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You have to be realistic. There are significant cultural differences so you need to decide how far outside the comfort zone you want to go. There's also the question as to how important sex is to your life - if it's not central to your idea of self and being HIV+ might affect other aspects of your life you consider as important or more important than your sex life, then stay safe. If your sexual life is the most important thing then the question is less simple. If you are young and attractive and/or live in a city with lots of opportunities for sex then being HIV+ won't be such a problem as there will be others to have sex with somehow, even if just in sauna dark rooms, whatever happens. If you're in the middle of nowhere then what fun is it being HIV+ and only having sex once a year? Whatever, you can fantasise about having a hedonistic sex life with the stories here and with videos. It's your life, your choices. Good luck with them. -
Should I Take A Chance? (Barefuck)
slowfuck replied to PorscheTurbo's topic in HIV Risk & Risk Reduction
From what you say I would not trust him, especially as he is so arrogant to say he won't test because he has nothing. He is likely to be seeing many boys, he can't be so sure. If he is clear of all infections and wounds your ass by being rough, or not using lube, then you won't get an STI but could you could get a bacterial infection from your gut bacteria. However, he can't be certain as STIs often don't present symptoms immediately or soon. For you, I would advise you to take your time and build trust before you give someone your body. You do what you want, not what others want. -
Good questions. Firstly, how important is the relationship to you in other ways? Just nice, or does it mean a great deal. Is he ok with you going off and getting bred by other guys? Would you say that sex is very important to you, whereas your boyfriend's priorities lie elsewhere and he doesn't value sexual intimacy highly? Personally, and I suspect most people here would agree, that your young years are for experimentation and having fun. Is it right to give bareback sex outside your relationship? Right or wrong in this case depends on your opinion. There are risks of getting sexually transmitted infections and unknowingly giving them to your boyfriend so it's not simple, but if he's cool with you playing and you are careful who you let breed you then it can work. It's much less risky to think about getting fucked bareback than do it, but I'm pretty sure you've made up your mind and just want reassurance and encouragement. As an 18-year old looking as you do in your avatar assuming it is you then I don't think you'd need to worry about being shy. Plenty of guys will be more than happy to 'bed' you, your problem will be one of sorting out who you want to let inside you! Bttm2go put his answers very succinctly and I'd agree except I personally think going to a bathhouse or sex club might be a bit full on at the moment and you should work up to it if it appeals. Asking these questions here is inviting people to recommend you do it, which I suspect you want to hear. I'd say make sure you're fully aware of the risks of STIs and other consequences and decide what you want to do. I'm happy to chat by PM too.
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Meeting A Guy Tomorrow, Do I Go Raw?
slowfuck replied to paintedgrey's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
It depends whether you can afford to have HIV in your life if you happened to get it, though that's unlikely if he's a nice steady guy. You're giving away too little to tell but he's a regular so you should have a fair idea of the likely risk. By afford I mean in terms of being able and willing to adapt your life to cope with it if it were to happen. Personally, I am single and work in a job where being HIV poz is not an issue so if the guy is open and honest with me as a buddy, seems a nice sensible guy and I like him, I let him cum inside. I pre-lube to minimise chances of any friction abrasions as some guys don't lube first, and stay mindful of any STI symptoms that could make infection easier, but otherwise I go for it and enjoy it. After all if I'm going to find out I'm poz someday I want to have thoroughly enjoyed the experience. -
I would say yes, it's still a taboo, but in the same way that rimming is a taboo, and being naked in public is a taboo. Something society says is wrong becomes exciting to do, to rebel against. Being a taboo is what makes it exciting and a turn on. The fantasy of raw fucking will, I feel, be a turn on even to the guys who use condoms, even if their fear of possible consequences for their health or reputation means they use condoms, and won't admit it.
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Oh dear, that's not good. In my opinion your thoughts on what it could be are most likely to be what it is. I don't think it's likely to be an STI as they don't tend to give such severe symptoms so soon or on their own - though there could be a co infection of course such as gonorrhoea as well. It sounds likely a infection from tears and bruising in your rectum which would inflame it. If he was rough it seems it could have bruised it quite a bit. The inflammation would cause the faeces to be passed through quickly leading to watery diarrhoea and stools as well as allow bacteria into the blood stream and cause the fever reaction while your immune system fights it. If it's persistent I'd suspect it's not healing. It's quite delicate really. I personally would get it checked out sooner I think, especially if it was a few days while since the incident. Hope you feel better soon and things turn out well.
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Getting Bred The Day Before Testing
slowfuck replied to LKMike's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
I'm in the same boat, I had an oral gonorrhoea diagnosis ten days ago, have to go back for the confirmation of cure on Tuesday. So horny this weekend and my fuck buddies are asking what I'm doing. Damn! Like you I'll no doubt be a good boy, and look forward to the rosy glow of the all-clear result. Then get back to the sex -
It is at The Hoist in Vauxhall, London. SBN stands for 'Stark Bollock Naked' and is a sex club that runs from 2pm to 1am on a Sunday. Check out The Hoist London website for details. Everyone is naked apart from footwear through the afternoon.
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Getting Bred The Day Before Testing
slowfuck replied to LKMike's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
Surely they're supposed to use a syringe for the gonorrhoea shot, not their penis? Actually, being serious, whether infections would show up would probably depend on whether the tests were rapid tests (same day results) or culture tests (results a few days later). -
Getting Bred The Day Before Testing
slowfuck replied to LKMike's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
Nah, no reason not to get bred. I'd only worry about the person swabbing your ass if they were using their tongue... Any STI would likely not show up in the swab until a couple of days later anyway. I must add where I get my tests done I have to do my own swabbing in a video booth at the clinic. A 'how to do it' video - not as much fun as it could be, haha -
Great, from what you say I'd be even more surprised if you got more than the gonorrhoea. Update us when you get the results please.
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By received you mean he sucked you off and you now have gonorrhoea in your penis? My understanding is as follows: HIV doesn't survive in saliva and neither does the gonorrhoea bacteria which clings to the back of the throat. You'll likely have got it from him deep throating you and your penis head touching the back of his throat - he likely wouldn't have known the infection was there. Is that what happened? Having an existing ST infection increases the chance of HIV transmission where it inflames the mucous membranes. The STI damages the membrane and the blood floods the area to fight the damage so makes it easier to get HIV into or from the blood stream. If he's not on meds because his body is controlling the level of the virus then he's not nearly as infectious for HIV as someone who is recently infected and doesn't know where the HIV spikes. My understanding is the likelihood of infection increases according to the amount of virus transmitted between two people and that there has to be enough to overwhelm your immune system response. If you had gonorrhoea in your penis already then the path is easier, but getting a new gonorrhoea infection is unlikely to have worked to inflame the soft tissue sufficiently to pose a significant risk with HIV within a few minutes. I don't know if HIV can exist in the gonorrhoea puss but if it does and the level of HIV in the gonorrhoea puss was low then again there's low risk unless his teeth scratched your penis head.. All in all bearing in mind there are so many unknowable variables I feel while there is some risk, it's not a big risk. It's clearly too late for PEP. You won't stop worrying until the tests are back I know. Speak to your STI clinic doc. You'll need to test at 4 weeks I think, maybe sooner these days, I'm not sure. There are HIV tests that look for the virus rather than the antibodies. The above is my take on it. I hope it all turns out ok when all the testing is done.
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I have a fuck buddy who sometimes bleeds when I fuck him but he's not tight and I'm not rough, it's from haemorrhoids (piles) just inside his anus. It's quite disconcerting to me but he doesn't seem to notice it.
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How To Convince Sexual Partner To Drop Condoms While On Prep?
slowfuck replied to rawfuckr's topic in PrEP Discussion
You're neg on prep yes, but that won't stop gonorrhoea or syphillis or chlamydia which I guess they are keen to avoid in addition to avoiding HIV. I wonder if they would rubber up to be sucked too? -
I seem to recall reading some report offering the opinion that low self esteem was a factor in bareback sex choices but there are an vast range of influences that affect the decision, and it isn't limited to bottoms. One could ask are climbers with low self-esteem more likely to engage in risky climbs? One could equally ask would someone with low self esteem risk the disapproval of their peers and clinic doctors by engaging in bareback sex? Generalisations tend to be employed by people to prove a particular viewpoint but that doesn't make them right or wrong, only believed by those who share the belief. It's a way to rationalise a behaviour but it's pretty much never that simple.
