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You dramatically underestimate how dark and twisty humans can be. A man with a martyr or victim complex can try to create conditions through timing and manipulation to satisfy their need to feel wronged or sexually victimized, or to put the top into a position where he's *technically* in the wrong and giving the bottom power over the top. It could also be a case of a survivor creating a situation to relive abuse, rape, or some kind of non-consensual encounter from their past (very common). In this case a breeding they didn't consent to.

Fuck sluts have needs. 🤷🏻‍♂️

There is some truth in that, I think. I experience being a cumdump as a calling. I won't deny there can be a feeling of compulsion, but I ascribe that to the kind of spiritual and physical ecstasy that comes with men connecting in primal service to each other. It's about servicing the man's needs well, independent of earning his seed in your ass. Perhaps it's different for cum whore cocksuckers.

Producing a fantasy list like this is difficult. Here's the start of mine: In the front of house, kitchen, pantry, and/or cool room, of a Michelin starred restaurant. In the bar and bathrooms of a leather biker bar. Astride a still-warm motorbike parked anywhere. Up against Oscar Wilde's art deco monument in Cimetière du Père-Lachaise, Paris, France on a warm summer evening. In an alleyway in every city I visit. In and around the Sydney Opera House (especially in the wings of the stage in view of the ghost light). In the beds of closeted married Actors and Sportsmen. On the bridge, engine room, and/or ward room of a naval warship. In an FBI building conference room, office, and/or bathroom. In Mission Control at NASA bent over the Flight Director's desk. In an open parking structure at night on a warm car hood/bonnet. In a park in every city I visit. In the UN Assembly Hall on the desk of the country of the breeder's heritage. In the cockpits of commercial fights and military transports. In a powder room at Anna Wintour's main residence. In a sex club in every city I visit. On every piece of furniture, including the Resolute Desk, and the rug with the Presidential Seal in the Oval Office. In the locker room of any rugby club in the Pacific Islands. In the sleeper cab and driver seat of an 18 wheeler. Anywhere @topblkmale thinks I need to fuck.

Numbing or losing feeling sounds like a bad idea, and like the opposite of what you'd want. Don't you want to feel it all? If you want the edge taken off, the CBD oil sounds like the right approach.

The more I think on this, the more another possibility bears considering. If he consented and then only withdrew his consent when you told him you were going to cum, and then you did cum a second later, you have to consider this might have been exactly what he wanted. To create a situation where you can't help but breed him because he left you no time to respond before it was a fait accompli. It's worth considering.

Well said. Every cock deserves a wet mouth and/or ass to cum inside. I'll take a responsive guy with an average dick over a monster dick on an unresponsive guy.

It's pretty rare that I like to have fingers in my hole since it's really made for dick. I have had one or two guys understand exactly how to touch it and make it dilate for dick even more. Most men don't seem to get how very sensitive the soft tissue is. Using their dick, another sensitive piece of anatomy, they tend to be more dialed in on how to please.

"Grooming" is a term used to describe the process used by sexual abusers to manipulate vulnerable minors so they can sexually abuse and rape them. "Closet case" is a pejorative term for people who have not yet felt safe enough to come out. If someone is too afraid to come out, you find a way to support them and connect them to mental health and counseling resources so they can come out when they judge it's safe for them to do so. It seems like some education and compassion for others might be called for.

Although technically *withholding kissing* isn't a sex act, the turned head is a passion destroyer. Someone's gonna have spit and dick and cum in their ass in moments, but they don't want a horny kiss? I think they have the intimacy scale inverted.

I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you, but bottoms with big or pretty dicks get this fairly often, in my experience. This is the reason some bottoms wear jock straps, cages, or both when they hook up to get fucked and bred. It's the same in major urban areas, but I'm sure it's worse as the population around you gets smaller. It might be better to try and find men who are specifically turned on by fucking and breeding big, strong, hung bottoms. They exist, but not as often in smaller populations.

You know your life's purpose is to fuck your seed into every hole you can. Plenty of us bottoms will be here to take that seed when you need us.

I think you're mixing with the wrong men if you're not getting the support and admiration you want/need. I love a grower top and he deserves rewards for getting big. 5 pounds is a lot, but 35 pounds? Fuuuck. Put the energy out there for what you want. I'd love a muscle grower bull top in my life, and I guarantee lots of bottoms are turned on by a top guy getting bigger and stronger.

Already half in position for you?

The poor kidney numbers need you to stop. As a rule, Descovy is a better choice for its lower dose of the med that affects the kidneys. I wonder if the implanted prep medication might be better for you?

Dang, you beat me to it. Raised Catholic in a family filled with vocations, and the eldest son to boot, I was supposed to be a priest. I know more about the politics and tensions in the church than I care to, so watching Conclave was fascinating and familiar. If only the enlightened choice they made could really happen.

I've been there. Only you can decide whether your need for dick and seed balls deep in your cheating hole outweighs the discomfort that might come from getting it. One dominant guy loved fucking me hard until my hole was super tender and sensitive, then he'd tease me with his big dick and encourage me to take him again and fuck through the pain. Every time I came back for another helping of his dick it pleased him greatly. It can be bonding. When I'm really tender switching lubes can make taking yet another dick easier. I always want dick and their seed, it just depends how much I'm craving it and how tender I am. On the other hand, I always find a fresh load in my hole makes me feel better.

Yup, 21 ejaculations a month is optimal for prostate health. I've read the study that reported that finding.

I'm glad you explicitly pointed to the competitive nature of topping for many men. It was a factor in my mind, but I thought I'd said enough in that one post.

I find the sounds of porn stars too inauthentic. Give me a top driving himself and his bottom over the edge and the authentic sounds that generates any day. I'd rather listen to audio only recordings of ordinary guys having a hot fuck than watch porn.

No, but for a guy born in 1964 (the user profile says 1989) Rocco is in his early 60's and hot as ever.

Looks like Rocco Steele.

I don't agree. Service top is another one of those terms that's been conflated with being dominant *and* being submissive. While a service top may be somewhere on the power dynamic spectrum, the litmus test of a service top is one who is focused on the bottom's *pleasure*. I reject the idea that a top who wants to pleasure his bottom is inherently submissive or dominant. Service tops take great pride and satisfaction in their ability to read a bottom and give them a memorable and pleasurable fuck. We don't talk about service bottoms because bottoms are already expected, by their natures, to serve and cater to the pleasure of breeder tops. This is why the idea of dominant bottoms going against that perceived norm melts so many people's brains. The same is true for submissive tops. A submissive top can be motivated by being objectified, used, demeaned, dominated, and controlled without any agency being exerted on giving pleasure at all. Any pleasure for the man using them is a by-product of their obedience and submission to that man's will, and not a first order goal. Language is always in motion, but when words lose the precision or essence of their meaning, the ideas they express become confused or lost completely. Inevitable digression, but perhaps illustrative: The term "side" is a great example. For a long time there was a group of men who didn't identify as top, versatile, or bottom because they didn't have penetrative anal sex - at all. There was a missing term that defined these people that did everything but fuck ass, and Dr Joe Kort came up with "side" to capture it. Today, hook-up apps have implemented "side" as an option along side the top to bottom continuum, but the apps have allowed it to be multiple choice. Today, we have top, bottom, and versatile men who are also sides. As a result, the term "side" has lost has its defining essence of having non-penetrative sex *exclusively*. As a bottom I'm not at all interested in men who don't have penetrative sex, so being able to filter out "side" men potentially has great utility in a hook-up app for people who *want* penetrative anal sex. There's a line of logic that says instead of top, versatile, bottom, and side being thought of as identities that signify activities, they are actually activities themselves. I'm sympathetic to that line of thought up to a point. Where it falls down for me is that it was a missing and unacknowledged sense of identity that Joe Kort was looking to name and allow people to claim that got us here. The crux of the issue is that Dr Kort was looking to capture people who *exclusively* have non-penetrative sex. This was needed because, for everyone else, the non-penetrative sex stuff was already on the table. To borrow and expand on Dan Savage's schtick about oral, the non-penetrative sex stuff "comes standard". Instead of "side" being a useful way for people who *don't do anal and do the other stuff exclusively* to identify themselves to similar folks, everyone who does the other stuff as well as anal is, in my opinion quite erroneously, using it too. As with "side", so it is with terms like "service top" - precision matters or we all end up meaning different things with the same term.