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more than OK, but the lesson's learned: always consider and listen your body's signals! We guys are often grown up with the "performance" culture, never fail, never give up, especially in sex! Even finding ourselves overstressed. But why! Quote: "relax, take it easy".

Let me add another consideration: true that writing with no filter might cause the "keyboard warrior" phenomenon - taking a person and offending them, exchanging it for "freedom". But, on the other side, it's the good part of the challenge! EVERYONE is able to point a camera on their sexual organs when excited, or their naked bodies. Or whatever. But what does it add, to all images and video you can find somewhere else? A sex-related conversation with someone, gets interesting when both parties involve themselves in it with their fantasies, the desire to know each other's tastes, push their limits... Just having a dripping penis with "I'm like this because of you" makes no sense for me, that penis could belong to anyone!

Don't know if it can be called "burn out from sex" but I've had a "hard-on block" right after I found out HIV. Such as "sex has brought me here, sex is the problem!" Even porn made me feel discomfort! It lasted what, a couple years before feeling comfortable again with my sexual excitement; a little more when it concerned trusting other folks to have physical encounters with. And a very short episode happened last year when I left my abusive ex but it lasted a couple days then, as I had another man in my future! He's been (and is) the best support. You, don't feel wrong if you have no sex desire; take a break, life can't be just related to sex, good luck

Miss it? No, as I do it daily - with guys here I clarified it from the beginning, I love writing and this is my way to dirty-chat so don't ask me multimedia contents of my body. Even because I think it's safer: if you write, behind a nickname, and without telling anything about your real life that allows you to be recognized, there are less probabilities of blackmail then. I'm an author I write fantasy what the fuck do someone want to take away from me? Anyway, depending on your tastes, you can hit me up any time for dirty messages. And yes, web chats are very, very rare nowadays - like IRC or ICQ or AOL for example, or browser based rooms; but no one prevents us from using new technology to dirty-talk! Any platform with a textbox and a "send" button can be used in this way. 🔥🔥🔥

Oh, fuck! You're leaving us hanging, as usual! Someone needs to set Ben free (poz him up) and all of them out of the closet!

NO, and I don't tolerate the idea of raping, even in fantasy; non-consensual sex is NOT sex freedom at all! In same way I don't approve stealthing because sex, be it short or long term encounter, must be something that both (or more) parties enjoy and then remember as fun.

This habit to consider personal experiences as global ones, should stop now! Especially talking about a sensitive topic as sex is. Everyone of us has their own life and this must be considered! Treating something personal as it was general or vice-versa has never led so far away! There's a world outside, let's explore it all and become more curious.

I love this, and you also published the second chapter -"solemn vows"- telling us you were preparing the third (acceptance)

Personal experience doesn't make statistic; is it difficult to understand? Saying "not engaging in anal sex is a lie" or "if you find the right person you'll do everything" is like saying "being gay? You are such because you didn't find the right woman" Makes no sense.

I don't really understand these conflicts, saying "sides aren't a real thing" means discriminating all those people who don't rely on anal/genital contact for any reason. Mental, physical, whatever. Would you tell "you don't exist" to a person who has no hands and needs to be masturbated, or nothing? Would you tell them "you require a sex assistant, not an ordinary dating app"? Why the fuck? Or if that person has had an operation preventing them to use their "ordinary" sex organs? Why shouldn't people get pleasure by other body parts? Declining it is our right, and freedom. Being rude is unpolite, regardless of disability and stuff. Let's behave as an inclusive, open-minded, community ourselves, before asking OTHERS to accept us. Let's learn to accept ourselves even considering different ways to live sexuality. And, last but not least, yes. Nowadays the problem might no longer exist but finding pleasures without genital-anal involvement could also be an opportunity for HIV positive folks BEFORE UEqualsU and PrEP discovery. I clearly can't talk about others, but, I've actually grown up being a "side": at the beginning, the idea of anal sex scared me so I used oral, manual, and cuddles. Until I found the right man, both for top and bottom role. Then, after HIV diagnosis, fear of genital-anal contacts came up again! I laugh now thinking of it, but the fact to be open to full body exploration has allowed me to take control of myself again. Even my current relationship started in the "side"'s way: cuddles, kisses, nipple play and so on, brought us gradually where we are now. Then, if you have a relationship with a self-claimed "side", you have other needs and cheat on him? Or have an open relationship, or no affair at all? It's their own business! We must accept and admit that we all think different: me into full body contacts, being naked as essential, others even remain clothed just freeing their cock and enjoy sex in that way, gloryholes where to shove your member in, without even knowing what body stays to the other side... I'd never conceive sexuality in that way but, what's next? Why should I be rude towards someone having fun like this? Respect is the key. PozTalkAuthor in lecture dress [kidding, of course] - no intention to lecture anyone, I'm just wondering why, in a world full of conflicts, we need to create them for sex too.

Yeah, I got it! And understood it; thanks for having added this, as from my previous post the meaning could be misunderstood. The problem persists anyways, as it's the beginning of pornography criminalization. Then the step from here to ban every content regarding sex (including sex education) is very, very short. Wearing the paranoid mask now LOL

Oh fuck! Why this! Nothing bad in being side, or side-verse; preferring manual, oral, or other stimulation than penis-anus is anyone's freedom. But insulting is not appropriate in any circumstance. God, nature, universe call it anyway you want, has made us with a body and a mind; why on Earth not use them? I could suppose that one person may just want cuddles, kisses and wank because they've got a serious movement disability preventing them from having an "ordinary" sexual life. Or, better said, they don't live sexuality as we are used to know about it. In such a case life might be frustrating (I've personally been stalked by a woman with a disability but NEVER indulged them), someone of them feels "untouchable" given that a huge quantity of people, making a serious MISTAKE, forgives any action for "pity" reasons; but in case a person in physical impairment condition reacts insulting or worse when encountering different sexual desires than theirs, it's harmful both for themselves and for people with disabilities in general as others may judge a whole community due to a single person's behaviour. Then, I suppose there are also many folks without any particular condition but feeling unsure, uncomfortable with their sexuality, and when hearing someone who has a different desire, they act as "I would like, but I can't". Aggressivity and envy of "I'd like to have it up my ass too, but I never admit it and get frustrated towards you who admit it so frankly". Signed: a proudly side-verse man who never understands insults, when just a "NO" is enough.