Great reply, Cherry Hole. As a sometimes bottom, and often top, I REALLY get tired of bottoms hitting me up and being so fucking thirsty.
Don't get me wrong, I love -hungry- bottoms, that is to say, ones that know what they want. What they want is my cock and cum in their hole.
That's OK. I feel like some amount of compromise should be acceptable, particularly from a bottom to a top.
When I'm bottoming, if a top loses focus or just starts to flag a little in the hard on department, I have no problem at all switching positions or sucking his cock fully hard again as long as this doesn't go on forever. Of course even patient queers have their limits and I am no exception. But I certainly wouldn't toss someone out, especially if they are hot/hung just because they didn't get hard in x number of seconds/minutes.
Once in a while, I get the feeling described above where I feel like the bottom is rushing me and just wishes my load could magically appear in his asshole. It can be really nervewracking. Like having to pee really bad with a bunch of people not only watching but audibly "cheering" you on (piss shy guys will get it). When I see this happen, not only is it a huge turn off (tops can feel objectified too, and it isn't always desirable) but it certainly doesn't help or motivate me in any way to fuck them, let alone breed them.
I had a 18 or maybe 20yo kid come over in the past couple months. Wanted me to breed him. It was late as fuck, but I was cruising BBRT so I figured why not?
He came over and I said 'so what's up?.' He replied "fuck me." I told him to suck my dick. He declined, saying "I don't suck dick." Me: 'at all??'
Him: "No, not at all."
I knew this was going to be a long night.
I took one for the team. I put on a silicone cockring and put on some leather porn and jacked myself off (from a semi hard state no less) close to cumming while rubbing my cock on and in his asshole. When I was about to cum, I shoved my cock in deep with my hand and made sure to get it all in there.
Yeah, he got his load. Yes, I shot mine. Was it worth it? To me, no. But I have a repuatation to uphold and a screen name to live up to, so I did it. STILL, I only like to throw fucks that I myself would appreciate taking. That means if I'm not feeling 110% or if I'm feeling tired or lazy, I will have to turn a guy down even if he is really hot.
I guess as I get older, it's not so much quantity as quality. I'd much rather spend some time over a night etc. with a guy who actually at least pretends to give a shit about me and then work into some hot sex more organically. Meeting for strictly sex and going from the door to naked and "FUCK ME" is soooo off of my to do list for a long time.