drscorpio

My husband and I were monogamous when we first got together (for about the same time as you and your guy actually). When we finally talked about opening our relationship, we discovered that it was something we both wanted and were both ready for, and that we were happy giving each other the permission to bareback with others. Now we play on the side whenever we want and have the occaisional threesome (or more-some). He loves to watch me take another man's cock and cum. So now we are getting what we both want, and our relationship is stronger for it. Talk to your man.

Everything BiAggieGuy said is spot on. Long, hot baths will help with any discomfort, too

Sorry for your loss. *hug*

The first time I was stealth barebacked was about 20 years ago. I had hooked up with a guy through a personal ad in the local indie paper. He was straight identified (he said he was just a little bi curious) and very resistant to the idea of using a rubber, but I was a condom nazi at this point and insisted. When we got around to actually fucking he put me on my back with pillows under my ass, so my ass was above the level of my head. This meant I couldn't really see what he was doing at my ass, and it would have been awkward for me to reach back and feel for the condom. We had a really hot fuck. The minute he came though he jumped up and ran into the bathroom to flush the rubber. I was clueless at the time, but when I thought about it later I was pretty sure he came inside me both from the situation I described and how freaked out he seemed as I was getting dressed and leaving. The first time I was stealth bred by poz cum was in 2004. I met the guy on gay.com while traveling. I was a confirmed barebacker at the time although my profile clearly stated I was neg for neg only (I know, I know. It's relevant to the story). We had a hot fuck with him breeding me with much encouragement. This was the first day I was in this town, and we made plans to do at least a quick pump and dump every day because we were really into one another. As he was getting dressed to leave, he asked, "How long have you been poz?" in a casual way. I was surprised. "I'm neg. Didn't you see that in my ad?" He got all quiet and weird. "Oh, I just thought you might be because you're taking loads." At the time, I didn't think anything of it, but I am pretty sure he had just shot poz cum in me. Especially because he never managed to cum back even though I was in his town for a week. I am still testing negative though. How did I feel about these experiences? I didn't put together in my head that either of these experiences was a stealthing until it had been long enough that it was a turn on.

I moved to Austin for graduate school in 1985. I had come out a couple of years earlier and played around with a handful of guys without condoms because no one was talking about safer sex yet in Shreveport, LA. I got hammered with the condom scare right away in Lesbian Gay Student Association at UT. For the next few years I was increasingly sexually active (and increasingly moving from versatile to bottom), but always strictly following safer sex guidelines. In the spring of 1992 after I already had accepted a job starting in August, I met a hot, older Hispanic guy through a personal ad who eventually got me to take bare cock for the first time in 6 years. After I barebacked with him, I started trying it bare with other fuckbuddies. Most of them were more than willing to fuck me without a condom although only a few would take my loads. To the best of my knowledge, they were all negative at the time; I do know the guy who originally got me into barebacking has since converted. I ended up working in a small town in rural north Louisiana. I found the guys here fell into two categories. If they were local and my age or older (30ish at the time), they only barebacked and didn't even think about using condoms; the safe sex message hadn't penetrated to this corner of the world. If they had come to town to go to university here, they often had learned about safer sex practices already and were condom nazis. I had a mixture of safe and raw sex for the next few years. As far as I know, none of my partners were poz. By the late 90s, I had become a confirmed barebacker and never have had much trouble finding guys who want to fuck raw.

Definitely a neg bare bottom that has no desire to be pozzed. As to your point about taking drugs, I recently pointed out to a friend my age (48) that had started meds for HIV that we are getting to the age when doctors are going to start putting us on meds for cholesterol and blood pressure and prostate issues and on and on. It may be different when you are contemplating converting at 25, but middle aged guys are mostly likely going to have daily meds even if they stay neg.

The first time I ever had a threesome it was with my first black man and my first (and so far only) blind guy. I actually knew them before we fucked; they were roommates. The only thing I remember being different about the experience was that the blind guy checked in a lot verbally ("Do you like that?" "Does that feel good?") because he could see how I was reacting.

Good for you, boy. You jumped in with both feet. Enjoy the ride; it feels so great to take loads.

Hmmm ... I finished my degree in August of 1991. I think I was in group a couple of years before that. So probably 1988-89 something like that. I was in grad school at UT, so the years kind of run together for me. Were you involved with the Gay, Lesbian Student Association? I was involved with that group for almost the whole time I was in Austin. Feel free to take this to private message; I don't want to completely hijack the thread.

Small world - I had the same wonderful lady for a counselor at UT

Nothing hotter than watching a bottom do poppers in porn!

I haven't checked it out myself yet, but I hear from friends that Midtowne Spa in Austin can be a lot of fun.

I will definitely be at Decadence. My husband says he wants to see me full of cum with it running down my legs this year.

I dated a hairdresser years ago who was stereotypically fem and swishy UNTIL you got him naked in your bed. He had a thick 9" cock and could fuck like a champ. One afternoon, he was fucking the shit out of me in my bedroom when there was a knock at the door. We chose to ignore it and continued our very hot session. Suddenly there was a knock at the window next to my bed and a yell from my mother! Now coincidentally this guy cut my mom's hair, so he knew her and recognized her voice. He went from power top fucking my ass to having a 10-second nelly attack in the middle of my bedroom in nothing flat.

Got tested again last week after 8 months; I just let the time get away from me since I try to do it every 3-6 months. Still negative.

Nice! Great story. All of yours are excellent, orlandoneg.

The results of a poll of <250 guys on a bareback site who have self-selected answering the question doesn't really provide information to refute a well-constructed statistical survey. I am interested to read your article; I enjoy hearing your perspectives.

We're getting there, mikealec. I think after people get used to the ACA and see that it benefits them, it will be easier to take the next step towards universal coverage.

I'm not a top, but I will give you a couple of quick thoughts. Unless you are fucking a bottom so long and hard that there is bleeding, there is very little risk of HIV transmission to the top. As you get used to the sensation of raw hole, your ability to hold off cumming should improve.

I usually check once in the morning and once before bedtime. I read all the new threads except the ones in the regional hookup forums. How long depends on how many new threads.

No one should knock it until they have tried it. Gummy blowjobs are the best!

No, I think it's really hot to watch a known top occasionally bottom. It's really hot to watch a cumdump bottom top a guy every once in a while.

A few more than that

In the last 15 years in all forms of hookups (bar pickups, bath houses, house parties, online, ...), I have had exactly 3 guys want to use a condom. It seems like anywhere works to me.