Single Guys - Choice Or Just Haven't Found Mr Right? Why?

[rawTOP]

Just curious - if you're single, why is that? Are you young and still playing the field? Do you have bad luck hanging onto guys? Are you too picky? Do you or your boyfriends have expectations that are too high (e.g. monogamy)? Or do you just like being single?

Share your thoughts on being single...

[Grunt]

I have found Mr. Right a couple times and crushed hard. But they were straight and our path to brotherhood never got very far below the belt. Having had a few tight gay BF's I have learned that honestly I am Mr. Wrong. I am too selfish and one-track minded to make a very good member of a team. I dont communicate, live in my own head and have made an honest try by my partners to connect beyond sex a disappointment.

So I have a lot of close friends and FB's around me and that seems to work out the best.

My brother just moved in this week after splitting with his wife and we have played a little. That might be different if he decides to stick around.

[boycunt]

Gruntraq, Sir: selfishness and single-mindedness are not necessarily bad traits, and indeed, for dominant Tops, i think they are particularly valuable traits. Perhaps You should explore that aspect of Your persona. You do seem to have a realistic assessment of Yourself and that is impressive. Whether it ends up being Your brother, or some other lucky dude, if You ever pair up with someone, it's going to be a wild and interesting ride for both of You.

As to RawTop's original question, i think that insatiable cumsluts like me present a interesting problem. Settling down and (heavens forbid) monogamy present the challenge of a total change in life style. Perforce, finding a guy means accepting less then we are used to and need. Our needs require an ever expanding group of FBs and dates.

[rawTOP]

BoyCunt - I agree Guntraq should think in terms of being a dom top. Selfishness is a plus for tops. However, he probably should work on his communication skills - to communicate his selfish needs and desires to his sub bottom. But even if his communication doesn't improve his bottom's job would be to learn and anticipate his needs.

But I'd challenge you on your second assertion. Why does settling down in a relationship = monogamy? Why not find a top boyfriend/master who gets off on you being a slut? You just need someone who wants you to constantly have a cummy ass. I could see having a bottom who I refused to fuck unless they already had a load or two in them. They would have to compete to get my load by getting loads from other guys to make me happy. If their ass wasn't cummy I'd fuck someone else.

So I get back to my original question... If selfish guys just need to find sub bottoms, and sluts just need to find tops who want them to be sluts, why aren't guys in relationships?

[boycunt]

RawTop, Sir: Thank You for the incredible insight. i must be stupid, but of course, You are correct. There is no reason why an insatiable bottom could not find a Top who encourages his sluttiness and develops and even expands his capacity for use and abuse. i have a bf (or fb, whatever) who loves to take me to parties where i am likely to get a lot of dick. He always lays back and lets a couple of guys breed me before He steps up to the plate. i never looked at Him as anything other than a date, and i don't think that he really is "the guy" for me. But i'm sure You are correct, RawTop, and that there are others like Him. There's hope for boys like me -- a lasting relationship without having to "tone it down."

[rawTOP]

BoyCunt - I'll admit finding a stable relationship that's so sexual is rare but it is possible. I think too many sluts just think a relationship isn't in the cards for them and miss out in the process.

Just always consider that the dumping the load in your ass could be more. You never know - it could work.

[Grunt]

As to monogamy with male relationships. I think a quote from past porn star Steve Cannon just about sums up my thoughts on the matter....

"Love is about compassion and understanding. Sex is about getting your rocks off".

Translation....men have a keen ability to separate sex and love.

[Bear4Breeding]

Interesting thread. For me personally, I am a romantic at heart, ikn the gay worlkd (at least from my expiereince thus far) romance isn't really out there to much. Over the last few years or so since my last BF, who was so not right for me in every way, I've come to the conclusion that long term relationship isn't for me. I tend to get board way to fast with my partner and stray. So if I could find the right guy who was into an open relationship as well as the barebaack aspect of sex, I might consider it.

For now though, I am single and staying that way. I don't get much of anything these days, I live in a twink filled area and big bears are not real popular, well at least this one isn't. So am signle and horny as hell for some cock in my hole.

[spunxter]

Maybe because I'm too self-conscious.

[leo51]

RawTop, Firstly, thank YOU for developing this site. this slut loves it. As far as being single is concerned, that is a good question, and not one i expected to find here. Glad YOU asked it. For me, a commitment was near impossible to make. Lots of men wanted to rush into a relationship with me and i found myself nearly hyperventilating at the prospect. Also, in the past i always found fault with the Tops i dated. And, i always dated Tops. i had many opportunities for a relationship but never took advantage of them. i used to bitch and bemoan the fact that i was single, feeling sorry for myself and sometimes feeling like a freak because my friends were in relationships. In my forties i got honest and admitted that the reason i was not in a relationship was because i didn't want one. Now i find myself wanting to give a relationship a shot, and have no takers (none that live nearby that is). i used to be a bitch with men, and i think that kept them interested. i was a challenge. Then, i got real, became nice, and can't seem to get past the first date. Go figure. LOL Still....i fully expect to be in a rellationship some day. Sort of like giving myself a gift, a chance to grow some more. Thanks again for the topic.

[barefootbob]

like Nippy, I live in a young/twink area, small town huge university population. most of the older "fags" are looking for young tail (nothing really wrong with that) or older perfect guys. I am far from perfect body wise, have a neurological condition, and very few will open the cover to see what is inside. they only see the superficial not the substantial, they won't wait to see I would be a true and loyal friend and/or FB. so I am single

[danieldu33]

Why i'm staying single. I love my freedom. I get fucked by any one any where. No reporting....

[ChubBreeder]

For me I haven't found Mr Right yet, Because I am a Chub most guys wont give me the time of day let alone want to date, Ive also found that even the sluttiest bottoms wont let a Chub fuck them. I get laid once every few months when the stars,sun and moon align LOL

My ideal type would be a chub/bear/cub bottom who wanted to get fucked a few times a day, would bring me home a cummy ass to fuck occasionally and liked to party from time to time.

[tattooedbottomguy]

i hope one day ill find my mr. right, lately i find flakes and fakes or tops with tiny cocks, i just have bad luck with dating

[evilqueerpig]

I was in an "open relationship" for 10 years.  He remained vanilla while I embraced my kinky side and for the last 2 years, there was no sex, he was just a body in bed and I was getting what I needed from guys I played with and a steady fuckbud.  A big issue was intimacy because getting him to kiss was like pulling teeth.  The final straw was when he blatantly betrayed my trust.  Been a bit gunshy ever since, but wouldn't rule out a future open relationship with a piggy equal.  I'm too SLUTTY for monogamy!