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Loveitraw

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  1. I have to say, like a few others who have responded, that I tend to prefer Tops who don't care if I cum or not. I get a very particular pleasure from this type of fuck. However I did have one Top a few years ago who would do this to me with a twist. He would have me wank off for him to start with. He would make me cum into his hands then he would use my load as the lube to fuck me. Definitely an intense experience, starting out spent and being pushed to do more. Sadly I lost contact with him and haven't yet met anyone else with that particular kink.
  2. Since I figured out I was gay in my teens I have only ever been a bottom. I can literally count on one hand the number of times I have Topped. I'm not even slightly versatile. I'm not wired that way, it just doesn't work for me. Everything works as it should but it just doesn't feel good for me unless I'm being filled. Both physically and psychologically I only feel that connection when I bottom. Despite what some have said there isn't some switch that can be flicked and make me swap things up. That may be true for others but I am what I am. Therefore I put the work in to be as good a bottom as I can be.
  3. I'm not going to dispute that there are more, or at least seem to be more, bottoms than Tops. I think this is to be expected when most of the vers guys on the sites seem to be looking to bottom whenever they are on. (Not a judgement, an observation) Which skews the odds without looking at any other factors. It's also possible that bottoms need to scratch that itch more and so are out looking more frequently (again just a thought, not trying to debate anything here.) I am a bottom, total. Always have been and discussed it on several threads in my time here and don't feel the need to elaborate further. Even as I get older, mid 40's now, I still get my fun. As we come to the end of this weekend I can happily chalk up another half dozen notches. Not the porn levels some hope for or expect but I certainly go into the new week happy. One question that I think should be asked of those who feel they are in a drought is; Are you looking for Tops, or Tops who fill very specific criteria? We all can be choosy, and we all have the absolute right to be so, but if your searches are fruitless perhaps broaden the spectrum a little bit. Also, as harsh as it might be, just because they hit your spot doesn't mean you hit theirs. This one we all learn with time.
  4. Nice build up! I can't wait for the next step of the descent.
  5. I masturbate daily I just don't necessarily cum. Most days I'll find that I'm rubbing, stroking or teasing myself and it goes from there. On those occasions I take it all the way I go all out with porn and toys. I don't think I've missed many days since I first learned the joys of self-pleasure.
  6. This is one of those topics that rears its head from time to time. Its interesting to see because, reading through the responses, there seems to be a reasonable split between Tops, vers, and bottoms. This is something that is definitely not echoed on hookup sites or cruising spots. There always seems to be a lot more bottoms out there, either that or there's just a lot of lazy guys oit there who don't relish being active 😂 That said I have always been a bottom and I always work for that dick. A little competition keeps me focused.
  7. I think its a confidence thing as much as anything. I have the "been there, seen it, done it!" T-shirt and I give zero fucks what anyone thinks of me. I'm genuinely not trying to sound callous, because I do enjoy myself and make sure my Tops enjoy themselves too, but I do believe that once you cross a certain threshold you tolerate the games people play less and just get on with your own thing. And yes, my own thing is being a slut.
  8. I'm not even remotely religious but there is something so enticing about the descent into sin.
  9. At least a day is a good measure. Poppers don't stay in your system as long as viagra does but always keep them far apart whichever way round you intend to use them. As a rule ignore anyone who says it can be sooner and err on the side of caution. Catastrophic blood pressure drops aren't fun at any time.
  10. I get that. Guys frequently assume I'm a Top, its a build thing I guess, that's why I favour jocks in the first instance. Exposing the available assets.
  11. I love jocks and they are my primary underwear for all occasions. This means I have quite a collection of colours and patterns. My favourite is a red mesh one but it is by no means the only one I wear cruising. I have found that no matter the colour guys will try to do what they want if you give them any chance and the colour of the jock has never signified any implied consent. Only me saying, "do that more." Or "Fuck no!" Changes the course of things. Whether it's different in different regions I have no idea. I should possibly add that the times I have been fisted I wasn't in the red one...
  12. I can honestly say that I've never struggled with understanding or explaining my desires as a bottom. I like to be fucked. I love being bred. I really love feeling stretched and used. Most Tops of my acquaintance aren't worried about why I want it, they are only concerned that I want it and that they can do it. After the deed is done conversation is generally brief and limited. Strangely I have had a harder time trying to explain to some guys that, as a bottom, I prefer my cock to be left alone.
  13. Like others have said both can be good in their own way. I have a couple of guys I hook up with regularly and I love the way they use me. That is something that comes with time and familiarity. In those situations we each know our likes and foibles because we've engaged in the dance many times before and this leads to a deep satisfaction. There is always something to be said for the brief intensity of the anonymous. Barely anything said just pump and dump and next! However much of one I get, I will still always crave the other.
  14. No idea, it's possible but I am more into anonymous cruising so even if I have I wouldn't know. For the most part I don't think there's anyone that close by and I don't travel all that much so its unlikely. From some of the conversations and threads around here I certainly wouldn't mind as a good few seem to take their pleasure seriously.
  15. I didn't mean to imply that you were being judgmental. In a fairly blunt way I was describing how I am at peace with where I am and how I got here. In other threads I have described this journey and in others still I have explored the fantasy side. What I can see from my perspective is that there is a clear disconnect. The "porn" side is all fun without consequence and the screen goes dark with the cumshot. The reality is, am I'm sure you know, how everything changes. I know I'm lucky. I'm in the UK so meds are taken care of and I am fit and in good health. I am very conscious of how easily that can all change. I explored the fantasy of things to get my own head sorted out. I don't advocate living as I have nor do I say not to. What I absolutely won't do is knowingly assist anyone down that path, if only for my own sake.
  16. I'm undetectable. How I became poz in the first place, apart from the obvious mechanics, I genuinely don't know. What that means is that for a while I was unaware of my status. Total bottom maybe; but definitely toxic. So anyone who stuck their dick in me was taking a risk, and lots did. The thing is, especially out cruising, no-one ever asked status. I let guys fuck me and they never asked me and I never asked them. Any of them could have been poz, several probably were and that's how I square it with myself. None of the parties involved cared beyond the fuck. I'm never seeking absolution and anyone who wants to judge can but what happened happened. Just like I'll never know who gave it to me I'll never know if I passed it on. Now my profiles declare my status and I still get fucked regularly with full disclosure. But when out cruising whether dark rooms, clubs or cottages it rarely comes up before the fucking starts. In the heat of things I guess guys really only think with one thing.
  17. Condoms - instant pass as soon as I see one. Twinks - I prefer guys with mileage that know what they are doing. TBH anything else just depends on my mood. Sometimes I want to watch a gang scene other times I really want to see just two guys enjoy each other in the filthiest ways. And I completely agree with NLbear above, cum belongs in a hole.
  18. Nice. Who doesn't like an audience? ☺️
  19. I quit years ago but I'm not rabidly anti-smoking. I quite like the smell of fresh smoke and one of my regular hookups smokes and kisses like no-one else so I can equate the two things with a good time. I'm not keen on the smell of stale smoke and I don't like it on my own clothes but that's a hangover from being an ex-smoker; I won't kick a guy to the kerb just for that. The only thing that I wish wasn't the case is that smokers always have a bitter edge to the flavour of their cum, you can get used to it but it's not my favourite.
  20. Context is everything, in my case there had been a bit of back and forth beforehand and there was no barb to the comment. I had been offered the course of tablets but opted for the shots because its quick. From your description there was a lot of subtext in that comment that went beyond the line.
  21. It sucks to see any negative treatment, especially from healthcare workers, but it's naive to think it can't happen. Sadly every department has so many individuals it it and for every one there will be an opinion. I have been lucky in as much as the specialists at my clinic are friendly and professional, even joking with me when I attend. I always approach them openly and honestly and I genuinely believe that is the reason for my overall experience. Even on the two occasions I have had treatments for syph infections there was no judgement at all. On the second time when I took the penicillin shots with ease the nurse joked that it was only because I was used to having pricks in my behind. Which I am sure they only said because I am easy with them so they felt comfortable to let it slip. Outside the clinic and away from specialists, however, I do feel that there is a long way to go before acceptance is widespread.
  22. I'm the exact opposite, a total bottom who loves sucking dick but I'd much rather guys leave mine alone. I'm perfectly happy with guys who just want to dump a load and move on. As for names, "donor" seems apt.
  23. Since I discovered just how much I enjoy it I have been pissed on and in. Taking it in both my mouth and asshole and I definitely enjoy both. The heat, the sleaze, the sense of animalistic pleasure. My favourites are either kneeling and being pissed on so I am completely drenched and made to smell like another man; or being made to piss all over myself completely surrendering that control to another. Either way just the smell sends a jolt to my cock now.
  24. Damn I feel I'm getting profiled after this! 🤷‍♂️ Anal, bareback, bondage, breeding, cruising, caught, dildo, exposed, extreme, fisting, gang, gape, gay, group, hypno, insertion, kink, massive, master, naked, piss, poppers, porn, poz, public, raw, rough, sounding, submission, toy, trainer, training, watersports, xxx, yaoi. Almost an alphabet and multiple combinations can be found in my history. I might have a porn addiction!
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