tin
-
Posts
98 -
Joined
-
Last visited
Content Type
Profiles
Forums
Blogs
Events
Gallery
Everything posted by tin
-
You know, at times I don't get it - I can count the number of people I've gone bareback with on 1 hand, and the number of times I was a bottom with is even less - and I ended up becoming HIV+. So while hungry hole may have taken thousands of loads and is still neg, there are other cases like me where it "it only takes just once...." I really hope your BF is aware of what your doing because you are at a high risk of bringing something back home to him.
-
I'd try and stay neg. Outside of relationships, I usually played safe - it was only once I had a steady BF that I started to regularly bareback with him. We had a few 3ways, and ended up not always being the most strict about using condoms - and ended up getting HIV that way. It's not even often that we have had 3ways either - even when we go to the bath house, we stick to ourselves 99% of the time (I just like the environment, not always on the prowl for others). Even now that I'm poz, I'm reluctant to BB outside of our relationship - there are other STDs I simply dont want to deal with : Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis - and those are the treatable ones, it's just a pain in the ass. I would also rather avoid getting Hep-C.
-
Tops, how do you prefer bottoms prep their hole for your cock?
tin replied to Tom's topic in General Discussion
Rinsed out well. If your rinsing just for fucking - it shouldn't take that long, especially if you have a healthy diet with lots of fibre. Sometimes, the fuck is spontaneous - and if the bottom trusts that he's clean enough without rinsing first I may risk it - and if your fingering the hole to lube them up you can get a sense. It may not be spotless - but as long as I'm not getting caked in shit, I may put up with it. Rather not, but lets be honest - you shit from your ass, regardless of how you prep for it there is always the risk you may encounter a little bit of brown from time to time. If I'm wanting to rim someone though - I like things to be fairly clean, ie: hole rinsed out well and a shower / washed ass. -
How do I handle a neg top with HIV issues?
tin replied to urcocknotmine's topic in General Discussion
Most things I've read (although this may depend on where you live), is that it's up-to the HIV+ person to disclose, even if the question was never asked. Considering the chances of transmitting from a bottom to a top is lower, there is a good chance he is still clean after this encounter. But, if this was to become an ongoing thing, where the OP continued to lie about his status - at some point, he could infect the top, and it would come out that the OP did know, and that wont bode well for him if the top decided to go after him legally. Frankly, even though HIV is still a very manageable and treatable condition for most people - it still kinda blows. I'm HIV+, and while I haven't hooked up much outside of my relationship since finding out, I've always offered up my status - even when I wasn't asked, and even at the bathhouse (in which the guys just laughed, said they were poz also - and we had a great time). It doesn't matter if it 'isnt as big of a deal as it used to be' - it is still an incurable, life-long chronic condition that does have a large impact on your health (daily meds, more frequent doctors visits, it impacts how you have relationships with others going forward as not everyone is HIV+ friendly) - so it's still something that someone has the right to decide how they want to manage their risks for it, and the OP has no place in making that choice for the top. -
I rather enjoy fisting, and doing a through clean-out can take over an hour depending on how my stomach is agreeing with me. Rinsing out just to fuck is pretty quick, but if I'm preparing for a heavy assplay session - it's usually a multi-stage process over an hour or two, if not longer. I usually need a bit of a break between the cleaning out and getting to play. Ideally, if I'm going out partying (ie: actually going to a club) - I'd watch my diet for a few days before. Lots of fibre, rough greens, eat lighter on the day-of. The diet before usually helps clean most of the system out the 'natural way', do a big rinse prior to going out. Once I get home and ready to play, it usually much easier to finish off the rest - especially when certain stimulants really do help to push things down a bit. That said - especially if someone is fairly inexperienced, some guys just dont know about cleaning out. I remember one of the first times I hooked up with a guy for assplay (I was a newb at it at the time, I knew it was something I wanted to get into - but didnt have anyone to do it with). I went over to his place, the first thing he asked was 'did you clean out?' and honestly, I was like 'uhh, what? how do you do that...' - I honestly had NO idea. I never had issues with poo-but before with just fucking (not that I had done much though). Thankfully, he was super nice, explained things to me - gave me the tools to do it at his place, and had a great time. He also told me what to buy / how to do it at home - hooked up a few times after that, and I was always sure to be ready before going over
-
How do I handle a neg top with HIV issues?
tin replied to urcocknotmine's topic in General Discussion
Tell him the truth. Everyone makes mistakes now and then, and sometimes even the most adamant people about 'safer sex' may let their judgment slip now and then, and make a choice that they wouldn't /normally' make. While this forum can have a bit of a hive-mind when it comes to bare-backing / fetishizing HIV / figuring 'if your going bareback then you MUST be blah blah blah' - but outside of the 'bareback community' - that mindset is not always as common. It would be one thing if you guys hooked up on a site like say, barebackrt (and even then, I'd say TELL HIM). But seriously, he has the right to manage HIS risks how HE see's fit. Even though topping is lower risk, it is not zero risk - and if that is not a risk he is willing to take, you have NO right to force him to take it, especially when he outright asked you about it, and you LIED. If this did become an ongoing thing, and he did become poz, and found out you were poz and lied about it - this could land you in some legal hotwater. You can try and justify it however you want as "oh, he's probably barebacked other people, other people probably have lied (they are assholes also), he didn't ask the first time, blah blah blah" - still, you are now actively lieing about it, which pushes things from being 'careless/risky', to being an outright dick about it. -
The day before, eat some high fibre / ruffage stuff, some Metamucil can help - I find this makes it easier to clean the following day. Avoid eating seeds / nuts - they can be trickier to rinse out and have a tendency to stick to your insides.
-
If the top has other STDs it can also increase the risk of infection. Especially if they have something like herpes which leaves open sores on the penis - even after things look 'cleared up' there can still be tiny abrasions in the skin. It may be lower risk, but it's not zero risk.
-
Bottom: What is your favorite position to get fucked?
tin replied to Footnotes's topic in General Discussion
Fucking - doggy / on my stomach Fisting - on my back - when I try and go into a doggy position while fisting, I get a bit of a hrmm... wind-tunnel going on and end up passing gas far too often and kinda kills the mood. -
I had a PA for awhile. I sorta-enjoyed it, but I found it caused more problems than it was worth - and haven't had it in for a few years now. The main issue I had : my BF's ass would tend to clinch up around it, causing it to 'pinch' and twist it in rather odd and uncomfortable ways. I could never seem to find a ring that I could put on/off easily - and eventually just got fed up. The hole is still there - I can put in a smaller ring if I really wanted to again. I do like how it looks / feels / etc, but more often than not I found it became a hindrance during sex.
-
I had been playing with a rather dom top a few times, and had built a decent amount of trust with him. One day, I went over - the door was open/unlocked. I went downstairs, got undressed - he put a blindfold on me, tied me up to a pillar in his basement (fully decked out sex-basement), and bought in a slave to suck my cock for a bit - I only caught a brief glimpse of him. He worked on me for a bit, then was sent away. Next, I was tied down to a fuck-bench and he had another top come over and fuck me for awhile while I sucked on the other guys cock - I was tied down / blindfolded. After that, was moved over to the sling - he started to open me up with some toys, him and the other top would take turns fucking / using toys / feeding me cock. Eventually he started to bring out clothes-pins and placed them all along the inside of my legs/groin as he started to work on trying to get a fist into me. I was new to fisting at the time and he couldn't get all the way in - but I did enjoy the effort. Wish I could track him down again - been a few years since we played, but he seemed to strike a nice balance of working within my comfort zone, but knowing when to persist and push my limits a little bit further. At the end of the sessions we'd hang out, smoke a bit, have a glass of wine - I think seeing his non-sex attitude helped me trust him more once we got playing. During a 'scene', he was the top - dominate, ruff, aggressive - but at the same time always ensuring I was enjoying things also. Outside of sex, he was pretty damn nice. Older guy, was in his late 40s/early 50s at the time - ex military and a really thick hairy build with tats.
-
That "freedom" people seem to have is a state of mind poz or not. I'm poz, and not fucking everything that moves - still in a (mostly) monog relationship, and frankly - I don't want to deal with the risk of other STDs (Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, Hep C , etc). I was never really "into" barebacking prior to being poz - enjoy fucking raw with my partner, but I was never out seeking other hookups/etc to do it with. Perhaps if your already inclined towards that sort of thing prior to being poz - it might be a bit more liberating, but if you wern't like that before - it's not like some magical freedom switch is going to be flipped and change you overnight. While living being poz on a day-to-day biases isn't that hard (known I've been poz for just under a year now, on meds for a few months) - but if I could go back to being neg, I would do it in a second.
-
I think idea of PreP would be good for couples where one person is HIV+ and the other is HIV-, or for high-risk people in third world countries where (especially females) don't always have as much control over their sexual-safety as they would like. But being used as a 'chemical condom' for your average bare-backer - I don't think it's a great idea. The meds can have some nasty long-term side effects, you might not tolerate them well. Also, you do need to be pretty strict on adhering to taking them regularly - start missing doses / etc - and you could quickly find yourself ending up HIV+ and having your strain become resistant to the medication your taking and complicating your future treatment options. So, in some select cases - this can be a good thing. Having a HIV+ who is on meds and undetectable, and a HIV- doing a daily pill - the combination could greatly reduce the risk of transmission in that relationship, and would probably be a huge weight off of the minds of those involved.
-
While they may already know they are into 'daddies' at a young age, many kids lack the maturity to tell when the 'daddy' really has the best intents out of the relationship. I've generally liked older guys, when I was 19 my first boyfriend was 32, and my first sexual encounter was with someone much older (I was 18, they were in their 50s if I recall correctly). That said, in my experiences: There are lots of older guys who seem to be into younger guys because they are easier to exploit and manipulate. Their intents in the relationship isn't always coming from the best place, and young kids can have a hard time navigating that territory. It can be hard, especially when you are young and inexperienced to tell the difference between - Older daddy, that has your best interests in mind - that will show you the ropes, almost be a mentor in some regards, and will follow the 'campsite rule' of leaving you better off than when you found them. - Older daddy, that is just being a skeezy-older guy that is just going to try and exploit/manipulate the younger guy. Personally, and err on the side of caution of trying to protect younger kids from adults that are more predatory. But, I do wish the law would not be so 'black and white'. Especially when you hear of cases of teens being charged with child porn for sending naked pictures of themselves to their girlfriends/boyfriends, or a 20yr old being charged with statutory rape of an 17yr old even if they have been dating for a few years.
-
I'd rather not poz someone else. Contrary to the popular opinion of many people on this forum, I don't view HIV as a gift to shared - even if it is to a willing bug-chasing bottom.
-
When I think I converted - it was the sickest I have ever been. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't move - extremely high fever, extreme sweats, crap coming out of both ends. Got so bad I couldn't move my head without thinking I was going to black out. Had a friend take me to ER and they said that its a "viral flu or something", hooked me up to an IV drip for a few hours to rehydrate me and sent me back home. I missed two weeks of work, and it was probably over a month until I felt 100% fine. I'd feel "OK", try and do something - and get knocked on my ass again kind of thing. Didn't find out I was HIV+ until quite some time later, but after I found out I was poz, I went over my sexual past - I don't fool around often, and even more rare that I go BB (can count the number of times on 1 hand) there was only one time I went BB between my last neg test and that time I got sick - and the time between going BB, and getting that flu sort of falls within the time frame of exposure/seroconversion. That said, you can also get similar symptoms from a nasty round of food poisoning - you wont know 100% until you get a test done.
