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I've found that tops with little interest in anything but my hole have a strong reaction when they discover ropes of precum drooling from my cock. I think it's a way of seeing the effect they are having on me and some use it as tool to figure out how to double down on my hole and prove their virility and skill. Others think it's proof they are inside a hardwired slut bottom and get verbal and more aggressive. Some milk it from my dick, eat it and keep fucking to force me to make more. And some say "Huh" and get on with their business. I like when my body amplifies their desire and lust for my hole.

Earlier this week I was ass up in my room at a bathhouse and a tall black guy came in and stroked my hole. He started to unwrap a condom and I said, "Sorry, I'm allergic" and started to sit up expecting him to leave. He tossed the condom on the bed and guided his bare (very long) cock into my cummy supple hole and started to fuck deep. I don't want to convince anyone to do anything they don't want to do. Tops decide if they are breeders or not.

@Talurim, now that you've been in Melbourne several months, what would your recommendation be to men like you wanting to get their ass bred there?

In this case and in this century, it means a cock as hard as bricks. In a broader context when used to describe a whole man, it means a very fit and muscular guy. In Australia it was common to say that guys like this were "built like a brick shit-house".

Here's an article in The New England Journal of Medicine talking about the effectiveness of Doxy PEP: TL;DR = "The combined incidence of gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis was lower by two thirds with doxycycline postexposure prophylaxis than with standard care..." Postexposure Doxycycline to Prevent Bacterial Sexually Transmitted Infections List of authors: Anne F. Luetkemeyer, M.D., Deborah Donnell, Ph.D., Julia C. Dombrowski, M.D., M.P.H., Stephanie Cohen, M.D., M.P.H., Cole Grabow, M.P.H., Clare E. Brown, Ph.D., Cheryl Malinski, B.S., Rodney Perkins, R.N., M.P.H., Melody Nasser, B.A., Carolina Lopez, B.A., Eric Vittinghoff, Ph.D., Susan P. Buchbinder, M.D. et al., for the DoxyPEP Study Team*

I'm very into submissive top men, so I've started chatting to these "passive tops" when I've run across them. So far they mostly fall into two basic groups, tops who want to be entirely passive and have the bottom do the work of milking out their load, and tops who know they want to be used or objectified for their cock or cum. The second group so far have been more passive "do what you want to me" types rather than the "I'll do whatever you want me to" type. There can be a flavor of "topping from the bottom" from these "passive tops". They're really intriguing, but I don't care for passivity in a top, although a submissive active top is a pleasure to find. As a bottom it's my role to use my body actively in ways that pleases breeders and helps their seed to throb out inside me. I expect the same energy and focus from any top, whether they are dom, sub, or in-between.

I meant "legally abused and raped" as in using the legal definition of abuse and rape to describe its scope and effect.

It depends on what question/s you are trying to answer. I'm asking these questions: What percentage of minor males who were legally abused or raped currently perceive their abuse or rape in a positive light, and why? What percentage of minor males who were legally abused or raped showed negative outcomes at any time during their life? What percentage of minor males who were legally abused or raped currently show negative outcomes in their lives? What does correlating the data from Q1 with the data from Q2 and Q3 help us understand about subject's self-reported "positive perceptions" of abuse and rape. Do these self-perceptions match the clinical reality? Are negative outcomes less or more prevalent for those with "positive perceptions" (and vice-versa)? I'd assert that the sample at BZ is too skewed to reliably answer these questions.

Of course it is. It's worth noting that the survey missed the males who were cum inside between birth and 9 years old. Looking at the curve above, you know some were missed.

There's no statistical data here to support that assertion. The sample of respondents here is dramatically skewed towards sex positive and hyper-sexual men so this isn't a usable sample.

I think the drive of tops to inseminate and impregnate bottoms with their DNA is relatively common. Bottoms thinking of themselves as "fertile" are the complementary side of that same drive. It's framing themselves as ideal partners for these breeders with the drive to impregnate their virile seed in a way that's immediately understandable. Being in heat, in season, ripe, etc. are similar terms that help a breeder know that bottom is 100% receptive to their need and drive.

I don't think cumming and breeding are at all the same thing. Any man on his own can cum, but only one man inside another man's ass can breed.

I think you're reading more into that quick, very direct message than there is. I've worked on site down escalations and I'm guessing that they have their hands full getting replacement hardware in place and getting back to a known-good operational state. Having done it myself, I read it as being a very fast note to let people know they're on it and to set expectations.

Good to hear from the BBRT folks. The best thing we can do right now is leave them to it.

BBRT is down for everyone, this is not a localized outage. It's been unreachable for 14 hours and 28 minutes according to isitdownnow dot com.

This. I find my hole opens for real cock in a way it just doesn't for dildoes and toys. I think having a whole man to please and feeling turned on by his presence and fuck need is a big part of connecting with your bottom nature. I am wired to please breeders and earn their seed, and with a dildo neither of those are possible. My hole starts out snug, but it's amazing how large a dick you can take when you're well prepared and very horny. My first regular dom breeder was 9.5" and he trained me to take his dick on my back spread wide and submitting to his use for hours and taking up to a dozen loads. Anticipating how good a breeders dick will feel as it stretches you open and how hot it will be as he bottoms out in you goes a long way towards making it a reality. The skill and experience of a breeder is a factor, also. I'll take a skilled/experienced breeder over one who is unskilled/inexperienced, regardless of size. I don't use poppers for medical reasons (check the health warnings carefully), but I think they can be a good tool to get you over mental and biomechanical humps. I learned other relaxation techniques to give men the opening up experience they want. My hole now gets supple and juicy the more a breeder fucks and starts to make the kinds of wet fuck noises that really turn them on. I have a couple of regulars who are entranced by how my hole opens up for them. A challenge for me is when men fuck their loads inside me, my nature wants that seed to stay inside so I can instinctively tighten up. It takes some focus, but I work to relax my hole so that the pressure on the breeders dick is loose and it's easy for them to withdraw if they want. For breeders who stay hard during and after they seed my hole, I let them enjoy the spasming they caused in my hole muscles and then loosen up a little to make sure they know they are welcome to go again. Like most things, it's about practice, practice, practice, and finding what works for you. I found being ass up in a bathhouse for anyone to use is both an act of community service, and a great way to see how relaxed and fucked out your hole can get. If I can get here from being raped as a kid and feeling mortal terror that I'd die if another dick did that to me again, I think most men can. Amplifying @topblkmale and with apologies to Michael Pollan: "Take bare dick. Mostly big ones. There's no such thing as too much."

Agreed. Finding a representative sample will be difficult, especially if recruiting focuses on those who were adults and only engaged with adult relatives. A convenience sample is the likeliest option.

You're suggesting an hypothesis, that societal disapprobation may be a cause for the negative impacts of incest. I've also put forward an hypotheses, that perceived positive perceptions of those experiencing an incestuous relationship don't mean that there are no negative impacts from same. The hypotheses are completely disjoint except in that they address the same group. The wheels to tease out the contributory factors have already been invented. This is how researchers have been able to show that it was societal disapprobation that most impacted gay people, not being same-sex attracted itself. I'm saying "Let's do the research to find out" because the tools exist and they've already worked in the case you're basing your hypothesis on. When there are multiple hypotheses, we design research to prove or disprove them. That's what I was proposing in a broad way. Your position seems to be that there are no effective tools to do so, and that's just not so.

I understand the point you're making, it's implicit that you'd need to control for other causal factors. My calling out just two doesn't obviate the need to do sound science and control for anything that looks contributory in the statistical models. My main point is that what appears to be an initial positive read on an experience, can instead be an adaptation that's been arrived at over time. I've been in groups with men claiming what happened to them was positive, but along the way you hear all the classic negative outcomes that result as well. That reads as an adaptation to me, not as a case of zero negative outcomes resulting from their experience.

I acknowledge that many incest survivors, like child sexual abuse (CSA) survivors, may consider what happened to them a positive experience. It's worth pointing out, however, that reframing and reconciling their experiences is part of the adaptation that incest and CSA survivors can make to live with and integrate their experience and its lasting effects. That doesn't mean it wasn't traumatic or damaging, or that the impact of the trauma is gone. I'm not a clinician, but I'm willing to bet that if you controlled for individual resilience factors and other traumatic incidents, and put these incest survivors with a positive view of their experience though evaluations for negative outcomes and behaviors over their lifetime, you'd see evidence that they were, and likely still are, negatively affected.

One big caveat when reading research in this area: Male survivors of child sexual abuse (incestuous or not) are not well studied or understood in the research literature. For that reason, research of this vintage (2011) and older has a strong slant towards male perpetrators and female victims, tending to erase female perpetrators and male victims. For decades the definition of rape in many jurisdictions meant that legally males could not be raped or sexually assaulted. With recent changes to the law in some jurisdictions and the addition of a "forced to penetrate" category of sexual assault, the numbers of female perpetrators and male victims are beginning to be better understood. "The Assessment of Forced Penetration: A Necessary and Further Step Toward Understanding Men’s Sexual Victimization and Women’s Perpetration" by RaeAnn E. Anderson, Erica L. Goodman, and Sidney S. Thimm In the US, the FBI only changed its definition of rape to be more inclusive of men as victims and women as perpetrators taking effect in 2013. This affects the statistical data that the FBI collects for the annual Uniform Crime Reports (UCR). Note: "The FBI's change does not affect any criminal laws; it adjusts the definition only for statistical purposes, so that crimes under existing state laws will now be acknowledged, and counted by, the federal government." It can be re-traumatizing for male survivors to see the language in research failing to acknowledge their lived experience.

People are conflating the question of incest with preference for specific ages that is more broadly called chronophilia. I teased it apart in my earlier post for this reason.

No, incest should remain an exception, not the rule. Most incest involves someone underage, vulnerable, and/or incapable of informed consent. It can be incredibly damaging to young minds and change the way their brains work permanently. In cases where related adults, who haven't been groomed, coerced, or otherwise damaged want to engage in sex and pregnancy isn't possible, it's a grayer area. Bonds that are parent/child or have a similar dynamic seem fraught with emotional and power issues that make them hard to give a pass to. The degree of maturity and self-awareness needed in all parties to navigate this kind of relationship seems very uncommon to me. Betrayal and abuse of power tear families apart in ways that just can't be fixed. Sexual exploration is going to happen, that's why there are Juliet laws in some locations. Provided it's consensual and informed, sexual exploration within a peer group isn't a blanket wrong. The best case is where parents acknowledge that exploration is going to happen, have the frank conversations that are needed with their kids, and make a safe space for kids to explore with peers within the home. However, no parent, no matter how enlightened, will ever want to make a safe space for their children to experiment with each other. Incest has too many negative outcomes, including generational outcomes, for it to become "normalized".

I find South Asians very appealing and have given up my ass to those that have needed to fuck and breed it. What I've discovered is that over two thirds of them treated me with what felt like contempt or loathing. I came out of the majority of these meetups having been caused pain as a result of that contempt, either from being fucked in a way that hurt, or being manhandled in a way that showed a lack of care for my body and mind as they were using it to get off. It's fairly common to see expressions of disgust flashing on their face as they use me. In every case I told them they were hurting me and asked them to stop or do something different. In most cases they went back to doing what they wanted fairly quickly and in a few cases I called a stop and left. I've also noticed a strong leaning towards wanting to degrade me and almost punish me. I've worked with a lot (I mean a lot) of South Asians and I wonder if the roots of how I (and perhaps by extension other white subs) get treated aren't deeply embedded in their cultures. I've had many work experiences where I saw profound homophobia from South Asian colleagues. Perhaps this is internal and external homophobia in the men that need to fuck hole, I really don't know. As a counterpoint, I've had some great experiences with South Asians, especially the enby who has been a regular for a long time. It makes me wonder whether all the internal work my enby friend did to accept their gender expression (they are quite femme) helped them unplug from whatever it is that made these other South Asian men treat me with such little care or respect. As a result of my negative experiences I am extremely cautious with South Asian men now. I think the question of upfront desire for a specific race or ethnicity is only part of the equation. How we've been treated by men of that race or ethnicity has to be layered on top of it too, as it strongly affects our future choices.

I was wanting to understand the specifics of this situation and the basis of your support for the DEI programs in Texas universities being banned. Your opposition to DEI programs seems general and not specific to the Texas case. That's all I needed to know.