polyglutton
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I'm a versatile bottom who *really* loves topping, but for me my desire to top is more mysterious and contingent on the chemistry in person. I can't tell if I want to top a guy from pictures. I won't know if I want to top them once I kiss them, or feel how their body reacts to mine. This makes hooking up with bottoms or other versatile bottoms through apps frustrating for me. I really think the gig economy and online shopping has conditioned guys to view arranging sexual encounters as a product and a service (free though!) with all the specifications set before meeting, rather than the spontaneous, flexible, and organic experience I believe is most natural to our species. As Esperanza Spalding sings, "guard the tangible, guard the animal in you". This is why I really appreciate bathhouses and sex parties, because I feel freedom from "pre-ordered" expectations.
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Your experience and perspective are a gift. I had read many erotic stories with blindfold and darkroom narratives for years before I actually put myself in those situations. One of the hottest memories is one night I when I was blowing this guy at Steamworks, back where they have that blow job arena/ramp thing. He was on the platform a metre above me and I had been deepthroating him for 20 min and my towel had fallen off while I was lost in his cock. I felt someone feeling up my ass, and I just let him explore without looking back to see him. He began to fuck my furry ass as I sucked the other dude and I was in heaven. I never looked back until after he'd pulled out with cum pouring down my leg. While it was happening, I made the decision for the first time to not look back and I waited until he'd gone to turn around. I found there was an audience of a dozen guys that had gathered watching. I can't say fully why it is such a hot memory, but I think it's because of the unknown and the mystery of who it was, and because the top materialised without any action at all on my part. His initiative was hot too, but I think the reason it was especially thrilling was that because I had no visual of him my other senses were heightened. For me, eye contact can be very erotic, but over all I think visual stimulation is secondary to the other sources of sexual pleasure: nerve endings, touch, texture, moisture, warmth, scent, moans, and taste.
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Surely one of the best written stories ever on this forum. Bravo and thank you.
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I'd argue it's a patriarchal invention (ownership and control of women). There are a fair number of religions that are open to polygamy or non-monogamy.
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I had a boyfriend who was an escort. We met one night on Scruff and had great sex. I kept coming back each night and after a week he told me he was an escort. I was already into polyamory so this wasn't an issue for me (I don't do jealousy or possessiveness). I never asked him about the sex he had with his clients, though one time he had a disturbing time with a high-paying client who turned out to be a scary tweaker. It's not easy to fear for the safety of someone dear. He was 27 (I was 35) and he was a marvel of stamina, he fucked me 2-3x a day daily for the three months we were together with a pretty long dick. I was in piggy heaven and we cuddled a lot. I loved always having his cum inside me at all times, and when he came I could feel him cum because the fit was so tight and deep. His escorting had nothing to do with why the relationship ended.
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Could you transfer his dental care to a colleague and carry on with the friendship?
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People should declare before getting to the sexual act if they don't like tasting cum. It's disappointing when someone freaks out over it out of no where.
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Yes, and Portuguese too, spelled tchau
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I don't think there is causation between sluttiness and self-esteem. Cumdump/anonymous sex is just a variety of sex. In the 1400s Florence, Italy roughly half of the male population had sex with other men, and a great deal of it was happening in public places. [think before following links] https://overcast.fm/+RGIQgSZNs (Link to Bad Gays podcast episode discussion)
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This has happened to me too
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I live in a rural, poor part of the US and almost none of the guys have even heard of PrEP regardless of age.
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Rapey-est Travel Locations (otherwise safe)
polyglutton replied to 408curious's topic in General Discussion
Not to mention racist to paint Africans and Middle Eastern men as rapey -
Yes, and if one looks deeply enough homophobia ultimately has its roots in misogyny. The more we dismantle the patriarchy, the more liberated and safe gay cis men will be. Also free to be sluts 🙂
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The poll seems weird. What about an option for those of us who stopped all hookups for the duration of the pandemic? 12 months doesn't sound like "a time"
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Read This! Significant Change In Rules Effective 3/1
polyglutton replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
These stories really turn me on and would hate to see them go, but it's not something I would do in real life. I don't love the fact that the after effect of my being sexually assaulted ended up with me eroticising this, but it is what it is. This is the only place I can come and not feel shame for being turned on by it. -
Read This! Significant Change In Rules Effective 3/1
polyglutton replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
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Where I live (rural, on an island) no one on the apps seems to be afraid of Covid despite tourists bringing it in over and over. Cases have stayed fairly low here throughout but never to zero and yet our little hospital only has a few beds. It is depressing to be turned off by so many guys who choose ignorance and selfishness; I'll have a hard time wanting to fuck any of them when this is over. I suppose this is why I ultimately have come to prefer bathhouse sex because then I don't have to know anything about the ethics or values of the men and I can just objectify them.
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The last time I got fucked with a dildo I had 5 anal orgasms in a row 🤩.!It was incredible, but I paid for it. Torn up without enough lube 😕 the dildo instructions said water-based lube only but with rapid dildo fucking it dries out too fast. Any lube suggestions?
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I feel the same. I've been a "new member" for years and still can't upvote anything.
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I really appreciate hearing your experience and how desire works for you (and the other responses in this thread as well). I fall between c, d, and e on the earlier multiple choice posting and have had trouble understanding and not taking it personal when a and b guys aren't interested in repeats after mind-blowing sex. These posts give me a lot of perspective. Knowing that it's just a wiring issue and not a referendum on the quality of the sex makes a difference.
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You're not alone. When I got together with my partner it was romantic and cerebral but not very sexual. I'm very sexual and wanted more but since he was inexperienced I just thought he needed time to discover and own his sexuality. After about 5 years I decided he was on the asexual spectrum since he only wanted sex 3-4x a year. We've always had an open relationship, and it seemed for a long time he barely took advantage of it. We've been together for 13 years now and last year he shared with me that while he is more or less asexual, he has discovered that he doesn't like having sex with the same person more than 3-4x a year. He needs that variety to be turned on. It's not something that I can relate to but it's how he is. I do still occasionally get bummed that we don't have the sex life I would like because he's very cute but I have other options and we have a polyamorous baseline and no jealousy issues so we make it work.
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If I'm the one doing the speaking. It's only ever hole or ass/arse. The other guy can can use whichever words he wants, especially if I'm bottoming.
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Amen. Fetishising Black men as sexual predators or as phallic servants is dehumanising and rooted in racism. I lose my erection every time I come across these tropes in erotica.
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But this technically defies some shades of consent and is therefore transgressive. I think transgressive sexual turn-ons safely fall under the fetish category.
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While seroconversion and pregnancy are life-changing events, only one is an actual disease. There's a really big difference.
