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No, not a novel idea. But the variations get decidedly…creative.

From the You-Learn-Something-New-Every-Day Department: I had just seen a reference to a term I had not heard before, and to my surprise, found no reference to it in Urban Dictionary. The term was onna hole. I did at last find one obscure mention of it as using the Japanese onna (woman) to indicate a ‘woman hole’, i.e., vagina. But the original reference was talking about something one uses for masturbation. It wasn’t until I mistyped it as ona hole that I found what was meant. Evidently, masturbation is a popular hobby in Japan, and men put a great deal if thought into ways to enhance the experience. There are a remarkable variety of onaholes available on Amazon, intended to simulate whichever of three holes one might favor. They’re silicone masturbation sleeves/cups, essentially, in variously realistic shapes, and some shaped suggestively on the outside as well. They’re female gendered, being onna, though assholes are available. It made me wonder how many men on here use some kind of simulated flesh masturbation aid, whether it be one of these onaholes, a Fleshlight, or some other kind of thing you slip over your cock to simulate the feel of a cunt. I had a Fleshlight for a while, but I simply do not have a Top’s penetrative instinct, and it didn’t do much for me, so I gave it to a Top who would appreciate it. Do you use one? Do you find the simulation at all comparable to the real thing?

I wonder how smart it is, in the polarized political climate we’re in. It may go viral, and get attention, but the man’s doing it in the Country genre, which is often espoused by the conservative Right, and is a dominant force in conservative rural areas. Someone coming in and trying to insert his explicit lyrics about buttfucking, or even his softcore lyrics about man-love into that arena is likely to get pushback in an ugly way. I wouldn’t be surprised at death threats. Jason Aldean is already getting a taste of this for ‘Try That In A Small Town’, with lyrics that push a radical conservative perspective a little too far. Yes, it would be great if we could all be loud and proud and sing our lustiness from the rooftops without fear of judgment. The ideal would be open-armed acceptance of LGBTQ lifestyles by people everywhere, but we have to be realistic - we have to get to tolerance first. And you can’t get to tolerance if you go up to the person with the thing they think is offensive and rub their face in it. I could be quite wrong, but I think that the more explicit and juicy his lyrics are, the more rope he’s going to give some people to hang him with.

That is not entirely the case. The “second sphincter” at the sigmoid junction is not a true sphincter, but a sort of pseudosphincter, and while you are correct in saying that it is not subject to conscious control, its function is not to prevent stool from leaving the body. Its purpose is to retain fecal matter in the sigmoid colon for final water absorption and solidification before being passed to the rectum to be expelled. Once the package is ready to be delivered, it gets ‘released to shipping’ and from that point it’s up to the rectum and anal sphincter to regulate how and when it gets delivered.

This can be effective, in that it positions the ass in a place more “public” than an individual room, and potentially exposed to higher traffic…if the equipment is placed in a higher traffic area and not some darkened room off to the side where only those who know where it is will find it. I’ve had mixed results. At just my last bathhouse visit, I spent two sessions on the fuck bench, about 15 minutes each. In both instances groups of five men were in the room with me. The first time, they all took a turn. The second time, I didn’t even get a grope. It’s a crap shoot. Slings I have not had much luck with for some reason, not sure why, except that they’re best approached with a Top already arranged to fuck you there and thus draw a crowd. Harder to jump-start the action solo, I think, unless you’re one of the Beautiful People. Two things to note about this strategy, though: 1) You’re using communal equipment, which may be neither frequently cleaned or mechanically serviced. I never climb into or onto a piece of play equipment until I’ve first inspected it to ensure it’s not going to fall apart on me, and that I’m not about to come into contact with (undesirable) bodily fluids/materials. 2) Other people will want their turn, and may be aggressive about it, blatantly cockblocking you or being verbally abusive. The one thing you do not want to do is monopolize the equipment and be seen as a “sling lizard” or “bench hog”. Both of these are a very bad look when you’re trying to attract cock. I limit myself to 15 minutes at a go, then free up the equipment to give others a chance.

This is not quite accurate. Caverject is alprostadil, and alprostadil is one of the three components of Trimix. It might be more accurate to say that Trimix contains Caverject, but because of the other ingredients its method of action is somewhat different. This is similar to the way Truvada can be used for PrEP, but the Biktarvy I take for ART contains both ingredients of Truvada plus a third. This said, @hntnhole’s cautions are well-founded. I’ve only experienced Caverject, but it’s not to be trifled with.

A cattle prod, on the other hand…

I think this comes down to two things: Anatomy and specialty. A bottom might have been able to stretch his hole over time to take those big intrusions, but he can’t unhinge his jaw or remove teeth that are rooted in place. I don’t have a very large mouth, so taking cocks over a certain size orally is out of the question. So, what’s a guy with limited oral capacity to do? Specialize in ass, of course. And while there may be those rare specimens out there gifted in taking huge things in both holes, I’m betting that when a videographer is looking for a guy to take something really outrageous up his cunt for the camera, he’s going to look for a specialist.

Of course. That’s why I was asking if that’s what he meant.

‘Sketchy’?? For God’s sake - their banned word algorithm is out of all proportion. They forced me to change my username when it was ErosWired there (as it is on every other adult site I go to) because it contained the word ‘wired’. I chose that in its common English context of ‘electrically connected’, ‘connected to the internet’. Well, to be fair to them, and to my considerable annoyance, a visit to Urban Dictionary reveals that the drug culture has apparently co-opted the word to such an extent that now nearly every vernacular street definition references drugs. I really can’t blame them, and it makes me wonder if people seeing my username assume I’m a drug user when I’m absolutely not. But for sketchy you can only find three incidental associations to drugs in the first seven pages of Urban Dictionary definitions, where a couple of them say “often associated with…”. The word clearly, to most people, just means ‘suspicious’ or ‘shady’. I’m surprised you got a refund. Their customer relations are absolutely atrocious.

Aside from this statement, everything else in your post emphasizes your passion for oral-to-anal sex. Did you mean the above to express that also, or did you mean that you love taking a Top’s cock in your mouth after it’s been in your or another bottom’s ass? Because ‘ass to mouth’ means the latter, but the rest of your post is about the former, and it leaves us uncertain what you like.

On a discussion forum terms matter, so that we understand what everyone’s talking about. There are plenty of words and phrases with variable meanings (faggot), chronic misspelling (‘dominate’ for dominant (please stop)), and dubious veracity (vers Top), but there are some which can and should be clearly understood to mean the one thing they specify because that one thing is specific. An example is Ass To Mouth, or ATM. I mention this because of late in the Cocksucking section there have been several posts referring to rimming as ‘ass to mouth’. While rimming undeniably places an ass in direct contact with a mouth, that’s not what ATM means. ATM refers to ‘moving the cock from ass to mouth’, and describes the specific act in which a Top fucking a bottom’s anus then pulls out and inserts that cock immediately into the mouth of either the same or a different bottom’s mouth, thus obliging the bottom to taste his own or another bottom’s ass and any cum therein carried over on the cock. Rimming has synonyms, including analingus and ‘tossing a salad’ (I have never understood this), but ass to mouth is not one of them, and if you write that you love ATM when you mean you love rimming, you are likely to be misunderstood. If people absolutely insist on using the word ass to describe it, how about using Mouth To Ass -MTA- instead?

There’s even a saying for it: Think with the big head, not the little head.

Back when I first joined the site I posted one of my first blog entries about the positive things said about me while fucking me at a gangbang, mostly because what they said could be taken as A) high praise, or B) the raving of men about to shoot a load, or, conceivably, C) both. You can read that here: But since then I’ve had some notable comments that have stuck with me, for various reasons. The first was an older Black man who closed the door to my bathhouse room, took his time, and fucked me very thoroughly and completely, in the manner of a master craftsman. His cock was about as close as I have ever gotten to a perfect fit for my cunt. When he was finished, he said to me, “That is good pussy. Good pussy is hard to find.” He said this after he had his towel back around him, preparing to leave, so it wasn’t a heat-of-the-moment comment. He meant it, and from a Top of his calibre, it was a stunning compliment. Another was a young Top who took me anon in a dim hotel room. I never even saw him, but I could feel his energy running through him by the way he gripped my hips and the freedom of his thrusting. I knew he was enjoying it by the sound of his breathing, but suddenly, unexpectedly, he cried out, “It’s like fucking a cloud!” - a reference to the feeling inside my cunt. That was the only thing he said from the moment he entered to the moment he left, but he said it with such ecstasy that I can still hear it. Another was at IML, when I was hosting in my room there. Again, I never saw the guy, he just came in, mounted me from behind, and started riding hard. But right away, he said, “I have zero respect for you.” And kept right on fucking to completion. He didn’t call me a slut or whore or any of that, or say anything else, just that. I honestly can’t explain why the memory appeals to me, except that after that comment I truly, honestly felt like I was being used as an object in a purely sexually utilitarian way that I aspire to in my service. One other big compliment wasn’t a comment as such - in Indianapolis one night in a hotel room I took the thickest cock I have ever seen on a real human being. I honestly wasn’t sure I could manage it, but I as I refuse no one I was bound to try. I succeeded, but I felt every fucking inch grinding my walls inside with every thrust. I was actually proud that I could do it, because I’m guessing the guy has trouble finding bottoms who can let him enjoy a good fuck. What I remember though, was that this guy was built like a linebacker, tall, heavy, and at the moment he came…his orgasm was so intense that his voice cracked into a high pitch. Definitely proud if that one. And if course, any time a Top tells me, “Take it,” those words are magic.

Oral swab kits for at-home testing for gono and chlamydia are available if you want to try them, and then ask a doctor to test to confirm a positive result. You say this is your doctor, but you don’t specify what kind of doctor - if this is a general practice they may not be the best place to look for comprehensive STI testing. If they are only equipped to do urine testing, that tells you they are making the assumption that nobody takes a cock in their mouth or ass, and all men are heterosexual. You might be better served to find a clinic that at least partially specializes in sexual health, and has protocols that have been updated from the fucking 1950s.

All this whittering about strong dreams being a reason not to take a medication that can prevent a lifelong, incurable illness…HIV is a nightmare you can’t wake up from. There are lots of meds that have side effects, but we take them anyway because they do what we need them to do and we just have to choose which sucks less. It’s been seven years since the question was first asked, seven years in which men have been taking PrEP and not suffering any major problems as a result - which isn’t really all that surprising since the FDA wouldn’t let it be prescribed unless it had been demonstrated to be safe and effective. Should anyone have a similar experience today with a physician as the OP had back when the topic was started, I would advise him to find another doctor at once. There’s no longer sufficient medical reason to advise a patient a known history of risk to forego prophylaxis, unless the patient has a specific contraindicating condition. And these comments about the doctor being a gifter, or wanting the OP to become infected, are beyond ludicrous. No doctor who meant a syllable of his oath promotes disease.

We get a fair number of men on here essentially asking the same thing: Can I have my cake and eat it too? No. You cannot. Bareback sexual intercourse is not a safe activity, and it cannot be made entirely safe. It cannot be done without risk to your health. If you wish to do it, you must make the decision to risk your health. The only question that remains is how much of that risk you can minimize. Are PrEP and doxypep enough? Enough for what? They may be enough to greatly minimize your chances of getting HIV and certain STIs that respond to doxycycline, but they’re not guarantees, and they’ll do bupkis against Herpes, HPV, Monkeypox, Hepatitis A, B and C, and more. If you want to armor up against as many threats as possible, you’ll need vaccinations. And not only will that doxypep likely do you no good against treatment-resistant strains of gono, widespread use of it may make development of such strains more likely. Bottom line: If you’re going to get into the habit of taking enough loads that they’re dripping around your feet, you’re going to get infected with something sooner or later. Unfortunately, it’s the price of the ticket to play.

It had not occurred to me that there was any pleasure, let alone delight, to be had in raping an unconscious person. I fail to see what satisfaction it possibly affords a Top’s masculine appetites when the object of his lust is incapable of showing any appreciation of any kind - whether by submission, defiance, fear, praise, or simple animal response - to the Top’s dominant masculinity. One might as well rape a side of beef. I also assume you are using rape in the aesthetic sense of violent coitus, and not in the explicit sense of nonconsensual sexual assault; in the latter sense I don’t comprehend the ‘delight’ in it whatsoever.

Or, instead of shooting from the hip with best guesses and anecdotal supposition, we could actually consult a medical authority, like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, whose fact sheet on Human papillomavirus (HPV) is readily available to anyone with internet access, which - oh, look - you’re using right now! [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm HPV is the most common STI in the United States. Most cases - around 90% - do resolve on their own within two years without health problems. It’s the other 10% that get ugly. Note that there isn’t a single HPV virus - there are more than 150 in the family. The HPV vaccine provides immunity for 9 of them, the ones most likely to cause problems. Just because you get one of the HPV viruses and your immune system clears it, it doesn’t mean you get any immunity to the others, nor will you necessarily gain long-term immunity to that one. Studies show that some do and some don’t. The main recommendation for avoiding all types of HPV: ”Use a condom the right way, every time.” So much for that.

That is possibly the reddest room I have ever seen. Nice elevation. 😉

I see these two statements as contradictory. Unconsciousness is not submission, lust, defiance, or apprehension. It’s not even participation. If you’re fucking an unconscious person you’re effectively the only one in the room. I don’t disagree with the first statement, but (speaking as someone who has actually been owned) the kind of ownership you’re talking about hinges upon a consciousness on the other end that is aware of a state of being owned. It is the threat that invokes the desired psychological state. Personally, as someone who grew up with childhood asthma, breath control is for me a diamond-hard, I-will-gouge-your-fucking-eyes-out limit, but I do appreciate a firm hand around my throat as a gesture of Dominance. But that gesture need not extend to cutting off an airway. I agree that the practice is too dangerous. Starving someone’s brain of oxygen for a sexual thrill is indefensible, and anyone who says he can tell how much hypoxia is safe is an idiot to be avoided. Using a belt, rope, nylons, plastic bag (!) or anything else that leaves no tactile feedback about the person’s state of consciousness is wildly irresponsible and, frankly, batshit crazy.

Just what we need. An open cesspool in which hate, threats, obscenity, and the rest of the vile boils on the underbelly of humanity can fester. Because only the grownups who can deal with it would go there. No, they fucking wouldn’t. It would become a magnet for every immature, insecure, antisocial asshole who never learned how to act like a human being, let alone an adult. And then, when it became insufferable, the actual adults in the room would stop coming because of the toxicity. Humans don’t behave well by default. The whole reason we have rules, laws, governments that control society is that left to their own devices, people start knifing each other. Don’t believe me? Allow me to introduce you to social media, which, by giving people the ability to act anonymously and dodge accountability for their online behavior, has shit-canned our society’s civil discourse, with every indication of worse to come. What do you think happened to places like 4-Chan? The Net is replete with examples of why No-Rules spaces online are a horrible idea. I was a Mod on a discussion forum for almost 18 years, and the single biggest headache we had was the chat room, because people could. not. restrain. themselves. from going off on each other. Frankly, anyone who actually considers hate and threats ‘fun stuff’ kind of makes the case for moderation.

I don’t mind a verbal Top, but: A) We’re fucking, not playing 20 Questions. Tops who constantly insist that I answer when they ask, “You like getting fucked, don’t you?” “I bet you love sucking cock, right?” “Are you a cumslut?” “Want this cock, faggot? Tell me how bad you want this cock.” Now, if he wants to tell me that I’m a faggot cumslut that loves getting fucked and that he knows how much I want his cock, that’s just fine. B) If you want to say something to me, speak up. My hearing’s not the best anyway, and half the time a guy’s got my head pressed into a mattress, and it’s mutter-mutter-mumble-muffle expecting a response. Last weekend I had a Top spend twenty minutes doing a deep four-fingered probe of my cunt with a nonstop stream of syllables I could make absolutely nothing of, and I finally stopped trying and just let him dig. As far as asking “Do you want this load?” when he’s ready to cum - I mean, I guess that’s the considerate and responsible thing to do if it hasn’t been discussed, but personally I wish they wouldn’t. If I didn’t want them loading my ass I wouldn’t be taking a bare rutting. Plus, I like to know that the Top I’m serving is taking full advantage of the opportunity and knows that when he’s in me he doesn’t have to feel restrained - he can indulge himself, he can take what he wants, he can answer the call of his primal male, and just let go without worrying about asking where he can put his cum.

For some people, their “evening choices” are simply an extension of an ethos they incorporate fully into their lives. Although I gave no thought to such things at the time, had I been conscious that wearing any sort of accessory on my right side versus my left had meaning, I would have made the conscious choice to pierce my right ear rather than my left, and it wouldn’t have bothered me at all if that was interpreted a certain way in a certain context. I would absolutely be using it to express a choice in that context. As it is, I’m afraid it may very well be causing a mistaken assumption that I’m expressing a preference that I’m not, because they’re in the wrong ear.

That you’ve found someone who can shoot on your open tongue without resting his cockhead on it and actually hit the target is remarkable.