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Is there still a sauna or ‘venue’ in Limerick? I’m there for a weekend in Oct and will have some free time so will be looking for some fun.

Tel Aviv is good fun, nice weather and some very nice bars/clubs. It is a city in the Middle East though so you have to accept the cultural and religious differences. Apps are very popular and get busy with English widely spoken. I’m vers but I was only active in Tel Aviv due to the imbalance of the ratio of tops to bottoms. As for the Far East, I think Thailand could be fun but I haven’t been.

I’m interested as well.

Since I started regularly working out I have some good success with meeting guys through gym. I can offer the following tips and advice: 1. Remember that you are at the gym to workout, any cruising should come as a secondary bonus activity to your workout. There is nevertheless fun to be had, so don’t shut yourself off. In time guys will approach you to discuss technique and offer/ask for advice. 2. Log onto your preferred gay dating apps before you start your workout. Have a clear pic so that others looking around know who you are and what your are into/looking for. Don’t check your messages too often. 3. Wear something eye catching, but not too obvious to detract from your main purpose. See the attached pic of my gym shorts I wear when I am doing squats or deadlifts. I also wear a jockstrap, which gets attention in the changing room and is occasionally visible. Those that want to notice will do so. 4. “Correct yourself” when you have to, but don’t overdo it. Those that want to notice will do so. Be friendly and helpful, that way it is easier to strike up a conversation. 5. After your workout, use the gym showers. Once in the changing room, get naked. Don’t be too fased if you get a hard on, those that want to notice will do so. Once I am naked, I get my clothes ready, sling my towel over my shoulder and go and use the urinal whilst naked. This will get you noticed. 6. When in the shower I lather myself with soap and as I am uncut visibly pull back my foreskin and clean my cock and arse. I then succinctly check out who is around me and whether other guys move to shower closer to me for a better view or become visibly aroused. Look at others but don’t stare. 7. I tend to only check my phone for messages after I’ve had my shower and got dressed. Be seen to go for coffee or have a drink in the rest area. It gives guys the opportunity to approach you. If you have noticed others around you they may come and sit near you which gives you the opportunity to strike up a conversation. 8. Experience has taught me that using the gym at unpopular times (early Saturday mornings and late Sunday afternoons/evenings) bears the best results. 9. I’m not a fan of getting off in the gym or changing rooms, it’s not private and usually leads to a rushed encounter, but it has happened. Use your dating apps to connect with guys who are interested or who you have contacted. When I was in the navy I had to opportunity to use a gym run by the USN. I met some great guys and had a lot of fun from connecting with guys from gym, but it has continued to my current gym. Be friendly and approachable and interesting things will happen. Be patient and enjoy!

I went to the locker room in Kennington last night. No steam or sauna, just sex. It was fine. I’ve not been for a while but noticed more cubicles and glory holes. Two slings. It wasn’t busy, no more than 12 of us, but we were all there for the same thing. There was one “sling pig” who kept occupying one of the slings but I didn’t see anyone busy with him and a few guys with “London Attitude”, but they left after a while. It was good to be able to have a shower after every session. I enjoyed it and will go again. Just go, you will have fun.

RT, There appears to be a problem with the “London Breeding Group”. Here’s a screenshot.

I once arrived at a pre-arranged group party that started off well but then unravelled. There were, I think 5 tops, 2 bottoms and 1 vers (me). The one younger bottom liked one of the tops and was suddenly no longer in the mood for a group session, so they left together. When we got started it became obvious that the other bottom wasn’t clean, so he left. I was the only remaining bottom. This changed the dynamic of the session and 2 tops got bored waiting for my arse to become available and left. The session finished with me being DP’d by the two remaining tops.

There have been a number of interesting questions and posts about cockrings before, but I have questions about a cockring over the head of a penis. See the photo attached. It came off my Twitter feed earlier today. Have you ever worn a cockring like this, or been fucked by someone wearing a cockring like this? I think a cockring like this would tear the bottoms arse up. It also looks as if it would be sore to wear for an intense fuck. I would also be concerned about it slipping off during sex, it would be difficult and painful to retrieve. Do you have a view? Thanks, J

Brixton here.

I was on holiday just before Christmas and met a couple in the resort we were at. There was some intense chemistry between me and one of the couple. The first time he bred me in a sling and he just bent over and asked: “Please may I cum inside?”. I was kind of taken by surprise as I accepted it as a given and answered in the affirmative. Every time after that he asked first and I was really taken by this polite request.

Has anyone been to this cinema recently? Is it still open? Do they have secure lockers to put personal stuff in e.g. if I want to take off my trousers and wear just a jock is there somewhere I can leave my stuff? J

Good recommendation. I went last week Saturday night, very friendly. There were 26 guys there and I would say half of them naked with others wearing underwear. It was like going to someone’s front room, with sex in the basement. No attitude, no loud music or porn. If you don’t mind older men give this place a try. Such a refreshing alternative to the bars and clues in Schoneberg. Definitely an older crowd (all over 40) but no attitude, just friendly BB sex. I’ll be going again next time I’m in Berlin. J

Does anyone know why Laboratory has no party dates advertised on the website from 30 September to 10 November? I was there is July and the entrance process had changed with some visible changes to the layout of the venue but at was pride weekend and very very busy. J

I would be interested too, how does one get onto the contact list?

Tree, thanks for publicly posting this extraordinary tale, I always thought that I was the only one to attract weirdos. Reading reports on here it appears as if everything always goes to plan... It is obvious that you weren’t enjoying it and he wasn’t “pushing your buttons” so you had every right to want to get out of that situation. I wouldn’t have been able to put up with it for as long as you did. Slavery, total domination and scat are very acquired tastes. I had a similar experience with an online hook up to whom I stupidly gave my home address before meeting him. He turned up at mine 2 hours late after I had given up on him. Once he was in the door we got naked and as I got closer to him I noticed the BO. As he got more excited it got worse, eye watering stuff. Man small is one thing but this was intoxicating. He wanted a kiss but I just couldn’t go there. I offered that he could have a shower but he wasn’t interested, after that I just couldn’t get hard and had to ask him to leave. On another occasion I invited a guy home after a night in a pub. He was really nice at first and we had a good popperd up bare session. The next morning I woke up, went to make coffee and hit the shower. When I returned to my room he was all dressed to leave, no exchange of numbers confirming my earlier suspicion that he had a BF. After he left I noticed the smell in my room, and discovered that he had only gone and had a dump under my pillow. What a piece of shit, if you will excuse the pun... J

@ErosWired: “slingasaurus obnoxious” - an excellent turn of phrase! I’ve posted on this site about this exact same issue before referring to those that occupy slings unnecessarily as “sling hogs”. I even recall once asking someone to vacate the sling as he wasn’t using it and we were ready to do so and he replied: “no, you can fuck me”, we then decided to take our party elsewhere. I like bbzh’s suggestion and may resort to it should I be so unfortunate to be caught in a similar situation in future.

I once fell asleep with a metal cockring on. The next day I couldn’t get it to come off. There was bruising round my shaft. The guy I was with tried everything he had in the way of creams, Vaseline and an ice pack but we just couldn’t get it to come off. Eventually I ended up in A & E on a bank holiday Monday to have it cut off. There was some significant bruising round my shaft after that and I was warned not to have sex for a week. It was not an experience I want to repeat. J

This is a good, honest review of Berlin and reflects my own experiences. Lab is indeed wonderful and exciting, it has become much more mainstream in the last few years and there is a lot of attitude. I asked a bouncer about this last time and he could even comment on which nationalities had the most attitude. Some guys are just so precious about themselves. The Thursday evening naked event is the best, possibly because the weekend crowd haven’t arrived yet so more locals attend. I’ve never been to Fickstudenmarkt for the reasons quoted. Bull is good at the very end of a night, but it is open 24/7, I’ve had some good times in there mid afternoon weekdays with passing trade. Scheune’s Sunday afternoon sex party is great, not too busy and a usually draws a no nonsense attitude free crowd, lots of BB. I happened upon it by accident and always try to go if I can. J

I also enjoy watching the guys face as he fucks me and how he behaves when he comes, will he pull a face or shudder as he shoots his load or just come silently and carry on, or go all shy and bashful after cumming. I don’t have the same aversion to dark rooms though. It can be very horny to take an anonymous cock in the darkroom especially is others get excited by it and start tag teaming, which can then lead to changing positions and exchanging loads. I don’t much care for glory hole fucks though, way too impersonal. J

I was in Gran Canaria a few weeks ago and had a particularly memorable encounter. It was a Sunday evening and things were a bit slow in the cruising maze in the basement of Bunker Bar. There were only about 15 guys in total, of varying ages. I got a locker and stripped down to a jockstrap and t-shirt. I felt a bit vulnerable and overexposed but a few drinks sorted that out. Anyway, I was back in the maze and an older, tall Italian guy followed me into a cubicle. We couldn’t get the doors shut so moved the small bench so the the door could not be pushed open. He then kissed me and started to finger my hole. He asked for a condom and I said I don’t have one so he just turned me round and started fucking me with his 8”. I had to have a sniff of poppers to take it all. He fucked for about 15 minutes is various positions before dumping his load. He pulled out and I sucked him to which he replied in his Italian accent: “You lika da taist?” He then turned me round and with much grunting fucked another load into me. By then people were constantly trying to open the door to the cubicle. We kissed again and he left. Before I could follow him out to leave the cubicle a tall black guy just stepped in, unzipped his fly and started kissing me, he then fingered my very sloppy hole. This got him very hard instantly and he just turned me round and started fucking. I took another hit of poppers as he was quite rough. He fucked me for a while and I’m not sure whether he came and I had to really concentrate to tighten and loosen my arse muscle to take all of him as deep as possible. He then withdrew and zipped up his fly, thanked me and left. ....and to think that an hour earlier I wanted to call it a night and go home early!

Does anyone know what has happened to the London cumunion parties?

What a fuck up! It was supposed to start at 13:00. We arrived at 13:30 and were not told that anything was wrong. Only once we got changed did we notice that a load of guys were waiting at the bar for the basement to open. No effort was made to inform us of what was going on. We got drinks at the bar and waited chatting to some of the guys guys already waiting. Eventually we asked what was going on only to be told that we would have to wait another 45 minutes for the guy with the keys to the basement to turn up - he wan't answering his phone. We saw some guys getting dressed to leave as there were 2 other "naked" parties to go to and were tempted to do the same. The guy at the door was so busy trying to organise things that new arrivals were just coming in without being charged - and good for them, it definitely was not worth the cover charge. Eventually someone with keys did turn up and the basement was opened up 1.5 hours after the party was due to start. No slings were put up! The basement was a well lit room with no atmosphere, admittedly there were 3 fuck benches - but that was all. The darkroom at the rear of the basement with the "fuckbed" on was not opened up at all. Why do we put up with this shit treatment? J

I was on holiday in Gran Canaria, it's not quite high season out there at the moment so the bars aren't too busy. I was at an underwear party midweek, it was kind of slow but got going around 2am. Anyway, a number of Spanish guys (locals) came in and I ended up in the busy darkroom with them. There was another guy wearing a tight g-string, he didn't want to try anything but went to incredible lengths to put the raw cocks of the Spanish guys up my arse. It was pretty good going with both of them, as one tired he gilded another raw cock into my arse. He was really getting off on it. I took loads off a number of guys but it was good to have a darkroom helper.

Did anyone go to the August cumunion party in London? What were your thoughts comparing it to SBN? I went, and found it a bit hit & miss. The venue has much potential but £15 is expensive for what they offer, the bar is overpriced too, which also affects the crowd. If the bar were cheaper more guys would stay upstairs for a chill out and alcohol usually lets people lose their inhibitions quicker... There was a fair amount of attitude but that is quite usual for a London sexclub/gay bar. The "darkroom" at the back of the basement with the bed in is too light, he could move the bed into the play area under the stairs and make it a proper blackout darkroom. I did like the fuck benches in the play area but he could put up a few more slings. SBN in contrast has a much bigger crowd attending with your first drink included in the entry fee, better play area and hornier atmosphere. Any other thoughts/opinions? J

There is already a thread here for unusual or adventurous places to have sex but over the years I have met guys in some unusual situations. So this isn't about where you ended up having sex but rather where you first met, made eye contact and struck up a conversation. Gym changing rooms and toilets are obvious places, I'm interested in the more unusual. Some examples from me: 1. I was on a train from Euston to Liverpool and once had checked tickets the train conductor came to sit in the seat opposite me. We kind of checked each other out and he just said: "follow me". I did and he took me to a small office at the end of a carriage. It was a really small compartment and he had me sat at a fitted table with my feet on the wall. We fucked for quite a while and had to stop once as the train pulled into Nuneaton station as he had to do stuff. It was only when we had finished that he told me he recognised me from an earlier sauna encounter. 2. I got to a well known but now sadly closed pub in Victoria mid afternoon on a Saturday. There was a notice on the door that the place had been let out for a private function and would only open to the public on midday Sunday. I was just going to turn around and leave when another guy arrived. We started chatting and it turned out we were both horny. He was an Argentinian student. I invited him back to mine. We had a really cracking time and he only left the next morning saying that I'm a really nice guy and he's had a good time but he doesn't want to keep in touch as I don't have enough money for him. 3. On a packed Underground train (northern line) one evening between Embankment and Kennington. He was a builder wearing a boiler suit, there was a quick stop at some point and he held onto my waist, I turned round and looked him in the eye, looked down and then noticed that he was hard. I looked him in the eye again, smiled and casually moved closer. At the next stop he got off and looked back at me twice so I followed him out, we only spoke when we exited the lift. It was quite a walk to his room and I got hopelessly lost on my way back to the station later. I think social media might have killed allot of these types of encounters but it would be interesting to hear of others. E.g has someone ever picked up a hitchhiker and got lucky? J