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It does give new meaning to the phrase "implicit bias" doesn't it?

So true. It's like a story I heard of a Spanish-born man at a Midwestern college where he needed to fulfill a foreign language requirement. He suggested that he take an English test, since English was a foreign language for him. They refused, but allowed him to take a Spanish test, since that was defined by the English-speaking administrators as a foreign language.

You have a really hot ass, btw...🔥🍑👃💋👅

Hat's off to you! I just have them sugar my back and around the anus as well as the "t'aint", wax the ears my nose tip, and the rest of my body hair trimmed and/or shaped. My skin is so effing sensitive I could never go totally hairless. Sigh...

I go to get manscaped, but instead of wax they use a mix of water, lemon and sugar - it's called sugaring, in fact. It's easier on the skin than wax is. [think before following links] https://www.byrdie.com/sugaring-hair-removal-101-1717097#toc-what-is-sugaring It makes staying clean easier and also cuts down on irritation since the hairs unavoidably get pushed inside along with the dick.

Believe it or not, years ago in the pre-prep period I would occasionally top and ran into 2 situations: 1. A guy whose ass was UNBELIEVABLY tight worked the condom off of me (on purpose as far as I know) and when I'd cum said casually "Oh, the bag fell off." Uh-huh. I felt pretty stupid that I didn't notice when the condom came off, but it felt so fucking good both ways! He hadn't asked about HIV status so I didn't choose to enlighten him. 2. Another time I responded to an ad on a phone bulletin board ( early 90s, pre-internet, pre-PreP and prior to my being diagnosed HIV+ by several years) saying something like "I'm throwing a party in my ass and you're invited." I called him, arranged a time and went over. He'd left the door open, was lying on a sofa bed with his head propped up by pillows and had his eyes shut. I think he kept them closed most (if not all) of the time which made me think he wanted to be blindfolded but was a combination of too embarrassed and uncomfortable to do that. We did a little foreplay after he asked me if I wanted him to "start sucking" - he taught me a great way to lick a guy's balls using his lips, felt awesome. When it was time to do the deed, he asked if I wanted lube. I said yes, and he handed me one of the lube/condom packets from GMHC. I lubed up and went in bare, he didn't ask and I shot a load in his ass. I still fantasize about it sometimes, that was an incredible orgasm. Both of these situations were ethically cloudy; I probably should have behaved better. All this to say, in the heat of the moment you may be able to convince a safe sex top to bareback, but I would agree with @BootmanLA - there are plenty of guys who love to bareback, find one of them and go for it!

Mine are: sniff, smell, manscent, facesitting, face sitting, gay facesitting, faceseat, forced ass sniff...yep, definitely a theme here.

I wasn't tested until 1993, and it came back positive. Honestly, I don't remember a specific illness prior to that. But in the late 80s there was a period where I would get what felt like an awful flu every summer. It was miserable, I felt like I had a bad case of norovirus (aka stomach flu), fever, chills, sweats. In 1988 I started getting skin rashes, which one doctor maintained MUST have been when I sero-converted (she was pushing for me to start cramming anti-virals down my throat before they'd come up with a reasonable approach; I refused because I'm a stubborn SOB). I also remember a really bad flu in the early 80s, again more like stomach flu. But there's no way to know for sure.

PS: for constipation, I use Miralax. If you're ever on medication that could cause that problem, check with your doctor about Miralax. It's tasteless and gentle, but you have to allow time (a day or two) for it to work. My gastroenterologist had me take it every day at one point, I don't think it will interfere with any other meds but be sure to consult your doctor before taking it.

Wow, you've gone through a lot! I've had problems with post op MRSA infections, but aside from that and waiting to heal I haven't been prevented from having anal sex. In my case HPV was complicated by having HIV: my immune system wasn't strong enough to prevent infection. When I switched HIV doctors, he changed up my meds so my health improved overall, and I've had many fewer problems. To my knowledge, none of the guys who have fucked me have experienced any issues. I agree it sounds like the pain meds were what really messed you up, but more importantly that's what your doctor said. Hope this helps! HPV is really more or less ubiquitous from what I've heard. Everyone has them, the issue is that some strains can advance to cancer. So just keep up with regular check ups, allow yourself time to heal after any procedures and you should be fine.

HPV infection is extremely common. I've been getting treated for years but a colorectal surgeon. They take frequent biopsies and remove anything that looks remotely problematic.

They could, er, open up an entirely new market if they did a cum slut edition...

Oh, no. Did I really miss that? OOPS, not commenting on something I said. Sigh. Tired after a long day at work...

The no safe word is concerning; I guess I get the height thing, he's looking for someone shorter that he can dominate. But this ad drips bad attitude. I like being dominated, but not by someone who gets off on being unkind. The best encounters are always to some degree mutual, in my opinion.

Usually end up in doggy or flat on my stomach. I've read that doggy is actually easiest on the back, a consideration at age 63. It also lets me reach back and stroke the top's balls and possibly reach his ass. I do kind of like missionary, but not many tops are all that into it. The real answer is, which position does the top want to give it to me, since the overriding kink is pleasing whoever is fucking me!

It's all plausible, I agree, but as you point out there's no way to know if it's true. There are convincing arguments for spontaneous mutations - HIV is nothing if not extremely mutable - that also raise the question was it designed to be so. I more incline towards that whatever happened it was exacerbated by the lack of coordination between nations, general incompetence and extreme shortsightedness. Like any other environmental mess, I think that all we can do is cope with what's here and move forward as best we can. I concede that at 63 I'm a little jaded about these things. If I'm lucky I have another 17 years left to live which changes one's priorities.

It's more a thing in parts of the world (South American and Africa) where there are populations of monkeys - bushmeat, they call it. It's an available and important source of protein. Not sure how it works as a vector to spread an illness like HIV, unless it was along the lines of someone cuts themselves and the handles the meat, enabling the virus to infect them.

I should have been more clear - it was more an example of the range of things I have heard. When people are afraid, all kinds of things are said and believed in an attempt to control things. I stick to this works, good, I don't really know how my computer works either, but I use it!

Good to know! I should've checked before I "spoke"...

Your reasons for starting treatment soon is spot on, but I'm honestly not sure what is or isn't true about HIV. And I don't care. Let me explain... I was diagnosed at a early point (1993), and had heard all kinds of wild conjectures: that HIV was purposely unleashed to kill particular populations (except that it can infect anyone), it was a side-effect of a vaccine or other medical treatment, it escaped from a Plumb Island lab, and on and on. Sound familiar? I had friends who became extremely ill in the mid-to late 80s and early 90s and they tried all kinds of things, including drinking their own urine, bitter melon enemas, large doses of vitamins, etc. Once diagnosed I opted to do some Chinese herbal medications as symptom control, along with acupuncture. My spleen had to be removed because it was eating my platelets, and I had several life-threatening bleeds. But I didn't seriously try alternative treatments until I had a terrible reaction to the D-drugs (as they were called) Videx and Zerit, coupled with hydroxyurea and who remembers what else. I ended up with peripheral neuropathy (still bothers me a little) and pancreatitis, dropped a ton of weight and had to discontinue treatment for months (all because my doctor wouldn't listen to me, but oh, well). At that point I tried things like glucosamine, chondrotin, chlorophyll and creatine all of which did one of two things: nothing (best case scenario), screwed my digestion thereby making me sicker. Finally my doctor put me on the newest medications (at that point Crixivan was fresh out of the lab) and that's when I began to improve, though I had to recover from the alternative treatments, too. My t-cells sank to below 200, placing me officially in the category of full-blown AIDS in spite of a lack of any major opportunistic infections. At this point, my t-cells have rebounded to low normal (in the 500s) and I was able to weather break-through COVID this past November (vaccinated+booster). So who knows what works? Who knows what "really" causes all this? I've heard it argued that the criteria for establishing a virus were totally violated - no one has "seen" an HIV virus. At this point, I don't care. Medical science has come up with medications that work, keep me and others alive and can prevent transmission. I'm fine with that and with a purely, crudely pragmatic satisfaction with things as they are.

Last weekend I got 6 loads from 3 friends with benefits, appropriately diverse - 1 Nordic/North European; 1 Latin/Mediterranean/1 Asian. Wish I could have managed at least one from an African American, but I'm 63 and can only take so much...

Working on the next chapter...sorry I'm SO slow...

This is great news! Thanks for posting it. Too late for me, obviously, but I'm so glad that PreP options continue to expand.

I can only speak for myself: it wasn't exciting in the least. Of course, I was diagnosed early on before there was any effective treatment, so it was very anxiety producing to say the least. Having HIV changed my life in all sorts of ways that I couldn't have known about prior to experiencing it., both for the better and the worse. Sorry if my answer is disappointing...

I have been mostly undetectable or very low viral load for about 5 or 6 years since I switched doctors. One guy who I topped bare was a nurse, and his benchmark was anything below 1000(?). I had been consistently lower than that for years on the prior medication regimen, but with the current set of meds, I don't think my viral load has gone higher than 40, perhaps 60. For reference, less than 20 is when you're now considered "officially" undetectable.