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I think a smile, a nod and even eye contact can along way in sauna/bathhouse situation. Guys who may not be 100 percent perfect, but have a welcoming, nice attitude are generally someone I would be attracted to and pursue. That's just me.....

Almost all the major studios are gone. Porn stars from the 80s and early 90s made more money than those making videos today. That's one of the reasons things like Only Fans have taken off - because guys create their own content and then hopefully can get enough followers to make it a living. It's equally important to know something about marketing and social media because if no one is aware of you, there will not be any paying customers. Raging Stallion used to have "contract" performers but those days of having a guaranteed number of videos per year are long gone....

Lucky for you, you have a gay Democrat as your Governor. I am sure he realizes there are more important things to do with law enforcement then have them harass men with their pants down in a small cubicle. I always understood Portland to be a very open minded community, but you obviously know better than I do. Unfortunately, I live in Florida, with no ability to escape, and law enforcement and the political climate are very anti-gay so having sex in public has become an issue. At least in the area I am living in. I did have sex opening at an ABS in Bradenton, FL, but I believe that was because the guy I was with was very good friends with the front desk clerk. I miss that ABS in Bradenton, but I wouldn't take the chance of doing it in Tampa right now - their raids on ABS establishments have been going on for quite a while and I just don't want to get arrested. I'll take my chances and find someone online - at least as long as that is possible.🙄

My VPN is set for NYC and say I sign into NKP, and forget to turn it off, all the guys around me are in NY, not Florida. So I think it will be a matter of you remembering what site you are on and if you indeed need the protection of a VPN. I was not aware that Grindr can detect your VPN, I got off that site because there were some real dicks on there (and not the good kind) and I found it expensive. I use free sites and haven't had problems getting laid but if we are going to be subject to these kind of draconian shut downs I may be forced to find other alternatives. Does this mean I will be forced to go out and actually interact with people? Talk? In person? God forbid...... This sucks man and had I not been a member of BZ (shout out to the owner and moderators) I would not know what may be happening in the very near future. Happy hunting!

Unfortunately law enforcement likes to show they are fighting "vice" by visiting, maybe twice a year, various ABS and busting guys for either exposure or L and L. This is generally in the Tampa area and they post their full names and ages. I have a buddy who is a pharmacist for Walgreens and this has happened to him twice, but he still doesn't seem overly upset by it. Someone from upper management for Spectrum cable got caught, he later apologized and went on a "leave of absence". Some guys just never learn. Oh, and if you are ever caught in Polk County, Sheriff Grady Judd will have a news conference and mock those guys caught and show their mug shots as well as who they are employed by. They say they are looking for human trafficing, but he loves to take shots at Disney and the number of employees caught with their pants down. There are many bad things happening in Polk County, getting a blow job really doesn't seem to be that horrific in comparison to some of the other things I read.

What amazes me is that here in Florida I know many guys that are clueless to the fact they may try to log on to their favorite hook up site or porn site in the very near future and find, SURPRISE!, they can't get in. I actually had discussions at a bar during Pride and people's jaws were dropping. "What are we gonna do?', or better yet "they can't do that to us we have paid memberships". Oh, but they can. I told them to get a VPN if they didn't have one already (most didn't!) and keep their fingers crossed.

I'm sorry, I am too old to call my parents to bail me out of jail for sex in some public place. I am smart enough to find an alternative location........🙄 The local newspaper in my area even lists the names of those busted at an occasional sting operation at one of the ABS in my area. Public humiliation and a court date are not my idea of a good time.

I wish I had an uncle like @Webster9 - my uncles took me to church or tennis lessons. No ABS or nude beaches for me......

Right now my VPN is set for NYC when I turn it on for certain forums and sites, I see you mentioned Detroit and I believe Toronto. Do you ever think there will come a time when NYC will not be able to connect? I am trying not to change my location but I will if I have to in order to maintain access.

Wait! More sketchy in person then in his videos? I would be a bit ah, uneasy, but I would be on the look out for him 24/7 just to get a glimpse. The facial tattoos are enough to make me run in the other direction.....

I have been as low as 12 T cells and lived to tell the tale. I wasn't the most compliant patient and my doctor knew I slept around and did enhancements. I had a viral load over 2 million on more than one occasion. I drove him nuts as I had an excuse as to why each medication was the wrong choice for me. I am now on Descovy and Prescobix and have about 150 t-cells and no viral load. I hold my breath each time I have a lab drawn (tomorrow-yuck) because I fear becoming resistant. If you can name an anti-viral, more than likely I have been on it. At the height of my viral load he had me on four medications and I took them when I felt like it. Complera was a nightmare, though it was supposed to be more patient friendly. To me it was not. Keflex were not my friend, those horrific red pills, made me sick. I threw 1000s of dollars of medication into the trash. I had KS in 2002, fortunately not on my face but it alarmed my doctor as he had not seen patients have that since the late 80s and early 90s. I went to the oncologist the day after it was diagnosed as KS, back in that time not many guys were getting it and there were few labs to diagnose the samples he scraped from my body. Most oncologists in my area at that time would not treat it, fortunately my infectious disease doctor found a gay oncologist to treat me and I could deal with the two pills he gave me. I saw him for about two years. I took the medication he prescribed religiously as I wasn't about to have some obscure disease disfigure me. I am very fortunate to be here today, and I am not proud of my behavior in the past when it came to medications. I understand that because of my disability status combined with Medicare and supplemented with Blue Cross and Blue Shield paid for by AICP (Aids Insurance Continuation Plan) I had the best doctors and medications available. Sadly AICP went away as all the money, at least in my location, was now put aside strictly for ADAP. I understand I have more than most when it comes to coverage, so I am no longer the bitter man who screamed on the phone at the director of the Florida Department of Health. It was her first day back from maternity leave and her entire staff was "scared to call me" when I was informed my AICP was no longer going to be funded. I tried paying $2250 a quarter for the Blue Cross/Blue Shied as my secondary. I made one paymen. Now I am stuck with Simply Health Care as my secondary and it sucks as there are few if any specialists in my geographic area, and I was told the state could make me drive 50 miles one way in order to see any specialists. I'll drive 50 miles to hook up, I won't drive 50 miles for a dermotolgist. So, in closing, I'll just say this. If you find a medication (or cocktail) that works for you, please take it. It can save or extend your life. I am one of the lucky ones who stopped taking meds, then fortunately found something that works, so I am alive . Not all people, who behaved as irresponsibility as I did, can say that.

Three words "ONY THE BRAVE". Enough said......

I am not laughing at you, I am laughing WITH you. The part about being at the gym and the sounds the guy in the next stall must have heard. I have to find a way to save your post because, man, that is priceless!

Excuse me, did you say a medical exam table with stirrups? Are you looking for someone to, I don't know, clean your house, wash your car, cook for you, run errands, do your laundry? Any other mundane chores that just bother you that you would rather have some respectable (I say that grinning) gentleman do for you around the house. ANYTHING to get my ass in that medical exam table. I have had sex on one years back in a doctor's office (yes, his own office) and God was that comfortable. Those tables are fun.......lucky man you are!

Oh so monogamy is possible? Especially from the guys who post on this Forum? Wow, I thought I had seen it all when that UFO landed in my back yard and the martians asked me I wanted to update my pics for some of my hook up sites. Apparently now, monogamy is the next best thing coming to members of BZ. Sorry for being so jaded, it's been a long day.....

Question to @Shotsfired - at what point, on any site, do you cut a guy off after he has asked and you have answered twenty or thirty questions. I know people's evenings and free time are valuable, but so is my time and fielding questions that won't end up in a hook up just make me go nuts. I try to make my profiles clear and direct, I invite people to say hello and I don't list "Absolute No's" in the general area of my profile. However, I have had individuals ask me 20 or 25 questions, acting as if they are looking for sex at that time, only to be told they are interested in getting together "sometime next week". This kind of behavior drives me bonkers, I don't engage with people on hook up sites unless I am looking for sex that afternoon or evening - not next Thursday. So what's your feeling on the subject?

Let's give BZ's server a try and post those pics (I know I will hear from a moderator about this but I couldn't resist).

I don't recall anyone every asking me to see any kind of medical reports - EVER. Now have they asked me, sure. I have a friend who actually posts his results above his toilet in his bathroom, frankly I am not going that far. If I meet someone from BBRT the question of status is there, I believe on A4A as well. If you have been online in a specific geographic area for a number of years many people have a good idea of your status. I have had Xanax and sleeping pills stolen from my house ONCE, it never happened again and every time I am "hosting" my medications are locked up and put away. But I am not about to hand over my latest Quest Diagnostics report, no way. no how.

This has happened to me, only I was on the receiving end. It was a work night, he had to get up in the morning, but he fell asleep after he shot his load. Funny thing, I enjoyed the cock but when he started to snore, I had to wake him up. He was embarrassed, but appreciated my concern for his job and getting home to his own bed. I still play with him to this day,

I have noticed this on a few occasions in Only Fans videos. I think the guys already know what the answer is, but what is great about Only Fans is the audio, sometimes things are said that can be a real turn on. At least, that has been my experience.

Since I am usually out of town if I go to the baths, I make it a habit after checking in of walking around the entire facility - twice. It gives me the opportunity to get acquainted with the facility, and also allows those who have lockers or rooms a chance to see me. Public spaces like hot tubs or pools I make sure I am naked and people have the opportunity to view me. I always take a shower immediately upon arriving so those who may have been "occupied" when I first unlocked my door have a chance of get a look. It's free advertising, so to speak. Nothing wrong with that....

I have stayed at several Best Westerns in Florida over the past two years and after 10 pm they will not allow anyone even into the lobby without a key card. It doesn't seem to be based on race, it happened to me as I returned from dinner and was shocked that there was an added layer of security. I still think drive up motels where you don't go through a lobby are the best idea, but I know in cities like NYC that isn't possible. Just wanted to pass the word on Best Westerns as I am a member of their "loyalties" program and have noticed an increase in their security measures. Day time hours seem to be fine, and while staying in Pensacola I became friends with the gay front desk clerk who worked during the day. He said he has actually found guys having sex in the stair wells (sp?)during the day, he just told them to take it back to one of the rooms instead of calling the police. The added security may just be implemented during the evening but I can't be positive.

#16 - plays well with others, but is too nosey I have to see what else is going on.

@PigBoyDallas - that was an excellent post, the first model mention, Phoenix, was in the local news after his shoot out with police and subsequent death. They gave his legal name and mentioned his gay for pay porn career, but didn't mention "Broke Straight Boys". I have, in the past, wondered how many were truly "straight" and from what I heard in that post it seems the majority were (or are). Thanks again.....