Getting HIV is (at the moment) a permanent condition which requires lifelong treatments. And we can't always count on others who pay, in America and the rest of the world. I respect people who became positive for real, everyone has their own reason and I think that if one has made this decision, they've already thought of it enough; did they talk to counselors, to therapists and doctors... They nowadays know the possible choices and behave accordingly and in front of such a decision we have to stop and respect - that doesn't mean share or approve, but respect someone who thinks differently from us, has opposite values than us.
I don't think that an affirmation like this could work: "you do it because your country can (still) afford treatments, what if tomorrow they won't"...
There are many factors involved, making a wannabe "bug chaser" feel guilty talking about future of treatment does not do the trick to change their mind, honestly I think people don't consider "the future" in many ways... Including voting for politicians whose intention is to interrupt sexual freedom... so...
Anyway people to be scared of the most, aren't chasers and gifters but all those underground folks who never test and go spread it around without knowing, and if possible, lecturing others about morality and so on.
Fuck, I've been repressing what's called "HIV fetish" for years, I've spent more than a decade, let's say 20 years at least, wondering why I got sexually excited from the idea of transmitting a permanent infection to someone; I was still negative and secretly fantasized of giving it to my partner... And when I got the real HIV I felt dirty, guilty and dangerous. Infection completely unwanted.
My journey to accept my status (kinks included) has been long and difficult, many overwhelming emotions and events, to find the conclusion that mine is simply a "biological bond fetish" which found its revelation in HIV.
Psy said it was due to my very bad relationship with my biological father, but after trying to forgive him, then closing up again due to his homophobia, and his death at beginning of this year, has made me realize life without him is better.
HIV _would_ be a way to be linked biologically to someone you choose? This is my reason for this kink but then? What's next?
"people you choose", in the real world, means nothing because life changes and relationships can develop in unexpected ways so, if you have the responsibility of giving such an infection to someone, whenever the relation changes for the worst, what might be a "permanent biological bond romantically or friendly chosen" might become worse than the worst abusive parent-child or siblings relationship - with even legal implications.
It's not worth it!
So, I always thank Breeding Zone for technology and meds for science, to have given me THE GIFT of openly confronting my fantasy with roleplay on Internet with _many_ neg guys having fun with me, and in real life my boyfriend playing along with me, having bareback sex, and my undetectable status keeps him safe. Fantasy and role play do not harm, but it's essential to distinguish FANTASY and DESIRE.
For giving and receiving HIV, in my own experience, fantasy is OK, desire (wanting to make it real) isn't appropriate at all.
A hug to anyone has, or has had, fun with me.