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somebody asked me this question yesterday and i had no idea what the answer is. if you're poz, on meds, and undetectable and you take an hiv test, does it show you as poz or neg?

from what i understand, although some people are more open and suggestible than others, you can't be programmed to do anything you wouldn't do anyway. your inhibitions might be lowered but you won't go against your true beliefs.

condom use is learned bahavior centered on a particular object. i'd say that it's the fetish, but a generation of social pressure made it percieved to be the norm and bareback sex, the abberation.

to answer your analogy, the guy who lifted the $20 knew it was wrong and did it anyway, and the guy who left his wallet out knew (drunk or not) that he was home, where he could reasonably expect not to be stolen from. whether you think the hypothetical safesex bottom in the darkroom is an idiot or not, and whether you think expecting to be listened to and treated fairly in those circumstances is foolhardy, you don't get to make the decision for anyone else.

i don't think it is, technically. a fetish is for an object. a kink is for an activity. to me, the fetish is for semen and barebacking is the kink that produces it.

until you can fend for yourself, including the cost of meds-covering insurance,my advice to you is don't do it. nobody is making you bareback. it' a choice you made for yourself, but you're not ready to handle the consequences. there's nothing wrong with just fantasizing and beating off to the idea.

can't remember the name, but one of the videos liam cole directed for treasure island features a boy getting hypnotized to get over his inhibitions about being a cumdump.

call your county health department and ask them.

all of my profiles state that i do not have sex with bi, married or straight men. period.

seems like it would be the same issues as in a vanilla relationship. if one partner is trying to stop using and the other isn't, it's probably not going to work. if one partner is co-dependent or has a vested interest in the addiction continuing, it's definitely not going to work. if both partners are commited to sobriety and are willing and able to support the new behavior, they have a fighting chance.

i thought that the storyline with the older lesbians was sweet, especially given meredith baxter's late-in-life coming out, but i disagree with your assessment that the show portrays gay life as it is. as it should be, perhaps, but not as it truly is. yet.

i'm guessing this is your first relationship. those rarely last longterm-- they're more about learning to be in a relationship than actually being in a relationship. let me see if i understand. you were a slut before you were with him, endangering your own health, and those urges are returning.he's cheated on you, endangering your health, and you've snooped, spied, and cheated on him, endangering his health. what have you learned? neither of you can be trusted, and meither of you are willing to have an honest conversation about what your relationship is lacking, which seems to me to be a basis in truth and respect. i don't see love and caring in any of the above.

i think we've gotten sidetracked here. we're supposed to be talking about antonio biaggi. i'd like to suggest that in lieu of hijacking forums and veering them wildly off course, if you come across a posting that makes you want to initiate a sidebar discussion, just make a note in the original topic that you'd like to explore the new idea further, then give the new topic a name and start a new thread.

personally, i'm offended by the presumption that gay men exist for the guilty pleasure of straight men. second, if you're truly straight you're not trolling craigslist looking for male sex partners. third, if arrangements to meet have not at least begun by the second email, it's not gonna happen. you're being played by a guy who is beating off to the idea of being served by a fag and who has no intention of following through.

@mndude: ideally, the question should be asked before penetration. if it isn't, try a question of your own, such as 'you want my dirty load?' if i'm about to fuck a guy and he asks me to pull out when i'm ready to shoot, i say ' i'll try.' i'm a pretty noisy cummer, and i also try to let him know, as in 'oh fuck oh fuck i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm about to...'

wow, rationalize much? what you call regular social rules might not all apply, but in darkrooms and saunas and such there are still norms, and they must still be observed. 'no' still means 'no.' 'you must wear a condom to fuck me' still means 'you must wear a condom to fuck me.' 'I know better than he does what he really wants' and 'he was asking for it' are still bullshit.

i think that it's stealthing when it involves deceit, whether that's lying about your status to a guy who's trying to serosort (including saying you're poz when you're not to a poz top who doesn't want to play with neg guys, as well as poz tops claiming to be neg when they know they're not), using a compromised condom on a bottom who does not want to play raw, or either participant agreeing to play wrapped and then slipping the condom off when the pther guy is too involved to notice the change.

i think bbrt has one.

unacceptable. you don't get to make the decision for him, nor decide what he should or shouldn't expect. he has the right to insist on condoms. you have the right to decline to fuck him. period

..... seriously, guys? 102 views and no one has anything to say?

tender, intimate moments can happen even during the raunchiest and rawest of pigfests. to me they're precious because they're unexpected. for instance, last folsom fair weekend i was at the sexclub, up against the wall getting fucked by anyone who wanted a piece. most of the time i had my eyes closed, but every once in a while i would open them and take a peek around. i noticed a cute hispanic boy about 6 feet away. i'd say he was 18 or 19, about 5ft6, slender and cute as hell. he watched me take 4 or 5 loads. there was a break in the action, and he stepped over and tapped me on the shoulder. I told him hello. "i'm going to fuck you," he said, "but i have to wear a condom." we both looked down at his cock, a lovely standard 6" wrapped in latex. "you don't HAVE to," i said. "you CHOOSE to. and you can choose NOT to." i don't think he quite believed me, so when he started to line up with my hole, i reached back, pulled the rubber off, and slid my ass onto his cock. he froze. i wondered if he was going to pull out and walk off. i hoped not. i pulsed my ring around his cockhead. he moaned. i flexed all those muscles. he moaned again and started slowly thrusting. his kissed the back of my neck, and then his lips found my ear. in bewtween nibbles and sucks he muttered, "oh fuck...oh my god...i'm fucking you raw...oh my god...oh fuck..." his arms wrapped around my chest so hard i feared for my ribs as he began to hammer away, finding his rythm and losing himself in what i think was his first-ever raw, primal fuck. it felt wonderful, and i really got off on thinking that i was giving him a new experience. he started pounding harder and faster, shorter strokes, and i knew he was about to blow. would he pull out? just in case he still had the presence of mind to do so, i reached back and grabbed his cute ass, pulling him in me as deep as he would go. he started mumbling in spanish, and then i felt him shoot. deep inside. he clung to me for several minutes, getting his breath back and coming down from his fuck-high as his cock softened and i released it. he kissed my neck and then he surprised me. he slid a finger into my hole, pulled it out and then just stared at the load gathered on it. i leaned over and licked it off. his eyes got big, so i slid in a finger and held it up to him. then he surprised me. he licked it off. we looked at each other and he just started laughing. what could i do? i kissed him. of the 50 loads i took that weekend, his was by far my favorite i saw him the next day ay the fair with a much older man. i waved, he blushed and looked away. that's my story. share yours. what's the sweetest fuck YOU'VE ever had?

@neg4poz: it serves no purpose to be scornful of those who are trying to play safe and get stealthed. barebacking is a choice that you demand to have respected; so is not barebacking, and you have to respect that choice as well. lying about your status when asked by a potential sex partner is wrong. so is wrecking the condom or sneaking it off when he's not looking.

i had a guy ask me if he could put his tongue in my nose. and several encounters later he asked me to blow snot into his mouth.

i've met and played with several guys from this site, both neg and poz. some i've written about, some i haven't.

i still haven't seen the film, but i want to point out again that it's 15 minutes long. that isn't enough for complexity. even a sitcom, once you subtract commercials & credits, has 20 minutes. and sitcoms have multiple episodes to develop characters and and explore themes over time. this film doesn't have that.