AgentColby

LMAO, my reaction exactly. I will say, all the BS aside, he does have a point. There were a lot of cultures where men fulfilled other men sexual urges and needs. If you read about the middle east and Muslim culture, it was acceptable for older men to have a young boy whose purpose was to satisfy his sexual needs. Muslim culture had strict prohobition about men and women fraternizing, married and simgle. One can only guess what two horny guys have to do when all they do is spend time with each other and surrounded by other men. Some primimtive tribes, til this day, also practice that. The Sambia tribe is one that believes a male's semen is something containing masculine strength. This trible believes strongly the seperation of men and women, so much so that men do not live with women and they even have seperate walking paths for them. When a women is pregnant with a son, she raises him until a certain age. Once the kid reaches that age, he is sent to live with his father where he learns to become a man and prepares for his right of passage ceremony. One of the things that this boy does is perform oral sex on older men in order to receive the strength of the semen.

My issue wasn't so much the bars or the men. I just didn't find there was much to do once you've worked out, went to beach, fucked, and drank. The party lifestyle was all that FTL offered and knowing me, I would want more than that. The biggest reason why I decided against moving was the lack of employment. Despite a degree and job experience, I couldn't find a job that would pay me well.

I personally love south florida. I go at least once every other month. I always have a good time, sex or socializing. I love the weather, love the laid back lifestyle, love the deep influence of Cuban, Latin and Haitian culture. I always feel at home there and in good company amongst my island people. Love it so much I really wanted to move. I was living in DC at the time and decided that it was time to leave. FTL/MIAMI BEACH were my choices. Before making the move I took some time off from work and moved there for for 6 weeks to test it out. I enjoyed the relaxing, beaching and meeting men but after a few weeks I was bored. I kept asking my friends, what else is there to do other than beach, bars, gym, and sex? So. FL as fun as it is lacks intellectual stimulation. Sad to say but the people there are not cultured and you can forget about having stimulating discussions about world affairs. The party lifestyle is great but gets boring quickly. In the end, I realized as much as I like it there, I may get bored too quickly. I still visit often and I still hope that I can move in few yrs once I am done with NYC.

You sound like an asshole.

That is irrelevant. I myself have always been into older men. In my teen years, as I was discovering my sexuality, my attraction had always been for older men. I attended an all boys high school and even then, none of my peers I found attractive. I was lusting for my male teachers than my classmates. As I look back (now 31), I am amazed how much I know today that I did not know then. When you are 14, 15, 16, your hormone may be raging and you're physical body is changing to that of a man but your MIND is still one of a kid. It's amazing to me how much I know today and if I knew what I know now, I would have made different decisions in my teen years. A 14, 15 or 16 year old may have the desire for sex but they are in no way equipped to understand the consequences and the responsibility of it involved. Teenagers can not and are not in a position to handle or make adult decisions. At such age, you still need lots of guidance as you do not know diddly squat. It is also an age when an older person can easily take advantage of your youth and your lack of knowledge. I have a cousin who is 15 and she thinks she is an adult and knows everything. I keep telling her, you have no idea what you do not know. More importantly, I remind her that she has plenty of time to be an adult and very little time to enjoy being a kid. While she's a teen, just enjoy the time. You can be an adult and make grown decisions later.

His use of the word "oriental" said it all for me. LOL

My comment is not necessarily applicable to all and I am in no way bunching such men together.

Lets "keep it real" here, black guys are the bottom of the barrel in the gay food chain. Reality is that most white men are NOT into black guys. My years in gay community, I have learned that a lot of white men are very ignorant and their lack of interest in black men is due to that ignorance. Most are quick to say they just do not have a preference for black men. I strongly believe this lack of preference is due to lack of exposure. These guys live in their white bubble: white friends, white neighborhood and their day to day lives do not include any black interraction. Their perceived lack of attratcion to black is because they do not know any black people and their beliefs about blacks is all based on negative stereotypes. If these guys actually took the time to get to know a black person, I am sure their preconceived notions would be proven false. As a black man, I have found interacting in gay community is nothing but an experience of constant rejection. If I had a quarter for every time I heard "not into blacks." When I was younger, it was beyond hurtful to hear that rejection. When you are 18, 19, 20 and all you want to do is meet people and date and all you hear is, "not into blacks", it is a knife to the chest and I often left bars or logged off online feeling like the ugliest thing in the world. It wasn't until in my late 20s I began to not give a fuck. In college, I went to live in Europe for a year and it was the best experience of my life. I was amazed how race when it came to dating and meeting men was a non issue. There, I had no problems finding dates, hook ups. It was amazing time and what a self esteem boost the experience was. Granted, I knew some of the guys there were only interested in me b/c they wanted to experience a black guy, let alone an American but for the most part, race was not an issue while in Europe. I am an equal opportunity fucker. Hot is hot and it comes in all shades. I will say that within the past few years, especially when I lived in Washington DC (lots of GBMs), I began to date/fuck with less white men and have found myself seeking guys of color (black and latin) as preference. I find the experience more welcoming especially as I see more and more latin and black guys sticking with their own kind.

That is the STUPIDEST CRAP I have EVER EVER EVER heard. Because you do not like condoms, you think the best solution is getting pozzed? Really? If you do not like condoms then go to your doctor and ask to be placed on PrEP.

I personally think guys who bug chase are mentally unstable. Possibily experiencing low self esteem, worthlessness, depression or loneliness. I think these guys also feel they are not part of something and are seeking to be a part of a "community" they think will accept them and love them with open arms. Why anyone would willingly set themselves up to becoming poz beyond me. Life is complicated and stressful as it is, why would you want something that is going to only make things even mored challenging?

I think situations like this, you have to tell the top that you have another load in you. For some tops it's a territorial thing; they do not want to fuck a load that's already been marked by someone else; and for other tops it is about hygiene. I can not blame the guy for being annoyed about it and probably would have appreciated a heads up. I myself have been turned down b/c I already had a load in me but in these cases, I told the top I had been fucked and looking for another load. I used to have a fuck bud who only wanted to fuck me after someone else has shot the load in me. For whatever reason, he never wanted first dibs.

I am just curious. Do bottoms train their holes? In other words, do you train your hole to take cocks longer or take bigger cocks? What do you do? How often? I know some guys have regular dildo exercises? I used to, once a week, set a time to myself when I will not be disturbed to train my holes. I had 4 dildos that I would ride. I would start with a small one and work my way up to the biggest one, spending 15-20 minutes on each dildo. The one thing it did help was to keep my endurance when getting fucked. I am one of those guys who can have a top fuck me for 45-1hr and not feel tired out. For whatever reason, not sure, I stopped doing these exercises. So what do other guys do?

I do not think that being bottom skews the results. I do believe that the 47% is an under reported number. I think a little more than half of gay men, if being honest, i will admit that they use condoms SOME of the times. I think a lot of gay men do use condoms regularly but there are times when they do not. I think a better way to do the study is to have a wider group of men to question (different locations, age range etc etc) and then break the question down by condom use (Everytime, Frequently, Sometimes and never). I think a lot of the respondent will fall into frequently and sometimes followed by never.

stay negative dude. it isn't worth it. If you want to BB, then go on PrEP

Every bottom is different and every bottom takes the role differently. Some bottom need to keep stroking as they get fucked, some bottom can't hold it and just need to come, some bottoms do not need to come at all and some can wait until top is done. I myself cum after the top has come or I do not feel like cumming at all. When getting fucked, cumming is not the end goal for me. The load and the experience is what motivates me.

That's exactly why I stopped cleaning out daily. I used to do it every morning b/c I loved the feeling of being cleaned out and douched after taking a shit in the morning. After while of doing it, I was having major issues having a regular bowel movement. I talked to my doc about it and that is when I learned that frequent douching prevents regular bowel movements. He did recommend taking daily psyllium husk, which I do.

Reading many of these posts, it is amazing how many guys here are full of shit. In being serious, I myself was raped when I was 13. My mom enrolled me into our local YMCA to have something to do after school. The men's locker room was divided into one for those 18+ and those under. At that age, I knew I liked boys but wasn't aware yet that I was gay. Anywho, I always tried to sneak into the 18+ locker room as I was intrigued by seeing men naked. For several months that's what I did. One particular day an older arabic gentleman noticed I was staring at him and other men. I went into the steam room to chill out and he soon followed me. One thing led to another we were touching each other's dick, which was ok and I kind of liked it. It went too far when he tried to penetrate me. At that age, I did not know a thing about sex and didn't even know how gay men had sex. As he was trying to get his cock in me, he was holding my arms still and I was just telling him "NO NO STOP STOP" and he was ignoring me. He got his dick in and I remember screaming in pain. That was when he let go and I just ran out of that steam room and quickly put my clothes on and ran out of that locker room. I ran home crying my eyes out. My parents weren't home yet and I just sat in my room in complete silence b/c I was in disbelief as to what happened. I was completely speechless. Last thing I remembered was that I went into the bathroom and took a hot shower and vigorously scrubbing myself. That experience really had an effect on me and I was depressed for weeks. I remember my parents asking me what's wrong and I kept saying "nothing" but I was just in shock and disbelief of what happened. I felt dirty and just violated. I never went back to that YMCA again even as my mom yelled at me for making her spend the $$$ to buy me a membership. So as guys write made up story about being raped and liking it: BULL SHIT. The violation the experience leaves you with forever changes you, especially when you are a young kid who doesn't know anything.

The question is, what constitutes as quick cummer? How many minutes. I personally do not mind a quickie. It serves a purpose. There are times when I just need a load in me to keep in my hole and there are times I just need a top to fuck me good and put me in my place; this is especially considering that I have a stressful and demanding job and by the end of the week, I want to kill myself (exaggeration here). If a top cums 5 minutes after putting his dick in me, I am pissed. If you can not give me just 10 minutes of fucking my ass, then what is the point? 10 minutes is quickie. Anything less is a waste of time.

Funny you make that point b/c forums actually have actually made me question my decision to BB and at one point I stopped BB'ing and hooking up all together. I find many BB forums to be ridiculous. With the many crazy topics about drugs and bug chasing, I have never taken the forums or the people there seriously. I strongly believe that many of the members are full of shit, embellishing stories or out right making stuff up. When I made the decision to exclusively BB, I stopped going to forums b/c I think many casted a negative light on guys who do BB and do so without any influence of drugs or need to "chase". Other than the love for raw sex, I felt I had nothing in common with any of the members so I stopped going. The more I read the forums, the more I found myself questioning why I BB so I just stopped going to them.

I lost my virginity at 15 and it was with a guy who I was seeing, who was in his 40s. He fucked me raw and at the time, I did not know any better. I never had "the talk" with my parents and I went to a catholic school so the "talk" consisted of birds and bees and waiting until marriage. I knew condoms existed and should be used to protect oneself but that is all I knew. I did ask my guy if we can use condoms and I remember he got annoyed with me and said he doesn't want to. That was the end of the discussion and I never bought it up again. The guy and I saw each other until I left for college at 18. In college, I did not hook up much b/c I went to school in small town America and people talk. The very few times I hooked up, I did not enjoy the rubbers. One instant led to an allergic reaction. While in college, I was dating a 50 year old man and we fucked raw the first time and did so until the relationship ended. I then moved to NYC and I hook up here and there, sometimes raw, sometimes with rubbers. I NEVER really enjoyed the rubber sex. I then started dating a man for 2 years and we only fucked raw. After we broke up, I just stopped using condoms. Once you start, you honestly can not stop. I have been fucking raw exclusively for 7-8 years now

A friend of mine has been poz for 23 years and about 5-6 yrs ago he had signs of facial waste. He got a procedure done, not sure what, and he looks SO MUCH BETTER. I even told him how healthy and even younger he looks.

Calm the hell down. After clicking "post quick reply" I re-read my post and realized that I made the mistake of referring to you when it was another user, the original poster. I could not edit it as the function is not available. I apologize for the oversight but there is no need for all the ranting and private message calling me names. Again, I apologize as it was something i caught after the fact. Sheesh

Tiger, thank you so much for being a voice of reason on this site. I often have to skip over so many of the messages on this site because they are either: crazy, ridiculous, utter bullshit and just absolutely insane. Specifically, the topics and/or discussions on bug chasing and the eroticizing of being poz. I agree with your first comment regarding YOUNGCUMDUMP's dump full of shit statement. It is just that, full of shit. As for YOUNGCUMDUMP: Dude, take it from me, get that thinking out of your head that you need to be poz. I am 31 and have been poz for a year and half. My life isn't better or worse since being poz but I would say it has gotten "complicated". I am thankful that I am professionally employed, financially stable that affords me health care and good income. This may not be the case for everyone and at age of 18, it wouldn't be the case for you. Being poz has resulted in some complications in my social life: Dating has gotten a bit harder. Let's face it, not many guys want to date someone poz and at your age, you'll find that even more true b/c not many poz guys in your age bracket. My dating pool is now limited. Luckily I live in NYC where I interact with poz men but one thing I have learned, a lot of poz guys do not want boyfriends/date...they just want to fuck. Also, disclosure is another complication. Who do you tell? When do you tell? Don't forget dealing with insurance companies and getting your meds. I am lucky that I had a job and medical insurance that I have no problems getting my meds. At 18, your adult life is just starting and most likely you do not have a stable career or income yet, do you want to have to worry if you'll get a refill on your next meds? Life as it is today is tough, do not do anything to make it harder. If you are going to BB, fine, that is your choice but be smart and understand what you are getting yourself into. I started BBing at 20 and knew very well what I was doing. Knowing what I know now, I would have made different decision. I am not ashamed of what I have done or where I am today but at the end of the day, it isn't worth the hassle.

I have been toying with the idea for a year now and love the idea a biohazard tattoo on my left ass cheeck. What has stopped me is that as much as I love the tattoo, I am not ready to make such a bold public statement that I am poz. I want the tattoo that signifies by love for bareback. It seems there is no logo or symbol for bareback. The biohazard is the closets thing but it isn't a BB symbol. I just do not know what to do

The word used b/w black people and mant latinos is "nigga" not "nigger". Either way, it doesn't make it any better. The useage of the word between two black people or faggot between two gay people is mostly a generational thing.