" and has other genitals disclose that before engaging in a sex act, at least with me. Others may feel differently.

I'm very familiar with Malaga and have been a number of times. While I like it very much I don't think I'd want to retire there. I am a big city guy and like the fact that from Valencia I can be in Barcelona or Madrid in two hours by train for a weekend sexcursion. But I appreciate your suggestion very much. I've also thought of Lisbon and perhaps other smaller cities in Portugal but there's the language problem. I've never been able to master more than a few phrases in Portuguese although I'm extremely conversant/nearly fluent in Spanish.

I, too, always thought I would retire to Fort Lauderdale and have been looking at something I could buy there and rent out until I'm ready to retire in 10 or 11 years. Plus, my bestie of 40 years lives in Naples although I'd never consider moving there. Too white... too straight... and most of the gays are coupled. However, with the current political climate in the state I'm starting to rethink FLL. We'll have to wait and see what the 2024 and 2028 elections bring.... if T or DeSanctimonious (unlikely) then I would definitely lean toward leaving the country. Even if it's Nikky Haley. I had always thought of moving to Barcelona (my favorite city!) but it too has gotten excessively expensive, as has Madrid. Valencia is looking appealing to me although I've never even been there. We're stopping for a day on a cruise this fall so will take a 3 1/2 hour bike tour around the city and then spend the afternoon wandering through neighborhoods and walking back to the ship. I've also always considered Puerto Vallarta, which I love, but I missed the boat on buying anything there. Of course, I don't necessarily have to buy a place in retirement. I can always just rent although one is not impacted by rent increases when one owns, just rising insurance premiums and, if a condo complex, rising homeowner association fees. Lastly, I've recently been thinking about Cartagena, Colombia. I've heard it's very nice and inexpensive, plus it's not as far as Spain or Puerto Vallarta is to get back to Philly or my family in New England. Again, I've never been there but it's easily remedied. I hope to spend a month or more each winter for the next few years in each of these cities to see how each feels. Palm Spring is nice (heading there in March) but I really don't know many people there and as a single man in my 60s then... I'm not sure it would be very much fun and it could be downright lonely. I look forward to scouring this forum to see if any other ideas catch my interest!

I always thought I would retire to Spain and before the 2008 was looking at moving to Barcelona. Now, BCN is super expensive, as is Madrid, so I'm thinking about Valencia which is just a couple hours from both cities by train. I plan to go spend a month there probably winter 24/25 and get the vibe for the city. Another possibility is PV, but I only know it from vacationing there and have yet to spend more than a week. I too have considered Miami/FTL but abhor the direction the state has been headed politically. It really has become a quasi-Nazi stronghold.

So I went to HorseMarketSF (as a mare) on Sunday night and I must say that it was one of the best experiences I have ever had in a sex club (next to El Mirage in NYC back in the early 00s). It was very hot not knowing who was fucking me. I arrived around 7:30PM but it was after 8:30PM by the time I got checked in and 8:45PM by the time I was set up on one of the fuck benches... and while I was only there for a couple of hours I got fucked by 15 or 20 different guys but only got a couple of loads. I left a little before 11PM (and realize that the last hour was probably the best for being seeded) but I got a few more loads after I got back to my motel room. All in all, it was a great Folsom. However, I was really disappointed in how all the stories I've heard about the demise of SF are true. I walked all over the city and even visited most of the addresses I lived at when I was there from 92-95 and the city looks awful, particularly Market Street and the Tenderloin. I walked right through it one day looking for a gallery and I haven't felt that unsafe in any city ever (and I used to frequent Times Square in the late 1980s). It made me terribly sad to see the city I love so much in such despair.

hey Jose - I'll be in LA in early January (1/3-6) and staying at the Dixie Hollywood for three nights. Would love for you to cum by and add your DNA to the mix!

Thanks for the tip! I decided to try Sniffies Plus for a week while I'm in SF for Folsom and try out the features. I'll try familiarize myself with them before I go.

How do you check how often Sniffies Cruisers are reported on the site? Do you need to be a subscriber to access that information?

I appreciate all of the input on this site.... in the end I went with the Dixie Hollywood Motel. It's still on the Metro Line with ez access to Slammer. Also, with pool it makes it a little nicer for a longer stay. If I was just there one night to take loads it'd be different. I didn't like the recent note on Sunset Dunes Inn's listing on BCDhotels that some cumdumps have been thrown out. Not sure how they can legally do that, though. It will be good to have another motel to compare.

That would be the Silver Lake Hotel, which appears to have direct access to the rooms.... I like that for anon. And it's only .3m walk to Slammer. A bonus is that's only .5 from a metro station so I may not even need rent a car and could take the Coastliner up from SD and then Uber places farther afield. Thank you!!!

Which motel did you end up staying at in LA and what was your experience? I am also torn between the Dunes Inn Sunset and the La Brea Inn. I've stayed at both but only for a night or two. I'm considering a 3nt stay in the new year.... was also thinking the Beverly Laurel might be good as there is a pool and it's a bit more upscale.

Phone sex is so late 80s.

Who answers the door? A little duct tape (I use Guerilla brand) on the latch and it's ez access for tops.