drscorpio

I believe he was making a joke based on this exchange from "Sunset Boulevard" Joe Gillis: You're Norma Desmond. You used to be in silent pictures. You used to be big. Norma Desmond: I *am* big. It's the *pictures* that got small. Those of us of a certain age watched Carol Burnett do that bit on too many Saturday nights to ever forget it. And back on topic, I have no desire to put menthol up my butt. If you want to stay tight learn some muscle control. I guess I'm lucky; my husband likes a loose hole.

The standard HIV test can only tell you what your status was roughly 3 months earlier. So you really don't KNOW you were negative before your holiday unless you had been celibate for three months before your test. The only advantage to stopping taking loads now is not wondering whether any of the loads you take between now and then have infected you. If you enjoy taking loads, why stop?

My husband and I are headed to Texas Bear Round Up next weekend. He says he plans to get plenty of loads in my hole. If any of you are going to be there I would love to meet you and put a face with a forum handle. I would love to take your cock and cum, too, if your interested.

I was in Hattiesburg, MS last week for a conference. I hooked up with a young, hot, black guy from A4A with a big cock. He came too quick, but at least I got a big load up my hole. The night after I got back a fuckbuddy came over for a threesome with my husband and me. I took both their cocks, and my husband fucked both our asses. Greedy me got both loads though.

I guess I am lucky. I clean out every morning when I shower just in case. It doesn't seem to have any effect on my normal bowel movements. On days when I don't or when I am away from home, I still have normal bowel movements.

Could be he's concerned about getting a dirty bitch pregnant and having to support the kid.

Your brother has a right to be pissed you had strangers in his house for sex without his permission, but that's where his being in the right ends. The only power you have over your family as an adult is your presence in their lives (to more or less quote Dan Savage). I don't think you should quietly remove yourself from their lives. You should tell them you are cutting them out, and you would love to have them back in your life when they are willing to accept you for who you are. As it is now, they are more of a liability to you than an asset. One thing though - if you feel like childhood abuse is having a negative effect on your life, please get some counseling. It can make a huge difference.

I have had no problem being friends with benefits with guys who started out being sexual partners and then moved into being friends. My ex from my previous serious relationship is a regular fuck buddy with me and my husband. But when you start out being friends, the intimacy you already have emotionally can make it hard to have physical intimacy.

Link to the article Interesting article. Highlights: 47% of men bareback at least some of the time Pushing condoms doesn't help PrEP may be a better way to stop HIV transmission So we aren't wrong when we suspect a lot of guys are barebackers.

I think I am up around 100 with about half of those from my husband. I think I am going to actually keep an account in 2013.

Keep doing what you're doing - taking cum from guys you trust to be neg. This will get you hungry for cum in your hole. Eventually this hunger will convince you to take loads that you are less sure are neg without question. Then you will start to crave taking loads in back rooms and bathhouses and other places where the loads are likely to be poz. And those hot, hung poz guys on hookup sites will seem too hot to turn down when they hit you up for a breeding. Then it's just a tiny step to all out bugchasing. Just keep taking loads. It's addictive. Then the rest will take care of itself.

My husband and I were monogamous when we first got together (for about the same time as you and your guy actually). When we finally talked about opening our relationship, we discovered that it was something we both wanted and were both ready for, and that we were happy giving each other the permission to bareback with others. Now we play on the side whenever we want and have the occaisional threesome (or more-some). He loves to watch me take another man's cock and cum. So now we are getting what we both want, and our relationship is stronger for it. Talk to your man.

Everything BiAggieGuy said is spot on. Long, hot baths will help with any discomfort, too

Sorry for your loss. *hug*

The first time I was stealth barebacked was about 20 years ago. I had hooked up with a guy through a personal ad in the local indie paper. He was straight identified (he said he was just a little bi curious) and very resistant to the idea of using a rubber, but I was a condom nazi at this point and insisted. When we got around to actually fucking he put me on my back with pillows under my ass, so my ass was above the level of my head. This meant I couldn't really see what he was doing at my ass, and it would have been awkward for me to reach back and feel for the condom. We had a really hot fuck. The minute he came though he jumped up and ran into the bathroom to flush the rubber. I was clueless at the time, but when I thought about it later I was pretty sure he came inside me both from the situation I described and how freaked out he seemed as I was getting dressed and leaving. The first time I was stealth bred by poz cum was in 2004. I met the guy on gay.com while traveling. I was a confirmed barebacker at the time although my profile clearly stated I was neg for neg only (I know, I know. It's relevant to the story). We had a hot fuck with him breeding me with much encouragement. This was the first day I was in this town, and we made plans to do at least a quick pump and dump every day because we were really into one another. As he was getting dressed to leave, he asked, "How long have you been poz?" in a casual way. I was surprised. "I'm neg. Didn't you see that in my ad?" He got all quiet and weird. "Oh, I just thought you might be because you're taking loads." At the time, I didn't think anything of it, but I am pretty sure he had just shot poz cum in me. Especially because he never managed to cum back even though I was in his town for a week. I am still testing negative though. How did I feel about these experiences? I didn't put together in my head that either of these experiences was a stealthing until it had been long enough that it was a turn on.

I moved to Austin for graduate school in 1985. I had come out a couple of years earlier and played around with a handful of guys without condoms because no one was talking about safer sex yet in Shreveport, LA. I got hammered with the condom scare right away in Lesbian Gay Student Association at UT. For the next few years I was increasingly sexually active (and increasingly moving from versatile to bottom), but always strictly following safer sex guidelines. In the spring of 1992 after I already had accepted a job starting in August, I met a hot, older Hispanic guy through a personal ad who eventually got me to take bare cock for the first time in 6 years. After I barebacked with him, I started trying it bare with other fuckbuddies. Most of them were more than willing to fuck me without a condom although only a few would take my loads. To the best of my knowledge, they were all negative at the time; I do know the guy who originally got me into barebacking has since converted. I ended up working in a small town in rural north Louisiana. I found the guys here fell into two categories. If they were local and my age or older (30ish at the time), they only barebacked and didn't even think about using condoms; the safe sex message hadn't penetrated to this corner of the world. If they had come to town to go to university here, they often had learned about safer sex practices already and were condom nazis. I had a mixture of safe and raw sex for the next few years. As far as I know, none of my partners were poz. By the late 90s, I had become a confirmed barebacker and never have had much trouble finding guys who want to fuck raw.

Definitely a neg bare bottom that has no desire to be pozzed. As to your point about taking drugs, I recently pointed out to a friend my age (48) that had started meds for HIV that we are getting to the age when doctors are going to start putting us on meds for cholesterol and blood pressure and prostate issues and on and on. It may be different when you are contemplating converting at 25, but middle aged guys are mostly likely going to have daily meds even if they stay neg.

The first time I ever had a threesome it was with my first black man and my first (and so far only) blind guy. I actually knew them before we fucked; they were roommates. The only thing I remember being different about the experience was that the blind guy checked in a lot verbally ("Do you like that?" "Does that feel good?") because he could see how I was reacting.

Good for you, boy. You jumped in with both feet. Enjoy the ride; it feels so great to take loads.

Hmmm ... I finished my degree in August of 1991. I think I was in group a couple of years before that. So probably 1988-89 something like that. I was in grad school at UT, so the years kind of run together for me. Were you involved with the Gay, Lesbian Student Association? I was involved with that group for almost the whole time I was in Austin. Feel free to take this to private message; I don't want to completely hijack the thread.

Small world - I had the same wonderful lady for a counselor at UT

Nothing hotter than watching a bottom do poppers in porn!

I haven't checked it out myself yet, but I hear from friends that Midtowne Spa in Austin can be a lot of fun.

I will definitely be at Decadence. My husband says he wants to see me full of cum with it running down my legs this year.