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I loved that one too.

If we knew what European country it would help. I'm guessing it's one of the least gay friendly ones at the tail end of the attached list.

Firstly, take a deep breath. You're fine. Second, what @viking8x6 said. What makes you think you're not cured? Did you test again after 14 days, or did the provider do a follow-up proof of cure test? If the former, you need to make sure you've waited long enough (especially with pharyngal gonorrhea), if the latter, the provider knows the protocol for follow up treatment. That said, I have to ask - are you in the US? If so, you should have got intramuscular ceftriaxone for "uncomplicated gonorrhea" per the CDC. That's the bog-standard kind that I'm betting you have and just needed to be given the right medication to treat it. The oral ofloxacinum you were prescribed this time is as, or more, curative of uncomplicated gonorrhea as intramuscular ceftriaxone based on this study, so I think you should relax and let the medication do its job. I just took a quick look at your posts on BZ and I noticed they are all about STIs - HIV, HPV, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. I really recommend you find a clinic that caters to the gay community and get all your sexual health vaccinations, PrEP, Doxycycline PEP, etc. so you can get up to date information from people who know our community and help you be more informed and proactive about your sexual health.

I started PrEP and had no side effects. Except I got to take a lot of bare dick and seed without fretting about HIV at all. I'd consider trying the daily dosing to see if ii's a matter of your body being able to adjust/adapt.

Huh. I find that regardless of my position I'm fully engaged in the mechanics of the fuck. Knees apart involves a fair amount of muscular effort to maintain stability, match the breeder's rhythm, adjust the plane of my hips to the angle of their cock, etc. I've found breeders who want my knees together are more controlling of the fuck and tend to bounce me on and off their cock. It also puts some of the balance and stability into the breeders hands if my knees and feet are both together.

A past breeder told me that knees together makes the sensation of fucking a hole different with pressure in different places. Making the hole feel "tighter" to some breeders. I do what breeders want to give them what they need.

Damn, I've been looking for a breeder who wanted to do this to me. There's something primal about being fucked, bred, claimed and then held full of your breeder's dick and seed as sleep takes you. That kind of ownership, being fully inhabited, can get into a sub bottoms head and stay there forever.

When I moved from Australia to the United States, I had some trouble figuring out who I was attracted to here. The switch from Australian men and archetypes to American ones took some time. To be honest, American men seemed less masculine to me for a while. More traveled men will be better at seeing past the kind of cultural block that tripped you up. Another way to get around it is to get some more euro clothing with a euro fit and adapt to the local customs as well as you can. There used to be this great quiz website called "Gay or Eurotrash?" with pictures of straight and gay men who were European and American. It was after seeing this that I realized how very obvious and easy it was to pick out where people came from by their haircut and clothes. I think it's less a rejection of you, but rather an indictment of the provincial attitudes of the people you were meeting.

For everyone. For the sucker they never get to touch, let alone taste, the cock they have their mouth around, and they don't get the reward of tasting and swallowing their seed. For the suckee they don't get to feel the wet warmth of the mouth around them or see their reaction when he tastes some of your precum. The sensation of a wet raspy tongue licking their shaft and knob is missing. They also don't get the satisfaction of coating his throat and feeding him with his nut.

I think that's officially "Lipstick on a pig" territory. 😏

Yup, it's super weird. To me, it's like someone trying to hand you an ice cream covered in a condom and expecting you to be eager. At least these phobic guys are usually consistent about wanting their cock wrapped no matter what hole it goes into. It's the guys who want their dick sucked bare who insist on condoms to fuck that I really don't understand. "So, you have no problem with my mouth and tongue all over your cock and balls for an hour, and for me to swallow your precum and cum, but putting that same cock coated in my saliva into my clean and ready hole and breeding me is a bridge too far?"

This is a staggeringly atypical outcome. In general, the people who I've engaged with from silverdaddies have been the least mature, reliable, and mentally stable of all the apps. Yes, even Sniffies is better. YMMV I ceased my subscription a few years ago and only log in to respond to messages I receive.

Good to hear, though they can be polarizing. I've had breeders both entranced by my puffy, cum-glazed hole, and repulsed. The men who fuck you puffy and swollen always like the before and after though...

I'm not sure what "feel(ing) masculine" breaks down as. Each culture has different idea of what is "masculine" and it feels as arbitrary and surrounded by gatekeepers as terms like "real top" and "real bottom". So I had to break it down into *how I feel* independent of the framing of the question. That's how I got to powerful. I don't always know what the breeder has in their head as they fuck my hole. They frame me as whatever suits them, a bottom daddy, a cumdump, a slut, a faggot, a bitch-in-heat, a whore, an emasculated puta, a useful hole, etc. Sometimes they are verbal and I know, sometimes not. Whatever is in their mind, I know how physically and mentally strong I am to please and give powerful release to so many different kinds of breeders. That feels powerful.

I feel *powerful* when I've got a man rutting and nutting in my guts the way he needs to. Whether he's kissing me deeply as he slow grooves into me, holding my hair in his fist and pulling me back onto his cock like property, or teasing me into begging for the impregnation he's about to give me.

Interesting how things shift over time. == Results from bdsmtest.org == 99% Non-monogamist 96% Primal (Prey) 94% Voyeur 87% Submissive 73% Experimentalist 68% Rope bunny 62% Degradee 55% Exhibitionist 48% Vanilla 44% Switch 42% Master/Mistress 39% Brat 26% Slave 17% Dominant 17% Owner 16% Primal (Hunter) 9% Masochist 7% Pet 5% Degrader 4% Rigger 1% Daddy/Mommy 0% Ageplayer 0% Brat tamer 0% Boy/Girl 0% Sadist

What kind of surgery? It's great he's able to breed.

Great illustration of why the human cock evolved as it did. The better a cock was at removing other breeders seed before planting their own, the more likely they'd have more offspring.

I got the update from a clinician at the University of Washington Sexual Health Clinic who was privy to their own internal tracking data. There are published studies reporting that DoxyPEP isn't as effective against G as originally thought: [think before following links] https://www.aidsmap.com/news/mar-2024/full-analysis-french-sti-study-dashes-hopes-gonorrhoea-vaccine [think before following links] https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa2211934 [think before following links] https://www.healio.com/news/infectious-disease/20240304/new-evidence-seals-the-case-for-doxypep-as-sti-prevention-tool The analysis in the studies addressing the big there bacterial STIs (syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea) are done together as a group, but the more different studies drill down on G separately, the less effective DoxyPEP is beginning to look for it. The original large scale study was conducted in Seattle and San Francisco and the UW was involved in it's execution, so I'm inclined to believe what I'm hearing from the UW clinicians on the front lines. Each of the studies reported on above say DoxyPEP is much less effective, or not at all effective, in reducing incidence rates for gonorrhea. Regarding the later: The Healio article linked above has more context on the observations in SF. The pull quote from one of the study authors (Luetkemeyer) is “It’s not great for gonorrhea, we need better strategies.”

I prefer not to cum, though if I do happen to cum I feel it's my responsibility to give pleasure through my hole as long as the breeder/s need it. I've also had dom guys make me cum as soon as I arrive and then use my cum as lube to fuck me. Either way, breeders get hole.

Firstly, we need to simply listen to the lived experiences of men of color and then re-evaluate our thoughts and actions based on what we learn from them. I think there's a few dynamics at play. There's certainly racism in the form of both conscious and unconscious bias, and a sense of racial entitlement to the bodies of other races. This is where it worth us spending some time in personal reflection on what part we might play in the experiences that men of color in our community share with us. There are also forces like sexual selection where humans choose sex partners for traits that are not survival based (hairlessness, male facial hair, penis size, rounded breasts, and pubic hair to name a few). Yes, gay men aren't able to reproduce without a medical intervention, but the evolutionary forces and wiring in our brains is the same, so it's still a force we're affected by. In Charles Darwin's "The Descent of Man, and Selection in Relation to Sex" (1871), Darwin theorized that sexual selection was a force that was "race making": We know that humans descend from Africa and, through survival pressure, natural mutation, and sexual selection forces, we've evolved into the different collections of attributes that we think of as racial groups today. Some, but not all, of those sexual selection factors are likely rooted in "in-group and out-group" dynamics (Us vs. Them) and may have metastasized into what we think of today as racism. It's a fascinating and provocative line of thinking. We all have our own experiences with and observations of men who are perceived to be in a different racial group to ourselves. I've had men of color tell me how they feel sexually overlooked by some racial groups while at the same time also being fetishized and objectified for racially perceived aspects of their bodies (size, hairlessness, penis size, muscles, skin color, etc.). Where I live, the demographics are White (Non-Hispanic) (62.2%), Asian (Non-Hispanic) (16.2%), Two+ (Non-Hispanic) (6.76%), Black or African American (Non-Hispanic) (6.65%), and White (Hispanic) (2.77%) (Source: US Census 2020). This sets the baseline for who is available. I was at a bathhouse this weekend and saw what I'm sure are men from all of those demographics. Lots of white guys with other white guys, black guys with black guys, white guys with with Asian guys, Asian guys with brown guys, brown guys with brown guys, brown guys with white guys, etc. These are what I perceived, even though being in a dark bathhouse, our perceptions of race aren't always on point. I didn't see a lot of guys of any specific race getting no interest. I made eye contact with lots of men who looked away choosing not to have eye contact with me - Cruising 101. It seemed like there were lots of men sitting out the dance until there was someone they were interested in. These are often the men sitting or standing in one position close to where all men had to pass by entering, leaving, or just circulating around the venue. These men, now that I reflect on it, were all men of color (predominantly black and Asian) and sent out a subtle "don't approach me" vibe by avoiding eye contact. I saw a lot of black guys playing and fucking together in public areas, but I didn't see black and white guys playing together in public. Some black FBs have told me that they don't play with other black guys and it doesn't seem polite to press them on their reasons. Some are very into fucking white guys, and some have implied they are avoiding black guys based on some nebulous bad past experience. I did see younger guys getting a lot of interest and older guys less interest. That's what I saw, but other observers would notice things I did not and perhaps interpret things I saw differently. I got fucked by three white guys (one twice), one Afro-Mexican guy (a long time), two black guys, and a Middle Eastern guy (twice, in public, and a long time), and got sucked by a couple of Asian guys, a black guy, and a white guy (three times). When you're trying to tease out what's happening with who is playing with whom, you really need to look at the demographics above and bear in mind that a lot of the fucking is happening in private rooms (most of my play was). I'm sure there were men of color and white guys fucking behind closed doors, just like I was. Something to remember is that hot guys of any race can be intimidating to those of us who don't feel like we are in their league. It may not have been race that was the issue for these hot men of color, but guys seeing them fucking guys who are subjectively less hot than themselves that might encourage or embolden them to approach where before they didn't dare. The Middle Eastern guy I connected with was the most attractive guy in the place to me that evening, he was so very hot, handsome, furry, muscular etc. that a part of me felt he wouldn't be interested. I didn't listen to that part, and when we passed each other and paused looking at the action around us we said hey and I asked if I could touch him. He said yes and reached out to touch me and in a few minutes he was sucking my nipples and his finger was rubbing around and into my cum lubed hole as I fondled his hard cock and massive furry pecs and nipples. Next thing I knew he was fucking me like an animal in a public area and reaching up from my hips to grab my nipples as he fucked. We drew a crowd and after a rest he came back for another long round. If I'd seen what the OP saw with that group of hot men of color, I might have viewed it through the lens of their hotness being intimidating rather than it being an issue of race. That doesn't mean race wasn't an element of what happened, but it does teach me to look at more than one possibility. P.s. The OP also scoped their observation to their city but didn't identify it, or their location in their profile. I wonder what the racial demographics of that city are and what context it might add to their observation and question.

DoxyPEP is a great tool for fighting STIs and I think all of us who are sexually active should be on it. I am. One quick update: The latest science shows DoxyPEP as only 2% effective in preventing Gonorrhea and not in the 40%-50% range as indicated by the earlier research. Its efficacy for other bacterial infections (Syphilis, Chlamydia, etc.) is unchanged. I just cleared a G infection and I'd been only taking up to two doses a week as I'd been incorrectly told it was the max allowed. That is incorrect, take it whenever you need to! I'm following the new guidance now and will see if I get another G infection.

It's not at all surprising that a defining difference between gay men and others is that we can be highly focused on sex. After all, I heard sucking someone's cock referred to as "the gay handshake". When someone has historically been vilified for gay sex, is there any wonder that doubling down on gay sex was the response? As a result, we tend to start with sex and work our way to other things. I've lost count of the "hookup to friend" and "hookup to boyfriend" stories I've come across. I think we tend to do things in a different order, but I think we tend to go through the same stages as other humans in relationships. But we also are less likely to be slaves to the myth of romantic love, a relatively recent invention historically.