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Oh, to be 30-something again.... I can see that concerned1 is very inclined to reveal his real age to Mr. Potential Boyfriend, but I'm going to take the Devil's advocate role. I understand the anxiety, but it strikes me that we've conflated the question of trust and truthfulness with the question of age differences. I accept that trust and truthfulness are important in a relationship. But fibbing about one's age on Grindr isn't the same as telling folks that you're an MD when you only have a  high school diploma. Fibbing about age -- especially on a hook-up site -- is almost a socially acceptable "little white lie;" understating your age by 5 years is almost telling the truth in that context. It also seems to be rather early days to think you have to have some soul-baring conversation about your real age. What's the rush? Maybe in a couple of months and after you've spent a lot of time with him, but not yet. Of course, if you do proceed to confess, you might consider how many other facets of your life are embellished (or understated). If you come clean about your age, must you come clean about any other fibs? What does your silence in this context mean, and maybe more importantly, how would Mr. Potential Boyfriend view that silence? 

In any event, best of luck....

3 hours ago, find91 said:

Or a dude that pays your bills and your rent LOL

Even more important then “to desire to please him out of respect....”

11 hours ago, fetishlad said:

I was researching it online when I thought that I should go to one to see how others do it first

That was a good idea, especially since you write that you were more than a little apprehensive about the whole thing. The hosting bottom’s anecdote about a prior cum-and-go where he had the 3 guys who really wanted to bottom was rather amusing — maybe not so much for the hosting bottom. (I often wondered what guys like the 3 mentioned in the anecdote are thinking — do they expect there to be an overflow?)

This is really good — and wonderfully twisted. 

21 hours ago, ErosWired said:

* * *  I think maybe the reason I’ve never gotten good at it (though some say I have - I’m sure it’s highly subjective) is because oral stimulation does nothing at all for my own cock. I find the inside of a mouth rather cold and full of hard and abrasive surfaces with the occasional swipe of something soft and sticky-wet - for me, it’s sort of like running my cock through a car wash.

So these lyrics start to run through my mind:

Hey, get your car washed today
Fill up and you don't have to pay
Come on and give us a play
(Working at, working at the...)

It might be a few weeks before I can think of getting/giving head without humming that tune....

12 hours ago, Scottyrim said:

So I am a bottom and a slut. A cumdump.  But I also love ass. The times I have topped I have loved, but I lack confidence.  In a Bathhouse I can getting fucked over and over but when I try to top I panic. I feel I will disappoint. I feel I am going to miss the hole or lose my erection , but I want to top as well.

 

Anyone have any advice ? 

It's not a Mr. IML contest, and the great thing about dark rooms [ok, almost dark rooms] is that no one can really see you; you're just a darker space in the dim light like everyone else. So there's not much chance that your skill -- good, bad, mediocre -- on a given night will become the talk of the town. The only person you need worry about is YOU. Once you stop giving a rat's ass about what other guys think, say, do, etc., your anxiety, unsurprisingly, will diminish, and your dick will react accordingly. 

18 hours ago, SecretCumWhore said:

Missed my update yesterday.  I’ll work on two parts tonight when I get off work 👌🏻😈

it's worth the wait....

I guess the anatomy class will be pretty easy....

On 1/27/2020 at 7:59 PM, SecretCumWhore said:

Thanks for the likes so far guys. I had read just about every pervy story in chem sex fiction category of posts and wanted something a lil more with my fantasies.  Hope you all enjoy. I’ll try to do a nice update once a day for about a week and then take a break.  

This is really good... and the alternating narrators is a nice touch.

wonderfully twisTed.... damn, I love these stories.

4 hours ago, evilqueerpig said:

Prince Harry, Freddie Mercury, Billy Idol, Davis Tenant, Ric Astley

Good call on Prince Harry (or should we just call him Mr. Sussex since he had to ditch the "Prince" title?)... And I'd gladly do David Tennant as well as another British actor, Laurence Fox. (Fox is best known for his role as DS James Hathaway in the British TV drama series Lewis from 2006 to 2015).

23 hours ago, breedmedeeper said:

Oh yeah. I started taking raw Cock from the beginning. Started getting fucked in 1976 or earlier, always bareback. The 80's arrived and the epidemic scare...I slowed down some, but only bare Cock went in my hole. I finally got pozzed...in 2006. I'm pretty lucky to have gotten through the 80's and 90's unscathed. Just about a month ago I got a recharge. That was awesome!

^^^ Pretty much this.... In between boyfriends, I hit the Philly baths frequently; and in an open relationship, I hit the baths and the various apps. In all of that time, I might have encountered a condom 4 or 5 times.

2 hours ago, Sunovabesh said:

. . . . and a smack on the ass....... Though that last one may not really HEAL the bottom, it sure brings a tear of joy to my eyes. 

And likely a tear of joy to the eyes of the bottom (or a few drops of pre-cum from his dick)....

2 hours ago, bbpigbtm said:

I noticed as i am getting older , i’m more horned up. I have been a horn ball my whole life- ( men in my family are) all scorpion ! Lately tho i feel i been so horned up- and my junk been getting bigger( ball& hog) any one esle going threw this??!!!

It's comforting to know I'm not the only one with a higher sex drive than I had in my 20s. (On-site investigations can be arranged....)

2 hours ago, takingdeepanal said:

Can you please post a link to Todd's Adventure? I can't seem to find it ...

It's posted in this forum on August 21, 2013....

1 hour ago, Seedthissub said:

If any of you are following my posts I’m being bred by a black guy who is passing me around to his friends. Called me after work today and told me he has a friend who will be over within an hour. He instructed me to shut out all the lights and lay on my stomach because his friend wants to do me anon . I did as he said and waited probably two hours. I was getting pissed off cause I had things to do tonight  and this guy never showed up. I finally got the nerve to call my black master and asked him what was going on. He said his friend was out drinking but he told him he was coming over, and to wait. I went back to my room and just as I did I heard the door open and lock shut .. I went from pissed to nervous especially since the house was pitch black. He made his way to my room and I can see the cellphone light and he walked in and got behind me. 
he shit the light and I could hear his pants fall . He didn’t waste any time pressing his big black cock up against my hole. He also didn’t waste anytime ramming it in. I squealed like the pig I was as he grunted out a big thick load into my ass in about 10 minutes.. heard him zip up and he left. 
Ty Sir

Just more proof -- as if anyone might need more proof -- that patience is a virtue. 

goT my attention....

That's a great plot twist at the end....

@nep321  A few thoughts and in no particular order.... Age is important if you think it’s important; the mere number hardly means anything except to the IRS and the Social Security Administration. Moreover, Cupid tends to strike when no one expects the little bugger to be flying around, shooting arrows. As evidence of these propositions, I humbly offer my own experience: At the tender age of 61, I hooked up one Friday night with a 39 year old guy on A4A (“do you want to come over and frolic?”). Three weeks later, he had moved in; we’ve been together 18 months, and I can honestly say he’s good to me and good for me. The point, I suppose, is that you’ll get nowhere by fretting over something you can’t change. It’s awfully easy at this time of year to feel discouraged about the trajectory of your life. Don’t treat your age and build as character flaws; think of them as some of your strengths. If you compare yourself to others, you’ll invariably think that some people are doing “better” than you and others are doing “worse” than you.

And at the risk of making broad generalizations, the vast majority of guys in my part of Florida don’t strike me as being Ivy League graduates making 6 figure salaries. The Great Recession took a huge chunk out of the then-existing middle class, and the insane housing market here hasn’t helped anyone’s standard of living. I’m hardly surprised that a lot of guys have roommates; if you’re only making $15 or $16/hour, you’re not making enough to afford a place on your own. Along similar lines, it’s insanely expensive to have a car, and folks of all ages here ride bicycles to get around. And while I can readily agree that guys who use drugs should be given a wide berth, I’m not ready to morally condemn anyone; it’s unlikely that the 700,000 people who have died from an overdose in the last 20 years were all intrinsically evil.

You’re doing fine — even if you can’t see it. Take care of yourself, and remember that in 12 weeks or so, the weather will be awesome in Jacksonville (and in my corner of The Sunshine State).

6 hours ago, ErosWired said:

 I confess I get something of a rush from imagining myself naked among such dressed men, but at the same time I don’t know if I could keep myself from wondering how he plans to get a cum stain out of that silk tie...

One advantage of “business casual” is not having to worry about your silk tie.

7 hours ago, MrBob said:

I was lucky...

hell, you won the damn Mega Millions and have the winning Powerball ticket...

I was simply displaying my sense of fairness when I mentioned his posting in the SF forum. And to the extent that one's personality can be gauged through one's posts on BZ, it certainly struck me that finesse and subtlety weren't prominent features of his personality. 

4 hours ago, ErosWired said:

I’m not sure exactly what you’re referring to, but if the site you mean is this one, you should understand that Breedingzone is not a hookup site, but a discussion forum. If you’re looking to hook up, you might try your luck at BBRTS . com.

In all fairness to TopDad4Younger, he did post in the San Francisco area forum, looking for "young perverts or those who want to become perverted." There are several posts in reply to TD4Y's initial post. I'm ready to guess that the initial expressions of interest went no further, thus leading to TD4Y's burst of frustration in this thread. 

ErosWired and NastyRigPig are pretty much spot on with their advice. I add a couple of my own observations.*

First, an example of what NastyRigPig mentioned about a civil suit is the OJ Simpson case - though he was acquitted of the murders, the Goldman family sued him and obtained a money judgment against Simpson.
 

Second, these civil actions have to be brought within a certain amount of time, the time being set by the relevant statute of limitations. Each state sets its own time limits, but the period is typically 2 to 3 years. My point here is that if you decide to do this, you need to get moving on it now, not next week. 

Third, the type of civil action that’s been mentioned is typically a wrongful death action. That action almost always requires some legal relationship to the dead person: for example, a son can sue because of his father’s death. The various states have various rules about who can file a wrongful death action, but the nature of your relationship may mean you’re not the person who can bring the claim.

Finally, litigation of this type can become very, very nasty. To say you could be dragged through the mud is an understatement. Everything about the two of you is fair game for the other side to explore in pre-trial proceedings (even if it isn’t introduced in any trial). 
 

The only way for you to get real advice is to consult a lawyer. And I can tell you right now that not many attorneys will be interested in taking the case. It’s factually complicated and the odds of success are, in my admittedly detached view, pretty low (like less than 10%). I feel for you, and in a reasonably perfect world, there’d be something that you could do, but the law isn’t always about justice.

Whatever you decide, good luck....

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*Not to brag on myself, but I practiced criminal law for nearly 30 years in one of the mid-Atlantic states. My comments are simply my observations based on my experience.

@carlton3053:
I appreciate unexpected turns in the plot. Thanks for being creative and hard-working....