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This is so hot! What turns you on about it: anonymity, the ease of getting fucked bare versus using a condom, the physical sensation of sperm in your ass, or the risk?If you are intent on staying Neg, you can proceed in several ways. Establishing a trusting relationship with a Poz/undetectable or Neg boyfriend who is into role-play is a long-term option. By getting creative, you could stage all kinds of "anonymous" encounters with him. He could meet you to fuck you bare through a glory hole, "rape" you in a parking lot, breed you outdoors, etc. Until Truvada is approved for preventive use in Germany, you could beg your doctor for an "off-label" prescription (it's approved for HIV treatment). Paying for the drug would be a problem (unapproved use = no coverage). Given your age, you could attend university in the US, or come over on an exchange program. With appropriate US health insurance and automatic financial assistance from the drug's manufacturer, Truvada would likely be affordable to you here. In the short term, 1 day of total debauchery followed by 30 days of PEP would let you experiment with being an anonymous bareback bottom. If you choose this option, ask the Grindr top to meet you at a gay sauna, so that there will be other tops to breed you when he is finished. And be sure to inquire about PEP in advance, because it would be easy to postpone seeking treatment, and after two days, it would be too late.

Bottomforsize's story got me hard and set me thinking about an encounter I had in Paris six years ago. I'd sampled different types of bathhouses on that trip, including one for young, hot guys (I had to show my passport for the 35-and-under discount, and I knew I'd never qualify again!); a small, neighborhood-oriented place tucked away discreetly in my favorite part of the city; and finally, a bathhouse for bears and daddies ("nounours" in French = teddy bear, and "homme mûr" = ripe, as in older, man). The steam room in the bear bathhouse was a tiled passage in the shape of an old brick cellar. The tiles were white and there was a bright overhead light, so this was not a dark, private spot. The space was long and narrow, with men crowding the bench that ran along one side. There was no place for me to sit down. As I edged past, I spotted a stereotypical retired French laborer: 60s, wizened but jovial face, stubble, big belly, balding head. I knelt down and started sucking his dick in plain view. I'm a top who also likes to suck, and I've had my share of practice, so I put my best effort into it. He got hard instantly. I don't remember whether he put his hands on my head, but if he did, he was being gentle, not forcing me onto his thick white uncut cock -- which I was sucking willingly, in any case. He came and I swallowed, as I love to do. We didn't exchange a single word, but as I was standing up, he gave me the sweetest smile. I imagined him, going home to a wife who probably didn't find him attractive anymore. I wondered whether she realized that her old husband could still cum in 5 minutes, just like a teenager. I also thought about the other guys in the steam room, some of whom were more conventionally attractive -- younger, thinner, more muscular, etc. I was glad I'd chosen him, and I hope I made him feel as good as he made me feel when his cum was flooding my mouth. Sometimes a person who isn't your type becomes your type.

Since you don't want to become Poz, you can take loads from guys who truly are Neg and from Poz guys who truly have an undetectable viral load (ref: PARTNER study, preliminary results). It's the truthful part that matters here, and this guy clearly isn't honest. Notes -- If you want to take loads with no concern about HIV, get on PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis) if you are in the US. (I'm guessing, from your screen name, that you are in a German-speaking country instead.) Before even thinking about trusting a guy who says he's Neg, ask questions. How recently did he test? What kind of test was it? Among common (antibody) tests, "fourth-generation" ones will tell you that he was Neg as of a month ago. For older tests, the window is longer. What has he done sexually since the start of the window period, not just since the test? If you have a risky exposure or you want to get fucked by this guy even though he is shady, get Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP; the acronym varies from country to country) from a hospital emergency room as soon as possible (not more than 48 to 72 hours) afterward. If you qualify, and start early enough, this will prevent an HIV infection. PEP, a 30-day course of full HIV drug treatment, is standard emergency room care in most developed countries. Find out the sources, criteria and deadline in your country in advance, so that you will be prepared if you cannot resist taking a load.

Hot! It's up to us, as tops, whether to take off the condom, and whether to cum inside. Condom off and sperm inside are always the right answers.

Fuck yeah!

"[T]he 'Our Church Staff' section of St. John's Lutheran Church and School's website described Reverend Matthew Makela as an associate pastor who enjoys, 'family, music, home improvement, gardening and landscaping, and sports.'" A "top" who loves to "cuddle", Pastor Makela enjoys "oral and massage" with men met through Grindr, a smart phone application for homosexuals. He draws the line at homosexual marriage, though, as it would be "sinful" and not "natural" in his, and our church's, view.

The steam room at Steamworks Berkeley is perfect for this. I've sucked and gotten sucked there, and had a few guys literally just sit on my dick until I cum up inside them.The old Central YMCA in San Francisco was the best. Guys would hang a towel under the single, already-dim overhead light. The back wall had tiers, so you could choose where to sit depending whether you wanted to suck or get sucked. A piece of San Francisco gay history was lost forever when the Central Y closed down. Many relationships must have started (and others, ended) in that steam room. The steam room in the gym at Hills Plaza in San Francisco, whatever it was called before it became Crunch Fitness, was great for fucking around with straight, married men. If my ex-husband and I were staying overnight in the City, I'd wake up early Saturday or Sunday morning, buy a day membership, work out, and then suck or get sucked in the steam room, all in time to walk back to the hotel with breakfast for my sleepy, unsuspecting hubby.

Hot! Sounds like an experience I had many years ago at the San Vicente Inn in West Hollywood. The guy came on to me in at night in the otherwise deserted pool, he gave me a blowjob in the hot tub, and then I fucked him in the little cabaña that housed the hot tub. His BF was asleep in their room.

Your body is great just the way it is. Embrace it! My weight has fluctuated over the years, I no longer shave my body hair, and I can say objectively that none of this has made any difference in terms of how many guys I fuck, or how pleasurable each fuck is. It's funny, because when I was younger, I always preferred older men (except my ex-husband, obviously a mistake), and these days I seem to meet guys around age 25. As for posting a successful ad, the only rules are to show and describe yourself accurately, and to ask for what you actually want. If you're shy about showing your whole body right away, use an ass shot (BBRTS), underwear shot (allowed on most apps) or a face shot as a public pic, and then unlock or send more pics after a guy has expressed tentative interest. Just be sure that your verbal description and stats are honest. You're hairy, so say so! As for saying what you want, if you want a 20-year-old Poz muscle twink to impregnate you, say so. He is out there! If you want a slow, passionate breeding by a gentleman, say so. He has his fireplace going and is just waiting for you! If you want to be pushed up against the wall of a deserted warehouse, choked, and forced to take an anonymous load, say so. Your sadistic top is stroking his dick and dripping precum as we speak. I used to (except on BBRTS) avoid saying that I fuck bare. Now that I say so openly (or use strong innuendo, in apps that censor bareback references), I am contacted by lots of other bareback pigs in my neighborhood, as well as good boys who are curious about the dark side. One thing to avoid is negative statements in your profile. See if you can achieve the same result affirmatively, or just by screening. There is no need to put "no Asians", "Latinos to the front of the [proverbial] line", "Don't woof at me [on Growlr, an app. you should try]", "Don't say 'Sup?", or "Don't send nudes or cock pics". The psychological effect is like walking into a restaurant and seeing "Restroom for customers only" or "No checks accepted" on the door, instead of a welcome message or a glowing review reprint. If very specific criteria really matter, you can always respond "No thanks" after the fact. Expect some rejections, and just move on to the next profile. The more people you contact, the more compatible ones you will find.

If I make an agreement like that, it's just to make the bottom feel comfortable -- certainly not a binding agreement.Four years ago, I met a guy who was visiting. We fell in love but had only two nights together before he returned to Hong Kong, so we had to do a lot in a short time. Things progressed from a proper date, and messing around in the laundry room of the friend's apartment building where he was staying, to fucking several times at my place the next night. For our first fuck, I put condoms right next to us and said I just wanted to tease his hole with my bare dick. He was a good boy, and really nervous about barebacking. "Just the tip" inevitably led to penetration, which led to fucking. Several times I told him to stop me whenever he wanted, and unroll a condom onto my dick. When we realized that we were not going to stop, he asked me to pull out before cumming. I had already coated his hole with precum, because he turned me on so much. I was so tempted to let my load go inside him, but I wanted to fuck him more, so I summoned the last bit of will-power I had and did pull out. I remember thinking, in that moment, "Now I understand what straight men go through, when the temptation is so great but the consequences are so serious." I became much more understanding of people with unplanned pregnancies. In our case, obviously we would not have made a baby, but I might have lost the trust of a guy I cared about. He cuddled up and we talked for a while. When I was ready to fuck him again, I told him, "This time I am not considering a condom and I am not pulling out." He trusted me and I got my wish, so I think I made the right decision the first time.

The City does have high treatment and PrEP rates, but it also has a small population (about 800,000 people in the City proper), high HIV prevalence and a particularly active sex scene, mostly bareback (as it should be!).Locally, the infection rate is considered high. It would be interesting to compare infection rates in other cities, and to assess whether the variations stem from different levels of sexual activity and barebacking, or different health initiatives. Increases in infections among youths and people color are worrisome. As a top on PrEP, I like to help with outreach by inseminating bottoms. It's a serious responsibility. :-)

I guess I can't separate the two. All these pics of hot bottom guys and stories about their sexual exploits make me want to meet and inseminate them!

DC is fun but there is a bit too much civil service (inhibited) and "married, play together" (not totally liberated) action there, compared to New York.

To the extent that there is membership overlap between Breeding Zone and BBRTS (hint!), I've met up with a few local Breeding Zone members over the past few years.

I'm posting this one level above the PrEP subforum and the HIV risk reduction subforum, because it also implicates testing and (prompt) treatment, and highlights community-level initiatives. Please move if necessary. From the July 7, 2015 San Francisco Examiner: "New HIV infections and deaths of HIV-infected people in [san Francisco] dropped more than 17 percent from 2013 to 2014, according to the Department of Public Health. There were 302 new HIV diagnoses last year, and 177 deaths of HIV-infected people, according to the department. That's down from 371 and 209, respectively, the year before. "Since the HIV/AIDS epidemic began in the 1980s, those numbers are the lowest ever recorded [...] "The most telling statistic may be this: Since 2012, when the drug Truvada was approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration as an HIV/AIDS prevention drug, new infections have dropped by 30 percent [...] "In addition to increasing awareness and access to PreP [sic] as a prevention tool, public health officials tout the wide availability of HIV/AIDS testing and rapid access to antiretroviral treatment via UC San Francisco as key to the significant drop in new infections." www.sfexaminer.com/sf-records-all-time-low-in-hiv-infections-deaths Here are some of the unique initiatives and conditions in San Francisco that help make this possible: • Well-funded public health system, including clinics and hospital • Shame-free City Clinic offering STI testing and treatment, rapid initiation of anti-retroviral therapy in newly-diagnosed HIV patients, and counselors to help PrEP patients tap their insurance plans and Gilead's assistance programs • Pooled PCR RNA HIV viral load testing standard in public health facilities. Patients with risky exposures receive a test that tells them several weeks sooner whether they have HIV. Pooling (some blood from every patient is mixed, and only if this pool tests positive are the samples tested individually) reduces cost. • Rapid HIV antibody tests standard in public health facilities, for routine (no recent risky exposure) testing. No risk that patients will fail to return for results. • Immediate microscopy performed on urine and discharge samples, at City Clinic, when symptoms indicate an STI. No risk that patients will fail to return for antibiotics. (HIV transmission is more likely when other STIs are present.) • Provision of antibiotic "partner packs" and instructions, consistent with Centers for Disease Control guidelines, when an STI is diagnosed. Reaches sex partners who might not have access to health care. • Well-organized HIV care module and PrEP program from the largest private medical provider and insurer, Kaiser Permanente Despite all these measures, almost every day someone still gets HIV, and almost every other day, someone still dies of it, in San Francisco. If your local community lacks some of these measures, speak up!

Time of day and day of week matter a lot. In my experience, there is action just after work (5-7 PM) on weekdays, early Saturday and Sunday mornings after the bars close (2 AM- ), and on Sunday afternoons. If you want to get fucked bare by a lot of guys, without a full dom/sub scene (though you could still have your dom present, whoring you out and telling you what to do), I would recommend Folsom Gulch, a glory hole place in San Francisco. It is busy at the times mentioned, but also at lunch on weekdays, and in the evening on Friday and Saturday.

Thank you, bearbandit! I too was familiar with the 72-hour guideline, which is observed in the US. I'm glad I had an occasion to look up a different country's rules. And bravo to France for having an excellent PEP regulation! The country implemented PEP for non-occupational exposures a long time ago, and removed any uncertainty about payment (for its own citizens, at least).

On the contrary, the regular STI testing that doctors are supposed to order with PrEP helps PrEP users to detect and seek treatment quickly for this minor inconvenience. Anal chlamydia is often asymptomatic for bottoms, and due to shame or anonymity, the tops -- who are more likely to notice penile chlamydia -- aren't likely to notify their bottoms, either. Men without the regular medical attention that comes with being on PrEP (or being Poz and in treatment) are likely to go quite some time before addressing miscellaneous STIs. Someone once told me about a guy who never intends to break tax laws, but believes that, if the (U.S.) Internal Revenue Service doesn't audit him, he has left money on the table. So it is with sex: if you don't get the occasional STI, you aren't having enough sex!

Just a PSA, which I mention often because the standard of care varies so much by location and venue (gay-friendly, competent, and resource-rich or not):Always insist on a 4th-generation HIV antibody test. This reduces the detection window to under 4 weeks. If you are afraid after a risky exposure, insist on a PCR RNA HIV viral load test, typically a "qualitative" (present/not present) rather than "quantitative" (how many copies of HIV?) one, although quantitative tests are increasingly sensitive. This will tell you within as few as 10 days after exposure. This reduces worry, and the information could save yours and your sex partners' lives. The sooner you know, the sooner you can avoid transmitting the virus and the sooner you can begin treatment, minimizing damage to your immune system (if treatment and not transmitting are your goals). In public health facilities in San Francisco, this is the standard of care and you could leave with an anti-retroviral prescription the very same day you get a positive test result.

I thought I'd post this publicly, for the benefit of other readers. PEP, called Traitement post-exposition or TPE in French, is widely available in France. The French standard is 4 to 48 hours after exposure, and non-occupational exposures are acceptable. During business hours, some clinics offer TPE; otherwise, any hospital emergency room does. The protocol in France is an evaluation, a 2-to-3-day prescription, another evaluation, and then a 28-day prescription. By law there is no cost to French and EU citizens, but you would have to inquire about the cost to foreign visitors, which could be substantial and might or might not be reimbursed by your regular or travel-related health insurance plan. Here are some articles, which you can translate via Google Translate (I speak French and would be happy to resolve any ambiguities): Detailed explanation with hotline number: http://www.corevih-idfnord.fr/risque-de-transmission-du-vih-que-faire-en-cas-d-urgence/ Popular press article: http://www.lexpress.fr/actualite/societe/sante/sida-vih-le-traitement-post-exposition-tpe-comment-ca-marche_1504804.html Government regulation: http://www.sante.gouv.fr/fichiers/bo/2003/03-23/a0231611.htm

Another strategy, albeit not ideal, would be to enjoy a few bareback orgies in Paris and immediately avail yourself of PEP. Post-Exposure Prophylaxis is a 30-day course of a full HIV drug regimen, and is effective in preventing infection if started within 72 hours of exposure. It is an international standard in emergency room medicine, although if you were relying on it you'd want to verify availability at a specific French hospital, coverage/payment terms, and the risk that your medication would be seized by customs when you returned home. Unlike PrEP (as currently approved in the US and pending approval in some other countries), PEP entails a choice of HIV drugs. To avoid resistance issues, US guidelines recommend choosing the drugs based on the regimen of the positive sex partner, if known, but that obviously wouldn't be possible with multiple, anonymous partners.

The research -- particularly the iPrEx-OLE study -- is in your favor. Take Truvada daily and you are protected. Be sure that you have been vaccinated for Hepatitis A and B. The HPV vaccine can't hurt, either, though it is most effective in people who have never been exposed (i.e., have never had sex before). On a separate note, asking for testing paperwork is not a useful protection strategy. Paperwork would be easy to falsify. Even if it is honest, you might not know the type of HIV antibody test actually performed (4th-generation tests detect antibodies within weeks of infection, whereas older tests take months) and you cannot know the person's sexual behavior during the window period or since the test. Paradoxically, a positive top with an undetectable viral load could be the safest possible partner. (Preliminary results from the first two years of the PARTNER study show no transmission by people with an undetectable viral load in the last quarterly test, to their negative partners, even without condoms or PrEP.) A negative top could well have been infected before or after his last test, and since he wouldn't know it, he wouldn't be in treatment and could have a very high viral load.

I topped bare and also swallowed loads before PrEP, and I do both even more freely, after 2 years on PrEP. I've had no noticeable side effects. In terms of miscellaneous STIs, I am required to test quarterly at this point (and the FDA and CDC guidelines for Truvada for PrEP call for this) but I've kept up my initial testing schedule, which was monthly. Not surprisingly, I've found fewer exposures when meeting individuals (e.g. through an app.) than when going to a public sex environment like a glory hole place, and also fewer exposures in suburban areas than in San Francisco proper. I talk up PrEP to any Neg or unknown-status bottom I fuck.

I bred a medical resident while I was on a trip a few weeks ago. He was nearby, and approached me on Grindr with "I want to suck your cock." Five minutes later he was in my hotel room. He was on his knees sucking me, when I motioned him toward the bed. He knew the right position -- flat on his stomach, ass up. I spat, pushed in, held him close, and we kissed as I pounded him. I told him I was about to cum, and he just said, "Breed me!" While we were making out afterward, we exchanged names and he told me he was a medical resident.

Get PrEP from KP San Francisco rather than South San Francisco. It is worth the trip. You will find a world of difference. The suburban Kaiser medical offices lack the volume and thus the experience -- if not also the competence -- to serve GLBT patients. Trust me on that one.If you really want to deal with SSF, have their ID doctor call Dr. Robert Grant at UCSF. I heard him speak last December, and he mentioned great success in briefly stopping Truvada in patients with poor kidney results, and then resuming it. The fact that the KP SSF doctor cited IPERGAY (results released this spring) as evidence for less-than-daily dosing is worrisome. This person might not be current on her reading. The conclusion that 4 pills per week are protective in men was reached over a year ago, in the iPrEx-OLE trial. (For other potential readers: new evidence shows much less forgiving results in women.)