PhoenixGeoff

Hey pigs, looks like I might be stuck in DFW over the weekend. Looking into possibly renting a car to get around, but interested in hearing about good places for bareback pigs to hang out. Post any recommendations here. Also looking for guys to hang out and fuck around with if the right chemistry's there. Shoot me a message.

I always preferred older guys when I was younger. I remember being in my early twenties, in the military (and so with a much hotter body) and working up my courage to approach a hot bear in his forties in a bar (which is how cruising used to work before the internet) and not understanding why I would get shot down. Now I understand lol. I'm 40 now and still go for guys in my age range (it's kind of odd thinking of the woofy thirty-somethings as younger than me now), plus my upper limit has definitely increased as I've aged, which bodes well for the future. I've still never gotten any taste at all for the young, skinny, hairless twinks, but that's OK since most of them would no doubt consider me a fat old troll. There are a few hot cubs out there in their twenties and I've even fucked around with some of them. Thank goodness facial hair is much more in style now than it was in the early '90s! But yeah...still go for the looks and experience and general overall pigginess of older guys. We're more often than not a hell of a good time with none of the attitude!

Any health care provider that's being judgmental is a health care provider I'd dump right fucking now. I'm paying them to provide me with medical advice and with treatment. Not moral judgments. Frankly, it's none of their business. However, it sounds like the biggest problem is in your head. Ask yourself why you feel ashamed. Do you feel ashamed if you need treatment for the flu or pneumonia if you skipped your flu shot? Should a rock climber who falls and breaks his arm feel ashamed when he goes in to get it set? Should you feel shame because you travel abroad and forget not to drink the water and get a stomach virus? Of course not. People engage in risky behavior all the time and seek out treatment to help deal with the consequences without any moral judgment at all. But with sex, and especially gay sex, of course it's different. Lots of people want you to be ashamed of being gay, of having sex with other men, of barebacking and having multiple sex partners. It's none of their business; they're the ones who have the problem and they're pushing it off on you. You're an adult. You're entitled to make your own decisions about your medical treatment and the risks you're willing to take, and you shouldn't feel any shame whatsoever about those decisions. Now, you may decide that dealing with the STDs is something you no longer want to put up with. That's legitimate. It's like deciding you no longer want to work in construction because of the potential for injury. But don't let anyone shame you into that decision. A virus is a virus is a virus, and a bacterium is a bacterium is a bacterium, no matter if you get it from a doorknob or a load in your ass. There's no moral dimension to contracting an STD or treating it.

My sex life didn't change much, aside from some neg guys now brush me off whereas before some poz guys did. My personal opinion is that the really wild and slutty (i.e. fun) men are the most likely to get HIV. We're more likely to judge that the risks of infection are worth hot sex, whereas less sexually-oriented guys are more likely to take a more cautious (and boring) approach to sex. Now, I won't deny that HIV has a certain liberating effect, but on balance, I think most of us were perverts first and poz as a result of that. I think it's also worth remembering that, much as we'd like all men to be like us, we are the cream of the crop (or is that cock?) when it comes to sexual activity. A lot of gay guys are kinda shocked by how hypersexual guys like us can be. I'm routinely surprised by how little sex many gay men have. And of course, straight guys are in a totally different world from us. Many of them have fewer sexual partners in their lives than we do in a single decent night. So it's really hardly surprising that the piggy guys end up poz. We have more sex with more men more often and engage in more risky behavior.

Easy there hoss. Not everyone has the same fetishes and fantasies (and what a boring world it would be if we did!) Assuming all of this is true, there's no way you can act quickly enough to prevent the virus from making the jump from the top's cum to your bloodstream. As others have said, HIV dies very rapidly outside of its preferred environment, which is why it's generally only transmitted sexually. Even the rectum isn't really a hospitable environment for the virus, but its closer than most, and usually offers easy pathways to the bloodstream via tears in the wall caused during sex. Deliberate stealthing probably does happen, but it's almost certainly extremely rare. Any stealther with any brains is highly unlikely to be posting about it here because it's basically would be a public admission to the commission of a crime in most jurisdictions. It's basically a variant on a lot of the scary urban legends that were circulating back when the AIDS panic was at its height. It's since been taken up by people who find it hot as a fantasy (most of them tweakers, I'd guess, who lack either the true willingness or ability to actually follow through). Far more dangerous: people who are poz but who don't know it. They'll claim to be neg, and be very convincing because they believe themselves to be neg (so in that sense they aren't really lying). Back when I was transitioning to all-out barebacking, I'd do silly things like secretly look through people's medicine cabinets for HIV meds after we'd had sex in order to see if they were poz or not. I never found anything, which was stupidly reassuring. Basically, I wanted to bareback but didn't particularly want HIV but was too stupid to actually take the reasonable step of talking things over in advance. Here's what I suggest you do: first, look at the overall risks of getting bred and how many times you have sex (each additional load you take up your ass increases your cumulative risk of contracting HIV). Consider if the benefits of the sex outweigh the risks of HIV and if not, stop barebacking. Ask in advance if your partner's poz or neg, and when his last test was (and volunteer the same info on yourself) but understand that that just slightly reduces the risk. As others said, consider PrEP, now that it's been approved.

Variety is the spice of life. Why not get multiple guys and have both? Honestly, I've had both kinds of tops and I've been both kinds of tops. So basically, my answer would have to be, it depends on my mood and my partner.

Hey guys, Looks like I might end up with a free day or two in the Atlanta area, depending on how things go with my next delivery. It's been many years since my last visit and I'd love to enjoy the hospitality of the city again. So can anyone post the best places to hit for a piggy barebacker? Sex clubs, baths, bars, sleazy places generally. Alternatively, if anyone's interested in getting together and hanging out, maybe having a little party, that'd be great too. Here are my difficulties: 1) Most likely, I'll be in town and available to check things out Monday and/or Tuesday, which are often dead nights (but maybe a local bath has a good special going?) 2) I'll be parking my truck in a secure location, most likely the TA on the east side of the city close to where I-20 and I-285 cross. Which also means that my options for transportation are either (a) public transit ( cabs or © renting a car for a day or so. I'm assuming car rentals (or maybe cabs) are most expensive, and I have no problems with using transit if it's safe, reliable, reasonably fast and gets me where I want to go. (I suppose there's also (d) someone willing to pick me up, for which I'll gladly trade gas money and sexual favors but I wouldn't want to impose ) Any help or advice would be most appreciated! And anyone interested in hooking up while I'm there, please get in touch.

Quick note: I plan on being at CCBC for the Bears of LA event being held the weekend of September 14. Depending on how my dispatching works out, I may be there a day or two earlier. My truck will be parked nearby, adding to opportunities for play there too (anyone want to shoot some porn in it? ) I don't check this site much from the road, but those interested in hooking up can reach me through BBRT. I'm TheOpenRoad there. I will post ads there and on craigslist as well. Or just show up. I'm probably going to be bottoming more, for the simple reason that my body can only produce so much cum to fire into a hot ass, whereas my capacity to take loads seems pretty unlimited. But I'll definitely be in a mood to play! Any locals aware of any sex parties or events I should attend? Particularly those a little more on the wild side? I'll basically be getting as piggy as I can the whole weekend, and looking to maximize my chances of getting laid ;-) I will have some leather with me if there's any interest for that. Please note that I'll most likely need some help getting around town and back to the resort. Thanks and here's hoping I can meet some of you hot pigs!

When I first tested poz, I waited a year to adjust to the news before starting treatment, even though the doctors wanted me to. Even though I expected it at some point, the diagnosis at that particular point was more of a shock than it should have been. In retrospect, waiting was the right decision. I really wasn't ready for treatment. At first, because I had no insurance, I signed up for a study looking for ways to reduce the side effects of Viracept. Viracept is a protease inhibitor with difficult GI side effects. The CDC, for this reason, calls it a second line medication (it does attack protease in HIV in a unique way so is effective even if you are resistant to other PIs). Basically, more or less permanent low-grade nausea and diarrhea. Both were fine on any given day, but the cumulative effect of the side effects day after day after day wore me down and eventually led me to start missing doses. I'm now resistant to Viracept (but neither of the other two meds I was on, thank goodness). My current regimen includes Sustiva, which has some fairly well known mental effects. Taken with a high fat meal, it can make me kind of slow and dopey and icky feeling for an hour or two. They usually recommend that you have it before bed instead. Taken that way, I occasionally get insomnia, and lately I've been getting those very intense dreams some people talk about. The moral of my story would be to objectively assess your side effects and report them to your doctor. Don't try to tough it out. Be realistic about what you can and can't adjust to. Also listen to what your doctor tells you. Often the side effects start out strong and then fade considerably over a month or two (that happened with Sustiva for me, but not Viracept). In short, be actively involved with your treatment. Your doctor is there to advise you and inform you about treatment options, but the ultimate decisions are always yours. You need to do what's needed to make sure they're properly informed.

Yeah I've gotten some dirty looks from guys after having someone climb up in my truck, and have some dirty, loud, nasty, cab rockin' sex. I usually chalk it up to jealousy.

A lot depends on the country you'd be planning on visiting or living in. I've lived in Canada and have friends in the UK. Most developed countries have universal health coverage of some kind, but they also restrict access to citizens and (in some cases) some permanent residents. Coverage for tourists would generally be nonexistent; I've actually got a stamp in my passport from a trip to the UK which says "Not eligible for health benefits". My suggestion, if you're considering emigration, would be to contact the consulate or embassy of the nation and ask for information. Alternatively, if you're being sent overseas for work purposes, your HR department should be able to help you.

I'll also point out, that by the time you do change your mind, you may have lost a lot of your quality of life permanently. I'm talking level of energy, ability to work, looks, everything. And the meds may not bring that back. Take it from someone who was around before the cocktails, AIDS is an ugly, ugly disease. I have a really hard time thinking of worse ways to die. For once, listen to your elders. We were there. We remember. It scarred us. You do not want to go through this.

OK, so I'm back in town for a couple days after a few weeks out on the road. Some hot experiences! Not as many as I'd like, but some great quality. May post about those later. Meanwhile, anyone care to admit to being a fan of sex with truck drivers? I'll admit, being around other drivers, actually being one myself was and is a turn-on for me and one reason I decided to take the leap into this line of work. And the cool thing is that many drivers seem a lot more comfortable having sex with other drivers, so I've had more drivers in the last few weeks than in the previous several years. Anyone else into swapping loads with truckers? (Incidentally, I do keep an eye out for guys to invite to hop in my sleeper while I'm on the road. Message me and I'll try to hook you up if and when I'm in your town. Otherwise, my advice on cruising for truckers is here.)

Today's your lucky day! "I'll agree to the fisting, but I'd really like to claim your ass" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYiE2V4IUSI&feature=youtu.be

Well, the other factor I didn't mention is that Americans generally run to the large end these days. I just saw stats that said half of Coloradans are either overweight or obese and we're one of the fittest states in the country. OP didn't say where he was, nor do you, but it's quite possible that you both live in a part of the country where guys generally are heavier. That being said, I cruise around all over the country. And most major cities at least seem to usually have a fairly wide variety of guys. So maybe geography has something to do with it. And it's also possible that guys who do spend a lot of time in the gym and watch their diet carefully are generally more health-conscious. In which case they may be less inclined to bareback due to the risks involved.

A couple things to keep in mind: Many people come to barebacking a little later in life. Many also become more uninhibited a little later on. Lipodystrophy related to HIV treatment sometimes makes fat reduction a little more difficult, especially around some problem areas like the gut.

I think only if I appeared in a video of theirs. Otherwise, to me it would seem a bit like wearing a medal you weren't entitled to.

Some interesting responses. So let me ask this, framing the discussion in terms of positive duties that we owe to each other: If I'm HIV-, do I have the positive duty to explicitly ask a potential partner if he's positive or not? Or to disclose my own status, as far as I am aware of it? Do I have a positive duty to not bury my head in the sand, but to be tested regularly, so my information is up-to-date? If I'm HIV+, do I have the positive duty to volunteer my status without being prompted? And do I have the duty to take proper care of my health, including taking steps to reduce my viral load to undetectable levels before barebacking? And should serosorting be considered a right (that someone who's HIV+ may or may not choose to exercise depending on personal morals) or an obligation (regardless of the expressed desires of the HIV- party)? And for anyone considering engaging in gay sex, do I have the positive duty to inform myself about the risks before getting involved? And in the context of the discussion, should we consider the impact to the broader community (for instance, insurance, whether private or public, does end up covering the costs of HIV treatment in almost all cases)? Or just limit consideration to the personal impact on those directly involved?

I'd sit back and look seriously at why you want to have sex and why you want to try these pretty hard drugs. People in stable, dare I say conservative situations, with a good partner, nice living arrangements, decent job (or at least job prospects) might often find themselves asking if they aren't missing out on life by not living a life of sex, drugs and rock and roll. They might look at some of the people posting here about their sexual escapades (some of them drug-fueled) and wonder if they aren't perhaps missing out on something important. What this is, I think, is an expression of the old adage, "the grass is always greener on the other side." It appears to be a commonality among all people that, no matter what our resources, our desires will always outstrip our abilities. There's always the feeling that we're somehow missing out, that perhaps giving in to this one desire will make us happy (and then the next, and then the next). I can assure you that there are plenty of people who have the fast life you seem to admire who might very well envy you the position that you have now. Perhaps I'm becoming a bit of an Epicurean (in the classical, not the modern sense) in my old age, but it seems to me that the fleeting pleasures you are considering chasing will only bring happiness that you can lose in the fullness of time. Right now, it's the novelty that appeals, underneath whatever actual pleasures there may be in sex or drugs. But novelty by its very nature cannot last and is the worst possible foundation to build your happiness on. The question of where to find true and lasting happiness in life is a very old one and one that has never really been answered to anyone's satisfaction. But I think you might benefit from considering the question yourself for a little bit before deciding to act on these impulses.

I know a lot of the thrill of barebacking comes from both the risk, particularly of HIV, and the transgression of cultural taboos (against promiscuity, condom use, etc.) I see all kinds of posts here celebrating activities that many would consider dangerous, scary, predatory, or just plain wrong. Sometimes, even legal boundaries are flirted with (stealthing when you're HIV+ can potentially get you thrown in prison). Everybody here pretty obviously doesn't subscribe to the mainstream codes of conduct (which arguably still has problems with gay sex generally). But that doesn't mean that we don't come up with our own, personal standards of what's right and what's wrong to do. I'm curious to hear how your conscience guides your actions with respect to sexual activity, barebacking and HIV and other STDs. What must you do and what won't you do as a matter of personal morals?

Long haul (or OTR: Over The Road) truck drivers are one of those iconic masculine gay sex figures, like bikers, cops or military men. They're blue collar guys who spend long stretches away from home, making them sexually frustrated enough to try sex with guys. Or that's how it works in the pornos. Much like the police or the military, there have always been gay truckers, but they've often felt the need to be very discreet. A lot of people in the industry come from rural or small town conservative backgrounds. So it's generally easier for gay and bi drivers to keep things on the downlow and not make waves. And that can make it challenging for outsiders who'd like to get into the sleeper berth and the pants of a trucker. So here are some tips and things to consider: Cruising For Truckers Growlr and Scruff. Your best bet is to get an Android or iPhone smartphone so you can use these apps (Grindr is much less popular with drivers). Many if not most gay and bi drivers will cruise here because of how easy it is to locate potential hookups near your current location. This is also by far the safest method of cruising. Other cruising sites. These are of less value because updating location information is usually a hassle. BBRT works great for people who travel once or twice a year. It's not so good for people who are in a different place every night. Still, you will run into some drivers who use regular sites, especially if they're for a specialized kink. Some truckers do also post Craigslist ads if they know they're going to be parking in a particular city for a bit. CB Radio. This is the traditional cruising method unique to truckers and their fans. The problem is that CB is an open broadcast, meaning that your conversations are insecure. You don't know who's listening. And while only bi and gay truckers are using gay apps, all truckers know what a "good buddy" is and how they operate on the CB. So be cautious when arranging a hookup this way. Arcades and Porn Theaters. In many parts of the US, you'll find adult stores in the middle of nowhere right off the interstate highway. Likewise, it's reasonably common to find them within walking distance of a truck stop. Most have parking for semis available. Cruise there as you normally would (i.e. as long as your spending money and not having sex out in the open, you're probably fine). It's often easier to hook up with a trucker in the arcade and then get invited to hop in his sleeper. Rest Area Cruising. Nowhere near as prevalent as it used to be, due to increased security and law enforcement. Be extremely subtle, have a good reason to be hanging out in the rest area and do not engage in public sex. Climb in the cab instead. Truck Stop Cruising. Also problematic, due to heightened security and lots of activity around the clock. Basically, you need to resurrect the lost art of cruising. Look like you fit in. Make and hold eye contact. Strike up a conversation. If you're lucky, you'll get an invitation into the cab. Never ever knock on the door of a truck without prior arrangements. Restroom cruising. In the wake of Larry Craig, everyone knows what tapping your foot means. Generally too dangerous. More information about cruising truckers is here. Getting in the Cab You've got to get to where we are. Parking for our trucks and trailers is mostly limited to truck stops, rest areas, and a few other places like Wal-Mart parking lots. Moreover, once we park for the day, the regulations are set up to encourage us to stay parked until we're ready to move on. In addition, many drivers prefer not to leave their trucks unattended for too long. The net result is that we're usually hosting. We stay out of major cities as much as possible. Especially older, east coast cities with tight corners and low bridges. Going after truckers is actually one area where rural gay people have an advantage over those in the cities. In major cities, the truck stops tend to be located well out on the exurban fringe where land is cheap and crime is less of a problem. City dwellers without cars may not be able to get to us at all. However, along the rural stretches of the interstates, there are all kinds of places to park, meaning that when I am in your area, you can probably get to me fairly easily. We have very little control over where we're going to go next. This applies especially to company drivers, who basically go wherever the company tells them to. Independents may have some more flexibility, but in general, truckers have to go where the freight goes, not necessarily where the sex is. I probably can't take you with me. Traveling with a truck driver (perhaps in exchange for sex?) is a nice fantasy that comes up from time to time, but the reality is that most companies have strict ridealong policies limiting passengers to immediate family members. Independent owner-operators will have more flexibility here, since they can do whatever they damn well please with their own truck. Even if we're nearby, we can't always hook up. On-time delivery is the most important part of the job. Our driving and sleeping schedules are regulated by the government. This means that margins are sometimes tight, and we don't have time (or energy) for sex. If we're ready to play, move quickly. Remember, we're often under the gun as far as time is concerned, and we may need to get enough sleep in to drive 600+ miles the next day. So the window for playing can be small. If I'm looking and ready to go now, you want to be climbing in my truck ASAP, otherwise, you may miss the opportunity. Relationships and friendships are hard to maintain. Don't be insulted if I seem to be blowing you off. I've received interest from guys all over the country, most of whom I will probably park near at some point. But sheer numbers dictates that I'll only be able to maintain some kind of long distance friendship with a few of you. And even that's going to be tenuous, since we'll rarely see each other. In other words, this is probably just going to be casual sex. Truck Driver Reality I hope you like your guys big. Unlike porn, where truckers have gorgeous gym-sculpted bodies and carefully trimmed body hair with tasteful tattoos, in reality obesity, diabetes and high blood pressure are the three biggest health problems in the industry. The reasons are obvious: we sit all day driving up to 11 hours; the food in the truck stops is abysmally unhealthy; opportunities for exercise are few and far between. Don't count on us being freshly showered. I typically get a chance to shower about once every second or third day. While I can do quick rinses with washclothes and baby wipes in between, truck drivers can often have a bit of a funk about them. On the other hand, if I've got time to get laid, I've probably got time to hit the shower too. Still, personal hygiene can often be a little uneven. If we bottom, don't expect porn star levels of cleanliness down below. I have used the private truck stop showers to make sure my ass is good and clean and ready for action before. But I have a limited amount of time to use them. After that, I've only got public men's rooms. In other words, I'll do the best I can with the facilities I have to be clean before you fuck me. But sometimes, shit happens. A little understanding will help me with the embarrassment factor immensely. And I will have wet wipes and towels on hand to clean up any mess. No drugs or alcohol, but most of us smoke. DUI laws are especially harsh on truck drivers, as you'd expect for someone managing 40+ tons down the highway. One hot UA or blood alcohol test pretty much ends our career. So if you indulge, even if it's legal in your state, it's better to leave it at home. On the other hand, a lot of drivers smoke cigarettes. If smoking's a problem for you, best to clarify that in advance.

I agree, some of the hottest porn I've seen has guys in it that look like you might meet them in your local bar. Decently good looking, but not absolutely perfect paragons. And those guys were often genuinely excited to be in porn and putting forth their best effort. The drawback to vintage porn is the need for a plot, which is usually pretty lame and a waste of time. I definitely prefer porn that gets right down to business. The best porn I've seen that gets both strengths pretty much right is some of Michael McKey's early HDK stuff, like Bareback and Bareback II - Once In A Blue Moon

You know, if you don't stick to your standards, can you really say that you have them? Probably not. I do have standards, though they've evolved over the years, generally expanding as I've found things that appeal in a wider and wider range of men. Most of my standards these days are less physical than they are about attitude: guys who are anti-barebacking or into monogamy or whatever turn me off. Guys who are into lots of random bareback sex and laid back about kink turn me on. I do have some standards about the looks of the men I'll allow to fuck me. But I also have strategies for getting around them too, the main one being my love of anonymous sex.

Yes, yes, yes! There's nothing like sliding my raw cock into an ass that's been well and truly bred, preferably by several guys. The feel, the sight, the sound, the smell...it's fucking heaven. Not to mention that sex with a really slutty guy (top or bottom) is a big turn-on in itself.

Meh...for me it's always been about the cum, not the virus. I was never a chaser. So I could personally never be pissed at a top who'd just unloaded in me.