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Squirt.org is dead. They're being outcompeted more broadly, their in-person cruising niche has less and less value as cruising becomes more online, with less users their user sources cruising data gets more stale and less useful, and their user experience is so old it's kind of embarrassing. They're also compromising that user experience with all kinds of annoying ad email (I suspect to try and keep the lights on). Unless they have a brilliant pivot they haven't signaled, it's a matter of time before they sell their cruising location data or fade away.

While I'm into watching an attitude adjusting fuck, I'm not wired to administer it. Nor will the change in attitude be enduring. Men like this often pendulum swing hard back into their usually behavior (seeing the way you spelled this word made me a little homesick) as a way of invalidating that kind of experience.

Incidentally, these kinds of men are repellant to me and they end up on my "unfuckable" list.

Interesting. He reads as manipulative, sexually predatory, and controlling. The impression I get is that he has an underlying insecurity and enjoys having power over others.

When they say they are not sure, what they are really saying is "we haven't done the research yet". In the beginning, the HPV vaccine was only for girls before they became sexually active (9-12 years) and they were only focusing on cervical cancer. Then they realized it was boys of similar age that might give HPV to them, and that men were getting HPV related cancers in the mouth, throat, dick, and ass, so eventually boys were included too. Then they gradually studied more age groups and saw that there were benefits. Doctors serving gay men knew it would be important to give to any sexually active gay male. Anyone who knows basic probability can see there is benefit to being vaccinated for HPV regardless of life-stage. 150 strains overall, 50 genital strains, 13 or so cancer causing. Imagine being the guy who caught one of the cancer-causing strains *after* he let his (ignorant/sex-negative/homophobic) doctor talk him out of getting the HPV vaccine. Fuck that noise. Be your own advocate and insist on it.

I think of what tops grab with their hands as they thrust inside me as my ass, and what tops stretch open with their cock and that enfolds them fully while they thrust as my hole. Most every top has an erotic context and name for our asses and holes. I'm happy to hear them call my ass and hole whatever names get them erotically fired up to breed. The most frequent I hear used are hole, pussy, and cunt. The most frequent prefixes for those names are slut, whore, cumdump, dad/daddy, and boy. Some men like white and pink as additional prefixes as well. What turns them on works for me.

Agreed. Preventative health care such as vaccines should be covered and at no out of pocket expense. Check with your local health authorities if you get any resistance from an insurance company.

Amplifying @Blacoe, there are about 150 different strains of HPV and around 50 of them affect the genital area. It's a startlingly common virus for people to have and pass on, with 90% of sexually active men catching HPV in their lifetime. There are 13 cancer causing strains and there's no easy test to figure out which you've been exposed to. Even with two exposures, it's extremely worthwhile for you to get the HPV vaccine if you haven't already, regardless of your age. If you have a gay doctor, they should already have been recommending it to you. If you haven't already, get the HPV vaccine now. Everyone who is sexually active needs it, regardless of age. The treatment for anal warts depends on your case. For me, I had cryotherapy to freeze and kill them, inside and outside. It was rather confronting for the mid-twenties me as it was my first STI.

A useful perspective. I grew up and was educated outside the USA in another English speaking country, so I'm always tripping over things that I don't expect to be fraught, but end up being. Other variations don't flow as well, or fit in the character limit, but I'll give more thought to removing the ambiguity.

That isn't a complex sentence and it's not poetry. If they can't grok it, I'm fine with missing out on those men.

Treating it as a game theory problem, it's a completely nonsensical strategy. I'm looking for chemistry and connection, and failing basic English comprehension isn't a good start. I've also had a number of men read part of my sniffies profile and decide a) I don't like big guys, b) I don't like men of color, and c) I don't like older guys. This is the relevant section: Honestly, if an English speaker can't correctly parse the meaning of these two sentences, my read is they've come to my profile primed with a pre-existing beef, bias, or trauma. I'm telling guys that regardless of the thickness of their cock, they are welcome in my holes. I'm not sure how you glean I don't like big guys, but maybe "slender" is a trigger word for some even when it's describing cock. Thinking I don't like older guys or men of color when I explicitly say I'm open to all adult ages and all ethnicities is just bewildering to me. Whether it's dickful thinking, poor comprehension, or something else, no hole for them.

It's 100% dickful thinking. Horny men get fixated and push everything else out of their minds but what they want. It explains guys wanting to get fucked hitting up other total bottoms. It explains ignoring profile content and your expressed preferences.

For fuck-joints, I think I'd summarize as: "Bare and breeding comes standard, anything else is a special request and requires notice."

Men of all sizes deserve an eager hole to take them fully. It's always a delight to find a heroically endowed man like this who has acquired the skills to make bottoms take them completely and beg for more. It's not as common a skill or motivation for some hung men.

I'd assert that's not in question. Firstly, it's technically possible. Back in 2019, Pen Test Partners were able to use trilateration to build a map of gay app (Grindr, Recon, Romeo) users locations with the distance data these apps get from geolocation. They published data on the exploit and It looks like only Recon has fixed the problem. Next, there are many stories from different unfriendly countries of them actually using gay apps to entrap, capture, detain, and torture LGBTQ folks. It's a probability approaching certainty that techniques like trilateration are being used by police in LGBTQ unfriendly countries to target people.

Another option is to develop a service mindset. One where giving service is more important and powerful than your perceptions of who is attractive and not.

Or more accurately: "It use[d] to be considered a form of safe [*unsatisfying*] sex."

Your point is very well taken but, to be clear, Grindr wasn't banned in the Olympic Village (see the technical facts earlier in the thread). Despite hysterical (in both senses of the word) protestations to the contrary, plenty of folks will have scored super-fit hole and pole in Paris by the closing ceremonies on August 11.

This kind of thing makes me laugh. I'm a bottom (pretty submissive, but also primal) and wear Andrew Christian briefs because the construction of the pouch is more comfortable for my cock. Nothing to do with loving taking dick and seed in my ass. If I'm getting fucked they're going down or off anyway, no matter what type they are.

Of course you do. As we all know, nothing says you support an organization unreservedly like refusing to interview with them on ethical grounds. 😏 It's time to hang a "Don't feel the Troll" sign on this thread.

If that's what it looks like to you. Once again, I won't be engaging on your facile and specious hypotheses. Cheers.

You managed to take my having worked on PR issues in the technology industry and extrapolated that into having worked at Grindr. I'm beginning to see how you might have arrived at your highly speculative hypotheses. Full disclosure: I have never been employed in any capacity by Grindr. I was approached by an executive recruiter once several years ago regarding a senior position there and, knowing their history, I declined.

We bottoms, pussyboys, and fags appreciate you men who are born wired to fuck and breed us and fill and mark us with your cum. Our seed taking instincts match and serve your own.

Grindr is a for-profit company, of course its actions will be self-serving. Attempting to blunt and manage to neutral the PR problems it saw at the last two Olympics was about protecting its brand and stock price. I'm critical of Grindr on many issues, but there is nothing surprising or sinister in their actions on this issue. I've worked in technology and been part of team dealing with PR issues. Based on my experience, this looks like business as usual. My lack of comment on the above mentioned hypothesis was quite intentional.

TL;DR: Not a ban, not homophobic, and not the whole story. I have lots of problems with Grinder, from its technology, to its ethics and business practices. The temporary and geofenced changes they've made at the Olympic Village in Paris aren't among those problems. Firstly, I don't think anyone could convince me that Grindr or the French are sex-negative or homophobic, but secondly the history of Grindr and other location-based hook up apps at the Olympics and other International events give a pretty clear context and justification for their actions. In 2016, a 'writer' and editor for The Daily Beast, Nico Hines, wrote a click-bait story that outed gay athletes at the Rio Olympics causing an uproar that earned him Internet infamy as the epitome of the self-serving and amoral journalist. Hines, who is straight, set up a bogus profile on Grindr and used it to trick Olympic athletes into chatting with him. He didn't identify himself as a journalist unless he was challenged, and his sex-negative and shaming article described the athletes he spoke to in enough detail that it was very easy to identify them. Some of the outed athletes were from extremely anti-gay countries, meaning that Hines’ irresponsible piece put them at risk when they returned home. Hines used the location-based features we're discussing to explore inside the 2016 Olympic Village and find the athletes he ultimately exploited and potentially endangered in his story. The uproar of condemnation that met his article resulted in The Daily Beast very quickly stripping out the identifying information, but even with the details removed the furor continued and the article was taken down completely. At the time I remember thinking, "Why is a straight guy writing about gay hookups at the Olympics rather than the overwhelmingly more numerous straight hookups? I guess there's no clicks in outing straight folks..." Then at the 2020 Tokyo Olympics, TikTok and Twitter users decided that using the same features and method to find gay athletes was a great way to "create content" in the form of screenshots and screen recordings of athletes on Grindr. The same furor arose for the same reasons and TikTok and Twitter took down the exploitative content at Grindr's request. Grindr had found themselves in multiple PR fires at multiple Olympics being used as kind of digital accessory to outing and endangering athletes. Is it any wonder they finally sat down in the wake of this high-profile negative press to find a way to protect athletes and prevent people doing the same thing at future Olympics? In 2016 I'm pretty sure they thought the Olympics PR problem needed a PR solution, but after 2020 they realized they would need a combined PR and technology solution going forward. Here's what Grindr says they are doing at the 2024 Paris Olympics to mitigate past problems and give athletes the safest experience possible (Source: Grindr and Enhanced Privacy for Athletes at the Paris Olympics, July 24th 2024): I don't see anything that could be framed as a "Grindr ban" in these steps. What I do see is a company trying to figure out how to prevent bad actors (yes, Nico Hines and those specific TikTok and Twitter users, I mean you) from using their platform to breach a high-profile group of users privacy and safety. Looking at the history, any suggestion that Grindr's actions for the Paris Olympics are "homophobic" is nonsensical to me. Positioning it as a kind of "ban" is, at the very least, uninformed, if not actually intentionally misleading. I can only assume that the OP was themselves the victim of some lazy or sensationalized reporting to frame the survey question as they did. I'd assert instead that Grindr has credibly attempted to thread the needle on preserving capabilities for athletes in the Olympic village while protecting them from those bad actors outside the village trying to monetize the athletes sexuality at the expense of their privacy and safety.