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The Making of a Poz Whole
Shotsfired replied to Hotload84's topic in Bug Chasing & Gift Giving FICTION
One of my all time favorite stories. I thought more people should enjoy it. Bumping to the top. -
This is my ultimate dream.
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Hugh invites some friends?
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Very hot story.
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Enjoyed part 1
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Time for PEP.
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It seems like PrEP solves your problems, and with U=U I don't see why all the concern over HIV. I'd be more worried about Syphilis, as there is a new variant that presents in the spinal fluid and it's harder to detect and treat. So many things are worse than HIV. HCV for instance.
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Holy shit! I didn't see that coming. Still processing. Fantastic. Horrifying. Hot.
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Beautiful story and hot.
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Who are you? Bareback picture game
Shotsfired replied to fuckholedc's topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
Of course -
Fuck this is hot.
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Who are you? Bareback picture game
Shotsfired replied to fuckholedc's topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
1. For sure -
What Does Gay Community Think of Cumsluts?
Shotsfired replied to TwinkSlut24's topic in General Discussion
I think the ones who have problems with what you are doing, I call "politigays," are assimilators or straight apologists. And I think they are harmful to the gay community. If straight people question me about the loose morals of gay men, I stop them and say that "straight people" lost the right to judge or tell us anything we do is right or wrong the minute they kicked us out of churches, families and denied us our rights and pushed us to the outer limits of society. If politigays, question my ethics I tell them I have no desire to assimilate like a good little lap dog to straight society. We are losing our gay spaces and gay culture and so many of us are willing participants in the lifeless heteronormative lifestyle. I feel that one day we will regret the ceding of territory to straights and politigays. -
I don't think there is a tried and true formula for this issue. I think it depends on where you meet, what their profile clues you into, and on conversations and context clues. A safe rule of thumb I live by is to match to the more conservative individual. If they are looking for a long term partner, then go ahead and breach the subject. And don't see other people unless you've talked about it. You can simply ask their expectations while dating. If they want to see other people, and expect you not too that's a red flag. If they expect both of you to proceed while seeing other people, that's great. If they want monogamy, consider it carefully,. If you want that relationship and can stand monogamy then go for it. If you can't live in a monogamous relationship or are unsure, you had best walk away. Whatever the agreement is, it needs to be followed or breakup. I would say that when I have tried to play down my slutty side or pretended to be more wholesome it has always bit me in the ass. Its better to be honest about who you are.
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I have a gay doctor who's hubby is way hornier than I can even imagine, so I get zero judgement. I think possibly asking the manager of the bathhouse to host local testing services at different times will cut down on how many STDs you get at the bathhouse. Steamworks Chicago does this regularly and I rarely caught anything there. As for avoiding people with no information on testing dates in their Grindr profiles. Grindr sold people's HIV information and testing information to third parties and got into hot water. Many of us won't post that information there. We'll tell you if asked, but aren't relying on Grindr to do the heavy lifting. They can't be rewarded for bad behavior so they don't get that information from me anymore. They can't be trusted to responsibly handle medical information.
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I would say Rawtop and the moderators of breeding.zone for the basic reading of Rawtop's ethical and examining three dimensional look at barebacking. He realised that barebacking behavior is here to stay and rather than further stigmatizing HIV and/or ignoring it, he has recognized barebacking and its issues as a reality. This website gives avenues for fantasy, information and talks about sex in a real way. No matter what side of the coin you are on and whether or not you agree with Rawtop everytime on every issue, people leave the site more enlightened and with real information. One thing about breedingzone that is missing from educational or porn sites is the weighing in on moral and ethical concerns and his efforts to reduce harm and not information without demonizing people. He is a rare common sense voice in the adult gay space.
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How do I handle a neg top with HIV issues?
Shotsfired replied to urcocknotmine's topic in General Discussion
I agree with you. I believe later on I stated that having the full responsibility on the hiv+ person was foolhardy. Having the weight of disclosure on the stigmatized party with heavy rejection fears isn't right, and is asking for failure. The negative person has all the power and control yet puts his health fully in the hands of someone else who is in a minority and often stigmatized. Also, when is it time to disclose. There is no standard that I am aware of. And the danger for a poz person varies by geography and local laws. -
Hand Sanitizer as Lube - is this a thing?
Shotsfired replied to sedecki's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
I had a guy slather it on his dick by accident. He ran out of the space and grabbed water. Ended our session abruptly. Are you sure there wasn't drugs added to the lube? Some drugs will cause that reaction. -
Sociopathic isn't the best word. I think I should have used wrong or immoral. I am a strong advocate for protecting people's agency. Coercive behavior like a top forcing a neg bottom to bareback is wrong in my eyes. I was specifically referring to this one act.
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I would like a personals site for forced play
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Are you being serious right now? Catholics also are against gay sex.
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Isn't that sociopathic?
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You nailed it. It is especially irritating when you are looking to be dominated and you can't tell what they want from the hashtag. I miss the art of cruising. It was less tedious and more spontaneous. A lot of the ads are about as passionate as a dog turd. People need to stop treating dating apps like takeout menus. One went so far as to dictate how many dogs they wanted their date to have. Crazy. Also, just like in the theatre, you are auditioning always. I can tell you that I read their profile. How you present yourself is key to whether I contact you. First, I am more interested in who you are looking for than who you are not looking for. If you say you are into hairy guys, I know I might respond, until I also see something like "absolutely no gingers." I am not a ginger, but that is so rude I don't care if you are my type physically, if you are needlessly calling out groups of people for exclusion, you are likely someone I don't want to be around. Even guys I have no intention of dating can reach out and say hello. If someone you don't like reaches out you, can ignore them, let them down gently or just say "no thank you." Don't be a dick. Chances are you come out looking like a bigoted racist jerk. I haven't met a race, religion nor a male body type where I haven't been able to find somebody that really turns me on. That's the truth. Calling out people in a general with the purpose of excluding them over superficial reasons is annoying and immoral I lose my temper when straights enter gay/queer spaces with entitlement and without invite. . Theu need to come correct or get out. Also, trans people are not their punching bags, litmus tests, or their trial go at gayness. Straight men are getting on Grindr more and more with homophobic comments.
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Ditto
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That is great info. Thank you
