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That's what I find enjoyable, not the advent of AIDS or seeing gay men murdered, just the way NYC appeared at that time. The world is so different today. I haven't been in a number of years, but what shocks me is the constant change every time I go back. The gays are not just in Manhattan, but all the different parts of NY. I guess it's just part of being able to afford to live there. I'm sometimes tempted to leave Florida and move back north, but when I think the entire process through I realize that sexually I can find all of the same things here that I can find in NYC. Same thing, just a different location.

Is his first name Cedric? LMAO . Sounds a lot like someone I am (or was) acquainted with. If he wants you to see only him, and follows your every movement and asks who else is fucking you, it's the same guy. I know it's a personal question, but you described the guy I know (or knew) perfectly. Enjoy! He was (or is) a blast in bed!

It just sounds to me that you have neighbors who have too much time on their hands are somewhat sexually repressed. Frankly, if you pay your rent on time, have no police activity on a regular basis, then the police have no business asking you who is coming (literally) in and out of your apartment. I think that is going a bit far on the part of law enforcement. You live in a college area, law enforcement is well aware that those individuals like to drink and socialize, so why bother you? Are your "visitors" loud"? This just sounds to me like police harassment, but it sounds like you handled it well, and I am happy that things worked out for you.

It is on the FX network, and then is streamed the next day on Hulu. Usually 10 pm on Wednesday evenings, EST.

I was really thrilled to hear AHS decided to use NYC as it's backdrop and the time era is really interesting. Fire Island looks accessible to everyone (not just the rich, like today), and bathhouses were an accepted form of socializing and sex. Of course the time frame is sad, the advent of AIDS. It just seems like a "simpler" time period, when actually it was the "lull before the storm" as they say. I know the Dahmer series took alot of criticism because it seemed to almost be a slasher miniseries celebrating the murders of young gay men. AHS will have many gay men die, but it's a fictional account, with Dahmer we knew he did the horrible things he was accused of. I have been a fan of the AHS franchise and I am very keen on Season 11. I hope everyone can stream it at one point. Watch it gentleman!

This was a tough one to decide on, but I voted for the bath house and these factors went into my reasoning. With bathhouses, especially if you are a "newbie" from out of town, allow you the ability (usually for eight hours if you get a room) to look around and get a feel for the place The patrons are usually comfortable with the environment and patrons (sometimes too comfortable) which is why I will only go if I am out of town. You have the opportunity to make sure everyone there has a good look at you, and with an open door, everyone knows where you are located. Timing is crucial. You can do the "late after noon, right after work crowd) which allows you the opportunity to hook up with guys who may work evenings, or may just be getting off of a 9-5 job. So that has its advantages. At slower times I have had the opportunity to fuck with some of the staff (at least in Fort Lauderdale) and that only seemed to happened during the earlier shifts. If you go in the late evening or "post bar" time, there are a lot of "posers" looking for the best possible candidate to blow their load. Or if you are fortunate, you may stumble across someone maybe visiting from out of town (or the country) who wants to fuck as many guys as possible. Besides, you do have things like showers, etc. Bookstores - an entirely different group of guys for the most part. They are there "on a mission". You don't normally see these guys online, you don't see them at the baths. However, for some it is there primarily location to blow their load. It's almost like an addiction, at least for some. Get in, get out. You know what I am saying here. As a patron, I have done the entire "backpack" routine, where I wear a jock and boots and take all my other clothes off. It really does depend on the staff tolerating your antics, and if they allow that stuff. I know of one clerk in particular who said "I don't care what you do back there, just don't come out to the public area butt naked". That's fair, agreed. At a bookstore, some of the participants are looking for that release, and if you are the kind of guy who likes to keep count of how many guys you "get off", this might work well. They may be less "mainstream". You aren't going to find them online, most have personal lives that don't really match with the ordinary gay male. In addition, there is the law enforcement concern. I have taken chances of wearing little or nothing, and even getting butt naked in one giant two-story bookstore, but you do run the chance of getting in trouble legally. I know the area I had lived in there was more than one "bust" at a group of bookstores in a certain area of the town I had lived in. That concerns me most. So if you want security, some creature comforts (like a shower), go with the bathhouse. If you want the excitement of having sex with twenty guys in an hour, then maybe the bookstore is the best option for you. Frankly, I caution on the side of security. I am sticking with a bathhouse that requires a private membership, where I do feel secure.

I have done this, with a guy who was respectful and gave me the time to get situated with what exactly was going in my ass. TBH, I had put it on my "Bucket List" of things I wanted to do and accomplish. He was great about it, he didn't hurt me, or cause damage. On the negative side, there was a guy at a group party I attended. When everyone was out of the room, he said "you're the only one attractive here" and proceeded to push his PA dick in my ass. This promptly got his kicked out of the house and the party. Just an example of someone who thinks they are doing you a good deed by fucking you. No he was not, and despite an apology and further requests to hook up, I took a hard pass. Not having my rectum ruined by some idiot. I knew there was a safe and easy way to accomplish this, and I am glad to say I achieved by goal.

And yet you are still not out of the closet?

I saw him on a Netflix special entitled "Circus Of Books" and yes he is still alive and seems to be doing well. Living in the LA area.

This has been part of my personal experiences on more than one occasion. Guess who the guy was calling? Ah, can we post "enhancement" providers?

7th grade.......

Let me pose this question to the OP or any other BZ members with knowledge of the law. This is specific in that in means someone "tampered" with a condom, knowing they were HIV positive, correct? This DOES NOT mean spreading HIV by lying about your status to a potential sex partner? I ask because I know of a situation in south Florida where two guys were prosecuted for going to the baths in Fort Lauderdale and trying to infect as many guys as possible. So the activity I just mentioned would not fall under this Aussie law, correct?

I still say Dawson, hands down. Okay, granted the studio that produced "Dawson's 20 Load Weekend" gets credit for taking the chance to "think outside the box" and film such a video. However, based on accounts as to how this movie came to be, I had read that Dawson himself approached the producer/director and pitched the idea personally. Granted, his career may not have been as extensive as other performers. I am not sure if anyone knows the reason why he stopped, though he did give an interview to a US newspaper saying he was HIV positive. That interview was given somewhere between, 2006-2011 perhaps? I suppose only he truly knows why he decided to leave porn. I do know he is on BBRT and has an active profile. This is just my opinion, but had that movie not been made, I would suspect major studios like Raging Stallion would continue to have produced "safe" videos. Now, because of "Dawson's 20 Load Weekend" I think studios have all come to the realization that unless the video is BB, it won't be downloaded or purchased. So my vote is for Dawson (and the producer/director) that filmed it.

Why would I give up an opportunity to have a relationship with an incredible person just because of their HIV status. Considering all the safety precautions you can take, why turn down a wonderful guy?

That's a very valid and true point. Grindr is quick to suspend you if your pictures are too revealing, or they feel it crosses some "indecency" line. The staff is quick to call you out and punish you. But if some WHACK JOB continues to create fake account to try to hook up with you, and you know it's the same guy and forward the screen shots to management, Grindr does nothing. It's a double standard at that place....

Okay, this sounds petty, but it drives me nuts every time. I understand some guys feet get cold, even during sex. This concept is foreign to me because I live in Florida. Here's my gripe - if you going to wear socks, PLEASE, put a clean pair on. I don't need to see dirty socks up in the air, laying on the shoulders of some top. I know some surfaces where videos are filmed are not exactly hygienic, but can't you just slip on a pair of clean socks before you get on your back or on your stomach. I literally scream at the screen when I see a pair of dirty feet dangling in the air or over some tops shoulders..... okay, that's what bothers me the most and I am sticking with that....

This is not as uncommon as people think. I once had a guy who wore BVD underwear, took his dick out through the opening area, and fucked me like that. He was huge so the underwear was not an issue for me. I happened to hook up with him again, only this time at my house. So I asked if he remembered me from our previous encounter, which had been in a bookstore. I asked him, "so why the underwear the last time?" as this time he was completely naked. Reasonable answer: He had gotten crabs, or lice, and bought them home to his then-partner. His partner forgave him, but he continued to cheat thus the underwear. By the time we played the second time their relationship was completely over. I did ask why, and he said "I gave him gonorrhea". Funny, he went to the trouble of wearing underwear the first time with me after getting in trouble, but he could avoid gonorrhea. Very hot man, I was do him all over again in a New York second.

I am not sure "blocking" and "letting it go" always works. My personal experience with a situation like this required me to file two police reports. If you are approached in public, and they refuse to leave you alone, then you have no other alternative than to file a complaint with law enforcement. I had an idiot show up at my house, on more than one occasion. The local police were reluctant to do much. "Don't answer the door', "block his number". etc. Well, that doesn't always work. I had to drive across my state, file a restraining order in his county of residence, and then pay the sheriff's office to serve him the restraining order. It should NOT have to be that way, but in my case, it was the only thing that worked. Hopefully for those experiencing this kind of situation won't have to go through the aggravation I did.

I am incredibly grateful for just how easy my Ryan White Case Manager set up my vaccinations. No going to the Health Department, no standing in line, nice non-judgmental environment. I really hope everyone on this Forum takes this illness seriously, does their homework and tracks down a vaccination site. Nice to see @hntnhole comment regarding the shingles vax. I had begged my internist for it, only to be told I wasn't eligible. I saw friend after friend suffer. Then to my surprise I was suddenly eligible, I got it at my "friendly" Publix pharmacy. It set me back a whopping $3.00 copay, money so well spent. I don't see much really mentioned about shingles on BZ, I hope guys will wake up and because from what I have seen, it's incredibly painful and does not go away over night. Get the vaccine if you can!

Samson Street Theatre? God I went there as a teen and let the guy at the front desk blow me just to get in! God does that bring back memories! GOOD FOR YOU!

"Don't ever let anyone tell you to change, just be you". I thought it was sexy, maybe he was just telling me to ignore authority figures.

Thanks for that. Btw, I took my former doctor's name and number out of my contact list. I don't want his final thoughts of me to be what comes out of my mouth after a Grey Goose martini (or three) because it would hardly be flattering. That 20 something snot that basically lectured me is lucky I could not reach through the phone and grab him by the neck. I actually had thoughts of stopping in the office and asking to speak to the doctor, but after some soul searching I realized it won't change anything and I might end up in jail for a day. So I will stick with the elderly gentleman, do some research and find someone closer to fifty who is not planning on retiring in the next year or so. I am very concerned, all joking aside. I realize stomping my feet and acting like a child worked till I was about 30, but not any longer. Thank God for BZ, I can complain here and though not everyone finds my situation unique, at least I have a place to vent without fear of arrest!

I hear what you are saying. My doctor advertised as both an Internist and infectious disease specialist. HIV treatment was always his priority, and he was great at it. He kept me alive when I didn't exactly behave as a model patient. I understand what you are saying about having a specialist that is laser focused, he was. However he also offered to treat the common cold, refer me to specialists for an injury I experienced while playing competitive tennis. What aggravated me with him is that he has known me for YEARS, I have been social with him, as well as his many partners, outside of the office. What shocked me was the way the whole situation occurred. Very little, or no warning. When I first became aware I was livid, I wrote a very nice, but direct letter, thanking him for all the years he took care of me. I knew this man since I was 27 years old, he was like a big brother to me. I just felt he sold out, he took the easy way. Now another poster had mentioned the subject of billing, and how he can get more money for billing as an Infectious Disease Specialist. I understand that, as he told me privately he had to pay severn employees weekly and it was a strain. However, he was always an Infectious Disease Specialist, almost everyone who went to him was a gay male who had HIV. But he still wrote scripts for the flu, and he still wrote controlled substances. Why now? Yes posters have told me their opinions and what has happened to them in their medical journey, but I took it personally and frankly, as a slap in the face. But that's me. If you have been my doctor for nearly twenty years, and you know every intimate detail of my life, I expect more than some form letter. I found his departure cold, and somewhat unprofessional. If you can call me at home, and ask me questions about who I have had sex with, and why I have certain strain of HIV, then you should be able to call and say "you need to find several new doctors, I can only provide one service now". He didn't that, just the damn form letter. I'm venting here, I appreciate your input. I think some of what you posted my previous doctor did. He was focused on HIV, he new every new medication that was coming out or was newly available, and yet treated me for things a GP could do. It's not that I am an entitled gay man (much), who deserves "one stop shopping" (I had it before, why take it away) but I am now stuck with a 68 year old doctor who basically copied everything my previous doctor was doing, Same regimen, same controlled scripts, nothing new. I am undetectable, but what happens when that is no longer the case? My previous doctor would have had a plan B, he's done that in the past, and I shudder at what I face once my T cells decline and my viral load returns. I don't have faith in the new ID guy, even though he writes whatever I ask. But what happens when he retires? I am not so sure..... Thanks for your response, much appreciated.

The best part so far is they changed the subject from "online dating" to "online hook up". No, sorry this is not a gay version of Christian Mingle or J Date! Okay, I'll add my non important "two cents" after I hear what others have to say, this should be fun! Online dating........lmao, makes me think of "Back in the day" when AOL had a area called "AOL Love" or something like that. It was before I discovered the now defunct chat rooms. Ah, those were the days of dial up!

Just wanted to ask BZ members if they have had a similar experience in the last few years. My long time physician, who is both an internist and an infectious disease specialist, suddenly decided he was joining a corporation and was having a change in his "business model". I had little warning, but these were some of the changes, and it made me furious. I had been with him for about 15 years, so to say I was livid would be an understatement. This guy diagnosed me, filled out all my necessary paperwork, referred me to some of the best specialists, and helped me recover when I had 12 T cells and a viral load of over 2 million. As you can see, I have been pretty close to "checking out". Here were the changes: 1. He would only act as my Infectious Disease Specialist. He explained this was not a problem for me, as my insurance did not require referrals, so I could come to him without delay. 2. He would NO LONGER be my Primary Care Physician. So if I was sick, had the flu, any other issues other than those related to HIV, I needed to see my Primary Care Physician. Funny, I don't have one, as I always went to him. So that meant, I needed to find a second doctor, start from scratch, and explain to him my past (rather checkered) and how I got to where I am today. I don't mind sharing some of my sexual escapades, travels, hookups, screw ups, and possible encounters with law enforcement with you fine gentleman. We are all friends here, right? No judgment here from BZ members. However, I did not want to explain some things to a total stranger in a lab coat, who I don't know and may frankly, find me to be a bit of a "handful" 3. My current doctor would no longer write "controlled substances"? Excuse me? Well you have only been doing it for the past 15 years and frankly I want my 2 mg of Lorezapam and 3 mg of Alprazolam (accefionatly known as Xanax) daily. I am sure I don't have to tell some BZ members that it is incredibly difficult and painful to come off these medications. I have not abused them, and even though I take the maximum allowed by law in this state (according to my doctor), I am not stopping. Plain and simple. So what does this mean? I had to find a THIRD doctor, one to write me scripts for these two medications and frankly, I don't want to beg some new doctor to write something I have been taking for almost two decades. So I lost it, I mean I wrote him a polite, NO THANK YOU I WILL GO ELSEWHERE letter, and he can be the infectious disease specialist for some other guy. So I received a polite phone call from this 20ish sounding guy from his office who, speaking to me in a condescending tone, told me why it was a financial decision and for me not to take it personally. That he would find me doctors that would basically give me what I wanted (scripts!) and open minded about my past medical history and rather "animated" behavior. I thanked him, told him I would find someone to do all three, on my own. I did just that... Here is my question to BZ members. The 20 something who called me said "This is the current state of medical care in Florida, and many doctors are moving in this direction". WTF? Really? So has ANYONE out there, received this kind of slap in the face from their long time provider??? I would really like to know. I am fortunate to find a doctor who will do all three, but then again he is 68 and usually sits across the room from me and writes 5 refills on all my meds. My numbers are excellent and I am being provided the controlled substances I need, till he retires of course and then I will begin this journey again. Anyone out there experience something like this? Can anyone explain further why this may have happened? I am sure there are people who work in the medical field that are on this site (I know for the BB porn areas). But seriously, can anyone shed any light on this subject? Thanks for listening...