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I just took a look at this app on iOS and while I'm pretty impressed with their privacy policy and the overall features of the app, I'm amazed that there is no select box for the number fo loads given or taken. The only way to track loads is to enter them in the free text field, so there is no way for the app to add them up and tell you how many loads you've given or taken. To do that, you'd need to go through every entry for the period you care about and total them up manually. Until it has that ability, this app is useless to me. I need to know how many loads I've taken this month, this year, and lifetime (in my ass, and to a lesser degree, in my mouth). I'll still be using Excel spreadsheets, I guess. It's a damned shame, since the app is otherwise everything I could want (and more).

Perhaps what @Weebpig and @NWUSHorny are observing is a Portland or OR only anomaly as I haven't experienced any problem getting anal sex here in Seattle. Anecdotal data isn't statistically useful. If it were, the fact that I have a freshly fucked and bred hole (in Seattle) as I type this would be a useful prima facie rebuttal to the "No butt fucking in the PNW" hypothesis. I think "Hitchen's Razor" applies here. "What can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence." There's nothing in any research I could find that breaks out MSM (Men who have Sex with Men) anal sex by state to lend credence to the NBFinPNW hypothesis. In the "Age, sex, and other demographic trends in sexual behavior in the United States: Initial findings of the sexual behaviors, internet use, and psychological adjustment survey" (Roberts H, Clark A, Sherman C, Heitzeg MM, Hicks BM (2021). PLoS ONE 16(8): e0255371) there are some trends by age that may be influencing what @Weebpig and @NWUSHorny perceive as a lack of MSM having anal sex within their scope of observation. All the Washington State Twitter users I follow are butt-fucking and being butt-fucked in their content so, I'm not seeing what they are seeing and we have anecdotal data that directly rebuts the claim. That said, I think sex acts in Twitter porn content is a terrible measure of what people are *actually* doing. The best way to figure out if there's anything here is to find out what people say they want, and what they end up actually giving and getting.

In Australia, we had the AIDS Commercial (1987) that shocked the nation and traumatized the gay community (saving many as a result). Watch this commercial and you'll get a taste of how it felt.

There is no sniffles app. It avoids having to comply with the restrictions that different platform's app stores impose. They are having enough trouble getting timely chat message delivery across all the browsers and platforms. They haven't managed it with Safari yet, that's for sure.

I'm *in* Seattle, and was wondering which one it was.

Where was the glory hole? In an ABS/Theater?

There are many versions of the saying. In Australia I heard it most often as "storm in a teacup"...

Getting marked by a breeder/owner is intense an extremely bonding. It's hard to imagine it ever happening, even though I'm wired to bond to some breeders.

I'd watch that video.

Get your HPV, Hep A and B inoculations and get a prescription for PrEP. Talk with the provider about every day vs. 2-1-1 dosing, release your fears and go for it.

What's the sex club so I can go there next time I'm in your city?

I gather you mean NFL jerseys, but my preference is rugby jerseys (or AFL and soccer jerseys in a pinch). I have a breeder who likes swapping used underwear with the guys he breeds. He loves pulling them out from under his pillow and sniffing my cummy fresh-fucked scent off them as I love the smell and feel of his copious pre-cum stains coating the pouch of his trunks.

Fascinating. Because of my instinctive drive to be impregnated, I'm not as experienced in the flavor profiles of men's seed. I'm inclined to think the differences are all about diet.

I've been trying to decide whether I'd prefer the Athletic or Regular fit. Any opinions base don your own experience?

Thank you for your service!

Preamble: It's worth noting that it's not the *experience you have* that is most important here, but instead *how that experience affects you*. One person can have early sexual exploration and penetrative sex with someone older and feel its magical while another can just have a family member show them their penis and be traumatized deeply for life. People are so very different in their makeup, we need to recognize that any one-size-fits-all thinking isn't going to be useful in this topic. Commentary: I think it matters whether the people raising reports and complaining about some content were survivors of child sexual abuse themselves. If they are, they may be getting triggered by some element of what they read. If that's the case I think taking these reactions into their therapy sessions and talking about what they're reacting too would be a healthy thing to do. In truth, *lots* of things, even the mundane and non-sexual, can trigger a PTSD response and that stuff needs to be dealt with in tempering your response to the stimuli and removing yourself from it until you can. Trying to erase triggering stimuli from the entire internet and reality is not a viable approach. Other survivors of child sexual abuse often adapt to their experience by reframing it to find their power and move beyond what happened to them and how it might have affected them. Essentially rewriting and re-contextualizing their story. I don't think I would want to silence those voices from being able to explore and affirm that part of their stories, as being silenced on what happened to them is re-traumatizing in itself. People who aren't survivors who are hyper sensitive to early sexual experience narratives fall into two broad groups. Family and friends of survivors who react to every recounting as though it's the person that they knew being talked about. Quite often this response is driven by guilt and shame over what they knew, when they knew it, and what they did about it. The other group are the broader public who react in vehement abhorrence and disgust at any mention of child sexual abuse and early sexual experience narratives. This group are the most problematic in my opinion. When people hear about instances of child sexual abuse, the societal narrative is that "We'd/I'd never let that happen here" and it drives that vehement reaction as a form of virtue signaling. Sadly, the research shows that virtue signaling is all it is. The research on instances when children have approached adults to report instances where they were being sexually abused by a family member or close family friend (the most common perpetrators) is quite bleak. Contrary to the performative reaction, in the overwhelming majority of cases adults did not report or in some way act on what the child told them in any way. The adults rationalized the complaint away as the child making it up or acting out in some way, or found their own conception of the accused abuser so at odds with what the child said that they could not believe it (very common for family members and authority figures). There were also fears about how passing on the report might affect the family or organizational dynamic, or might affect the person passing on the report personally in some negative way. The concern for the welfare of the child was and is, in almost every case, entirely secondary to the welfare of the alleged perpetrator, the child's family, the organization they were connected to, and the person the child made their report to. That's the reason why there has been a "silent" epidemic of child sexual abuse throughout human history and why it will continue long into the future. As a result, I see vehement protestations of disgust and demands for content to be removed by this latter group of "disinterested bystanders" as those least worthy of attention and most suspect of self-serving motives. This group, true to form, remains ignorant and doesn't realize that they are often advocating to silence and erase the voices of the survivors they purport to care for and want to support. I'd recommend that people who think they understand what being sexually abused as a (male) child is like go to malesurvivor.com and read some of the stories in the forums there. It's a difficult triangulation for sites like this to make. Keep content legal, serve this community, and not wantonly silence people's voices. It's unenviable. The best help anyone can give is to simply report content they find concerning to the moderators so they can evaluate and deal with it and maintain that balance.

His expectations are his responsibility. If you were good, giving, and game (and it sounds like you were) then you did what you could do. The problem with fantasies is that they can be very detailed and specific and often very unrealistic. The trick is to recognize what it is in the fantasy that you're responding to and focus on that, and not the details. It's always best to start with "I want to feel X" and then start experimenting with things you suspect might help you get there. It's almost a certainty that if you don't identify how you want to feel in a fantasy, you'll very often miss the target. Its worth asking your next fantasy sex guy what they want to feel, and what it is about the fantasy that they think will take them there. Thanks for being up for it on behalf of all the imaginative guys out there!

Would that more men understood, thought, and acted as you would, @hntnhole. Most men don't understand the opportunity they get with a locked man under their control.

If it can be transmitted, always tell. I have one regular who has contacted me twice to let me know about a STI exposures he had and potentially passed on to me. I thanked him and went and got treated/tested in each case. Now, I could look at him and say "Damn, he's exposed me twice" or I could say "He's might be the only guy who's communicating openly with me on STIs". My read is that he's doing exactly what I'd want him to be doing. Because of HIV stigma I understand why some +U don't tell their partners. I prefer to know, but it has zero impact on whether they breed me. I like to know so I can be aware of how they might have been stigmatized in the past and can be a sensitive partner for them.

I guess it depends on what you did before, and what being bred means to the guy you were "playing around with". Do you know?

Damn, we'd get on great.

I have a counter-proposal... how about we make it #buttnutnovember so that men only cum inside butts?

In my city there are plenty of older bottoms, as well as the younger ones. A non-binary versatile breeder I know has commented how they think "younger tops don't know that they're doing" and younger bottoms "don't seem to know how to take dick". They call on me when they need a long, deep, intense fuck and don't want the bottom to tap out. I've heard similar things from other breeders that older tops suit them for a number of reasons. Let me know if/when you're visiting Seattle. 😈

I'd like to think about it a little more, but the immediate thing that comes to mind is that reclaiming and using "dirty" in this context is a lot like some other words. I'm thinking of "fag" and "faggot" and "poof" and so many others. They've been used to put us down and other us, but instead we grab them and hold them to our chests and reclaim them as our own. I think that's akin to what's going on with "dirty" in this context. When one uses it about oneself, it's fine, just like "fag", but if someone who isn't one of the clan uses it, that's just not okay. Using "clean" isn't reclaiming "dirty", it's someone outside the group judging someone not like them *as* "dirty". At least, that's how it feels to me at first blush.

A breeder did the same thing to me, it turned me on that he used me so thoroughly even though it flushed his seed out of me.