drscorpio

I love BBC. The only time I have turned one down was the second time I tried to take the biggest cock I have ever seen (at least 12" and thick). The first time he fucked me I was so turned on that I was able to take it. The second time I just couldn't relax enough. I could have one it if either of us had had poppers.

The site is tbru.org There are plenty of bear chasers there.

I just can't imagine asking a man to pull out once he was in me bare. When I first started barebacking, I had a couple of tense conversations over whether or not to use a rubber (I always gave in and took it raw). Once he had it in me skin-to-skin, I always knew I was eating the load.

My sister was pretty tame when she was single because she never wanted to get knocked up. My family think of my little brother as a big whore, but I know I have more partners in a bad year than he's had in his whole life. So I guess I am the only one.

Lost my virginity in college - never use a rubber there. When I moved to Austin for grad school in 85, I bought into the condom message hardcore. Around 92, a trick talked me into bareback. Then I had a few months of really hot, raw sex before I moved back to Louisiana for my first job. The condom hysteria was just getting big in the small town where I live when I got here. I spent about 6 years using condoms most of the time but was slowly drifting back into bareback. I have been condom free since around 98 or 99. I really regret the second condom period in my sex life. Most of the guys I fucked with then would have been happy to go bare; neither one of us wanted to be the one to suggest it though. As soon as I started offering/asking for it, everyone was happy to do it.

My recommendation would be to enjoy taking loads without actively chasing. I have been taking loads for 10 of the last 15 years (5 year hiatus when my partner and I first met and were monogamous - I was taking loads but only from him), and I am still negative. It could happen that way for you, too.

If you turn out neg and then find yourself taking loads again in a few weeks or months, don't beat yourself up. It's very hard to put the genii of anonymous bareback back in the bottle. When I met my current partner, we decided to be monogamous at first and got tested several times. (Which is not to say we weren't barebacking all along; we just wanted to know our statuses). After a few years we decided to open our marriage, and neither of us could see going back to condom sex. After 5 years of being confirmed negative, I was happily taking stranger's loads again.

I believe he was making a joke based on this exchange from "Sunset Boulevard" Joe Gillis: You're Norma Desmond. You used to be in silent pictures. You used to be big. Norma Desmond: I *am* big. It's the *pictures* that got small. Those of us of a certain age watched Carol Burnett do that bit on too many Saturday nights to ever forget it. And back on topic, I have no desire to put menthol up my butt. If you want to stay tight learn some muscle control. I guess I'm lucky; my husband likes a loose hole.

The standard HIV test can only tell you what your status was roughly 3 months earlier. So you really don't KNOW you were negative before your holiday unless you had been celibate for three months before your test. The only advantage to stopping taking loads now is not wondering whether any of the loads you take between now and then have infected you. If you enjoy taking loads, why stop?

My husband and I are headed to Texas Bear Round Up next weekend. He says he plans to get plenty of loads in my hole. If any of you are going to be there I would love to meet you and put a face with a forum handle. I would love to take your cock and cum, too, if your interested.

I was in Hattiesburg, MS last week for a conference. I hooked up with a young, hot, black guy from A4A with a big cock. He came too quick, but at least I got a big load up my hole. The night after I got back a fuckbuddy came over for a threesome with my husband and me. I took both their cocks, and my husband fucked both our asses. Greedy me got both loads though.

I guess I am lucky. I clean out every morning when I shower just in case. It doesn't seem to have any effect on my normal bowel movements. On days when I don't or when I am away from home, I still have normal bowel movements.

Could be he's concerned about getting a dirty bitch pregnant and having to support the kid.

Your brother has a right to be pissed you had strangers in his house for sex without his permission, but that's where his being in the right ends. The only power you have over your family as an adult is your presence in their lives (to more or less quote Dan Savage). I don't think you should quietly remove yourself from their lives. You should tell them you are cutting them out, and you would love to have them back in your life when they are willing to accept you for who you are. As it is now, they are more of a liability to you than an asset. One thing though - if you feel like childhood abuse is having a negative effect on your life, please get some counseling. It can make a huge difference.

I have had no problem being friends with benefits with guys who started out being sexual partners and then moved into being friends. My ex from my previous serious relationship is a regular fuck buddy with me and my husband. But when you start out being friends, the intimacy you already have emotionally can make it hard to have physical intimacy.

Link to the article Interesting article. Highlights: 47% of men bareback at least some of the time Pushing condoms doesn't help PrEP may be a better way to stop HIV transmission So we aren't wrong when we suspect a lot of guys are barebackers.

I think I am up around 100 with about half of those from my husband. I think I am going to actually keep an account in 2013.

Keep doing what you're doing - taking cum from guys you trust to be neg. This will get you hungry for cum in your hole. Eventually this hunger will convince you to take loads that you are less sure are neg without question. Then you will start to crave taking loads in back rooms and bathhouses and other places where the loads are likely to be poz. And those hot, hung poz guys on hookup sites will seem too hot to turn down when they hit you up for a breeding. Then it's just a tiny step to all out bugchasing. Just keep taking loads. It's addictive. Then the rest will take care of itself.

My husband and I were monogamous when we first got together (for about the same time as you and your guy actually). When we finally talked about opening our relationship, we discovered that it was something we both wanted and were both ready for, and that we were happy giving each other the permission to bareback with others. Now we play on the side whenever we want and have the occaisional threesome (or more-some). He loves to watch me take another man's cock and cum. So now we are getting what we both want, and our relationship is stronger for it. Talk to your man.

Everything BiAggieGuy said is spot on. Long, hot baths will help with any discomfort, too

Sorry for your loss. *hug*

The first time I was stealth barebacked was about 20 years ago. I had hooked up with a guy through a personal ad in the local indie paper. He was straight identified (he said he was just a little bi curious) and very resistant to the idea of using a rubber, but I was a condom nazi at this point and insisted. When we got around to actually fucking he put me on my back with pillows under my ass, so my ass was above the level of my head. This meant I couldn't really see what he was doing at my ass, and it would have been awkward for me to reach back and feel for the condom. We had a really hot fuck. The minute he came though he jumped up and ran into the bathroom to flush the rubber. I was clueless at the time, but when I thought about it later I was pretty sure he came inside me both from the situation I described and how freaked out he seemed as I was getting dressed and leaving. The first time I was stealth bred by poz cum was in 2004. I met the guy on gay.com while traveling. I was a confirmed barebacker at the time although my profile clearly stated I was neg for neg only (I know, I know. It's relevant to the story). We had a hot fuck with him breeding me with much encouragement. This was the first day I was in this town, and we made plans to do at least a quick pump and dump every day because we were really into one another. As he was getting dressed to leave, he asked, "How long have you been poz?" in a casual way. I was surprised. "I'm neg. Didn't you see that in my ad?" He got all quiet and weird. "Oh, I just thought you might be because you're taking loads." At the time, I didn't think anything of it, but I am pretty sure he had just shot poz cum in me. Especially because he never managed to cum back even though I was in his town for a week. I am still testing negative though. How did I feel about these experiences? I didn't put together in my head that either of these experiences was a stealthing until it had been long enough that it was a turn on.

I moved to Austin for graduate school in 1985. I had come out a couple of years earlier and played around with a handful of guys without condoms because no one was talking about safer sex yet in Shreveport, LA. I got hammered with the condom scare right away in Lesbian Gay Student Association at UT. For the next few years I was increasingly sexually active (and increasingly moving from versatile to bottom), but always strictly following safer sex guidelines. In the spring of 1992 after I already had accepted a job starting in August, I met a hot, older Hispanic guy through a personal ad who eventually got me to take bare cock for the first time in 6 years. After I barebacked with him, I started trying it bare with other fuckbuddies. Most of them were more than willing to fuck me without a condom although only a few would take my loads. To the best of my knowledge, they were all negative at the time; I do know the guy who originally got me into barebacking has since converted. I ended up working in a small town in rural north Louisiana. I found the guys here fell into two categories. If they were local and my age or older (30ish at the time), they only barebacked and didn't even think about using condoms; the safe sex message hadn't penetrated to this corner of the world. If they had come to town to go to university here, they often had learned about safer sex practices already and were condom nazis. I had a mixture of safe and raw sex for the next few years. As far as I know, none of my partners were poz. By the late 90s, I had become a confirmed barebacker and never have had much trouble finding guys who want to fuck raw.

Definitely a neg bare bottom that has no desire to be pozzed. As to your point about taking drugs, I recently pointed out to a friend my age (48) that had started meds for HIV that we are getting to the age when doctors are going to start putting us on meds for cholesterol and blood pressure and prostate issues and on and on. It may be different when you are contemplating converting at 25, but middle aged guys are mostly likely going to have daily meds even if they stay neg.