BootmanLA

Since you mention 81 million votes - are you suggesting that the current president (recipient of those votes) was "weak" and allowed this tyrant to flourish?

What I do is hit the quote button, then chop off the irrelevant parts. And if I need to quote a second time from the same post (from a widely separated section) I just hit the quote button again, and repeat except deleting the original quote along with anything not needed the second round. Complex but seems to work.

Actually, when I hit "quote" on your post (which quotes me), it only quotes the parts YOU posted, not my original quote. That's how it SHOULD work. I'm not sure why ErosWired's quoting went astray, but it's definitely not working the way mine does (and yours did, above).

No need to apologize - I know you're not doing it deliberately (the quoting feature here can be wonky). It's as much "not wanting to take credit for someone else's words" as it is "don't show me saying things I didn't say". (This is a case where I agree about the importance of access to care where the person relocates.)

Wrong. Once again, someone thinks his own experience is the one and only experience that is suitable for everyone else in a group, and that anyone who doesn't adhere to his limited worldview is not a "true" whatever. It must be exhausting to think you have to speak on behalf of everyone.

You quoted me, but that wasn't me - that was fskn. Your point is actually a variation of the one I was originally making: aim for a large metro area, not a mid-sized city.

That's far more likely. Porn, unlike "real" film and TV shows, is shot wherever the producer can find a place; there are physical porn studios, but they're not fancy soundproofed buildings with ideal acoustics and powerful boom mics that can pick up the sounds needed, discreetly. They're shot wherever they can find a place, often in a house that someone lends them or an apartment or hotel room or whatever. So sound re-recording is often done, dubbing over the original tracks, and it's sometimes sloppy work. The actors may have grunted exactly in time with the action, but there's no guarantee even that the moans you're hearing are produced by the bottom on screen. Just as there are stunt dicks and stunt butts out there, there are stunt voices for the sex sounds.

As many people have noted, some bleeding is not uncommon. It's not "almost always" there, but there are factors which can aggravate it, as these folks can attest. However: bear in mind when you're watching videos, you may not even be seeing real cum. Lots of what you see in porn is faked (shocker!), and because of cuts from one camera to another, or stopping and starting from different angles, it's child's play for the porn producers to inject something cum-looking, but pristine and white and glistening (and probably tasting better) into a bottom's ass so that he can expel it on demand for a felching scene.

The risk of HIV infection in his case is pretty low if that number is correct and stable (ie not changing regularly up and down, which it might if he's not diligent about his meds). It used to be that anything below 50 was considered undetectable, because that's the lowest level that could be measured at the time. Now with improved techniques, it's possible to measure down to around 25, and that's where "undetectable" generally starts now.

Conceptually, this is great advice, but in reality, there's a problem in that very, very few places have rent control laws. The last tally I find shows 182 cities which have rent control within all or part of the city (for most, it's all). But 99 of those are in New Jersey alone. 63 are in New York. Only 18 cities in California have it, and otherwise only Washington, DC and Takoma Park, Maryland (a suburb of DC). That's it. Rent control does cover some very large areas, but basically nowhere other than parts of the two coasts. Also all very important.

As a starting point, given your sexual wants, you'll need to be in a good-sized city. It's possible to live in a suburban area NEAR a bigger city within your budget, but once there, you'll find there's a bias against traveling 25-30 minutes out to the "breederville burbs" for sex, so you'll be the one traveling, and that may not always be convenient. But larger cities near either coast are rapidly becoming prohibitively expensive for a starting salary like yours without roommates to help make things affordable. As CTCokPig noted, Providence, RI is one exception costwise (it's only slightly above the national average for living costs). The downside is the local gay population is not huge (it's a city of only 180,000). From late spring until Labor Day or somewhat later, it's a thriving gay resort town, and the gay population is swelled considerably, but for about half the year, it's much slimmer pickings. So as a general rule, you're going to want to avoid most places on either coast (unless it's an exception, like Providence). Chicago, likewise, is getting extraordinarily pricey inside the city proper in the areas where gays tend to live. Unfortunately, most of the larger cities in the interior of the country, even if they're relatively liberal and gay-friendly, are in fairly red states, often meaning oppressive state governments controlling what the locals permit. But the cities themselves may insulate you from much, if not all, of that. So, for instance, Texas is a very red state (in terms of its government, if not the people), but San Antonio, Austin, Houston, Dallas, and Fort Worth are all becoming much more liberal enclaves within the sea of red. To a lesser extent, so is El Paso. In Ohio, Columbus has long been considered fairly gay-friendly and progressive; ditto for Indianapolis in Indiana. I'd steer clear of Florida (the gay-friendly parts are expensive). Going west, Tucson, AZ is fairly reasonably priced (although buying a house can be expensive) and is the largest "liberal" city in the state. Colorado is tougher because Denver is fairly liberal and a nice place to live but it's getting very pricey, too; the more affordable places are still overrun with Trumpanzees and the Christo-Nazis that surround the Air Force Academy. Those are some starting ideas, on which some residents of said places may want to chime in.

Good choice. I will add: For a certain percentage of people on this site, bragging about being toxic, taking loads constantly, not being on PrEP, etc. is all masturbatory fodder - they're all playing a game of one-upsmanship pretending to be someone they're not. In other words, there's a lot of liars online, and some of them - in my experience, a not-insignifcant number of them - are lying about being thrilled at being poz. Those people certainly exist, but fewer in number since PrEP became widely available as a way to bareback without (virtually all) of the risk of HIV that came with barebacking. As to whether there's actually some feeling of "brotherhood" about being poz: I will admit that it's easier, generally speaking, to discuss one's status as poz (even if undetectable) with other poz people or people who are in a relationship with a poz person. So there's that. But as for some mystic "bond" between us? I think that's a product of fevered imaginations sometimes fueled with chemical enhancements.

On the contrary. I read your comment and took it for what it was: saying politics and party choices don't matter. They do. One party wants to protect our rights; one wants to strip them away. Republicans don't deserve to get off in a gay man's body when their party is actively working to make that illegal again.

Right up until the "bullshit of life", aka politics, drops police at your door to arrest you for gay sex. Think it's not possible? The Supreme Court struck down laws against such activity on the basis of a right to privacy, a right that at least five current members of the Supreme Court believe does not exist. They're prepared to throw out nearly 50 years of jurisprudence based on that regarding abortion. You think they won't toss out less than two decades' worth over the right for two men to fuck each other in the ass?

This is something you need to discuss with your doctor. Going off meds for a month is typically not fatal, but at the same time, your viral load is likely to spike upwards and your t-cells may drop. This is especially an issue if you went undiagnosed as poz for a good while after conversion. Most often, once you begin treatment again, your numbers will improve again, but you may never get back quite to where you were (or you may; it really is patient-dependent). Look into programs that provide HIV medications for free or low cost in your new area (and for that matter, where you are now, because they may be able to refer you somewhere). Additionally, I know my insurer (a Blue Cross affiliate) allows ongoing prescriptions to be filled 25 days after the last fill. That makes sure there is overlap between your current fill and the next one, and it's possible you could get an "early" fill for your medications before you leave, to help tide you over. Your doctor may also know of specific resources for continuing this kind of medication on a stopgap basis. Don't be afraid to ask - there's a lot of assistance out there, but someone often has to point it out because it's not readily apparent. AHF, for instance, provided my meds for free while I was first signing up for coverage that would take care of them (because my doctor is an AHF affiliate).

Which tells me it's not a site bug at all; it's Safari not playing well with a standard on the internet, which is scarcely surprising. Apple developers sometimes are obstinate about adhering to standards.

I wouldn't count on the fact that there are pictures of you out there where you're having sex resulting in people paying attention to you. There are tens of millions of pictures of sexual activity out there, and people tend to only pay attention to the ones that appeal to them.

You do you, of course, but I don't think men are obligated to enjoy a particular sexual activity just because it's what someone else wants, and they're not "selfish/lazy/boring" for doing so, any more than I would think you're lazy for not wanting to fuck women. I know guys who just don't like performing oral. I know guys who adore it above all else. I know guys who can't do it much if at all because of TMJ or other jaw issues. None of them are selfish, or boring, or lazy. I know guys who never fuck, and guys who never get fucked - and some who fit into both categories, and some who fit into neither. We like what we like, and I think it's pretty shitty to shame people for how they're wired. For the OP - I don't think there is a recognized (or "community-accepted") nickname for people in this category.

Lots of people have those feelings. That's exactly why PrEP exists.

AGAIN, you didn't seem to read RawTop's posting. One of the ways they control the spammers that plague sites like this is by only gradually opening up abilities. More participation over a longer period of time = more message capacity. You've made a total of 58 posts and replies in nearly ten years of membership on this site (five of which have been in the last day and two of which are in this complaint thread). That's roughly one every other month. That is not the sign of a person who is participating extensively in the site. Reading? Sure, you may be reading a lot on here, and that's great. But the site only succeeds when people *contribute* to the site, in terms of content, as well.

The New York Times ran an article today that notes the case of a third person cured of HIV, in her case by a blood transplant using umbilical cord blood from a partially matched donor. The previous two persons cured of HIV were cured by bone marrow transplants from donors who had a genetic mutation that blocks HIV. According to the doctors, the umbilical cord blood treatment route offers the potential of a greater number of people who can have the virus eradicated from their systems. It's probably behind a paywall, but for those who have NYT access: [think before following links] https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/15/health/hiv-cure-cord-blood.html

My usual response to something unsolicited and off-topic is "That's nice." and leave it at that.

As has been noted several times throughout this forum: the moderators do not divulge exactly what combination of participation items (number of posts, number of responses generated, etc.) triggers a move from one level to another, because doing so would tip the hands of those who want to game the system in order to spam-post or spam-message the membership. I will note that the system indicates you've only made 43 posts and replies in total over the years. That's not "nothing", but it's also not a huge amount of participation. One can be an "old hand" at reading this site without actually advancing very much. I always advise people: keep posting, keep commenting, and the rest will follow pretty quickly once you make it a pattern. I don't think a couple of warning points that old would really make a difference now, other than perhaps having set you back a little bit when you first got them.

For starters, "Mylan" is (or rather was) a company, not a specific medication. Mylan merged with Upjohn (itself a subsidiary of Pfizer) back in late 2020 to become a new company (Viatris). So comparing Truvada to Mylan is impossible; one is a specific medication, one is a manufacturer of medications. Viatris makes generic versions of medications that have gone off-patent, like Truvada. Their generic version of the drug is, like Truvada, 200 mg of Emtricitabine and 300 mg of Tenofovir disoproxil fumarate (I find no references to a 200/245 formulation). So chemically, the generic produced by Viatris should be identical to Truvada. Of course, the coloration, shape of the tablets, etc. may be different.