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It’s funny. I’ve been into guys before I knew what sex was. I remember early grade school — 6 or 7 — and I was trying to see the other boys at the urinal yet I wasn’t particularly curious about seeing girls. As I approached puberty (now knowing the mechanics) I was particularly fixated on how early/late I was compared to others.

I've had this discussion with friends: Would you rather fuck a (pre-bottom surgery) FTM or MTF. I'd strongly prefer FTM, especially if they're more twink than Chaz Bono 🙂 I've never fucked a vagina but, oddly, as I've gotten older I've gotten more heteroflexible. Still 95% gay, but there are times I'd absolutely consider fucking a woman. It would be especially hot to fuck a virgin but at this stage of my life that's unlikely.

For me, it was a hotter fantasy than reality. From a practical standpoint, the inexperienced guys I've been with didn't do a great job of preparing, shall we say. If I had the opportunity today, I'd maybe play with his hole a little (just the tip!) but would be perfectly OK with oral.

Berlin News Agency, on Route 73. I haven't been in many years (it's out of the way for me) but it used to be pretty hot.

I have a lot of fantasies, some of which would be pretty vanilla for many of you. But have you actually fulfilled a fantasy only to realize it wasn't all that enjoyable? I've had a few of those: Fisting -- My first time, though the bottom had been around the block. I got 2/3 up to my elbow...and my arm literally fell asleep 🤣 Then when I pulled out, it was pretty messy. Guess I never thought that far ahead! Then he asked me to fuck him. Talk about a lack of friction! I'd do it again but maybe just to the wrist. DP -- Same bottom, it was me and this very sizable black guy. I kept popping out. Finally, I sat back and watched him breed, then went in for sloppy seconds (which was hot.) MMMF -- I watched the other guys eat her out and fuck her (with condoms.) That was hot, but she was a BIG girl and I just couldn't get aroused enough to get in. I wound up jerking off on her back. I blew when I saw one of the guys withdrawing with a huge load of cum on the end of his condom. But the guys weren't into each other (well I was!) they were just focused on her. They wouldn't even give me the used condoms 😞

Not sure if it's the same thing but I've heard it referred to as a spermatocele. It isn't STI related, AFAIK. Unless it's particularly severe, they don't usually treat it.

I'm not sure I entirely believe guys who say they're only gay for pay. Bi/mostly straight, sure. But someone who is 0% gay wouldn't be able to get hard at the sight of a manhole. Go download some porn of lesbians with giant fake everything and too much makeup and try to jerk off to them eating each other out, if you don't believe me. See how aroused you get. Your cousin has a thing for submissive guys and knows he can make money on it. What's next? You'd better add €200 to your weekly budget. He's going to unload in you until you come back with a positive pregnancy test. 🤣 He might also try to blackmail you but he has more to lose than you do.

You often hear about people, usually survivors of assault, who get triggered by certain things. I had a (female) friend who could not be approached from behind or in her sleep. Anyone else here have similar issues? If so, what's your trigger? What happens if it occurs, whether accidentally or on purpose? Is it something that precludes you from doing certain acts or do you just submit and deal with the flashbacks?

On behalf of all the older, not-so-hot tops out there, thank you 🙂 I frankly don't understand how you do it; if I'm not attracted to someone I simply can't make it work, but I'm thankful you can! I hope I'm not considered outright repugnant but I hope to bless some of you with my seed someday.

Yep, that's what I did. I have a very good FICO score and plenty of credit cards. Occasionally, I'll cancel one I rarely use and pick up another that seems like it would suit me better. I'll unfreeze for a few days then freeze it back. It's a pain but a necessary concession to the world we live in.

Sorry for resurrecting a dead thread but hey, I'm new here 🙂 Nothing wrong with incest between (or among) consenting adults. Many of us have experimented with siblings/cousins when we were younger and, as long as it wasn't forced, there probably isn't much harm. Where it becomes problematic -- and where people tend to get messed up -- is when it's forced or it's adult with child. When you're telling a kid to keep a secret, they'll assume what they're doing has to be wrong and it can be a bit of a mindf---. This is, of course, a generalization. I've read people's posts on here where they said they weren't messed up and that's great. But it doesn't always work out that way. All this being said, one of my biggest unfulfilled fantasies is to be with two biological brothers (or brother sister, maybe) or perhaps a father/legal son.

Sorry, didn't see Iceland in any of the other areas so posting here. I'll be in Reykjavik for a couple days next Summer. Will be with friends doing touristy stuff but would be nice if there are guys interested in extracurriculars.

Culturally, we've all read about ancient Rome and Greece where older men with younger boys were just the way things were done. Presumably, those boys weren't horribly scarred from the experience because it was deemed normal back in the day. Fast forward to today: Sex is dirty, gay sex is still largely considered immoral, and large age gaps between partners are seen as inherently exploitative. Whether that's "right" or "wrong", that's what we're taught as a society and there are ramifications for those who deviate from that. Maybe in another 100 or 1000 years it will be normal again but we're living in 2024. If an older person is having sex with a 12 year old, even if it were made legal, it would still be frowned on by our society. Thus, it would still likely need to be done secretively. If you can't tell people, especially your family, what you're doing, a kid will draw the conclusion that there must be something wrong or "dirty" about it. Knowing that if they were discovered, the kid would be "in trouble "with his parents, that's an awful lot to put on a 12 year old. IMHO, THAT'S what messes people up. It's a much heavier burden than experimenting with the neighbor kid in the basement, not that you'd want to be caught in either scenario. Another issue is one of power imbalance: If you're my coach or mentor, I might feel obligated to put out: I'm not with you because I'm attracted to you, I'm there because I'm afraid you'll cut me from the team, or you won't otherwise help me anymore. The issue is picking an age of consent number. It's going to be somewhat arbitrary, not much different than picking a legal driving, drinking or voting age. Maybe there are some 12 year olds that could handle it. There are likely some 18 year olds that can't. A kid doesn't just wake up with emotional maturity one day, nor does it happen to everyone at the same age. Look at the people on here, for example. Many don't have any regrets about what they did as a young kid. But there are a lot of people out there in similar scenarios who were really screwed up by the experience.

Yep, it happened to me, and the email listed a password I once used that was on the Dark Web. It's all BS but the first time I received the email I did panic a bit. This is the world we live in, for better or worse. I'll probably have free credit monitoring for the rest of my life at the rate my data are being compromised. As paranoid as it sounds, we have to assume someone is watching/reading virtually everything we do. Certainly, that's going to be the case here. Even the FBI just warned people to use encrypted apps, since texts can't be considered secure. As for this board, specifically, I'm new. Are there things I'd change if I were in charge? Sure: I'm frustrated that I only get a few posts a day, for instance. But I broadly understand why the rule exists. And ultimately, he who pays the bills makes the rules. We can make recommendations and I'm sure those are at least read and considered, but knowing the rules, our choice is to stay here recognizing potential risks or to not come back. Since I know my stuff is going to be visible here, I try to take a few precautions (I.e. not using my primary email account.) If I ever did something seriously illegal -- and sorry, I'm just not that exciting -- I certainly wouldn't post about it here....or anywhere. Many years ago, I had a friend of a friend was arrested (and did time) for downloading pics he shouldn't have. I'm sure he didn't bother using a VPN, he may have even used his credit card on the site. He was older (this was 20+ years ago, I believe he's dead now) and not a techie, so I'm sure he didn't consider that stuff gets tracked.

Compared to a lot of guys on here, I seem to have a lot: Hate having my nipples touched, just super sensitive. Almost like how a lot of uncut guys can't stand direct stimulation on their cockhead. Not into foot worship. I'm self-conscious about my feet and rarely into someone else's. I need to feel a "connection" before I kiss someone. People especially find this one strange. I can take your cock in my mouth, but not your tongue. Not right away, at least.

I'm neg, certainly not an expert, but have never heard of it. So why am I responding? I also have Low T. In my case, I had an early dx of prostate cancer (I was 45,) was treated with radiation, and it crashed right around that time. I also thought there was a correlation between the two events but docs told me there wasn't. What DID happen was I got depressed. Nothing clinically diagnosed or treated, just an "OMG I'm worried I'm going to die and I'll never get an erection again." Not necessarily in that order. None of that, thankfully, came to pass. However, with that depression came about 40 pounds. Docs told me there was likely a correlation there. Over the last couple years, I'm down 40 lbs. My T is still low -- and I'm still not skinny! -- but it's better than it was 10-12 years ago. There's also a noticeable change to my sex drive. So even if T isn't directly related to HIV, some other conditions which came along concurrently MAY be related.

As a top in my later 50's, the decrease in drive is noticeable. Until I was about 45, I was always horny. Then I got prostate cancer. I went AMA and had radiation rather than removal because at the time, I thought it provided the best chance of retaining function. It did but, coincidence or not, my Testosterone dropped and I was just less horny. In the last couple years, it's rebounded a lot (I've also lost weight, which may have something to do with it.) T is still below normal but it's higher than it was. The major reason why I'm not as sexually active as I used to be largely because of circumstances. I never did the baths, there aren't theaters around, the bookstores aren't close by. The apps are always the same people and either they've rejected me or vice versa. And I especially lack the patience of "the hunt." I'm about 20 miles outside the Gayborhood so when I'm in the mood it's usually just easier to jerk off. Now, if I know I'm going to top, I'll drop a blue pill and I'm OK. I don't need it for receiving oral but -- Newsflash -- when you're in your 50s you generally don't get as hard as an 18 year old.

Same here. I was always concerned that I was a late bloomer. I wasn't, really, just that I was very impatient and knew a couple early bloomers. When I was a pre-teen, looking at a guys pits was how I could tell whether someone was developed which, before I hit puberty, was something I was particularly fixated on. Even to this day, I like seeing young guys' pits and trails (no, not doing anything sexual, but I can look!)

It depends on the guy I'm with but if I'm giving head, I usually prefer to swallow. I want the guy to have to ask me if he shot a lot because he won't see any of it. On the other side, I definitely prefer being swallowed. I'm a top but, given the choice of holes, I'll usually take the mouth because it allows me to sit back, relax, and enjoy.

I'm a top so I don't. But why do I prefer going balls deep when I'm ready? It's something primal, like an animal marking his territory. Aside from that, there's a feeling of dominance; when I fuck a guy it's inherently about my pleasure to some extent. Ironically, I found a quasi-kink when I had a FB years ago. He had a rape fantasy and, while I wasn't super into it, I played along, "breaking in" to his unlocked apartment, pretending to wake him up, etc. Pretty mild stuff. Then he kept asking for it every time and it just got old, so I figured I'd break him of the habit. He was one of those guys who was "game over" once he came, so I usually tried to finish within a minute of him. One time, during a rape scene, I made it a point to get him off before I even removed my clothes, so he was literally finished. Once he shot, I flipped him over, got naked, and basically used him like a Fleshlight for the next half hour. Technically it was consensual; he could have escaped but I reminded him this was what he asked for. He was begging me to hurry up and finish, because he wasn't into it, he was uncomfortable , and I was rubbing him sore because I purposely lubed just enough to penetrate him. Usually, when I came, he felt it and was super aroused, goosebumps etc. This time, when I finally came, I made sure his legs were in the air and I was looking deep into his eyes. Instead of ecstasy, he kind of cringed/had a look of disgust. He later told me when he felt me pulsing he almost got nauseous. Surprisingly, I was totally turned on by that. So the scene served two purposes: 1) He never asked me to "rape" him again (we did continue to play until he moved away); and 2) I found I had a darker side than I realized. The dynamic always varies somewhat when I fuck a guy but I'm usually trying to please him to a greater or lesser extent. This was the only time my partners' pleasure was something I actively avoided and I'm getting hard just reliving it. I need to find a guy with poor self-esteem so I can do it again 🙂

Is it me or does this sound like it should be a question on a math test? Next line: Assuming a volume of one teaspoon per load, how many ounces of semen were expended that evening?

Not trying to cause a debate here. I grew up in Philly and still live in the burbs. Like any city, it's generally safe. There are a number of good parking lots in the area (not necessarily cheap!) The people that get murdered tend to fall into certain categories: drug dealers, domestic issues, drunken arguments, etc. It's pretty rare that a random person winds up dead. I don't hesitate going into the city (was just there on Friday for dinner, the Wanamaker light show, and for a couple drinks at a bar.) A question for those more experienced with the baths. I'm not a bathhouse guy. Not judging; I've been in one, and that was with a guy where we needed a place to go. We didn't really avail ourselves of the social interactions with others 🙂 I've thought about going increasingly but always chickened out, figuring I'd be embarrassed by not knowing the proper etiquette,/ground rules, or I'd be rejected, or I'd be hit on by someone I really wasn't into. All sorts of reasons not to go. Just need to man up sometime!

Right, I know it's an anti-retroviral. The question was merely whether going on and off it can somehow build up a resistance. I didn't think so but figured the guys on here have greater collective knowledge than I do. I don't have issues with side-effects so that isn't a concern. I simply don't want to take anything I don't need. American health authorities don't condone 2-1-1 but it's accepted, IIRC, in Canada and elsewhere so I'd be comfortable going with that if a hookup arose out of the blue (well, a few hours before anyway.) Again, if I thought I'd be having sex fairly regularly, I'd go on the daily regimen. I'm accepting applications if anyone is interested @BootmanLA -- I'd up vote your comment but don't yet have the ability. Consider this your 👍 Thanks to all for the thoughtful replies!

Live in the Western burbs, near KoP. late 50's, 6'0, 235 (on a good day,) TOP, though I do enjoy mutual oral. On PrEP when I'm going to be sexually active so your status isn't a deal breaker by any means. I tend to have a low BS tolerance which can result in dry spells: maybe I'm too picky, I lack the patience for cruising/chasing sex down, and I can be socially anxious/awkward among people I don't know, though I'm extroverted once I'm comfortable with someone (i.e. I generally relax once I've painted your intestines/throat.) I live alone but can easily travel if that's easier for you. Sarcastic (maybe cynical?) sense of humor. Ideally prefer someone with an hour drive, though farther might work for occasional get togethers. Philly and surrounding counties are fine. Love twink types but NOT looking to be a sugar daddy, so for some reason they're not lining up to date me, so open to others 🤣 Decent sex drive is a must. Fairly vanilla but love groups (especially multi-tops on one cumdump.) and turned on by exhibitionists. Open to FB/FWB/LTR if it goes there but not interested in purely platonic. Hope to hear from some of you!

I recently started PrEP but haven't been quite as sexually active as I'd like, so I stopped. If I think I'm going to get lucky, I'll take 2 pills at least 3 hours before. If things work out, I'll stay on it for a while. More often than not, I'm either too picky, not aggressive enough, whatever, so I see no reason to take a daily pill if I'm going to go weeks/months without getting laid. Is there a risk to this? Could I build up an immunity (like antibiotics?) FWIW, I'm a top but I do enjoy swallowing. I have a thing for groups. I've done 3-4 somes but really want to be the last of a bunch of tops with one bottom...someone I wouldn't even need to lube up for. 🙂