BlackDude
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Unpopular Opinion Coming: Not aimed at this poster in particular, because I don’t know him, but if we really want to help with the racism problem online and in the “gay community,” we need to call it all out, not just when inhibits sexual and social access to white guys. Unfortunately, many (a lot them born in the US) Latino, Asian and middle eastern gay men only see themselves as a minority when the white guy doesn’t want to have sex with them or they are not invited to the dinner party. Any other time, They are telling themselves they have some honorary white or buffer class status and will participate, deflect or even defend racist activities. I’ve said it many times: most of the racism I have experienced in the gay community has been from these groups. Some will do, listen to, say or put up with anything to be with a white guy. And we wonder why some of these dudes are so bold about it? As a whole, Black, white, Asian and Latino and other men really need to stop pumping up these racists guys egos. I mean look at the post a few months back about the guy in the capital riot. You had a lot of dudes online still putting on the cape for this guy, ready to fuck. (including Asians and latinos). In regards to this post, I would laugh it off. A lot of folks have deep seeded issues about their own viability (I.e. they ain’t all that) and I wouldn’t be surprised in five years if he contacted you trying to fuck. We had a bartender in our city who was known for appropriating elements of black culture. He was “white only” of course and made no bones about it online. Well now that the bartending job, the six pack abs and the downtown apartment is gone, but the bad habits are still there, guess who hits me up online years later?! Hilarious. Nothing reverses the racist thoughts of some gay men like time.
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I find A4A in my town full of snobby, middle age queens, Who haven’t changed their picture in five or ten years, still looking for the perfect 10. You won’t get a response from anyone unless they are over 50 (which I don’t mind). I’m on prep now, let them keep looking.
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Here we go again...this will be fun.....
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Hard to say without more info. Sometimes we can build up a moment so much in our mind, we get anxiety when it finally happens.
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Help me be an anon cum dump for the first time in SF
BlackDude replied to bb-btm's topic in General Discussion
I would suggest you have a door man there (trusted or friend) to take care of any riffraff If you just want to put your room number out there. Usually if there’s any tops there they will take care of it but you never know -
The problem with the amateur guys is they can’t create a scene with 15-20 horny men ready to breed, fuck and felch.
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I have to admit I’m a quiet top and have to remember to talk. Think it’s because I learned having sex in places I wasn’t suppose to, so I had to be quiet, quick and discreet.
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Thanks man, great description. So it’s basically his network of tops in the LA area that gives him some sort of status....
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I agree with this 100%. A straight guy can call a girl of any age “momma” but it’s more of a term of endearment not necessarily something financial.
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That when I ask “ass?” If it’s not to my liking, I block. Two can play that game...
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Do you still cum in a bottom who asks you to pull out?
BlackDude replied to blktone67's topic in General Discussion
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Eros has always been fun! It’s right their on that nice convenient corner too. I didn’t see that the Folsom Gultch opened back up tho
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I was just speaking for someone who is still not fully out and waiting along time to fully admit my sexuality. I get none of the full benefits of either lifestyle. I would be great two have double the income, but me myself, I just couldn’t do that to a woman (as biter as I am toward them haha) unless it was discussed and arranged ahead of time. I missed out on a lot of fun times and hit guys because of my refusal to fully out. I don’t ask for any sympathy and I know no one feels sorry for me.
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Not really a direct answer to your question, but there used to be a guy in my city who would do the whole unlocked hotel thing. The hotel rooms were facing outside. One time we were in there tag teaming him and you could hear the kids playing outside. We were being pretty loud, it was crazy because in the back of my mind I was wondering if one of the kids open the door. But we were too horny to really care. ha ha
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I think condemn is to strong of a word, since I don’t disapprove of anything he does, just trying to understand. As a matter of fact, I think I handled it very well giving the level of disrespect. I had a family member who lived in San Francisco in the early 90s and died very quickly of the aids virus. I was determined that that would not be my fate, and it took me years to decide to bareback, but I was never rude or judge mental towards those who wanted to live their life. I think I can tell you have most men would respond to a message from a 60-year-old guy who is not willing to pay and it wasn’t how I responded.
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If I was ageist, I wouldn’t have responded to his message. Funny how you accuse me of being ageist, but him of only being impolite. But moving right along.... No one is arguing his right to choose, no one is trying to “force” him have sex but this is an open forum where we can bring topics for discussion and people give their opinion. I was simply sharing my experience to ask others to give an additional perspective.
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All those could be true. But then why say “that’s why I’m 60 and I’m still neg!”? No, you’re saying That and because you were telling yourself you are better than the other gays because you secretly have distain and resent them living and doing what they wanna do. You more than likely wasted your “prime years” pretending you are straight or being one of these “hotter than thou” gays. You are full of regret, in denial, and projecting that onto others. Like I said, I get condom use. I just started BB in the last few years. I’m just saying, don’t act all high and mighty.
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I get it with younger guys. But at 60? Like a previous poster said: you’re gonna die of something.
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So this guy hits me up in A4A and he’s 60. Ok shape still, no problem, I tell him I’m looking to breed. Then he responds something like “I always play safe, that’s why I’m negative and 60!” I respond something like “I’m neg too, always played safe, now on prep.” He responds “no thanks, not looking to take a load from a guy on Prep! Sorry!” So I said “no problem, enjoy being neg. I am, and will continue to be on prep!” Then he sends me some wise ass answer back. I blocked him. My point is dude your 60! And still bragging about being negative, and missing out of fucking for what? What are you waiting for?! Then you’ll be 65, then 70, then 75 still talking about “yeah I’m still neg!”. Ok, what did you win? This isn’t even really about Prep I guess, but at some point don’t u just let loose and enjoy life? I’m all for safe play, hell I still use condoms sometimes if it makes the dude comfortable. Just say “safe only” and leave it a that. Sorry, rant over!
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He wasted his own prime pretending he was straight. No judging, because I did the same. Nothing like that ticking clock to give you a little courage. Just saying, The older I get the less sympathy I feel for these guys. A lot of them have had plenty of time and chances to fool around, but like most gays, they are holding out for the perfect guy and opportunity. Case in point, In my town we have some Married guy who has been cruising and going to the gay sauna is for years. He still playing that “I am still just a DL married guy trying to figure it out, I only wanna jack off, I still watch straight porn” schtick (unless of course you’re a 25 year old jock) Dude if you’re cruising or in the sauna is five times a week you’re gay sorry. Don’t be “hotter than thou” straight guy for 30 years, then give some sob story. Sorry, rant over!
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Although I don’t agree with everything you said, I like the sentiment. Most of us, for no other reason then ego, like to think that we are so different and special. Though it’s clear everyone is unique, I like the sentiment that a lot of us have more in common than we think we do. Maybe if we acknowledge that the “gay community” wouldn’t be so nasty and divisive as it is now.
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Oh one more: a younger Rob Zombie with no makeup. Don’t judge me!
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What?! Wow I never knew that all these years. Guess my instincts do work sometimes!
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In the James Bond movie, their was this Russian computer nerd/villain Boris. He was suppose to be the skinny, dorky and clumsy with women, but I’ve always pictured him as a guy that would have a 10-12 inch dick that’s I’d totally suck off, then rail. Ironically enough his name is Allan Cumming. Nerds have the best cock.
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I’ve never bottomed. But first guy I topped was a week before my birthday in my late 20s. I was lying to myself saying as long as I didn’t fuck guys, I’m still “experimenting.” He was Latino and invited me over for head with his BF, and I said fuck it, I’m gay. His ads looked so good and he was so cute. I finally owned it, and fucked him. Invited me back a week later, without his BF knowing. He came home while we were fucking and it got awkward. I always regretted I waited so long and wasted so much time, but things happen for a reason.
