VersatileBreeder

I know this is going to sound like a trivial question, but I've seen it enough times that it's got me curious enough to ask. Browsing through profiles on BBRT, I've seen a few guys who have their ages listed as 86. Now, it would be pretty impressive to see an 86 year old on BBRT (I think the oldest I've ever seen for real is 74), but it's obvious based on their pictures that they are nowhere near 86 years old. In fact, a guy who fucked me once who is in his late 30's has his age listed as 86. It has me wondering... Is this a code for something that I'm not aware of? It's just so weird that several guys have that exact same age listed, which they're clearly not, and it makes me wonder why. Anyone know what this means?

I know there are a lot of topics on here about douching and cleaning out, but one of the things I haven't yet seen as a means for getting a clean hole is fasting. Here's the deal- I am vers, more of a top. Part of the reason why I don't bottom all that much is because for me, cleaning out my hole is a chore which can take a LONG time to get spotless. A lot of times when I think it's clean enough, I end up being wrong. This Friday I'm going to Cumunion NYC and want to give and get loads so I want my hole to be completely clean. I am considering fasting for 24-36 hours before the event. I won't starve to death so it won't be the worst thing in the world, but has anyone ever fasted for a day or so before the action? How did it work out for you?

I had this issue with a bottom dude I used to hook up with. In the beginning from when I first met him, it was great, I could fuck him 2, 3 times in a night before he would cum. For some reason, after a while he started jerking his cock while I fucked him and then would cum and once he'd cum, he would be done and unable to get fucked anymore. The second time after that, I told him not to touch himself, but he still did and then came and then we had to come to a screeching halt again. The third time, I actually would grab his hand away from his cock when he would go to touch himself. Well when I got him on all fours, I didn't realize he was jerking again and then he came. I was so fed up with him that I just left, deleted his number and blocked him on BBRT. He hit me up a couple times after and I just ignored him. If a guy makes himself cum before the top and then basically blue balls him, then he's a shit bottom that deserves zero cock. Being vers, I can't understand why a guy would want to cum before his top. When I get fucked, I'm all about the top's pleasure. There were a couple of instances where I actually came hands free from amazing tops. I didn't even stop them, they continued to fuck until they blasted their loads in me.

By the way you describe your obsession with working out and with breeding dudes, it sounds like it bothers you that you are so pre-occupied with these two things. I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist or mental health doctor in any way, shape or form, but what you describe sounds like two things- hyper gymnasia (obsession with exercise) and sexual addiction. It sounds like if you are in fact dealing with hyper gymnasia, you developed that as a result of sexual addiction- you are obsessed with breeding more and more guys and the only way you believe you will be the most alpha breeder you can be is by working out crazy amounts. If it really does bother you so much, my suggestion is to seek help. A mental health doctor like a psychologist or psychiatrist may be able to get down to the bottom of what is compelling you to see your sole purpose in life as an alpha breeder. It may be tied to OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). If that is the case, the doctor could even prescribe you medication to help you cope with the OCD. Again, I'm not a doctor and I'm not trying to give you a diagnosis. All I'm saying is this is what it sounds like based on what you describe. Only a doctor can truly help you.

Thank you buddy!

You're absolutely right I guess a picture is worth a thousand words so here you guys go...

OK so now that I probably just bewildered you with the title of the topic, allow me to explain. I have a hard time trying to class the size of my own dick. I know size is an objective thing- what some people find to be small, others find to be large and vice versa. Here's why I get confused. Growing up, I always thought I had a small dick. Then again, I never really had anything to compare it to. When I'm soft, since I'm a grower, my dick looks very small. But when erect, I'm between 7 and 7.5 inches long and 6 inches around (and yes I measured the correct way, with measuring tape). I have a tendency to think I'm average. But I get more confused when I fuck with guys and I hear a lot of guys say things like "WOW your cock is really thick," or "damn that's a big dick dude" and still I don't think it's that big. Sometimes when I top, guys will whimper in pain or try to push me back out of them because they say they can't take it. And it all still confuses me because I still think my cock is at most average. Does anyone else have this issue? Where you think your cock is something that many others think it's not? Have I watched too much porn and think that big cocks are the norm? Maybe it's body dismorphia? I'm still just confused. Not sure if I should be "average" or "large" on BBRT lol.

FelchingPisser, that might be one of the funniest things I have seen on this site. Spot on, dude.

Yep this sounds familiar. I'm not sure what dimension these some of these bottoms live in that they think that we can just round up a group of tops on demand in a short timespan. Don't they know tops are a commodity in the hook up world? I once had a guy pull pretty much exactly the same scenario on me. We were making plans to meet up and when all seemed like it was a go, he messages me with "hey you have any top buddies?" To which I replied "yeah a few." And he goes "cool! Ask them to come over." I wasn't interested in trying to make a group happen at the time so I said "yeah I don't think I can get them on this short notice. Why don't you just come over and we'll have some 1-on-1 fun?" He responded "hmmm, ask around on BBRT, I'm sure you'll find some tops." He kept persisting, so finally I said "wait! I have an even better idea!" All excited, he was like "oh yeah, what's that?" I said "instead, how about you round up a group of bottoms and bring them over so I can take turns fucking all of you?!" He then blocked me and disappeared. I think he got the message.

Being 6'3" myself, what most people would consider reasonably tall, I LOVE fuckin shorter guys. Here's why: My cock is about 7". With most average to taller size guys, I could just about tap on their second sphincter when I'm fucking them. With shorter guys (like under 5'6"), because their bodies are typically more proportionally compact, I can usually get past that second hole and it feels FUCKING AMAZING. There was one short bottom I used to fuck who would ride on top of me and my dick would just slide right through that second hole and it drove both of us wild. I would have to pace him to not cum so fast inside him. That's why I love shorter guys.

Last night, I got to thinking about this topic and was wondering what other guys' opinions are. In short, I met a top on BBRT with a HUGE cock, 11 inches and THICK to be exact, biggest cock that's ever fucked me. He literally made me feel like a virgin getting broken in for the first time. I have had my share of guys with big cocks fuck me but this guy was on another level. He fucked so awesome, hard and rough, for a good long time before he bred me. My ass is completely sore today and I love the reminder every time I sit down that I my ass was ravaged by this huge cock top. What's funny is this- after I left his place, another top on BBRT hit me up, a guy I had spoken to a few times before but the meeting time was never convenient. So after getting bred by this huge top, I went over to this other guy's place. His cock, on the other hand, was on the smaller side of average. When I saw his cock, I felt like I was so spoiled by this huge top earlier and this one will feel like nothing. I was WRONG. Not sure if it was the guy that turned me on, or the way he fucked, or what it was, but his rather smaller average cock felt so good inside me. And the best was when he came, he did what I love when tops do- pushed his cock all the way in, stopped thrusting and let me feel every pulse of his seed firing off into my ass. I left his place feeling about equally satisfied as I did from the huge hung top. It made me come to the realization that I had two polarizing size cocks fuck me in the same night and I was equally happy with the both of them. Whereas I thought I had a little size queen in me, I realized that small cocks can be great too. It actually makes me feel sorry for all those guys who post ads on sites like BBRT demanding ONLY tops hung at least 9". So that's my rant for the day, the results should be interesting.

Hey man, congrats on planning your first gangbang. I'll try to give you the best advice I can based on my experiences hosting gangbangs (I've hosted 3- one in NYC, one in Chicago and one in Philly). The NYC one only had 5 guys show up, even though 51 responded to come on BBRT (NYC guys seem to be notoriously unreliable and flaky in addition to having hookup ADD). My Chicago gangbang had 12 guys out of 40 responders show and the Philly one was the most successful- 18 out of 41 guys showed. All were done in big hotels in the city and each one was a hot time. How you want to set up the atmosphere of the room is up to you. In NY, I didn't do anything special. In Chicago, it was more of a dark room and I did it up in Philly a little bit- put on some electronic music, even put out beer bottles for the guys, which they seemed to appreciate when they were taking a break from fucking me. Big busy hotels seem to work well for this type of scene because guys coming and going won't raise any eyebrows from the staff. It's important to be sure that the hotel doesn't require a keycard to go up the elevator, otherwise you'll have an issue there. Controlling the flow of guys is hard. You probably want a group of guys taking turns on your hole (that's the best) but you don't want an overcrowded room full of guys. I did this part wrong in NYC and Chicago- I told guys to come between 7 and midnight, so guys were just showing up sporadically. I got it right in Philly- I told guys that they can come as early as 8, but ideally if you want to be part of a group, come between 9 and 10, even as late as 11. I had 12 guys in the room between 9 and 10 all taking turns banging me out. As far as lighting goes, I'd say keep one or two lamps on but don't have the room either too dark or too lit up. Porn is up to you also, but I am not a fan of it in scenarios like this because I feel like it's a distractor. I want guys to be into the gangbang, not what's going on on a TV or computer screen. I checked out your BBRT profile (hot by the way) and I noticed you're doing this gangbang in Sydney. I've never been to Australia (dying to go) so I'm not really sure what the guys are like there generally speaking. I have topped two Aussie guys here in the states and they were a great time. Looks like you have a hot lineup of guys, hope most of them actually show up. You should have a great time. I'd say don't sweat the small stuff. Just relax and let the tops enjoy you and your hole and everything will fall into place. You'll feel like a million bucks at the end of the night knowing you have a whole group of guys' sperm collected in your ass. Good luck and let us know how it went!

I once met up with a top anonymously at a motel. I was ass up blindfolded when he walked in and started rimming my hole. He said when he contacted me earlier that he had a thick 9" dick but for all I knew that could have been internet inches and he could have been perfectly average (not that I would have cared much at that point). He lubed up his cock and started teasing my hole with the head of his cock. He said to me "you got poppers?" To which I replied "yes." Then he said, "good cause you're gonna need them," then drove his raw cock in my hole straight down to his balls. It caught me by surprise, it hurt like hell but felt so fucking good at the same time. He definitely was not lying about his size. To this day, that is the hottest thing a top ever said to me and when I just think about it, it gets me hard.

I started having this issue a few months ago. Started off pretty minor, but is becoming more and more prevalent. Basically, I'm 31 and starting to experience erectile dysfunction. As a top, I used to get rock hard and could fuck a guy multiple times and that's not happening anymore. I'm not sure if it is physical or mental (resulting from performance anxiety). Here's the physical side of it- I've been finding it more difficult to get hard when aroused, more so when I'm about to have sex than if I am alone. If I'm alone and just jerking off, I literally go soft as soon as I cum, whereas I used to still be rock hard for a few minutes after. My dick also just doesn't get as rock hard as it used to. What's odd though is time to time, I'll get morning wood, which should be saying that everything works. The mental side kicks in usually when I'm with someone and I'm gonna top. Case in point, I was with a hot bottom a couple weeks ago and almost couldn't get hard to fuck him. He was sucking me and my dick was just dead. I was able to jerk myself hard enough to fuck him and I did. But it seems like I get this anxiety about not getting hard that overrides my dick in sexual situations and that makes things even worse. It makes me not want to be in situations where I am going to top because I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to pull it off. I talked to a friend of mine who is 43 who went through this a few years ago. He thinks it's performance anxiety and all in my head. He also says I could be desensitized from a lot of exposure to sex, hooking up, porn, etc and that could be driving this dysfunction. He says I need to "re-wire my brain" whatever that means. I'm thinking about consulting a doctor about this, but I don't even know where to start. Do I need to see a specialist? I know that many guys on here use, or have used, drugs for ED, like Viagra, Cialis, etc. If you do use or have used these, my questions are- - How successful were they at helping your ED? Did it make a night and day difference? - Which drugs have you used and which would you say was most successful if you've used multiple ones? - If your ED was mentally driven and not physical, did the drugs still help you get and maintain an erection? - Do you think I should be pursuing ED drugs at this time? Would be much appreciated to hear back from guys who have been in my shoes at one point. Cheers.

I have a similar situation like that with a top buddy of mine. The thing is, he's a really good top and when you can plan a time with him that works for both of you then it works out great. He's got a great dick and can fuck me for a good long time. Here's the problem: He will message me early afternoon and say something like "you available to meet at 5:30?" I might say something back like "oh, 5:30 is a little too early, I won't be out of work yet, I get out at 6. Can you do 6:30?" His answer is ALWAYS, "nope can only do 5:30." He is completely inflexible on time. If the time I can meet isn't EXACTLY what time he is looking for, then it's always a no-go. It's starting to get annoying. I've never had a fuck buddy that's gotta be so precise on the time that works for him. Anyone else ever have that problem with a fuck bud?

Interesting thread. Here's my two cents... RideMyBlkDik, to answer your questions- 1) do I see latent racism on this site? Not really. Do I see men who objectify black men for their generalized notability as being hung, dominant alpha male tops? Yeah I see that a bit. I also see it on hook up sites like BBRT all the time. Guys will have in their profiles things like "BBC only" or "hung black guys only," etc. Do I think they are being racist? Not really, but objectifying, perhaps. I think guys that say "no blacks" are being racist. #2, do I shed prejudices in the bedroom but lead a different life outside of it? Nope, not at all. I love all types of guys- black, white, asian, Hispanic, etc both in and out of the bedroom. I have no prejudices or racial hang ups about anyone. All in all, I think racism is stupid and I don't get it. Nothing pisses me off more than when I'm on social media and I see everyone sharing links for news stories to try to prove a point like "oh look at this- two black men brutally killed a white man and the media barely even reported it, but if it were the other way around, it would be national headlines." They pretend that they are shining light to social injustice but really all they are doing is pushing their own racist agenda. I think it's really dumb and especially in the gay culture, guys need to cut the racial shit. In the gay community, we have faced plenty of oppression ourselves in the past; the fact that we would turn on each other over race is completely fucking pathetic.

Got a little issue that I'm dealing with now. Wondering if any guys have been in this situation and what I should do... About two and a half weeks ago, I posted an ad on Craigslist, looking for a bottom that wanted to get fucked. A guy responded, hot as hell, toned muscular 24 year old with an insanely hot ass. Throughout our e-mails, he never asked my status. He talked about how much he wanted me to breed him. (Just as a reference point, I have been poz for about two years. Been on Stribild for almost that entire time- March 2014 is when I went on it. Every doctor visit after that has shown undetectable VL and high CD4 count. Take meds everyday and I never miss a day). Anyway, dude comes over, I fuck him, shoot a big load in him and he leaves. Again, when he was over, he never mentioned status. My assumption was he was either poz already or just didn't care either way. Fast forward to today, I get texts from him asking if I'm "clean." I told him that I'm poz but undetectable for almost the last two years. He is now freaking out. He thinks he is having fuck flu, but it turns out his only symptoms are a stuffy nose and a cough (no other symptoms that are associated with ARS- no fever, rash, lymph node swelling, etc). I told him what it means to be undetectable and how his risk is extremely low. I told him that him getting fucked by me that night would have been a safer choice than if he had gone out and been fucked by some guy who just claims to be neg (but could be poz and not even know it). I told him if this were a concern to him, he should have asked BEFORE the sex. He is saying I should have told him regardless. He is saying that he's trying to get into the Marines, that he has a serious girlfriend he wants to propose to, and if he's poz, his life is over and it's all my fault. I still stand by that he should have asked if he was concerned, but now I am going to feel really bad if he turns poz. It's always been my belief based on studies done like the Partner Study, that if a guy is consistently undetectable, the risk is nearly zero for infection. Have any guys here been in a similar situation? If so, what did you do/say to mitigate the problem? Am I wrong about all the studies done? I thought that undetectable guys were virtually non-infectious. What are the chances that this guy might really be poz? I am trying not to worry but now he's got me so worked up about it that I just don't know anymore. Is my worrying unfounded? Should I be feeling bad? Any and all advice is greatly appreciated.

Hey man, sorry to hear that you're having this issue. Being undetectable myself, I pray every time I go for my quarterly doctor appointment that I'm still undetectable. One of my biggest fears is seeing that my viral load increased because that's telling me that something is wrong. In your boyfriend's case, I think a good question to start with is why did his viral load increase? Is it just recently that he has been inconsistent with taking his meds? I hope that this isn't the case, but if he has been really inconsistent with his meds, it is possible that he could have become resistant to them. His doctor would need to test him by genotyping the virus to see if that is the case. If it is, the doctor is going to need to switch his meds to get him back on track. Ultimately, if he cares about his health, he needs to take his meds. Medication is not something we can choose to take only when it's convenient for us and HIV meds are no exception. He has to take it seriously. As for how do you show him that he's not defined by his status... That's easy... Just tell him. Have a long conversation with him about it if need be. But that might not change his mind about having unprotected sex with you because quite simply, just the thought alone that he could now possibly transmit the virus to you may be too much for him to handle. Ultimately, he is trying to protect YOU. For right now, I would say do your best to get him back on track with meds so he can be undetectable again. This is really not an issue that can be fixed otherwise.

Being versatile, this "painting" as you call it has happened to me both as a top and as a bottom. Doesn't happen often, but it has happened. When I bottom, I try to make as much of an effort as possible to make sure I'm clean. I have enough douching experience to have a good enough idea when my ass is clean and ready to go. If I'm traveling to another guy's place, I usually pack a douche bulb with me and quickly check myself in the bathroom before we start. But of course, there are times that even though everything seems fine when I'm done douching, the body moves some things around during the fucking and there can be a mess. When that happens, I just apologize, help the guy clean up whatever mess there is and then if he's still up to continue, I go back to the bathroom and clean out more. As a top, if a bottom makes a mess, I am as chill about it as possible. When he starts profusely apologizing, I just shrug it off and say "it's no problem dude, shit happens... Sometimes literally," and that usually lightens the mood up. In most cases, I'll give him a chance to re-clean and then we continue. There have been cases though, where the amount of the mess and the lingering smell have just turned me off so bad that even though I'm not mad about it, my dick just goes soft and I can't finish. That's usually not the case though.

Hey buddy! Long time no speak. What part of "be careful" are you referring to? Be careful not to get addicted? Be careful when using Tina (which I'm never doing again)? Be careful with the withdrawal... Or something else?

Thanks seaguy. I am expecting to feel shitty later, but I'm ok with that. I'll just sleep it off. What's more concerning to me is that my heart rate has been between 95 and 125 BPM since I got home (for reference, 60 to 100 is considered normal). I know that heart rate is only "elevated" and not truly a dangerous one like if my heart were racing. It still just doesn't sit right with me because I have minor heart issues (arrhythmia mostly) so I don't like to fuck with the heart. So just hoping I come down sooner than later and everything returns to normal.

In my previous posts, I've mentioned how I don't party and I don't mess with guys that do. Not a judgmental thing, just that a top that can't get hard and a bottom that is all squirmy and obsessive over irrelevant shit are no fun. There is one fuck bud that I made recently who parties and I can deal with him because he is a hot muscle top with a great 8.5" thick cock that can stay hard and fuck for hours. So here is my story from earlier tonight. I met up with the aforementioned fuck buddy. He was fucking me doggy style. He asked me if I wanted him to piss in me and I was like fuck yeah. He told me it would be chem piss and I would catch a high off him. I was reluctant, but I figured, whatever, what's a little buzz gonna do? So he pissed a good amount in me, fucked me some more, then came inside me. Before I left his place, I went into the bathroom and let his piss out of my ass. Not much at all came out, which led me to believe that he pushed his piss deep up in me. Whatever, I thought, it will come out later. I didn't feel anything at this point. As I left, I checked my phone and two guys nearby on BBRT were playing. One guys was taking cocks and loads all night. I was horny as fuck, so I hit them up. They told me to come over. As I was driving over, I felt this huge rush come over me outta nowhere. It was followed by this drunken feeling and a very dry cotton mouth. I thought, oh there it is. I got to the guy's place, they were playing. I got undressed and joined in. The bottom started sucking me... No reaction from my dick. I stood back and started jerking my cock for a while with very limited response from my dick. I got barely hard enough to get inside him, but once I was in him, my dick shrunk back to limp. I stood there once again, jerking and jerking and jerking my soft cock, but it was just dead. Finally the other top, whose place it was, could see I was struggling with no results and was like "alright maybe you should stop." I stopped, got dressed and left frustrated. I got back to my car and drove home. At this point, all I want to do is cum, but can't because I have a useless dick. On the drive home, I passed a cop on the highway. He pulled out after me and I thought "fuck, this is it. I'm getting pulled over. He's gonna see my bloodshot eyes and dilated pupils and he's gonna arrest me. My life is OVER." Luckily I was wrong. He picked up speed and passed me, obviously he got a call for something else. But man, I was scared. When I got home, I felt like shit. My head hurts, my hands are all shaky, my pupils are dilated huge, and I'm left with this useless limp dick that can't get hard and can't cum, which is ALL I want to do right now. I still have a dry mouth and I'm not tired in the least, though I know I need sleep. I feel like such a loser right now. I messaged the guy on BBRT to apologize and I explained the whole situation to him. I told him I owe him a load and would love to give him one another night when my dick works. He messaged me back saying "don't worry about it. Happens to us all. We can do it another night." Nice guy at least. So this leaves me wondering... What is the appeal of doing Tina? There was not one part of this high tonight that made me feel good. My limp dick alone is enough to make me never want to do this again. So why do guys do it? Now that I've experienced it, I can honestly say I just don't get it. Also, can anyone tell me what coming down might be like over the next day or so? What to expect? When I can probably use my dick again?

I wouldn't say there is any science to convincing guys to go bare. Every situation is different. Some guys are so set on condoms only that there is no swaying them. Here is what has worked for me in the past.... If I hit a guy up on let's say, Grindr, and we are discussing getting into fucking, I will ask "do you prefer safe or bare?" They tell me their choice and if it's bare, then we are good. If they say safe, then I tell them that I only fuck bare. Some will tell me right then and there that condoms are a must and that's it. Others will ask my status, which I tell them "full disclosure, I am poz and undetectable for nearly two years." I had one guy recently say to me "thanks but that sounds kinda sketchy," to which I replied "no it's not sketchy. Sketchy would be if I fucked you and didn't tell you." He agreed with me on that and I told him "if it's a deal breaker for you, I understand, but you should know that the risk of getting HIV from a consistently undetectable partner is extremely low and you're actually far more likely to get it from a guy who thinks he's negative, but is actually positive with a huge viral load. There was a study done on this called the Partner study." I sent him a link on the Partner study and after reading it, he messaged me back "when can you be here?" The most pushback I've gotten on fucking bare was because of me disclosing my status. Some guys don't even ask, and I just assume that those guys are either poz themselves or neg (and maybe on prep) and just don't care. Some guys head for the hills when I say I'm poz and there is no turning those guys. Then there are the guys like the one I just mentioned who was apprehensive at first but after getting a little knowledge about the low risk of a UD top, he relents and takes my load. This guy, btw, now wants my load on a regular basis. Sometimes a little knowledge goes a long way...

Hey man, sorry to hear you're having trouble getting laid. For some guys, getting laid is tough because of a very defined reason- either they are really bad looking, extremely overweight, perpetually bad hygiene, etc. From what you describe about yourself, it doesn't sound like these are issues for you. I'm a decent looking guy, but I wouldn't say that I'm a stud by any means. Still though, for me, if I go 18 DAYS without getting laid, that's a long time. I'm trying to figure out where your struggle is stemming from. I noticed your name on this site is "shyguyuk." That might be your problem right there- shyness. Hooking up is the type of thing you need to be aggressive with and throw yourself out there. If you're too shy, you are gonna have a hard time meeting and hooking up with guys. I used to work in sales and I remember one core value they used to tell us- "be bold and ask for the business." It's the same with hooking up. You say you have chatted with guys on Bbrt and Grindr, but just making a little small talk isn't gonna get you laid. You gotta be forward and state what you're looking for. If the conversation looks like it's stalling, you gotta then ask "so are we meeting up tonight?" Hope this helps. Message me if I can be of anymore help.

skylon, you are correct. I was diagnosed within one month of being infected. Started meds two months later. Do you think the early diagnosis/medication is what is driving the high CD4?