I was recently playing with a guy who, during the season, tried to fist me, which I've been trying to do for years. This time, as he kept pressure on my hole, I started experiencing a full body clenching sensation, starting with my rectal muscles.
It wasn't painful, though it was uncomfortable at the time, and my hole is a little sore now (Not like agony, just a little discomfort on the sphincter is all.)
I have 3x questions
1) is this normal, or is it a bad thing?
2) does anyone have tips on how to stop this happening?
3) any tips to get my hole to open up successfully? I've come close once or twice but can't get over the last hurdle. I'm also not very good at using toys on myself, I can never get a good angle.
If you have tips for either, but can't or don't want to on this post, feel free to msg me. I have certain app handles on my profile too, and can be reached there