What Kind of Man…

[downtownswallow]

I have a strong submissive tendency when I'm ready to be bred.  However, I never take anon loads.  I've also found that dirty or seedy locations are not my thing.  Granted, I'll go to a bathhouse, but the one I prefer isnt dirty and I stay with the men I trust.  Everyone is entitled to their preferences , but anon loads are not on my bucket or acceptable list.

[Breedthisslut]

I  have found myself in some seedy motels taking unknown cock and cumloads. It’s not something that I do all the time, but when I do, I enjoy being used to get guys off with my ass. You can call me what you like and it’s all true and I’m enjoying it all.

[austin_submale]

I love motel meetings and bookstore booths and theaters, etc...  No dick or load refused, never ask a guy to wear a condom or pull out.

 

[headnurse20]

I have no earthly idea how many anon fucks & loads I've taken over the years.  Rarely in a seedy motel. Usually at a bathhouse or at the home of a top who doesn't mind hosting and sharing my hole with others. Those hosts always get to drop the 1st load and the last of the day! I've also had a handful of adventures at discreet parks, but those are harder to find! I have no shame about being a cumdump and will let the tops call me whatever suits them! I am a high functioning, professional man. The only ones who know about my cumdump activities are those who have enjoyed my ass, and rest assured, they DO ENJOY IT! I've also never felt the need to label the tops who engage in the exact same activity!

[onlyraw]

On 5/9/2023 at 8:27 PM, ErosWired said:

I just think it’s curious that while we have ‘slut’, ‘whore’, and other words that designate those who receive in this way, there isn’t a word for the men who breed them. ‘Slut’ can be applied either way, I suppose, but there’s no word that means “Top who fucks anonymous cumdumps in sketchy places”, such that one could say, “He’s a ________.”

Well unfortunately I think (due to the sexism that is still prevalent) 

While the “mainstream” considers the bottom (male or female) who takes anonymous NSA fucks a slut 

They consider the man who is doing the fucking “He’s a stud”

As a man who has done both roles I like to think that both parties just have high sex drives and rather than call the top a “stud” I would call him a “lucky man” for finding a partner that will satisfy his needs. 

(and yes “partner” as both the top and bottom are getting what they need and neither could get it without the other)

[ErosWired]

4 hours ago, headnurse20 said:

I've also never felt the need to label the tops who engage in the exact same activity!

I should add that even though I asked this question, I feel no need to label them either, particularly because I observe such variety among the men who come to breed me that the need to breed me is sometimes the only thing they have obviously in common. There is, in fact, no one ‘type’ of man who does this. To me, each one is an individual, with an individual need, and an individual psychology.

The last guy who bred me last night was a young black man, endowed long but averagely thick, and I could tell, as he fucked me into the mattress, that although he went at it with energy, he wasn’t experienced and couldn’t hold off orgasm in the way he wanted - his body had ideas of its own. He was, indeed, one of the silent ones - it may be that his ejaculation caught him by surprise and he might have been embarrassed to say that he’d cum before he was ready. He had worked himself up to a rapid jackhammering of my ass and he might have been thinking it was building to something he didn’t reach. When he was done, he stepped off to the bathroom sink to wash off, and I lay there in a twitching, formless, fucked pile on the bed, pulling myself back together. After a minute or two I realized he was hovering by the bathroom sink, looking at me uncertainly.

”You okay?” he asked me.

”Are you kidding?” I said. “You’re really good.”

He got a shy, bashful smile, as though no one had ever complimented him on his sexual ability before, and left wearing it.

I’ll remember him, not as some sleazy fucker who stuck his cock in my cum-slick cunt in some three-star hotel room, but as a shy, unseasoned young man who was concerned about whether he’d been too rough with me.

I think @onlyraw is onto something there about the sexism inherent in the mainstream view, and about the ‘stud’ view of penetrators. Possibly the root of why a cumdump taking loads gets  demeaning terms and the Top breeding him does not harks back to deep-seated cultural assumptions about proper gender roles and what constitutes masculinity. The cumdump is emulating the female reproductive role, and therefore offends the social order. Worse, he seemingly rejects the masculine role by choice (one might debate this), which brings his values into question and makes him an object of scorn. As to the Top who breeds him, the Top may be selecting an unsanctioned breeding target, but he is, at least, performing the reproductive role properly assigned to him, and that has to go some way in mitigating criticism of his action, especially as it is contrasted with the other male in the equation. In other words, even if the Top isn’t doing what he ought to be doing, at least he’s doing it in the way you’d expect a man to do it, which cannot be said of the cumdump.

[tallslenderguy]

i processed out of a religious mindset, growing up in an era fraught with negative notions and labels about gay sex. 

As i am now, i have no negative connotations when i think of men having sex together, be they Top, bottom, or anywhere else on the sexual spectrum  Like others have noted, i believe such pejoratives are a social construct, not a description of reality.

So, re the question of "What kind of Man/man?" Some of the terms i use to describe how i see a Man Who wants/needs to penetrate another are: creative, controlling, possessing, conquering. i think of a bottom as men who want/need to be a canvass of sorts, or clay as a receiver of a Mans creative energy, wanting/needing to be controlled, possessed, conquered. 

That's by no means an exhaustive list of descriptors for me, but they all stem from a belief that nature expresses and functions in a yin/Yang sort of way.  From the tiniest ions, there are protons, electrons and neutrons, which-depending on chemistry- attract (fuck?) and bond. To me, sex can be a simple or infinitely complex expression of what is. i'm endlessly grateful for the natural gift of expression and connection we have as part of living. 

Edited May 13, 2023 by tallslenderguy

[hntnhole]

17 hours ago, ErosWired said:

The cumdump is emulating the female reproductive role

On the whole, your reply is spot on.  The above sentence though, does not ring true to me. 

To straights, who have never bothered to entertain a moment's worth of thought as to why things are what they are, it may seem that cumdumps are emulating the female reproductive role, but that is hardly true for the men who actually do it.  There are perhaps exceptions, (i.e. men who use female clothing, etc), but that's a different issue that may result in cumdumpery or may not.   

I believe that men who practice cumdumpery are men who have either a) spent the time and effort to answer the question of why via a process of intellectual work, questioning their sexual drive/identity, and arrived at some answers unrelated to females at all, or b) their innate nature was recognized by an experienced man who helped them realize their calling.  

We don't need to emulate or even consider what straight folks do, or why they do it.  We aren't straight.  Even the bi guys don't identify as that.  They say they're bi.  

Cumdumps aren't "emulating" anything - they're doing what makes sense to them, what they believe they must, structuring their sexual lives according to their own self-perceptions. Whether that realization comes via self-introspection or via input from a more experienced man who recognizes what the cumdump does not yet recognize in himself, the result is focused not on emulating women, but on self-realization, self-fulfillment, self-acceptance. 

If this is "misogynistic",  merely because females have no important place in the issue as I see it, then that's ok with me.  

[ErosWired]

6 hours ago, hntnhole said:

We don't need to emulate or even consider what straight folks do, or why they do it.

I was using emulate in the simple sense of ‘match by imitation’, meaning only that the cumdump takes on the role of the hole the peg fits into - that being the same thing females are biologically designed for. I did not intend to imply emulate in the sense of ‘striving to equal or surpass’, though in my own case I would be delighted to achieve a state in which my cunt could deliver a breeding experience truly on a par with the anatomy actually made for the purpose. The way I meant it was more along the lines of ‘acts in place of’.

It must be pointed out that there are some cumdumps who do emulate females, at least to some degree, with transvestism and sissification, but this is certainly a subset.

[SamCummyCunt]

After many years of doing the work to get over my religious upbringing and the moral issues came with it, I now love who I am and don't shy away from it.

I'm a slut who loves to please men with my body.  I'm mostly bottom but a little aggressive in the sack when I'm in the zone where all I can think about is my pussy and the cock plowing me. 

I find that as I've gotten more comfortable with myself that it has helped some hesitant or shy tops to come out of their shells a little more. What sometimes starts off as a timid fuck can turn into a real hard fuck session that leaves me feeling used and my pussy beat up.  Once they feel free to let that part of themselves out they seem to really go for it and I'm called every name in the book and fucked in more positions than I initially expected.

Interestingly, I used to be super OCD about hygiene but as I've become more slutty and loose, I find that I prefer men to come straight from work and leave my bedroom (or hotel room) smelling like sex, cock, ass, sweat, man funk.  This is more true for truckers or guys who work in constructions but I won't say no to a nice looking cock even if it comes at me in the gym shower or bathhouse steam room.

If you're going to take the plunge, might as well learn to love it.  I have and I'm a better person for it, I just happen to walk around with cum in my pussy from time to time.  Does that make me a bad person? 🐷

[willslc]

If you're going to take the plunge, might as well learn to love it.  I have and I'm a better person for it, I just happen to walk around with cum in my pussy from time to time.  Does that make me a bad person? 🐷 

SamCummyCunt.

I agree with you 100%. I love being a pig slut, I don't care how people judge me I'm having fun and enjoying sex. I'm not the one watching I am the one being watched at the bathhouses. For the people who judge us pigs thinking bad or something is wrong with us go fuck your yourself. Cuz without a doubt I know I'm a better person than you judgmental assholes. I have met people that I seem from posting on prom sites that you would think are fucked up trash that turn to be the nices most level headed people you ever meet. It's the people that judge that need to look at yourself in the mirror and see what their problem is. If you're on this site judging poeple get the fuck off. 

[willslc]

This is for your judgmental people. I just returned from a two-week trip in San Francisco. I partied my fucking ass off I don't know how many people I fucked or how many people fucked me. I got fisted at least five times not counting the one who fisted me in the back area at the Steamworks. Damn he had a big hand LOL. Yes I may overdid it cuz my test just came back I have chlamydia and gonorrhea. Not sure about the syphilis test yet. I had a great fucking time I'd do it again, hell I am going to do it again.

[MuscledHorse]

On 5/9/2023 at 8:48 PM, NWUSHorny said:

I've heard promiscuous men of all sexual persuasions called, and have been called these a few times myself:

Horndog

Himbo

Man ho

Salty dog

Satyromaniac

Scamp

 

Personally I kind of like "salty dog," since I love dogpile group fucks.

 

I am all of these. Proudly promiscuous here. I score 400+ sex partners a year. Sex is the ultimate male Pleasure sport. Yeah, mainstream society looks own on it even as they log in to view my porn (or porn like it) while they masturbate and pretend they aren't like me even as they long for such a life. Embrace it bro!